FabSwingers.com forum: even couples find it hard to get meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hi there i was with a couple who im good friends with on here and we were looking for a meet with a couple with a bi fem or single guy last night. We were searching till half 1 in the morning for the elusive couple, we were using my friends profile to search, We were on the phone to 3 couples who when push came to shuv they baulked at wanting to come or got cold feet. It was a real eye opener, my question is does this happen alot? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to hijack your post re couples, but I was talking to a 'single' lady recently, whose profile I would describe as being pretty inviting, although she doesn't have a public pic.

According to her she gets few messages, and those she does get are from very young guys who you really wonder why they're on here in the first place!

So I suspect the bottom line is that irrespective of whether it's couples or others, basically there are a heck of a lot of folk on here who don't really know why they're here in the first place!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yes i know what you mean its the same for single guys, think this site is slowing down meet wise, would be interesting to know how many people singles and couples have not had much luck meet wise recently?

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

I'd have thought most serious members would have better things to do on a Saturday night than hang about online just in case they get an invite at 1.30am.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well we were logged on at 10pm, there just seems to be 60%of time wasters on this site, nobody seems to be meeting anymore

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By *imfromGlasgowMan
over a year ago

er...guess

I'd say 60% is a serious underestimation but there are lots of people here who are experts on timewasting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it seems to be that if you are a 100% straight couple its even harder to meet a couple! And constantly getting if you were "bi" we couldve had a meet or fun!!

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By *wornToSecrecyMan
over a year ago

birmingham

its like banging your head up a brick wall on here if your single no ones intrested its crazy i thought i was in the right place to find and meet like minded people but how wrong that now seems

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

aye i agree with you matey, i havent had a couples meet for over 2months and ive got great feedback etc... feel like a leaper being a single on here dont u agree?

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

We've had it with 3 couples this week so far, trying to arrange a meet for next weekend now!

Its getting to the point that you have to strike up a conversation weeks before any potential meeting. Just to allow time for people to drop out along the way! Wouldn't mind so much but when they contact you and they are verified and gold/silver members, its dissapointing that they do drop out at the last minute

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

"its like banging your head up a brick wall on here if your single no ones intrested its crazy i thought i was in the right place to find and meet like minded people but how wrong that now seems

Same for couples as well mate

Mind you as for treetrunk up there (the OP) we do have some unfinished business with him at a houseparty in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were the couple trying to get a meet for themselves... or for themselves with yourself?? Couple.. or 3some looking for a couple??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Were the couple trying to get a meet for themselves... or for themselves with yourself?? Couple.. or 3some looking for a couple?? "
i was gonna ask that, why was the op looking for a cpl to meet the cpl ??? are u their agent lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find it very difficult to get meets.

Upside:

We can accommodate including overnight as we have a 5 bedroom house and no children.

When we do have a meet here, we always lay on a buffet so that people can snack throughout the evening.

We have 60+ verifications for real meets

We have 150 pictures of BOTH of us in our gallery

We are happy to meet on a "no strings" basis giving those we meet the opportunity to just have a good social night if when they get here they dont find us sexually compatible without feeling uncormfortable about it.

We are available 7 days/nights a week as we work from home.

Live 30 seconds from Chameleons

Downside:

We have a large age difference and believe we would get more offers if we were both in our twenties or both in our fifties.

We are smokers

We do have our own strict criteria on who we like to meet, but that's because we see this as fantastic fun but at the end of the day love each other and would rather play with each other than play with people we don't find sexually attractive and personable.

Are not interested in people who don't have pictures.

Will not arrange a meeting until we have seen a picture of BOTH members of a couple.

Can be restricted on travelling.

There are lots of timewaster on the site but of course not everyone who declines meeting people are timewasters, many just don't find those contacting them to be what they are looking for.

We decline two thirds of the winks, friends invites and mails we get because they come from people who, in thier own profiles have already stated that we are not for them ie "Won't meet smokers" or have age criteria outside our own ages etc

We decline others because they are not what we are looking for and often outside what we have stated in our profile that we are looking for so in both cases should not have been contacting us in the first place.

Yes finding a meet is difficult for couples, single females and for single males, we believe it is harder for couples because they have to find 2 people that are compatible not just a single male.

Many couples looking for a single male are just looking for a clean respectable guy and are not quite as particular as they are when seeking a couple since couples for couples tend to be searching more for friends as well as meets not just "one offs"

When couples seek couples most of the women are bisexual so are looking for a guy and a girl they are happy to play with, the guy in the couple wants to find a girl he wants to play with and a guy he can get on with.

