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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For the guys on here who do/have done well with women on here, what would you chalk it up to? Share the game. If it’s purely genetics, I guess you can skip, but I’d love to know if there are some things in particular that some guys on here get right, and other guys get wrong.

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By *ure_heatMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Always, always read a profile and use something in that as your in. Can't get anywhere without an initial spark!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of a six pack and high above average weapon generally is a hold back in my experience lol

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"Lack of a six pack and high above average weapon generally is a hold back in my experience lol"

If you really believe that, then they aren't your problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lack of a six pack and high above average weapon generally is a hold back in my experience lol

If you really believe that, then they aren't your problem "

I second this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lack of a six pack and high above average weapon generally is a hold back in my experience lol

If you really believe that, then they aren't your problem

I second this."

I third this.

I find agreeing with everything women say usually works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I definitely agree here 100%…

In fact I agree so much I just wanted to say I agree again

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By *ighlander80884Man
over a year ago

Inverness

Confidence and banter. We must all know that one guy who looks like a bulldog chewing a wasp, but he always gets the girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lack of a six pack and high above average weapon generally is a hold back in my experience lol

If you really believe that, then they aren't your problem

I second this.

I third this.

I find agreeing with everything women say usually works "

I fourth this lol and in my case an above average weapon would exclude them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lack of a six pack and high above average weapon generally is a hold back in my experience lol

If you really believe that, then they aren't your problem

I second this.

I third this.

I find agreeing with everything women say usually works

I fourth this lol and in my case an above average weapon would exclude them "

So the average guy has hope, sorry it's just all the guys I see with loads of meets under their wing seem to be as I described

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look past the six packs and dicks you’ll usually find it actually good photos with sone effort in them and effort into the profile. And being fairly active at socials or in forums will help.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"Lack of a six pack and high above average weapon generally is a hold back in my experience lol

If you really believe that, then they aren't your problem

I second this.

I third this.

I find agreeing with everything women say usually works

I fourth this lol and in my case an above average weapon would exclude them "

I have and I was gutted, he was bloody gorgeous lol

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By *damsmith12233Man
over a year ago

leicester

I haven’t had ‘great’ success but I’ve met some great people on here through being honest and happy to chat and accepting that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lack of a six pack and high above average weapon generally is a hold back in my experience lol

If you really believe that, then they aren't your problem

I second this.

I third this.

I find agreeing with everything women say usually works

I fourth this lol and in my case an above average weapon would exclude them

I have and I was gutted, he was bloody gorgeous lol "

This has happened to me quite a few times lol but I’d like to keep my cervix in tact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lack of a six pack and high above average weapon generally is a hold back in my experience lol

If you really believe that, then they aren't your problem

I second this.

I third this.

I find agreeing with everything women say usually works

I fourth this lol and in my case an above average weapon would exclude them

I have and I was gutted, he was bloody gorgeous lol

This has happened to me quite a few times lol but I’d like to keep my cervix in tact "

I'm your guy for that lol ????????

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By *un2345100Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

Just be normal

It’s not rocket science

Happy fabbing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just be normal

It’s not rocket science

Happy fabbing "

What’s normal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple, be really really ridiculously good looking.

Apart from that, maybe be realistic about whom you message and why? There's a lot of mud thrown at the wall, hoping it sticks.

Be considered and thoughtful, but also able to roll with the punches and cut when necessary.

It's a wild place, you are not suited to everybody, everybody isn't suited to you, accept it and you'll find it easier.

Also, it really does help to be good looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lack of a six pack and high above average weapon generally is a hold back in my experience lol

If you really believe that, then they aren't your problem

I second this.

I third this.

I find agreeing with everything women say usually works

I fourth this lol and in my case an above average weapon would exclude them

I have and I was gutted, he was bloody gorgeous lol

This has happened to me quite a few times lol but I’d like to keep my cervix in tact "

There's more than one way in for the enterprising elephant todger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lack of a six pack and high above average weapon generally is a hold back in my experience lol

If you really believe that, then they aren't your problem

I second this.

