FabSwingers.com forum: Would you meet a pushy person?

By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I only ask because we've just had to block a proper pest, who had 14 glowing verifications!

I understand people don't always meet through fab directly, but it does make me wonder how he got anywhere near the women in his pics with this behaviour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. If they’re pushy by text. How insufferable are they going to be in person?

Plus, they’re probably the type to not respect any boundaries and just their for their own fun.

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By *tranger swings 69Couple
over a year ago

cheshire

"I only ask because we've just had to block a proper pest, who had 14 glowing verifications!

I understand people don't always meet through fab directly, but it does make me wonder how he got anywhere near the women in his pics with this behaviour

Not a chance would we meet someone like that

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Nope. If they’re pushy by text. How insufferable are they going to be in person?

Plus, they’re probably the type to not respect any boundaries and just their for their own fun. "

This is exactly how we feel! People can be very flippant on here, "oh we're all here for sex and lots of it, don't be such a prude" that sort of attitude

but I don't think it's a stretch to want your play mates to have some respect?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. If they’re pushy by text. How insufferable are they going to be in person?

Plus, they’re probably the type to not respect any boundaries and just their for their own fun.

This is exactly how we feel! People can be very flippant on here, "oh we're all here for sex and lots of it, don't be such a prude" that sort of attitude

but I don't think it's a stretch to want your play mates to have some respect?"

totally this !!

also over nice people can be a bit - pushy in a kinda way as well!!

and get really arsey when you say sorry I’m not feeling I want to take this further!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We guess that there might be a fine line between pushy and keen

We are only after one buddy for longterm fun. We enjoyed our last buddy for 10+ years.

We expect effort, we think that we are worth effort, but if someone becomes pushy, then they are history.

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

It sets off alarm bells - if they're that pushy in messages, what are they like in real life? There's plenty of polite gentlemen on fab to choose from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"totally this !!

also over nice people can be a bit - pushy in a kinda way as well!!

and get really arsey when you say sorry I’m not feeling I want to take this further!!"

Coming at this from a purely male perspective on this site - I often find that most couples/women aren’t used to being told ‘sorry, you’re not for me’

I understand why because they have the pick of whoever they want in reality on here but I always insist on meeting for a drink first before anything. I have to have some physical attraction to the person to go with finding them fun and interesting.

I recently met with a couple who after a coffee invited me back to theirs. I said I was flattered but they weren’t for me and politely declined. When I next checked the site I had a barrage of messages saying how I’ve wasted their time, how I’m missing out and how they didn’t want me to come anyway but felt they had to invite me because I’d turned up. Totally contradicting themselves

but, ah well!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

They sound a pain already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she drives a Ford Fiesta yes I would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no I wouldn’t as soon as someone starts to be pushy any chance of meeting is over.

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

"I only ask because we've just had to block a proper pest, who had 14 glowing verifications!

I understand people don't always meet through fab directly, but it does make me wonder how he got anywhere near the women in his pics with this behaviour

No, to me it shows a lack of respect and I'd be concerned any boundaries set would be ignored

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

No. I go at my pace and meet only when and if I want too.

Anyone pushing for a meet would be instantly blocked x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect and self awareness are key. Run a mile if these things are not shown

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By *nked_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Durham

No chance what so ever! Usually an automatic block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people don't realise that there's a life outside of Fab and swinging. They don't understand that meetings can sometimes take a while to set up for all manner of reasons. I've had to block a recent contact for that reason just an hour ago. Just got fed up with continually being asked "so when can we meet"!!

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

If anyone's that pushy about wanting to meet me...I just assume they must be fake

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Nope.

A pushy person has messaged us a few times. We just leave his messages unread.

He was proper rude and offensive as well. Might consider blocking him.

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By *exy Ruby 100 300Couple
over a year ago

unknown

No I'd never meet pushy either bad enough in d real world outside fab R x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not pushy! - meet me now, now, NOW!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id meet any fucker at this point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id consider a bloke and im not even bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pushy with their penis, yes.

Pushy with their personality, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would I meet a pushy person?

Absolutely not, it's supposed to be fun ffs.

Same goes for anyone describing themselves as an 'alpha male' or bull... grow a pair ffs

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

No pushy is a complete turn off for me.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"Would I meet a pushy person?

Absolutely not, it's supposed to be fun ffs.

Same goes for anyone describing themselves as an 'alpha male' or bull... grow a pair ffs

Runs away and quickly edits profile…

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By *lean_CutMan
over a year ago

Rasen area

"I only ask because we've just had to block a proper pest, who had 14 glowing verifications!