Couples have more problems finding time than single males, babysitters can be hard to come by, two working shifts/days off to contend with not one and so on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"aye i agree with you matey, i havent had a couples meet for over 2months and ive got great feedback etc... feel like a leaper being a single on here dont u agree?"

No to everything you've said.

The site may be slowing down for you but not be for others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

well you have your own opinions, i know one thing, when i do eventualy find a lady for a "normal" relationship i certainly wont be swinging with her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well you have your own opinions, i know one thing, when i do eventualy find a lady for a "normal" relationship i certainly wont be swinging with her!"

but u expect other couples to swing with u ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well you have your own opinions, i know one thing, when i do eventualy find a lady for a "normal" relationship i certainly wont be swinging with her!"

I guess that will make it more difficult for you to get meets now.

dozy git!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well you have your own opinions, i know one thing, when i do eventualy find a lady for a "normal" relationship i certainly wont be swinging with her!

I guess that will make it more difficult for you to get meets now.

dozy git!!"
lol, hmmm he's fooked it now

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By *prite128Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

"aye i agree with you matey, i havent had a couples meet for over 2months and ive got great feedback etc... feel like a leaper being a single on here dont u agree?"

am i reading your verifications wrongly then as you appear to have couples meets on there in November, and not just at a party, but at one of theirs houses ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well you have your own opinions, i know one thing, when i do eventualy find a lady for a "normal" relationship i certainly wont be swinging with her!

I guess that will make it more difficult for you to get meets now.

dozy git!!lol, hmmm he's fooked it now

Have to laugh, we (other profile) have actually swapped messages with him, was planning on a meet as soon as we had the time to do so, but not so sure now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well you have your own opinions, i know one thing, when i do eventualy find a lady for a "normal" relationship i certainly wont be swinging with her!"
so basicaly yr here just to get yr leg over while on the look out for a gf.

Lots of ppl dont understand swinging, i guess yr one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well you have your own opinions, i know one thing, when i do eventualy find a lady for a "normal" relationship i certainly wont be swinging with her!"

Which in many peoples minds would make you lower than snake shit, your happy to play with someone else's partner but obviously think there is something wrong with us couples who do play with single guys or other couples, how insulting can you get ?

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

" think this site is slowing down meet wise"

I think it may be for some, but others will step up to fill the void...

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

Maybe he thinks its cheaper than going to a brotherl. Mind due we been to a few clubs and some times its feels like the guys think they at a brothel they way the act or say i have paid ex £ and f*ck all here.

Well wounder how long his profile will be up or used until he changes it or gets anotehr one.

As the Op question We had the same meets been asked for by couple messaging us and then they drop out last minute.

I think sometimes, they agree just because its a met and if before they leave the house someone else asks that looks better or does more stuff i.e. full swing they just drop you.

Mind due we had it, where we where ask for a meet at a club agreed time etc and then two hours before dropped out. ( they still had an add on meet today section)

As i said they dropped out two hours before only to turn up at the club saying hi we made it at last. ( silly thing they did, was talk to another couple while getting changed saying that they had a meet fall thou).

I was at the other side of the changing room.

So i just said to them that we had come along for a social and hot tub not to play. Their face was funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to meet a couple about once every five weeks or so and happy, however, I think you have to remember a lot of peeps on herehave kids and xmas is coming, families about ,work is pressing, all sorts of things at this time of the year..we also have decided not too meet anyone now till after xmas as have some other friends on here done too. still, bring on the new year yummy lol.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"hi there i was with a couple who im good friends with on here and we were looking for a meet with a couple with a bi fem or single guy last night. We were searching till half 1 in the morning for the elusive couple, we were using my friends profile to search, We were on the phone to 3 couples who when push came to shuv they baulked at wanting to come or got cold feet. It was a real eye opener, my question is does this happen alot? x"

We wouldn't have arranged an immediate meet at 1.30 in the morning....we meet in a nuetral place before a meet until you all decide if it is what everyone wants..that isn't an option at 1.30 in the morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well you have your own opinions, i know one thing, when i do eventualy find a lady for a "normal" relationship i certainly wont be swinging with her!"

That said.........reckon you may as well hang up your swinging suit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well you have your own opinions, i know one thing, when i do eventualy find a lady for a "normal" relationship i certainly wont be swinging with her!"