I third this.

I find agreeing with everything women say usually works

I fourth this lol and in my case an above average weapon would exclude them

I have and I was gutted, he was bloody gorgeous lol

This has happened to me quite a few times lol but I’d like to keep my cervix in tact

There's more than one way in for the enterprising elephant todger "

Yeah but that’s just boring. Give me average any day! I’ve had hung and it’s overrated, everything has to be slow and careful I find it boring frankly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Believe it or not

just try to stay positive and lower your expectations and simply be yourself. There’s always someone for somebody on here

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

High success rate? Only for those with my magic spikey gloves! Lol.

But seriously though, don't be a dick; try and at least pretend you treat women with respect rather than just holes to fuck; be able to have a little bit of non-sexual conversation as at least for me, my brain needs to be stimulated before my body can be; do read profiles, be picky and only message women you are interested in rather than just messaging every single woman within 200 miles radius; be confident (or at least pretend) but not arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had quite a few meets back in the day on my old profile. And I’m a fat bloke with a mediocre cock.

There is a trick to building rapport with women on here, I’m really not sure if I should share it with anyone, I mean tricks of the trade and all that.

Ah go on then. Just between us though, right? Don’t go sharing it anywhere! Promise?

Ok then.

The big secret is this:

Talk to women like they’re normal everyday people, respectfully and have a genuine interest in their response.

Hold back on the sexual talk until you’re comfortable a decent rapport has been obtained.

Fucking rocket science isn’t it!? I know… shhh it’s our secret!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"High success rate? Only for those with my magic spikey gloves! Lol.

But seriously though, don't be a dick; try and at least pretend you treat women with respect rather than just holes to fuck; be able to have a little bit of non-sexual conversation as at least for me, my brain needs to be stimulated before my body can be; do read profiles, be picky and only message women you are interested in rather than just messaging every single woman within 200 miles radius; be confident (or at least pretend) but not arrogant.

"

I can vouch for those gloves: a huge prop for low confidence/shyness and an excellent ice breaker.

Don't just take my word for it...

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Not what you asked but looking at your profile I'd say your more successful than most in here as many wait a year for their first meet & you've Gad 5 in just over 6 months

But if you think you could do better I'd suggest looking at your images, lots of women & couples are put off of seeing females on a single guys photos, but as I said most would consider you successful, so if it's not broke why fix it

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"The big secret is this:

Talk to women like they’re normal everyday people, respectfully and have a genuine interest in their response.

Hold back on the sexual talk until you’re comfortable a decent rapport has been obtained."

This! Shame that most men who need to know this secret don't use forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had quite a few meets back in the day on my old profile. And I’m a fat bloke with a mediocre cock.

There is a trick to building rapport with women on here, I’m really not sure if I should share it with anyone, I mean tricks of the trade and all that.

Ah go on then. Just between us though, right? Don’t go sharing it anywhere! Promise?

Ok then.

The big secret is this:

Talk to women like they’re normal everyday people, respectfully and have a genuine interest in their response.

Hold back on the sexual talk until you’re comfortable a decent rapport has been obtained.

Fucking rocket science isn’t it!? I know… shhh it’s our secret! "

Give you an idea local women I messaged just the usual "came across your profile and thought I'd message to say you are really attractive and would love the chance to chat with you" and the rest, point being on her profile she stated wanted meet guy dark hair above 5ft 8 medium build and nice chat, any way she deleted my message 2 weeks later meet a friend at A bar and I noticed her (distinct tattoo on chest), was at bar ordering drinks and she came up to me I got her a drink had a nice chat flirt for ages didn't mention fab, couple days later messaged on fab again reply was " your not my type creep"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had quite a few meets back in the day on my old profile. And I’m a fat bloke with a mediocre cock.

There is a trick to building rapport with women on here, I’m really not sure if I should share it with anyone, I mean tricks of the trade and all that.

