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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

Because there's so many?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because there's 100 single males on here for every 1 single female or couple these days.

It's that simple really buddy.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

I think bi & gay men do okay, no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supply Demand

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By *istyPeaksCouple
over a year ago

braintree

It’s a different kind of difficult as well.

As a couple we find it difficult to differentiate between a genuine guy who wants to play bi & share both parties than a chancer who is pretending just so he can shag the mrs…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because there's a lot of men on here and our game is shocking, we tend to speak to ladies when we are horny and then not follow it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy to blame it on the F:M ratio. Of course it is a factor however personally I find my non response goes to those who make no effort, yet complain about lack of results.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. We are outnumbered

2. There are so many idiots on here giving us a bad name

3. Alot of couples simply only want to meet other couples or single ladies especially the newer ones

I only really use Fab now for speaking to people I have met at a club

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

I think bi & gay men do okay, no? "

I wouldn’t know as I’m straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

I think bi & gay men do okay, no? "

Many would disagree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is that all it is then just a case of how many men there are to how many women?

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

P&O Azura


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

We’d make it harder for a young single man

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By *ary 121Man
over a year ago

East Bergholt


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

I think bi & gay men do okay, no? "
not much better at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If (as it seems on the forums at least) all so challenging for single (hetero) guys on here..

Why bother?

Serious question.

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

MK

Think it might be that go to search and look for your self how many males are online and look how many females/couples are online within say 30 or 50miles. Can compare by switching who is looking for who.

There's your answer.

My estimate this site is around 60-70% male.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

We’d make it harder for a young single man "

After looking at your profile pics I would have to say I don’t doubt you would

I’m assuming that was an innuendo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is that all it is then just a case of how many men there are to how many women?"

or maybe it's because most men use this site as a sex contact/dating site instead of having any real interest in swinging.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"It's easy to blame it on the F:M ratio. Of course it is a factor however personally I find my non response goes to those who make no effort, yet complain about lack of results. "

Yep don’t disagree with that. I put tons of effort in and do really well

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By *ndyn50000Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

It's all those one liner cut and paste messages and unsolicited dick pics we have to send to women 100s of miles away. My fingers are literally worn out with typing....

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Because most women won't fuck men they aren't attracted to

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I think its 'Simps' (Google it) , time wasters & pushy desperate guys who ruined & make it hard for single guys on Fab

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think that’s a bit of an unfair comment tbh. I think there is a lot of time wasters in general not just single men. I have no doubt there are more men that are time wasters but as others have said there is more single men on here than single women,couples etc

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

There are so many

And not all of us ladies search for men, some of us hope for ladies to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Harder for men. Heheh.

This all depends on what you deem as hard.

Couples and gals have a shed load more admin work, and take a shed load more abuse. It's no easier sorting through 100 CVS as it is being one of 100 applicants. It's a different type of effort.

Plus once you find them, men can be timewasters etc.

Different side of the same hard coin.

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By *mp411Man
over a year ago

chester


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

Ratios of about 30,000 male-1female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We seek single guys primarily but we think that a lot of the men on Fab make very little effort and want to blame everyone but themselves for the lack of success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree somewhat with most here, I tend to have alot of success at clubs and people compliment me on being respect and personality and looks how ever on here even with respectful message which I only send 99% are read and deleted or read and bot replied where as at clubs it is the complete opposite

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

P&O Azura

We only meet with single guys, but believe me we have an inbox full of boring and uninspiring messages from people that fall over themselves to prove they haven't read our profile.

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By *thletic_cuckMan
over a year ago

Here and there

One thing I've noticed, is that the same women who will read a message from me and ignore are the ones when I bump into them at a club that are usually very interested. I think in pics and messages it's hard to tell and easier in person. Also, a lot of women will always ignore anyone they think are below them. And believe me, some of them think they are way better than they are

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By *oupleexeter30Couple
over a year ago

Exeter

We've met some great single guys but most think they can message and get some fun out of you. They can't be bothered to put the effort in then moan when they get no replys. And the ratio of men to woman/couples is huge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a problem like people have said if you make the effort you get the reward.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

A lot of men think with their cock and send messages confirming this, its not appealing to most women.

I've deleted a few such messages just now along the lines of 'mmf now in a hotel'. I mean why do they think that is the way to approach people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't, it's well easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes that would be a reason to delete but the amount of times I have read all bios even long ones as i'm interested and put the "code" word as a message title to show that I have actually spent the time to read the bio fully and sent very respectful messages and had no reply is time a dozen basically 99% of all message but then in clubs have no problem at all and get commended for not being pushy and just being cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's because there are a lot more single guys on here than girls. But there's always girls who are looking for single guys too. Don't give up

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By *assiieneilxMan
over a year ago

Newcastle under lyme


"We only meet with single guys, but believe me we have an inbox full of boring and uninspiring messages from people that fall over themselves to prove they haven't read our profile.

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I have just read your profile it’s dull and uninspiring

A lot about what you don’t want, not much about what you do

Pretty much like a lot of couples who want so much from us single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of men think with their cock and send messages confirming this, its not appealing to most women.

I've deleted a few such messages just now along the lines of 'mmf now in a hotel'. I mean why do they think that is the way to approach people? "

I know what you mean by that x there's too many guys on here who have got no respect x

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


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Because there's 100 single males on here for every 1 single female or couple these days.

It's that simple really buddy.

KJ "

Why do they have to be single? I regularly meet a couple of married women, both with husband's consent

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

P&O Azura


"We only meet with single guys, but believe me we have an inbox full of boring and uninspiring messages from people that fall over themselves to prove they haven't read our profile.

I have just read your profile it’s dull and uninspiring

A lot about what you don’t want, not much about what you do

Pretty much like a lot of couples who want so much from us single guys"

Fortunately you are 31 years outside of our age range, so it really shouldn't be an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

Hello ,

I believe the reason is ….

