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Is our profile a bit harsh??!!

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By *s1981 OP   Couple
over a year ago

halifax

We may have been venting a bit when we wrote it.

Is this off putting do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What text? Just saw tits and gaping arsehole pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s fine - end of the day it’s your boundaries so it’s good to be clear and make it plain that they’re non negotiable. Sadly lots of guys won’t even read it anyway!

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax


"We may have been venting a bit when we wrote it.

Is this off putting do you think? "

Directness in profile is fine, keeps riff raff out, lack of veris on display is the off-putting bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's fine.

Anyway single males don't read profiles. And if they do they decide they're special enough that your boundaries don't apply lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that it's aimed at me but I think it's fine. You should see my epic!

Sadly as just been said most don't read it before messaging.

Maybe need a little tick box to confirm it is read before a message can be sent

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By *ad boy maverickMan
over a year ago

basildon


"We may have been venting a bit when we wrote it.

Is this off putting do you think? "

It's probably most off putting to the genuine peeps. The fancy a fuck and fantasists won't get past the pictures lol

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By *s1981 OP   Couple
over a year ago

halifax


"We may have been venting a bit when we wrote it.

Is this off putting do you think?

Directness in profile is fine, keeps riff raff out, lack of veris on display is the off-putting bit."

Sorted although we haven't had any for a few years. Struggling to find anyone who may want to meet and verify us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

nothing wrong with it,,

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By *s1981 OP   Couple
over a year ago

halifax


"I think it’s fine - end of the day it’s your boundaries so it’s good to be clear and make it plain that they’re non negotiable. Sadly lots of guys won’t even read it anyway!"

Very true.

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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago

Bicester


"We may have been venting a bit when we wrote it.

Is this off putting do you think? "

Yes, puts me off immediately - all far too negative and abrasive.

Other men are less selective - I imagine they are the ones you actually wish to deter. It won’t stop them, they won’t even read it - you will still get all those unwanted messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We may have been venting a bit when we wrote it.

Is this off putting do you think? "

Wouldn’t put me off if I was in your age range x

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

It’s abit OTT, but if your getting loads of messages from guys then I guess I understand

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

It’s certainly direct but focuses largely on the negatives, you won’t do this, you don’t want that, guys shouldn’t be xyz etc. there’s nothing positive in it, nothing about what you bring to a meet, it’s written seemingly from the perspective of ‘you’re going to want to meet her, so we don’t need to sell ourselves at all, so here are the hoops you need to jump through’. But it’s very much the case that the ratios here mean that regardless of that, plenty of people will still contact you. So if it works for you and you’re hearing from enough of the sort of people you want to hear from then it’s not a problem.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I don't think there's anything wrong with the profile. It's possibly a tad long? But wow those tits overshadow everything anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all at least it narrows down to exactly what you want

Say it how it is is the best any of saying anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We may have been venting a bit when we wrote it.

Is this off putting do you think? "

I think it’s pretty fair to be honest.

Good point about the friend request with the first message as I find that a bit odd / rude. Let’s at least exchange some common ground first rather than launching straight into a friend / perv on friends only photos.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I've seen harsher

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We're not your target audience so our opinion is irrelevant but it does seem harsh to us. However if it's working for you you've got it right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight to the point

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By *s1981 OP   Couple
over a year ago

halifax

Spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We may have been venting a bit when we wrote it.

Is this off putting do you think? "

Nope. Much better to be clear here in our experience!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I like it "

You would lol

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"We may have been venting a bit when we wrote it.

Is this off putting do you think?

I think it’s pretty fair to be honest.

Good point about the friend request with the first message as I find that a bit odd / rude. Let’s at least exchange some common ground first rather than launching straight into a friend / perv on friends only photos. "

I keep the pervy ones for special someone

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I don’t find anything wrong with the content of your profile, you’re establishing what sorts of things will be unacceptable for you which is fine.

What you could potentially change though is to say a bit more about yourselves and what you are looking for first, before going into what you don’t want.

Overall though, it’s certainly not harsh in the slightes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very negative and will be off-putting to a lot of people.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

It is what it is.

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By *umtogethernowCouple
over a year ago

Wigan

Far too negative. Slightly up your own arse to an extent. You need to sell your plus points and either block or cut and paste replies to the people you do not want to meet.xxx

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

To answer your question OP: yes.

It just comes over as “me me me”. Or as you are a couple actually “us us us”.

There is pretty much nothing in there about what you actually offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like it

You would lol "

Yes I would

Straight to the point

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By *unnesscoupleMan
over a year ago

Inverness

Nah - it's clear and perfectly acceptable

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By *s1981 OP   Couple
over a year ago

halifax

We've had no success with our old profile or this one. Don't think it's down to the profile, more down the fact that we can't accom anymore. Single guys that Mrs L likes the look of tend to ghost us as soon as we bring it up. We can only imagine its because of the awkwardness of bring a women home and their wife/gf being there too

May just give up looking, the last time we played regularly was 6/7 years ago before having kids so much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's fine.