I understand people don't always meet through fab directly, but it does make me wonder how he got anywhere near the women in his pics with this behaviour

Nah, fuck that.. I’m hard up, but I’m not desperate!

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"totally this !!

also over nice people can be a bit - pushy in a kinda way as well!!

and get really arsey when you say sorry I’m not feeling I want to take this further!!

Coming at this from a purely male perspective on this site - I often find that most couples/women aren’t used to being told ‘sorry, you’re not for me’

but, ah well!"

OMG that is shocking behaviour

Can absolutely attest to some couples and women being brats - when I first came on here and then when we moved to our first couple's profile, we saw MANY rattles thrown out of the pram

Of course it's disappointing when things don't take off with someone you fancy, but come on!!

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

its a no from me,,

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"They sound a pain already

Agreed!! Mr Fox put on his aloof authoritative text voice before the block hammer was swung. Swoon!

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Pushy with their penis, yes.

Pushy with their personality, no."

LOL!!! Amen to that

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

Answer is easy ,NEVER

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

No I wouldn’t. If they’re pushy out of the bedroom they could also be pushy in it.

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Would I meet a pushy person?

Absolutely not, it's supposed to be fun ffs.

Same goes for anyone describing themselves as an 'alpha male' or bull... grow a pair ffs

Now I knew "bull" described the other bloke in the cuckold scenario, but that would be akin to me calling myself "sub" or something lol

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Lots of fab responses!! Don't want to clog up the thread by responding to each individually, but I'm glad people still have their sanity intact for the most part

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Nope.

Never.

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By *hicDragon08Man
over a year ago

Woodbridge

God.no!

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Not if they are a pest or abusive , can’t believe you’re even asking this !

But pushy as is results driven and gets what they want , yes definitely , I like a woman who knows what she wants and how to get it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. The first sign of them being pushy we will tell them it’s not happening. Anything more and they’ll be blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way, even more than 1 message in a day or week after we don't reply is q flag to us. They just beg or push.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t stand pushy types! I don’t meet quickly and I’ve had to block many times for guys being too pushy!

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I like assertive guys. If I say ok I’d like to meet for a coffee, I don’t mind them taking the lead and telling me when and where- if they’re pushing me to meet them it’s a hard nope

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

No way.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

Some fellas get over excited lol .. so pushy gets the block button at our house

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By *23RouteCouple
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Definitely no

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

no same goes for creepy or overly nice people

saying people because it all people that can be pushy

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By *assiieneilxMan
over a year ago

Newcastle under lyme

What are people’s definition of pushy?

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By *J GeminiTV/TS
over a year ago

Northumberland

Absolutely not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s a major red flag for me

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Not if they are a pest or abusive , can’t believe you’re even asking this !

But pushy as is results driven and gets what they want , yes definitely , I like a woman who knows what she wants and how to get it

It's a rhetorical question really, because I'm trying to figure out where his veris came from

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By *ifewantsmore777Couple
over a year ago

North West

No, complete turn off and party stopper. Chilled, drama free fun for us

. K&L

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"What are people’s definition of pushy?"

In this case it was messaging us to say he was looking for couples (cool, didn't ask!), we stated he clearly hadn't read our profile on multiple counts but that didn't stop him messaging several more times - each time he acted as though he simply couldn't help himself which was quite amusing

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By *humper.Man
over a year ago

northumberland/scotland

Anyone else reading this and fearing they are a pest, no? Me neither

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

At a push we might

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Anyone else reading this and fearing they are a pest, no? Me neither

You'd have to display some supreme ignorance to match this fella

fear not!

(Autocorrect cramped my style and ruined my emoji the first time lol)

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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago

Newferry, wirral

In the bedroom maybe but not before ive even met them

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By *obandruthCouple
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Absolutely not. As they have no respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually ignore/block if pushy.

I met one chap who seemed pushy by text,perhaps due to the sheer volume of texts, but in person, (after several months cooloff period) the most respectful non pushy person I've ever met.

BUT it can easily be the other way...

So disturbing that so many men take "no" as a challenge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When does excited/trying fall into pushy territory?

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Nope

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Anyone who applies inappropriate pressurev is someone I find repugnant

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By *olf and RedCouple
over a year ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

It’s a red flag for us.

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By *eeboCouple
over a year ago

basingstoke

Being pushy is a definite no for us.

Lacking any confidence or enthusiasm is also not great so its a balance but don't think its that hard to achieve!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only ask because we've just had to block a proper pest, who had 14 glowing verifications!

I understand people don't always meet through fab directly, but it does make me wonder how he got anywhere near the women in his pics with this behaviour

No pushy is not a good thing at all you was right to block them

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

no we had one yesturday at nude beach he was told wear to go

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...