First is hard already by nature … not just fabs .

Then on fabs

Cause we are 35.000 men for 5.000 women .( of course I don’t know this … u know what I mean …

Women are difficult to get their attention even for other women , not just for men .

I had a FFM lover a couple of years ago , we were trying to get a second lady to join us and she struggled to get female attention .

Even as a FM couple was hard , cause then they have : need to fancy you and her .

A 3 way connection is 6 times harder then a 1o1 . Cause is 3x fancy the other 2 = 6 and like each other , chemistry .

And other girls commented the same .Even for girls is hard to get girls not just for us .

I think is a lot of men , giving a lady plenty to choose …

So respect to them and hope they be happy

Is what I think … we need more lovely ladies here

Open our probabilities ^^ good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of men think with their cock and send messages confirming this, its not appealing to most women.

I've deleted a few such messages just now along the lines of 'mmf now in a hotel'. I mean why do they think that is the way to approach people? "

Ignorance . Cause is fabs . Is a fuck site . So yeah . Came and fuck right now …

Here , came I have what u want n double …

Bet they spend all night playing fencing

Respect x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, it’s difficult across the board. We’re on her as a couple and I’m on as a single guy too. We’ve decided it’s only club play for us now. We’ve had some fun through hear over the years but it’s missing that personal interaction. After thousands of messages on here and you might not like one another! Something that became very clear last Friday at a club is that if the people we played with had messaged us through here had bad photos or didn’t seem our type, we wouldn’t have entertained. The truth is, we had great banter (and some serious fun) with two guys we probably wouldn’t have given the time of day to on here. What I’m saying is, we’re being too judgemental because we don’t know you. We’re getting to know more in 5 minutes in a club what would potentially take months in here. Get out, see the world. Hope this makes sense! I’m tired!!

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

London & Europe


"Because there's so many? "

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By *odyandsoul87Man
over a year ago

Leicester

It maybe harder but it's not impossible, as others have said there's many more single men than there are single women on here.

It's up to you to stand out from the rest, I think it's easier to understand if you look around you and realise that as single men, many of us (myself included) just aren't remarkable (nothing wrong with that), on here anyway.

It's not just that there's a lot more guys about, you're not only redundant but there are plenty of better offers for women to go around too.

I'm not saying give up, just be aware that you've got competition.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Try being a single woman and you'll find the answer

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

It just is, supply out weights demand simple economics.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I’m a single guy very average looking but fab has been the best thing I’ve joined over the last 10 years . I’ve met so many great people. Why have I been successful? Time energy and effort simple as that

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By *wingamajigsCouple
over a year ago

Folkestone

Because its so hard to find a decent reliable one who understands the dynamic.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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It's hard for them as they join with wrong expectations thinking that all the women are desperate for any cock that's available, a lot of guys on here have no idea how to present themselves to attract the attention that they want.

Men who understand what the site is actually about and the best way to behave ect, find it very easy to get what they are looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trouble is lots of single men get us a bad name. Thinking they can send messages of very little effort and then getting nasty when they dont get the responce they wanted definatly causes problems for us all. Who agrees on this.!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Harder for men. Heheh.

This all depends on what you deem as hard.

Couples and gals have a shed load more admin work, and take a shed load more abuse. It's no easier sorting through 100 CVS as it is being one of 100 applicants. It's a different type of effort.

Plus once you find them, men can be timewasters etc.

Different side of the same hard coin. "

Too true

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"Is that all it is then just a case of how many men there are to how many women?"

This is part of the issue. But probably even bigger issue is how some men on here treat women. When, for example, you are told "this is a sex site, you have to meet me" or similar, or men referring to you as "a hole to drill" or "a slut for (their) cum" etc, you eventually lose interest in interacting with any men on here. Or, when you have to go through even just twenty or so messages, most just "hi" or "I'll be in your area in (however many) minutes", again you get tired and might miss the gem hiding in a lake of crap.

Therefore, the typical advise for men interested in getting involved with the scene is "go to a club or organised socials, get yourself known, let your personality shine".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Trouble is lots of single men get us a bad name. Thinking they can send messages of very little effort and then getting nasty when they dont get the responce they wanted definatly causes problems for us all. Who agrees on this.!!"

Absolutely.

We do get some lovely and some we’ll thought out “targeted” messages. Thanks

But….

How’s yous

Hi

Drain me

Be in your town between 6am and 6:30 Fuck and go?

Overwhelmed at times by fuckwits.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I don't find it hard.

I get told "fuck off fattie" and I move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't find it hard.

I get told "fuck off fattie" and I move on.

"

Oh mate!

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

Because the majority leave their wives/partners at home and expect to play with others

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

.......................

Are you referring to yourself specifically or single men generally?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"I don't find it hard.

I get told "fuck off fattie" and I move on.

Oh mate! "

It's groovy.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

It's not. It's just 'different'.

Single women have to deal with busier inboxes (if they don't effectively use filters) and a lot of unwanted attention.

Couples looking for couples have to find four way attraction and interest. Bloody hard, trust me.

Single men on the other hand just have to do their best to stand out, be polite, have no expectations and a little patience and they can enjoy life on Fab as much as anyone.

Forget the BS that other men's behaviour affects your life on here -it doesn't. Nobody affects your enjoyment and use of the site but yourself. It's far easier for guys that use the site correctly than any other demographic on Fab.

A

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Many single men are very poor in their approach here, so they keep the average levels of success low for all of them. It's not hard for all guys. Otherwise, many single men don't have reciprocal, complementary needs and qualities that are in demand by others. It's not equal from a demand/supply level.

Some here are opportunists, expecting to and giving low effort levels, nor being very interested in what others expect. They want others to change to their perspective and to service them, at minimal inconvenience, by giving them something more satisfying than a wank.