Anyway single males don't read profiles. And if they do they decide they're special enough that your boundaries don't apply lol"

Please don’t tar us all with the same brush

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

It is blunt, informative and to the point. It should put off nicely those you are trying to put off; IF they bother to read it. It is very long but presumably accurately reflects your joint personalities and the impression you wish to make.

However, having said that, it is in reality an overlong list of your demands. It gives the impression of your "entitlement" - "jump through these hoops if you want us to even consider you".

It smacks a bit of arrogance and some you would actually like to meet will be put off because they will not want to meet with such an apparently "overbearing, self opiniated couple".

But it takes all sorts to make a world and the Mrs appears, in the absence of a face pic, very attractive ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I responded to your other post you've deleted.

I posted this .........

It could be worded much better, it comes across to me quite aggressive, not approachable.

Many here don't want to read through long profiles and will either skip to the next or message anyway.

You can word it to express the same but more appealing and a little shorter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be blunt it makes you sound as though you'd be no fun at all.

And I'm sure that's not true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen worse.

I don't meet couples but if I did then yes honestly it would put me off.

I fully support your right to have preferences but I guess the question is...

Does sounding a little blunt and transactional put off the vast majority of that type that ignore preferences and are pushy? I'd think not tbh.

Does sounding a little blunt and transactional put off the type you are looking for who are probably the type to have other possibilities? I'd think yes.

Locking up your filters and approaching men you find suitable while having a profile you are more comfortable with ( if you checking of its arsey you probably aren't fully happy with it) might be a better option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing wrong in being prescriptive but it would help if your profile was warmer and more welcoming.

We all say things differently and have different requirements but it is also important to make yourselves more appealing.

I hope my remarks don’t offend you. Tc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's fine.

Anyway single males don't read profiles. And if they do they decide they're special enough that your boundaries don't apply lol

Please don’t tar us all with the same brush"

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What text? Just saw tits and gaping arsehole pics. "

Wow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You didn't hit the caps lock which is always good. Direct and to the point. Perfect. Only critique would be that you do have lots of very similar photos of those cracking boobies. Pads out your gallery a bit.

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By *heSchwingersCouple
over a year ago

Essex

We would presume that the wife is the star of your show and not even get as far as reading any text. We’re both visual animals and go to the photo section first. If we see a balanced selection of photo of both of you then we don’t skip x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reads fine and honest. Profile is for a couple where are the male sexual organ pics

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By *r imp miss minxCouple
over a year ago

Colchester

No evidence of venting there guys. Reads straight forward and honestly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless it has been changed since you posted I don’t see anything wrong

Not even a little bit harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, from our perspective, it's looking much better, more approachable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We would presume that the wife is the star of your show and not even get as far as reading any text. We’re both visual animals and go to the photo section first. If we see a balanced selection of photo of both of you then we don’t skip x"

This is why it's important to read a profile.

It is evident there why the pictures are focused on Mrs.

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By *aurus1987Man
over a year ago

York

Its what you want, its fine

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

No not at all

It's actually one of the more pleasant ones I've read especially from a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We may have been venting a bit when we wrote it.

Is this off putting do you think? "

Not at all. Honest and straight to the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks great now.

May the good times begin

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Agree, much better and still conveys the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i was a betting man i'd say the female is no longer around or is & isnt into swinging anymore & this is a 'look at my profile' post.

No meet veri for 7 years...swinging couples wont take that seriously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are good to go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You said normal then I looked up a read rimming. Mrs giving, receiving or both?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend


"We may have been venting a bit when we wrote it.

Is this off putting do you think? "

Nope ..you've said very clearly what you want...why you want it like that and who you want it with

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

The latest iteration is a great improvement.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

The update is better I think, and leaves you able to discuss do’s and don’ts if and when you exchange messages With prospective meets.

I hope it has the effect you wish and you get better responses from it… I certainly would be interested

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

The profile is OK, but lack of a veri in 7 years is off putting

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Rather refreshing !! a good bit of honesty never went a miss !

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Pretty similar to a lot of profiles really. Probs reads more towards males that you’ll play alone. Naturally will attract those guys.

Agreed, the verifications or lack of a current one would put me off more. Hope you find what your looking for! Created a conversation at least! Enjoy

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By *ad boy maverickMan
over a year ago

basildon


"We've had no success with our old profile or this one. Don't think it's down to the profile, more down the fact that we can't accom anymore. Single guys that Mrs L likes the look of tend to ghost us as soon as we bring it up. We can only imagine its because of the awkwardness of bring a women home and their wife/gf being there too

May just give up looking, the last time we played regularly was 6/7 years ago before having kids so much easier. "

The re-write is much better. If I was in your age range I'd invite you down for the weekend.

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