Places a cross next to name

Shaz n Tony

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

I saw friends of ours on cam in a room a few days ago, trying to get a meet.

She was dressed very sexily, (stockings etc) and is a good looking woman, and she was asking if anyone either a male or a cpl, was up for a meet.

Very surprisingly, although they had some interest, after trying for about 4 hours they got no success.

It got to the point where they seriously wre asking "what are we doing wrong", and the truth is, nothing, its just that sometimes you need to plan ahead.

Although, you would think that there would be loads of single males jumping at the chance, but perhaps there arent that many genuinely single, available "single" guys!!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

What? Why weren't you all having hot horny sex? What a waste! 3 some right there - doh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another make believe wannabe bites the dust

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

alot of people have assumed wrong with what i termed "normal relationship" what i mean by that is that this swinging is a lifestyle and a choice, i am not being derogartery to women or couples as the people who know me and have met me know what im like. It is typical of all forums to get all heated up etc.. All i was saying is that my friends who are happily married were finding it difficult to get a meet, because she wanted a couple with a bi wife/gf etc to meet us all last nite. x

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

You *seemed* quite certain that, to paraphrase "no wife of mine is swinging".

What if it turned out she liked swinging - would you break it off?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"alot of people have assumed wrong with what i termed "normal relationship" what i mean by that is that this swinging is a lifestyle and a choice, i am not being derogartery to women or couples as the people who know me and have met me know what im like. It is typical of all forums to get all heated up etc.. All i was saying is that my friends who are happily married were finding it difficult to get a meet, because she wanted a couple with a bi wife/gf etc to meet us all last nite. x"

I'd suggest a bit of forward planning - very rarely can you get a meet at very short notice - we have once or twice but you really can't rely on that last minute strategy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

no i wouldnt break it off, its just a tricky thing to tell any new gf if i got one that i was a swinger,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You *seemed* quite certain that, to paraphrase "no wife of mine is swinging".

What if it turned out she liked swinging - would you break it off?

Break what off ?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"You *seemed* quite certain that, to paraphrase "no wife of mine is swinging".

What if it turned out she liked swinging - would you break it off?

Break what off ?"

The branch of course! Doh!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"You *seemed* quite certain that, to paraphrase "no wife of mine is swinging".

What if it turned out she liked swinging - would you break it off?

Break what off ?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

lol

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

"no i wouldnt break it off, its just a tricky thing to tell any new gf if i got one that i was a swinger, "

You think that's tricky, try telling one that you've been seeing 6 months, a year. Or why not wait until your wedding night?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its hard for anyone really, im a single woman and i find it hard to get meets

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

It is interesting watching a person who was initally having a whinge, then shoot themselves in the foot with certain comments, trying to dig themselves out of the situation... but I think these people have sussed you....

you just made it harder for a lot of single blokes to get there foot in the door... why? because you have followed a lot of the stereotypes! complaining about not getting meets (which you have done in more than one thread lately) then the beauty "no partner of mine is swinging" nice double standard there..... got anymore nuggets you'd like to hand out!!!!

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Well said Fabio I wonder if making things difficult for other single guys is a ploy? With this and previous posts which you pointed out there does seem to be a pattern developing even though the shot to the foot was a classic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well he must be doing something wrong as i have met 2 diff couples in two days after a short conversation and drink together.We all played not long after and will meet again for sure.Perhaps he is a wham bam thank you maam merchant as i do like to please other party first as its not just about me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its hard for anyone really, im a single woman and i find it hard to get meets"

So do we.maybe its because we both have to find the other couple/person attractive before we will play with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not the most attractive more rugged i think and not the youngest but conducy myself in the right way.I get loads of knockbacks like other people it is harder being single but its the way you go about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have problems meeting couples and have friends that find it hard work to arrange meets because of time wasters. Can't do with endless messages, if they can't be arsed to turn up why message in first place.

On the single guy side of things we have been looking for a guy but had a lot of "I have a big dick and love to shag you" messages and that out us off. If all you think about is your dick and not the other couple you won't get anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree but some couple do ask how big you are then when you say 7-8 inches they dont get back to you so i dont tell them anymore.Its about whether you all get on for a good meet not just a shag although most blokes think it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Size is not important to us, you are one of the few who think that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not just couples.

we get let down by a lot of single guys on here.

I dont think this site is any worse than any other for timewasters though.

I think its something we just have to get used to!