Men do have different motivations in other ways. Single men and others are not equal here, in many ways.

There's still misogynistic undertones that lurk, which makes things smell and discourage. And safety is a much bigger risk for those of us who aren't men, so we do things differently.

If more men had more realistic expectations here, there would be a huge reduction in many who throw toys out of their prams. They may not come, if they'd realise the truth of what it means to get things working well.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

[Removed by poster at 23/09/22 18:06:18]

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

Who does like me on here? I find it easier to take long breaks from the messaging and searching and just use the forum instead, it is comedy gold

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By *allen Angels CplCouple
over a year ago

North East leicestershire

Ratio of single men to couples & women, lack of ability to read profiles, lack of social interest just wanna shag and go to name a few.

Not just single guys though, couples struggle to find the right match sometimes based on the above.

A girls got to be seduced mentally as well as physically and not just feel like a sex object. Yes we are all here based on sexual needs and desires but for us anyway there has to be more than just have someone turn up, do the deed and leave pretty quickly after.x

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone

We get our fair share of messages, not as many as younger couples or single ladies but we get enough. Out of ten sent from single fellas it’s obvious straight away that none of them haven’t bothered reading any of our profile. Those that do and write a message that fits in we then read their profile to see if they’re our type.

Single men….. read the bloody profiles first!

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

What makes you think it's harder for single men to achieve decent meets?

Ladies and couples might get loads of messages or 'have their pick of all the profiles' but what makes you think any of that is worthwhile enough to lead to a decent meet? Which is presumably what we're here for.

It's hard on here for everyone.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Because a lot of males think popping your cock in an inbox is a great idea, plus the ones who never turn up, no effort in profiles, think it's an easy sex site, get aggressive when they get turned down or just no reply, the ones who just want an ego boost and won't ever meet, lastly the ones who whine in the forums because they can't get a meet.

Many of these types make it harder for the more genuine ones, too many put offs, plus there's tons of men to every single woman's and couples profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Because there's 100 single males on here for every 1 single female or couple these days.

It's that simple really buddy.

KJ

Why do they have to be single? I regularly meet a couple of married women, both with husband's consent "

A more appropriate word would probably be solo females. The number of solo females i.e those who are completely single and also those with a partner not involved or present at the meet for what ever reason) and the couples are still vastly out numbered by the sheer volume of single males on fab these days.

The flipside is maybe 5% of those single males are respectful, successful swingers with the appropriate, engaging personality and genuine love for the swinging scene and all its delights. Once you factor that in the numbers do become a lot more balanced.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

My thoughts are most guys don't have a clue tbh!

Most of the guys seem to think this site is full of sex starved or sex obsessed women (single or in a MF Couple) looking to just fuck whenever a guy shows interest! When most are just looking to spice up their sex life or enhance it alittle and at their leisure/pace when they get the opportunity from vanilla life.

The other thing guy's dont seem to appreciate is that a good looking/well groomed wife will be married to a good looking/well groomed man (normally) and so is looking for someone to bring something more or better to the table and doesn't mean that's a cock pic next to the sky remote hovering above a toilet with the seat up! Lol

We've been on here for a few years now on and off, we find the the good looking, well groomed, nice guys that get it, do well and are in demand. Guys look at some of the well verified gents and learn.

That's just our take and guess everyone is looking for different!

Happy fabbing all

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By *aptain19725Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Men are generally more open about sex and are happy for a quick bunk up. Women generally aren’t as open about sex and need physical and emotional attraction. Most men would fuck a lamppost if it had a hole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men are generally more open about sex and are happy for a quick bunk up. Women generally aren’t as open about sex and need physical and emotional attraction. Most men would fuck a lamppost if it had a hole "

so true

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"If (as it seems on the forums at least) all so challenging for single (hetero) guys on here..

Why bother?

Serious question. "

Because, as terrible as the odds are, they're better than if you didn't try at all.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Harder to do what? I’m going to assume you mean get a fuck but I’ve not read your profile or all the replies here.

I am single and independent and to be honest I could probably get a fuck easier than you but it’s not guaranteed. Im probably going to be more popular in a club (maybe).

But given what I want I can assure you it is not easy, it is probably harder for me than it is for another person but that’s just how it is. It might not be as difficult as it is for you but fucks are not dished out without care and aforethought for many of us here.

V x

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By *teve261970Man
over a year ago

Gateshead


"It’s a different kind of difficult as well.

As a couple we find it difficult to differentiate between a genuine guy who wants to play bi & share both parties than a chancer who is pretending just so he can shag the mrs…

"

Gotta you there mate, I'm not prepared to suck, stroke, fuck or kiss another bloke so if thats what they're after I won't contact them.

Wish you both luck though

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

Single men outnumber couples and single women about 50 - 1.

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By *ootlover1Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

They will if you pay them or someone flashes the sniff

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By *jk1978Couple
over a year ago

Cheshire

We are newish couple and want single guy scenario just like single women scenario and couples, i will say to k chat to guys as you have to fancy them, when she does show interest we explain work family means we don’t have loads of time and be patient but found they msg for few days then it’s like when we going to meet thought we would have met by now and don’t let up and end up pissing us off to the point of blocking them

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By *ayarMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Because a 3 wields the power of an 8 or a 9 on here

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"We are newish couple and want single guy scenario just like single women scenario and couples, i will say to k chat to guys as you have to fancy them, when she does show interest we explain work family means we don’t have loads of time and be patient but found they msg for few days then it’s like when we going to meet thought we would have met by now and don’t let up and end up pissing us off to the point of blocking them "

Yup!! Hence we block contact as the few spoil it for the many..

Great, your horny, we'd love to accommodate but have 2 kid's to look after..

