FabSwingers.com forum: Is what we are looking for realistic!?

By *eebo OP Couple
over a year ago

basingstoke

We have had a few experiences as a couple, mainly mmf and have now uploaded a new profile of what we are looking for.

Essentially looking for something longer term with one guy that can become a bit more than just one or two meets for sex.

Its quite particular and won't be for everyone we know but interested to know what people think.

If anyone has found themselves in a similar situation either as a couple of the additional guy would also be interesting to hear your thoughts!

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds perfectly fine to me

Only one problem

Your in Basingstoke I'm in the Midlands

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

"Hi

We have had a few experiences as a couple, mainly mmf and have now uploaded a new profile of what we are looking for.

Essentially looking for something longer term with one guy that can become a bit more than just one or two meets for sex.

Its quite particular and won't be for everyone we know but interested to know what people think.

If anyone has found themselves in a similar situation either as a couple of the additional guy would also be interesting to hear your thoughts!

Thanks

B "

we had a few mfm and we now have 2 male friends that now been long term the sex is a lot better as all know what we they like but not just in the bedroom we good friends out of it too it works for us

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Sounds great to me ...just move to gravesend please

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

I had a similar thread yesterday funnily enough!

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sounds reasonable to us x

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

Seeking a male for such an arrangement, shouldn't be too hard to find

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By *elsbells2011Couple
over a year ago

fife

Definitely a lot harder than it sounds. We searched for years and all we ended up with was guys who would agree to anything and everything just to get a meet then the truth comes out after that they can only get away from wifey once every blue moon. We eventually found someone and been 8 months of regular fun and he’s local and single so it’s been very easy and fun but definitely not as easy as you’d think

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

I bet your inbox is croudy after this treat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men looking for a couple ( sexy ones like you ) are to selfish to read the couples needs and wants as they just want there fun

So it’s really hard to find sadly x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not unrealistic it's something I'm looking for since my last friendship finished after ten yrs problem is your on here asking this place is full of time wasters single and couples good luck with your search it's definitely worth trying as said before the more you meet the better it becomes.

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By *ornym66Man
over a year ago

Col /ips

Yes is very hard to get to know a couple you have to get on and click I was with a couple for few years great sex put we moved on but it wasn't mmf it was mfm

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

Although not exactly the same situation you are seeking, I have had a similar relationship to this with a couple.

I had initially started messaging this particular couple on Twitter due to a shared interest in all things geeky and over the course of several months things progressed to socialising as friends to the point where they were comfortable talking about their sexual desires with me.

To cut a very long story shorter, we went from online friends to me being the wife’s boyfriend (she actually called me her second husband for a while).

Things progressed to the point of her husband being perfectly comfortable with her spending weekends away with me or with me visiting when he wasn’t around and we were exclusive between the 3 of us so unprotected sex became the norm.

It was a wonderful part of my life that lasted about 5 years

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By *eebo OP Couple
over a year ago

basingstoke

Thanks for the comments and sharing experiences!

A few watch outs but overall encouraging and doesn't look impossible!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although not exactly the same situation you are seeking, I have had a similar relationship to this with a couple.

To cut a very long story shorter, we went from online friends to me being the wife’s boyfriend (she actually called me her second husband for a while).

It was a wonderful part of my life that lasted about 5 years "

I have this type of arrangement know for many years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds OK, and just what we're looking for. Finding the right guy is the hard part, good luck searching we'll probably pass you along the road.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds OK, and just what we're looking for. Finding the right guy is the hard part, good luck searching we'll probably pass you along the road.

Hi tried to send you a pm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds OK, and just what we're looking for. Finding the right guy is the hard part, good luck searching we'll probably pass you along the road.

Hi tried to send you a pm

We have a filter on for anyone not in our specified age range.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

You're looking for something fairly specific

I think it's going to be unrealistic to find it

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By *wesomeLolaCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Buckinghamshire

Where do you think it crosses over from swinging to a polyamorous relationship?

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By *eebo OP Couple
over a year ago

basingstoke

That is a good question but for us we need to get along and have a connection to enjoy the intimacy but are not looking/expecting for the real commitments of life and love of a relationship with a 3rd person which I believe is the objective of polyamourous relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem faced is one of trust. You have to let someone in that is potentially Competition to the male as the female isn't going to want someone that doesn't fit a certain bill. That person has to not fall in love with her, which will be difficult given the level of intimacy and compatibility that you want.

It's a full on double edged sword. The benefits are huge but so are the emotional risks - tread carefully and communicate alot - and keep absolutely nothing from each other.

The rest is both luck and judgement

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

If you're all happy ,then it's fine

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

I've been in a close relationship with a couple for the last four years. It took both me and them a while to find each other but we did and think we are very lucky to have done so.

As others have said, trust is needed and we've had our ups and downs on that but I think we are now in that space where we have that. Emotional involvement is not a problem for us as there is no way I would run off with the wife (or the husband for that matter) but we do all feel very close when we meet and there is real affection during those few hours, which adds a lot to the enjoyment. Thes ex has just got better and better.

I do hope you (OP) manage to find what you want as it is just so much better than a series of one-offs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As our profile says this is the type of relationship we seek and have found that it is very difficult to find ...although we are not put off and carry on with our search for the Holy Grail! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi

We have had a few experiences as a couple, mainly mmf and have now uploaded a new profile of what we are looking for.

Essentially looking for something longer term with one guy that can become a bit more than just one or two meets for sex.

Its quite particular and won't be for everyone we know but interested to know what people think.

If anyone has found themselves in a similar situation either as a couple of the additional guy would also be interesting to hear your thoughts!

Thanks

we had a few mfm and we now have 2 male friends that now been long term the sex is a lot better as all know what we they like but not just in the bedroom we good friends out of it too it works for us "

But don't you feel even a little bit like it's become samey.. We don't get that rush of intrigue or excitement if it's the same person or people joining us..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most men looking for a couple ( sexy ones like you ) are to selfish to read the couples needs and wants as they just want there fun

So it’s really hard to find sadly x"
\\\ \ Sadly we'd have to agree.

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