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By *osiephillCouple
over a year ago

The High Peak

"What? Why weren't you all having hot horny sex? What a waste! 3 some right there - doh!"

Made me laugh!

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

I must admit to reading these posts with a smile

as an older single guy I should be at the bottom of any ones list.

but since joining fab I have managed a meet nealy every week end.

lots have now become very good friends. yes I have had a lot of regections but thats just to be expected.

just learn from it and move on and treat others how you would like to be treat your self.

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By *obblybitsCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

were too new to coment. at the momn't we are intrested in playing can't travle so far witch child care. were just not what people want.

had 3 lovely mesg telling us so.

at least they asured back though.

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By *lack Widow n MateCouple
over a year ago

wakefield/pontefract/doncaster

Speaking as a couple who have a lot of success on here... we do try to meet any single guys that catch our imagination...

However we are apalled at the number of horror stories we hear from the guys we do meet... some of them are real good friends too... of being contacted by couples...loads of messages and texts and seeming really keen...and arrangements made to meet... only to be given false gps co-ordinates which take them to false addresses...

They give genuine couples a real bad name.. as do all the other fake couples or timewasters...

really not what swinging is about...

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

PULEEEESE Don't make it harder for me as it is hard enough in London and am spending a fortune on travel till there's a discount card for the rail

...Come on Jan 2nd! (Oyster For Rail, woohoo!)

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"PULEEEESE Don't make it harder for me as it is hard enough in London and am spending a fortune on travel till there's a discount card for the rail

...Come on Jan 2nd! (Oyster For Rail, woohoo!)"

You need to move up here - you seem to be a lovely guy, pity there isn;t much going on in London, should be more peeps like you about xx

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"PULEEEESE Don't make it harder for me as it is hard enough in London and am spending a fortune on travel till there's a discount card for the rail

...Come on Jan 2nd! (Oyster For Rail, woohoo!)

You need to move up here - you seem to be a lovely guy, pity there isn;t much going on in London, should be more peeps like you about xx"

You know the more I think about it, the more Manc and Brum sound like a realistic prospect - smack bang in the middle of swinging "ground zero" - just across from Yorks, and "on top" of Wales. I might accept that offer yet

(Awww - am blushing now)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I have read all this with interest and will comment. I rarely do serious posts but will make the exception perhaps on this one.

As a couple we do accomodate and do travel. We do not have to consider children etc, but we all have family and work issues to consider never the less. So up until now all our meets have been a sucess and we have not been let down last minute by anyone. But then in saying that we have chatted to the couples for a little while before committing to a meet. That way you can get a general idea as to whether the people are actually serious about turning up. Perhaps as we limit our meets to couples only could be the result of our sucess who knows.

As far as going into chat rooms for a meet. I wouldnt go in there just to purely get a meet that day. I go on for the simple intention of having fun and getting my tits out lol. But in saying that the other week i was on chat and a single guy who i have spoken to on and off for a good while was there. I asked him round with 2 hours notice. Well he turned up, so all ended well.

But what people have to remember that is even Swingers have lives away from swingers. So ok there are time wasters, and there are guys who pretend to be couples. But there is also people with genuine reasons as to why they cancel meets.

rant over going back to being stooopid now

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

We haven't had much success on here regarding meets, may be that's because I'm Bi and my OH is Gay.

What we have found is there are lots of “Couples” who like the idea of 2 guys but not willing to either involve their partner, or their partner is not aware their “Bi”which is no good to us because I (being Bi) want the female interaction.

We've actually had more interest from single females than M/F couples, the idea of guy on guy action really does turn “some” women on

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By *eritageMan
over a year ago

weston super mare

hi Have to say met some nice genuine couples and singles on here,but somtimes have had to back away cause can tell peeps are just messing around. Have always turned up when said i would but peeps are suprised cause they have been let down so much.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Ok I have read all this with interest and will comment. I rarely do serious posts but will make the exception perhaps on this one.

rant over going back to being stooopid now

Was it really 2 hrs? my watch had stopped

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By *eritageMan
over a year ago

weston super mare

spot on you are going to meet all kinds of people on this site , genuine and time waisters, have to accept that. I have not been let down yet or let anyone down, but often peeps are suprised when im there as they are used to being let down.Genuine things crop up not always an excuse just have to take things at face value, seams peeps always expect to be let down by the single guys, would hope its not true but does seam to be the single guys making a bad name for us genuine ones.

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