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By *esi_maverickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

There’s to many off us and it’s difficult to match some folks preferences we’ll in my case that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Toke months til my first date with my daughters’s mother . Citing on dating app then WhatsApp …. Kids aaaaaalways cancelling the first date for us …

No pressure x x

She was 5 yesterday , was lovely .

If the waiting n tolerance doesn’t match with your needs … oh well … probably u not missing much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not if you are honest, reliable and genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not if you are honest, reliable and genuine"

I am all 3 of them and more . Stil hard .

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"We only meet with single guys, but believe me we have an inbox full of boring and uninspiring messages from people that fall over themselves to prove they haven't read our profile.

"

this

and another thing is there is simply not ... not someone for everyone on here the sheer number of guys is the main problem ...

i could put a meet sign up get 100/200 messages and possibly not one will turn my head ... as someone said higher up women will only go with men who they are sexually attracred too and get their messages right ..most fall at the hurdle

guys blaming other guys sorry but you ruin it for yourself not others guys need to stop using others as an excuse if your not getting antwhere then its down to you no one else

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By *J coupleCouple
over a year ago

stone


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

My thoughts are most guys don't have a clue tbh!

Most of the guys seem to think this site is full of sex starved or sex obsessed women (single or in a MF Couple) looking to just fuck whenever a guy shows interest! When most are just looking to spice up their sex life or enhance it alittle and at their leisure/pace when they get the opportunity from vanilla life.

The other thing guy's dont seem to appreciate is that a good looking/well groomed wife will be married to a good looking/well groomed man (normally) and so is looking for someone to bring something more or better to the table and doesn't mean that's a cock pic next to the sky remote hovering above a toilet with the seat up! Lol

We've been on here for a few years now on and off, we find the the good looking, well groomed, nice guys that get it, do well and are in demand. Guys look at some of the well verified gents and learn.

That's just our take and guess everyone is looking for different!

Happy fabbing all "

All of the above.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

.


"They will if you pay them or someone flashes the sniff "

Offering either of these to me gets a guy reported then blocked.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester


"They will if you pay them or someone flashes the sniff

Offering either of these to me gets a guy reported then blocked."

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Yorks/Lincs

too many guys , and a lot of people are not swingers despite the name ...

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By *annibal_LickedherMan
over a year ago

The Side of the Mersey

1) there are so many more men than there are women and couples. Because of this, couples and women can be very specific about what they are looking for. There is nothing wrong with a somebody not wanting to meet somebody because that person doesn’t meet the criteria they are seeking.

2) a large percentage of the men on here are idiots and sit at home wanking and fantasising about meeting but won’t actually show up

3) a large percentage of the men on here are idiots think they are gods gift to women and should be entitled to sex whenever they want it on their terms

4) a large percentage of men on here are idiots and make no actual effort whatsoever and think “shag now?” Or “nice tits” or “I’ll show your wife how a real man fucks” etc are acceptable chat up lines.

5) because of the above, couples and single women are extra guarded when it comes to chatting or meeting single men.

6) a large percentage of couples on here are actually single guys wanking in their parents spare bedroom. Usually couples who are “new” and not photo verified.

7) some of the genuine couples on here are idiots who just wanna mess people around too.

I’ve been on here a few times as part of a couple and as a single male so I’m speaking from experience of these things. Yes it sucks if you are a genuine guy who doesn’t want to mess people around. But IF you make the effort and chat to people, eventually you will be rewarded with a nice woman or couple.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I do great on here!!!! Why is that ? Go figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do a search for other threads like this because there's loads.

Most of the problem is that there are far more straight single guys than anyone else on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do great on here!!!! Why is that ? Go figure "

I'm not surprised you do. Great profile, amazing photos and videos, polite and sexy.

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

Definitely not harder for men! You get out what you put in.

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Yorks/Lincs


"Because most women won't fuck men they aren't attracted to "

That works both ways ....

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By *annibal_LickedherMan
over a year ago

The Side of the Mersey


"Because most women won't fuck men they aren't attracted to

That works both ways ...."

It doesn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes me respond to a single male:

1. The message they sent isn’t copy and pasted. It’s well written and include things they have shown that they have read my profile (there’s enough info on there to come to on)

2. They have a profile picture

3. They have an equally detailed profile and not ‘fill in later’ ‘just ask’ ‘horny male’

4. They have a non hidden profile, don’t like talking to a ghost!

5. Not all pics are dick pics. Body posts or seductive ones

That’s it. Unverified or not. I will respond to the above

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By *r Mind CandyMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

I think it’s difficult for everyone, the amount of single ladies and couples I know who are constantly messed about or let down by single guys is unbelievable!

For genuine guys it’s actually not that difficult, make an effort with your profile, read their profile THOROUGHLY and if you are able to offer what they are specifically looking for, send a well thought out message, making it clear you have actually read the profile, be nice, reliable and put the effort in prior to as well as when you meet, and display your verifications so they can see you are capable of delivering.

Oh and be understanding that they will be getting a lot of mail. So I would always recommend getting out and meeting people in person at clubs or events.

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"I do great on here!!!! Why is that ? Go figure

I'm not surprised you do. Great profile, amazing photos and videos, polite and sexy."

That’s very kind of you to say xx

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By *ee-LiteWoman
over a year ago

northampton

There’s much disrespect posted in the updates by single men - it just gets a bad reputation for the genuine guys, unfortunately

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

I wouldn't necessarily say it's more difficult for single guys, we as a couple haven't had so much as a social in our local area in the last 9 months (we have travelled for group socials) in terms of meeting new people and things getting naughty... again it's been well over a year since we meet someone new locally.