"If anyone's that pushy about wanting to meet me...I just assume they must be fake

Kind of reminds me of scam emails 101. Create a sense of urgency to get someone to do something "silly" quickly without thinking it through.

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By *s2walesCouple
over a year ago

Gwent...

No def not hate to be pressurised and can lead to blocks....

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By *JandCMCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Never have anything to do with pushy guy.

You can normally tell how it's going to go within the first 2 messages or so.

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove

"We guess that there might be a fine line between pushy and keen

Word! Also, if I don't fancy them, they're "pushy". If I fancy them, they're "persistent"

God bless the chasers, thank you for your service.

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"When does excited/trying fall into pushy territory?"

I think ignoring the fact that messages have been deleted or replied to with scorn is pushy territory, and the fact he seemed to find it funny

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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

No steer clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being pushy is a huge red flag to us and usually ends our conversation immediately with them.

Recently we were chatting to a gorgeous couple but if we didn't reply within the hour something was said. It happened a couple of times and we both got the ick straight away.

XxX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest lots of people complain about the disproportionate amount of men on Fab but that does have at least one great advantage.

Next!

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By *ornym66Man
over a year ago

Col /ips

"We guess that there might be a fine line between pushy and keen

We are only after one buddy for longterm fun. We enjoyed our last buddy for 10+ years.

We expect effort, we think that we are worth effort, but if someone becomes pushy, then they are history.

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Yes I was with a couple for about 6 years awsome sex but not pushy I just went with the flow

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Not a chance which is a shame as Mr4 does like seeing Mrs4 deal with the pushy types in real life as it's great fun to watch !! but puhy types or the demanding types or even the directors or the fake Doms life is way to short and this is meant to be abit of fun between consenting "Adults" ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would I meet a pushy person?

Absolutely not, it's supposed to be fun ffs.

Same goes for anyone describing themselves as an 'alpha male' or bull... grow a pair ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes as long as shes prepared to be pinned after the first push

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By *onaldandjacquelineCouple
over a year ago

wirral

Nope, people we fully intended to meet we have ended up blocking for it

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"At a push we might

Like what you did there!

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

If they are pushy just on message, would the respect you or boundaries. Not for us.

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By *ylvieMWoman
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I have been consistently messaged by a "DOM" who keeps asking when he can come over and dominate me.

I have in fact told him multiple times I don't do things like that on a first meet and I prefer a social first. 10+ veris. Messages every few days.

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"I have been consistently messaged by a "DOM" who keeps asking when he can come over and dominate me.

I have in fact told him multiple times I don't do things like that on a first meet and I prefer a social first. 10+ veris. Messages every few days."
block em

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"I have been consistently messaged by a "DOM" who keeps asking when he can come over and dominate me.

I have in fact told him multiple times I don't do things like that on a first meet and I prefer a social first. 10+ veris. Messages every few days."

I thought I was losing my mind with this chap. It seems they must get veris from folks with low standards who just want walking sex toys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope! If someone is pushy over here imagine what they're like in person

. Right put off for me. X

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

No chance. If they don't understand "No means no" then they shouldn't be anywhere near the scene.

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By *ylvieMWoman
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"I have been consistently messaged by a "DOM" who keeps asking when he can come over and dominate me.

I have in fact told him multiple times I don't do things like that on a first meet and I prefer a social first. 10+ veris. Messages every few days.

I thought I was losing my mind with this chap. It seems they must get veris from folks with low standards who just want walking sex toys

Imagine if you had to safe word?? Not worth thinking about

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Nope any sign of pushiness I block.Had a pest on my single account recently ,everytime he spoke to me he mentioned meeting.i said I didn't feel ready,then he asked again,so block.

He's not interested in me not wanting to get,so what else would he ignore if we'd met ?.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. If they’re pushy by text. How insufferable are they going to be in person?

Plus, they’re probably the type to not respect any boundaries and just their for their own fun. "

This is the perfect answer.

It's an instant block from us the moment it becomes a bit pushy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No chance. If they don't understand "No means no" then they shouldn't be anywhere near the scene."

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

Nope pushy types are time parasites

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By *rFoxAndXeno OP Couple
over a year ago

Weymouth

So funny as just had another pushy experience. I briefly turned on profile views (big mistake!) and we were passive aggressively confronted, by a couple who have fucked enough to think they're gods lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t like being pushed into anything I prefer a relaxed confident guy but not too relaxed that he’s not interested

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By *agusMan
over a year ago

Near by

I would quite like a pushy woman, if one exists and is local, somebody to reward this non pushy too polite self confessed nice guy. Thank you in advance and sorry for any inconvenience if any caused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get fed up with pushy cunts

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