Ah go on then. Just between us though, right? Don’t go sharing it anywhere! Promise?

Ok then.

The big secret is this:

Talk to women like they’re normal everyday people, respectfully and have a genuine interest in their response.

Hold back on the sexual talk until you’re comfortable a decent rapport has been obtained.

Fucking rocket science isn’t it!? I know… shhh it’s our secret! "
this

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


" There’s always someone for somebody on here "

but theres clearly not the % with men out numbering women by silly numbers prove that there is not someone for everyone ?

its really down to a couple of things what the eyes see first and then what the brain processes after ... most of the guys i know who do well include clubs and social into the mix they get known good or bad and then succeed or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to know their secret... There's no way to say this without sounding like a dickhead but in real life, whether it be at a casual night in a bar with some pals or at one of my own events (They're not swing/kink events, just good old House raves at places like E1, Egg etc.) I never seem to have any issues flirting and would say in your own words, I'm way more successful than average!

But when it comes to FAB specifically, all of a sudden I find there's more chance of me literally drawing blood from a stone lol. I've fully lost count of the amount of well worded, in-depth messages I've sent with decent pictures attached (not unsolicited dick pics) to ladies I seem to be a fairly good match with, but bosh, instant delete!

This really isn't a rant or me getting worked up even though it may sound like it lol, I'm just genuinely curious! Does anyone care to critique my profile and tell me where I'm going wrong?

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"Just be normal

It’s not rocket science

Happy fabbing "

No! No normal for me, ta!

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By *eroLondonMan
over a year ago

Mayfair

I have my methods. They're all honourable and gentlemanly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to know their secret... There's no way to say this without sounding like a dickhead but in real life, whether it be at a casual night in a bar with some pals or at one of my own events (They're not swing/kink events, just good old House raves at places like E1, Egg etc.) I never seem to have any issues flirting and would say in your own words, I'm way more successful than average!

But when it comes to FAB specifically, all of a sudden I find there's more chance of me literally drawing blood from a stone lol. I've fully lost count of the amount of well worded, in-depth messages I've sent with decent pictures attached (not unsolicited dick pics) to ladies I seem to be a fairly good match with, but bosh, instant delete!

This really isn't a rant or me getting worked up even though it may sound like it lol, I'm just genuinely curious! Does anyone care to critique my profile and tell me where I'm going wrong? "

You’ll be too young for a lot of women on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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You’ll be too young for a lot of women on here!"

If I had a penny for every time I've been told that... I'd be able to afford my energy bills!

But I do totally get that, that's why I only ever message women who state they are happy to meet people of my age, I'll never message someone if I'm out of their stated age range.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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But if you think you could do better I'd suggest looking at your images, lots of women & couples are put off of seeing females on a single guys photos"

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

-Talk to people like you would a close good friend.

-Not ever chat has to be sexual, good banter & convo goes a long way

-Address a couple as a couple

- Most important have standards & know your self worth (it comes across in your profile & veris haha)

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock


"I'd love to know their secret... There's no way to say this without sounding like a dickhead but in real life, whether it be at a casual night in a bar with some pals or at one of my own events (They're not swing/kink events, just good old House raves at places like E1, Egg etc.) I never seem to have any issues flirting and would say in your own words, I'm way more successful than average!

But when it comes to FAB specifically, all of a sudden I find there's more chance of me literally drawing blood from a stone lol. I've fully lost count of the amount of well worded, in-depth messages I've sent with decent pictures attached (not unsolicited dick pics) to ladies I seem to be a fairly good match with, but bosh, instant delete!

This really isn't a rant or me getting worked up even though it may sound like it lol, I'm just genuinely curious! Does anyone care to critique my profile and tell me where I'm going wrong? "

As others have said your age will be a big hinderence to you here, as many have a rule if they have children your age or younger your off limits

& as the average age here seems to be around 50 your borderline, it seems anything below 30 is considered young

Doesn't mean to say there aren't people looking for younger guys, it just it's more niche

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