I think it's very area specific (In terms of the volume of fab users) for women, couples and single guys alike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because the men to women ratio is crazy on here

Women get tonnes of messages and can essentially pick who ever they want, some men don't stand out with their basic profiles or just aren't the woman's type. X

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I never found it difficult. Then again, we all have our approach. I suppose mine had the right formula

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By *edi123Couple
over a year ago

aberystwyth


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

Because a lot of guys use a dick pic as their profile photo, we instantly avoid that type of profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they swiftly move on after writing a message with 2 paragraphs only to receive the reply "hi"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

Because a lot of guys use a dick pic as their profile photo, we instantly avoid that type of profile"

This as well

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Lots of replies sum up the main reasons but reading through this thread...jeez some people come across as entitled!

All of us have a 100% right to choose who to meet and have sex with. Regardless of other reasons, if someone doesn’t write back or just politely declines, that is it. They simply didn’t want to take things any further.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

Isn't the definition of madness doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting a different result?

As a solo poly with both a couple and single profile I can say with confidence that its not easier as a couple its just a different set of challenges.

Although its hard work I think its important to try something new when not making progress. Over the years I've found that the most effective way to meet people is to go to clubs and socials and make the effort to strike up a conversation even when terrified behind the cool calm exterior lol.

Speaking with my single male hat this can unfortunately be a rather expensive pastime.

However for the kinksters among us there are far more opportunities to attend socials (munches) and the parties are a lot cheaper than swinging events.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many fuck boys wanting to use women as a wank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One thing I've noticed, is that the same women who will read a message from me and ignore are the ones when I bump into them at a club that are usually very interested. I think in pics and messages it's hard to tell and easier in person. Also, a lot of women will always ignore anyone they think are below them. And believe me, some of them think they are way better than they are "

So true, 4s in the street translates into 10s on here due to all the simps and thirsty men, I wouldn't fuck most of the women on this site but they all think they're hot shit looool

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By *arkhelgaCouple
over a year ago

leeds

Fab has it's good points and bad,but if you do look hard enough and be upfront you will find what you're looking forXx

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

P&O Azura


"We only meet with single guys, but believe me we have an inbox full of boring and uninspiring messages from people that fall over themselves to prove they haven't read our profile.

I have just read your profile it’s dull and uninspiring

A lot about what you don’t want, not much about what you do

Pretty much like a lot of couples who want so much from us single guys"

Quite rich from someone who still has the automatically generated text as his profile eleven minths after joining.

Sorry, but we refuse to take profile advice from a person that has never bothered to write one.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

P&O Azura

*months... damn those minths for sneaking in where they aren't wanted

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

No respect by a large number of delusional males.

And yes it spoils it for the good ones, yet that isn’t our problem.

This is why we go to clubs, incongruent people are so easy to spot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because there's a fuck tonne of us... it's a sweat shop for the ladies and they're only going to pick their favourites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One thing I've noticed, is that the same women who will read a message from me and ignore are the ones when I bump into them at a club that are usually very interested. I think in pics and messages it's hard to tell and easier in person. Also, a lot of women will always ignore anyone they think are below them. And believe me, some of them think they are way better than they are "

And there you go. It's this attitude that's a massive part of the problem. Single guys who struggle but it's the women that are the problem, not them.

I've heard several guys complain about women having a type or preferring guys that are better looking than them. On this site they can be choosey. We get hundreds of messages. Hundreds. We are here to meet people that we really want to meet not massage the ego of someone we're not attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of men think with their cock and send messages confirming this, its not appealing to most women.

I've deleted a few such messages just now along the lines of 'mmf now in a hotel'. I mean why do they think that is the way to approach people? "

We get loads of these requests too. Will never respond or agree to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We only meet with single guys, but believe me we have an inbox full of boring and uninspiring messages from people that fall over themselves to prove they haven't read our profile.

I have just read your profile it’s dull and uninspiring

A lot about what you don’t want, not much about what you do

Pretty much like a lot of couples who want so much from us single guys

Quite rich from someone who still has the automatically generated text as his profile eleven minths after joining.

Sorry, but we refuse to take profile advice from a person that has never bothered to write one. "

There's nothing wrong with your profile at all, on the contrary its well written and you've made it very clear what you're looking for.

His profile has zero effort and he has obviously had no success and wants to blame others.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Too much competition?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably recapping some of the earlier points but there are many reasons for why it's hard for males. Nevertheless, guys can improve there odds by taking a bit of time on profile, photos and messages. As personally for me when I improved in these areas my message replies and interactions improved

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By *omsubdevonCouple
over a year ago

Newton Abbot

Ratio.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

Harder for what?

Talking and joining in with the social side, Easy

Getting someone to talk to you privately? Difficult.

Getting someone to commit to meeting up… that tied with getting someone to talk privately. Difficult.

And it’s all to do with you are 1 in a 100 choices that the girl you fancy already has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way some guys on here will get laid is if they crawl up a chickens arse and wait !!!

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

Numbers.

And I guess because the ladies of Fab simply don’t ‘put it about enough’. Complacency perhaps and not realising that British men are the best lovers in the world.

Come on ladies ‘up your game’.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"The only way some guys on here will get laid is if they crawl up a chickens arse and wait !!! "

Lol. That's harsh but a good one. And, sadly, I agree.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Simple maths

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By *ood girl2010Couple
over a year ago

crewe

Meet people at clubs that way they see you eye to eye

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By *omethingfun96Couple
over a year ago

greater london

Sheer amount of single men on here.

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Just the way it is and hard work needed. Easier with contacts and as couple

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Attitudes, socialisation and societal norms. Or more the difference in the two between men and women. I think this is both a huge driver in the disproportionality on here and to disparity of how we see the world and relate to each other. To some extent it's where the long history of a patriarchal society shoots men in the foot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plain and simple answer numbers , what is it on her 100-1 men - women or more ? Means they are buried in messages every day simple as that . Supply bf demand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not just the ratio of men:women/couples, but the way most men conduct themselves.

Most don’t bother to read profiles and message just off of the profile picture - this is off putting for those of us who have taken the time to tell other users what we are looking for and want from potential meets. Then there are the guys who are just outrightly rude or disrespectful with the messages they send and generally come across as not understanding the lifestyle.

Unfortunately it’s these people who ruin it for the rest in my opinion.

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By *andering Welsh GuyMan
over a year ago

All over the place

Because elmost don't even read profiles, look what the women or couples are looking for and some are just creepy to the point if giving even me the ick

I've spoke with many single women that are on this site who get hundreds of "fancy a fuck" or "how much" messages

Don't get me wrong it is harder for men than women but sadly a small few spoil it for the rest of us

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

Harder for what?

Talking and joining in with the social side, Easy

Getting someone to talk to you privately? Difficult.

Getting someone to commit to meeting up… that tied with getting someone to talk privately. Difficult.

And it’s all to do with you are 1 in a 100 choices that the girl you fancy already has. "

But!! If she doesn't fancy you with 100 other men to choose from... She still won't with another 1!

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By *irmingham_Sissy_MaidTV/TS
over a year ago

sutton Coldfield

Well if you’re anything like the hundreds of guys who message me:

- no details or “fill in later” on their profile. Puts me off instantly unless it’s a good message

- just dick pics. Doesn’t bother me not having a face pic but a body pic would be nice. Anything but 50 different angles

- messages more than just “meet?” Or even just a “?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A combination of a few factors.

There is a lot of single men, so you have to make effort to stand out. Some don’t bother with doing that to their profile

Most from observation, seem to think this is a quick hookup site with a mindset that you’re on here and so am I, so let’s fuck now…

Some don’t bother reading a profile, send crude low effort messages like Hi / U ok

Some won’t go to socials or clubs which will give you verifications and potential experience around others and the opportunity to make friends there.

It’s all about effort, time and being realistic with yourself - If you don’t understand that then it’s really not for you.

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By *aptainhornpipeMan
over a year ago

manchester

I’d say it’s the lack of breasts and a vagina that’s causing the problem for single men.

Or in my case the lack of a vagina, shut up lockdown was hard!

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By *ravelcpleCouple
over a year ago

ipswich


"Because most women won't fuck men they aren't attracted to "

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

It’s not harder at all -

Set realistic expectations, make some effort with messaging, profile & photos - get yourself to a club & the private meets will start to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

Harder for what?

Talking and joining in with the social side, Easy

Getting someone to talk to you privately? Difficult.

Getting someone to commit to meeting up… that tied with getting someone to talk privately. Difficult.

And it’s all to do with you are 1 in a 100 choices that the girl you fancy already has.

But!! If she doesn't fancy you with 100 other men to choose from... She still won't with another 1!"

Oh. And there’s that too!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No matter how many times this gets discussed in forums the reasons aren’t going to change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many males, too many pretenders, too many don't show at arrange meets.

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

There are a out 9 million men on here and only 35 women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because of the abundance of men who all happen to be average sized. If you’re 6.3inches then only 5 men out of 100 are bigger than you.

Guess where all the ladies are at?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do great on here!!!! Why is that ? Go figure "

Nothing to do with that python you’re strangling by any chance? Impressive… Steve Irwin would admire your handling skills.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

Harder for what?

Talking and joining in with the social side, Easy

Getting someone to talk to you privately? Difficult.

Getting someone to commit to meeting up… that tied with getting someone to talk privately. Difficult.

And it’s all to do with you are 1 in a 100 choices that the girl you fancy already has.

But!! If she doesn't fancy you with 100 other men to choose from... She still won't with another 1!"

Just 1...ffs!

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"Because of the abundance of men who all happen to be average sized. If you’re 6.3inches then only 5 men out of 100 are bigger than you.

Guess where all the ladies are at? "

Keep telling yourself that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because of the abundance of men who all happen to be average sized. If you’re 6.3inches then only 5 men out of 100 are bigger than you.

Guess where all the ladies are at?

Keep telling yourself that "

That doesn’t seem too clever or logical

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

The ugly truth.

If you struggle to get interest, attention and dates in the real world, can't approach the opposite sex in a bar or hold a decent conversation with a complete stranger........ then it's going to be 100 times harder online.

Likewise the 'there's someone for everyone's inevitable may be true in the big wide world where you can spend time getting to know someone face to face and develop interest and attraction through regular interaction. But on here? The reality is that people are drawn to profiles where there is swift physical attraction. In general they're not looking for a life partner, so physical attraction is high on the agenda, especially for couples. So if you're what societal norms would say is 'above average' in the looks department you'll have an advantage and if not - then you have an uphill struggle ahead of you.

Harsh. But true.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

Because the women aren’t pulling their weight.

It’s simple maths, if there’s 100 men to each woman, that’s only 1% of effort being applied to make this Fab website an active community from one gender…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ugly truth.

If you struggle to get interest, attention and dates in the real world, can't approach the opposite sex in a bar or hold a decent conversation with a complete stranger........ then it's going to be 100 times harder online.

Likewise the 'there's someone for everyone's inevitable may be true in the big wide world where you can spend time getting to know someone face to face and develop interest and attraction through regular interaction. But on here? The reality is that people are drawn to profiles where there is swift physical attraction. In general they're not looking for a life partner, so physical attraction is high on the agenda, especially for couples. So if you're what societal norms would say is 'above average' in the looks department you'll have an advantage and if not - then you have an uphill struggle ahead of you.

Harsh. But true.

A"

Amen

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"The ugly truth.

If you struggle to get interest, attention and dates in the real world, can't approach the opposite sex in a bar or hold a decent conversation with a complete stranger........ then it's going to be 100 times harder online.

Likewise the 'there's someone for everyone's inevitable may be true in the big wide world where you can spend time getting to know someone face to face and develop interest and attraction through regular interaction. But on here? The reality is that people are drawn to profiles where there is swift physical attraction. In general they're not looking for a life partner, so physical attraction is high on the agenda, especially for couples. So if you're what societal norms would say is 'above average' in the looks department you'll have an advantage and if not - then you have an uphill struggle ahead of you.

Harsh. But true.

A"

I guess in that world of “ Societal Norms” you talk about I am very very average in the looks department! However I do extremely well on fab and don’t feel disadvantaged at all. In fact I would say I have significantly punched above my weight over the years in the looks department. Thank god there are ladies on here that look beyond that swift shallow attraction window you refer to. I do however agree with your first paragraph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ugly truth.

If you struggle to get interest, attention and dates in the real world, can't approach the opposite sex in a bar or hold a decent conversation with a complete stranger........ then it's going to be 100 times harder online.

Likewise the 'there's someone for everyone's inevitable may be true in the big wide world where you can spend time getting to know someone face to face and develop interest and attraction through regular interaction. But on here? The reality is that people are drawn to profiles where there is swift physical attraction. In general they're not looking for a life partner, so physical attraction is high on the agenda, especially for couples. So if you're what societal norms would say is 'above average' in the looks department you'll have an advantage and if not - then you have an uphill struggle ahead of you.

Harsh. But true.

A"

Yep, that's my experience.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

Biology and Nature 80 / 20

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Approach, some people can make it difficult where later it can effect others due to their behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

My thoughts are most guys don't have a clue tbh!

Most of the guys seem to think this site is full of sex starved or sex obsessed women (single or in a MF Couple) looking to just fuck whenever a guy shows interest! When most are just looking to spice up their sex life or enhance it alittle and at their leisure/pace when they get the opportunity from vanilla life.

The other thing guy's dont seem to appreciate is that a good looking/well groomed wife will be married to a good looking/well groomed man (normally) and so is looking for someone to bring something more or better to the table and doesn't mean that's a cock pic next to the sky remote hovering above a toilet with the seat up! Lol

We've been on here for a few years now on and off, we find the the good looking, well groomed, nice guys that get it, do well and are in demand. Guys look at some of the well verified gents and learn.

That's just our take and guess everyone is looking for different!

Happy fabbing all "

Kind of my experience when I was single on here: there's 100 guys for every lady (maybe), but about 200 numpties for every lady so the odds are better for the guys that are house-trained and not socially inept. I was fortunate to see T's inbox when she was single and my god was it a mess of rabid dogs who didn't know how to speak to ladies.

C.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"It’s a different kind of difficult as well.

As a couple we find it difficult to differentiate between a genuine guy who wants to play bi & share both parties than a chancer who is pretending just so he can shag the mrs…

"

Exactly this. We had a few so called fully bi guys who only wanted to suck me as they fucked joanne. Instant blocking!

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ?

My thoughts are most guys don't have a clue tbh!

Most of the guys seem to think this site is full of sex starved or sex obsessed women (single or in a MF Couple) looking to just fuck whenever a guy shows interest! When most are just looking to spice up their sex life or enhance it alittle and at their leisure/pace when they get the opportunity from vanilla life.

The other thing guy's dont seem to appreciate is that a good looking/well groomed wife will be married to a good looking/well groomed man (normally) and so is looking for someone to bring something more or better to the table and doesn't mean that's a cock pic next to the sky remote hovering above a toilet with the seat up! Lol

We've been on here for a few years now on and off, we find the the good looking, well groomed, nice guys that get it, do well and are in demand. Guys look at some of the well verified gents and learn.

That's just our take and guess everyone is looking for different!

Happy fabbing all

Kind of my experience when I was single on here: there's 100 guys for every lady (maybe), but about 200 numpties for every lady so the odds are better for the guys that are house-trained and not socially inept. I was fortunate to see T's inbox when she was single and my god was it a mess of rabid dogs who didn't know how to speak to ladies.

C. "

No respect for women full stop mate. Some talked to joanne as if she was going to be their personal boory call cumdump.

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By *ighty DuckMan
over a year ago

andover

I use to think of it that way but I’ve changed my tune.

My partners inbox is usually flooded with messages that it becomes a pain to navigate, check for ongoing conversations and can be full of grim unsolicited pictures.

When I message and get responses, I know there’s genuine potential interest.

We all have struggles to an extent on here , it’s just different types of struggles.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Because of the abundance of men who all happen to be average sized. If you’re 6.3inches then only 5 men out of 100 are bigger than you.

Guess where all the ladies are at? "

No there's abundance of socially inept men. Nothing really to do with their physical attributes.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Because elmost don't even read profiles, look what the women or couples are looking for and some are just creepy to the point if giving even me the ick

I've spoke with many single women that are on this site who get hundreds of "fancy a fuck" or "how much" messages

Don't get me wrong it is harder for men than women but sadly a small few spoil it for the rest of us "

This is what I mean by socially inept men who saturate the site with rubbish and put off many women using this site. Luckily I'm tough as old boots and still here...just...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because elmost don't even read profiles, look what the women or couples are looking for and some are just creepy to the point if giving even me the ick

I've spoke with many single women that are on this site who get hundreds of "fancy a fuck" or "how much" messages

Don't get me wrong it is harder for men than women but sadly a small few spoil it for the rest of us

This is what I mean by socially inept men who saturate the site with rubbish and put off many women using this site. Luckily I'm tough as old boots and still here...just... "

Socially inept men says the size queen! Come on!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"Because elmost don't even read profiles, look what the women or couples are looking for and some are just creepy to the point if giving even me the ick

I've spoke with many single women that are on this site who get hundreds of "fancy a fuck" or "how much" messages

Don't get me wrong it is harder for men than women but sadly a small few spoil it for the rest of us

This is what I mean by socially inept men who saturate the site with rubbish and put off many women using this site. Luckily I'm tough as old boots and still here...just... "

I was about to write much the same thing so I'll just agree with this. I think "socially inept" is a very good description of the vast majority of men who contact us on here.

So it's a combination of the significant outnumbering of women by men, and the way most of those men behave. For the women it then becomes a task of sorting the wheat from the chaff, which is not easy, is time-consuming, and often it's not going to work out in the favour of single men who complain about it being difficult for them on here.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Because elmost don't even read profiles, look what the women or couples are looking for and some are just creepy to the point if giving even me the ick

I've spoke with many single women that are on this site who get hundreds of "fancy a fuck" or "how much" messages

Don't get me wrong it is harder for men than women but sadly a small few spoil it for the rest of us

This is what I mean by socially inept men who saturate the site with rubbish and put off many women using this site. Luckily I'm tough as old boots and still here...just...

Socially inept men says the size queen! Come on!"

Just because I'm a size queen, doesn't mean I sleep with every man who claims their cock is bigger than 7 inches says the person with faceless main profile.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Because elmost don't even read profiles, look what the women or couples are looking for and some are just creepy to the point if giving even me the ick

I've spoke with many single women that are on this site who get hundreds of "fancy a fuck" or "how much" messages

Don't get me wrong it is harder for men than women but sadly a small few spoil it for the rest of us

This is what I mean by socially inept men who saturate the site with rubbish and put off many women using this site. Luckily I'm tough as old boots and still here...just...

I was about to write much the same thing so I'll just agree with this. I think "socially inept" is a very good description of the vast majority of men who contact us on here.

So it's a combination of the significant outnumbering of women by men, and the way most of those men behave. For the women it then becomes a task of sorting the wheat from the chaff, which is not easy, is time-consuming, and often it's not going to work out in the favour of single men who complain about it being difficult for them on here. "

I don't bother with meets anymore. Just enjoy socializing with genuine fabbers. The men seeking for online attention or quick screw, I don't waste my time on as their interests are nothing to do with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not really harder for single men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because elmost don't even read profiles, look what the women or couples are looking for and some are just creepy to the point if giving even me the ick

I've spoke with many single women that are on this site who get hundreds of "fancy a fuck" or "how much" messages

Don't get me wrong it is harder for men than women but sadly a small few spoil it for the rest of us

This is what I mean by socially inept men who saturate the site with rubbish and put off many women using this site. Luckily I'm tough as old boots and still here...just...

Socially inept men says the size queen! Come on!

Just because I'm a size queen, doesn't mean I sleep with every man who claims their cock is bigger than 7 inches says the person with faceless main profile. "

I must be, therefore socially inept.

The fact you mention a dimension shows a degree of social ineptitude

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I don't have any problems

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

I think if you imagine you are a woman and you are being hounded for sex, guys want to stick their penis in you at the drop of hat all the time you see a true perspective. Women are human beings too and need conversation, and consideration.

The ratio is more to do with who is polite and friendly to who isn't.

Physicality still plays a part, and cleanliness too, compatible is the key.

Guys who get the best response are ones that don't try too hard and don't get frustrated when turned down. It is hard but then no one said life was easy. Yes a bit like applying for a job.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

Numbers really.

The vast majority of single men on here don’t do nearly enough to stand out from the (considerable) crowd.

A lot also have the perception that they’d sign up on here and easily get a quick shag, when in actual fact, you’re more likely to achieve that using Tinder and/or Reddit.

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By *heekyweebissimWoman
over a year ago

fife,


"What’s everyone’s opinions ?

Why is it so much harder for a single man on here ? "

I don’t think It’s harder, it’s just as difficult for a single women to meet another woman or couple that she clicks with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My black cock is so hard right now!!!.... I'm putting the flag out!!!

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By *randmrsfuntobehadCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"It's easy to blame it on the F:M ratio. Of course it is a factor however personally I find my non response goes to those who make no effort, yet complain about lack of results. "

I had no issues as a single male and me and my wife get so many messages now saying wanna fuck. It's madness.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Because elmost don't even read profiles, look what the women or couples are looking for and some are just creepy to the point if giving even me the ick

I've spoke with many single women that are on this site who get hundreds of "fancy a fuck" or "how much" messages

Don't get me wrong it is harder for men than women but sadly a small few spoil it for the rest of us

This is what I mean by socially inept men who saturate the site with rubbish and put off many women using this site. Luckily I'm tough as old boots and still here...just...

Socially inept men says the size queen! Come on!

Just because I'm a size queen, doesn't mean I sleep with every man who claims their cock is bigger than 7 inches says the person with faceless main profile.

I must be, therefore socially inept.

The fact you mention a dimension shows a degree of social ineptitude "

Now you're just making excuses to make your point valid...keep digging love, you're doing so well here proving a point why I don't bother with men lol

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"It's easy to blame it on the F:M ratio. Of course it is a factor however personally I find my non response goes to those who make no effort, yet complain about lack of results.

I had no issues as a single male and me and my wife get so many messages now saying wanna fuck. It's madness."

Or men that nick pick and groan about people who have preference and standards. You can't win. It's like babies spitting their dummies out lol

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Numbers really.

The vast majority of single men on here don’t do nearly enough to stand out from the (considerable) crowd.

A lot also have the perception that they’d sign up on here and easily get a quick shag, when in actual fact, you’re more likely to achieve that using Tinder and/or Reddit."

I think it's to do with how men conduct themselves on tinder where they're more likely to get laid. Being overtly in your face about sex isn't conjusive. As we know it's a sex site but asking to fuck as a intro message isn't seductive to a woman or a couple.

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