FabSwingers.com forum: What percentage of people actually read profiles?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You spend ages thinking of what to put in your profile. You want to make it clear what you're looking for and what's not for you. You want to prevent people wasting their time and yours if they're not your cup of tea. After all that work you get a high percentage of messages from people that clearly haven't bothered to read your profile and don't fit the bill.

I think it's got to be at least 50% of the messages we get.

What's your experience?

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By *ny1localMan
over a year ago

READING

Going by the number of guys who message me, I don't think it's even as high as 50%.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is part of the game. Fab wouldn’t be the same without the time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is part of the game. Fab wouldn’t be the same without the time wasters

Ah thanks, it's nice to be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read every one, I like the look of

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

Judging by the replies i/we receive I would say very few bitter to read ours - so bloody frustrating because if I/we come across a guy who is appealing to us then we want to know EVERYTHING about him lol.

Anyone replying to our ad who shows clearly that they have NOT read it properly does not even get the courtesy of a reply - if they can't be bothered then why should we!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is part of the game. Fab wouldn’t be the same without the time wasters

Ah thanks, it's nice to be appreciated. "

Just trying to get inside one of your holes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I read every one, I like the look of"

There's not many out there like you Freddie. Good for you.

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By *aulaxd2020TV/TS
over a year ago

dudley

My profile is 12 words saying don’t send friend requests without chatting first...... but I still get them so obviously it don’t get read, I always read profiles (and especially verifications because you can learn a lot about about a person from that)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My profile is 12 words saying don’t send friend requests without chatting first...... but I still get them so obviously it don’t get read, I always read profiles (and especially verifications because you can learn a lot about about a person from that)"

12 words profile text is still too long !

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Of the people who message me I’d say 95% haven’t read my profile. I’m very specific about who I’m looking for and about how I interact on Fab (I like black guys and I don’t arrange meets with strangers through Fab), yet the majority of men than contact me are white, looking for a meet and more often than not they attach a picture of their penis which I definitely didn’t want to see.

Any man who sends out a blanket cut and paste message to loads of women in the hope that someone bites, or anyone who can’t even be bothered to check that they’re what you’re looking for before invading your inbox with pictures of their genitals is not someone I’d want to know, let alone get intimate with. I think that lack of respect and lack of interest in mutual pleasure is a massive red flag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m always reading profiles, I enjoy hearing peoples preferences and dislikes. Some can be very entertaining and some can be down right hilarious, while others can be filthy and very arousing. To me it’s part of the “fun of fab.”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

92% of percentage stats are made up on the spot

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The amount of friend requests we get from people we've never spoken to despite making it clear we wont accept them is frustrating. Same goes for winks. If you can't be bothered to write a message, we can't be bothered to respond to a wink.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Some do some don't. It's an easy enough way to filter out people when you know they haven't bothered so I don't know why people get so annoyed about it. Just delete the message if it's clear they haven't read your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of the people who message me I’d say 95% haven’t read my profile. I’m very specific about who I’m looking for and about how I interact on Fab (I like black guys and I don’t arrange meets with strangers through Fab), yet the majority of men than contact me are white, looking for a meet and more often than not they attach a picture of their penis which I definitely didn’t want to see.

That's the majority of our messages too. A picture of a cock with another of a guy looking moody trying to look sexy. Try smiling and you might get a response!

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By *he_Last_TitanMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"You spend ages thinking of what to put in your profile. You want to make it clear what you're looking for and what's not for you. You want to prevent people wasting their time and yours if they're not your cup of tea. After all that work you get a high percentage of messages from people that clearly haven't bothered to read your profile and don't fit the bill.

I think it's got to be at least 50% of the messages we get.

What's your experience? "

I get winks from women and couples, despite saying on my profile that I don’t respond to them.

I assume this means they haven’t read the profile or worse, have little respect for my preferences in this regard.

TLT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"92% of percentage stats are made up on the spot"

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"Some do some don't. It's an easy enough way to filter out people when you know they haven't bothered so I don't know why people get so annoyed about it. Just delete the message if it's clear they haven't read your profile. "

I get annoyed because I don’t like like people being rude to me, and I find it really rude. And I don’t want to have to wade through 20 unwanted dick pics in my inbox to get to a message I might be interested in. It spoils the fun for me a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's bizarre how many messages I get saying they have read the profile and they think I'm what they are looking for. Considering I'm not looking to meet, clear they haven't read it. Most people just see a boob picture and wink, add as a friend and send copy & paste message. It's the way of fab unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We do just delete them, along with the friend requests and winks. It's just the amount we get. It's such a waste of time.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

The only way to stop it is to block people messaging you and search for and message profiles you are interested in first.

It's fab it has always happened and will continue to happen so really if it bothers you so much that is the only solution to it.

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By *ommy GentMan
over a year ago

Howden

I personally read the profiles that are of interest . I can’t see the the point in sending a message just to get rejected/ blocked etc.

Saying that I don’t send out that many messages and often get a reply.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I read most profiles, unless they are bloomin long essays. Then I’ll just glance over them and see if anything piques my interest.

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Romford

I do.

But unfortunately, I have a nasty habit of looking at the pics first and often FAB the odd one or seven.....Then visit the profile to see the age range is 21-57

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester

"I do.

But unfortunately, I have a nasty habit of looking at the pics first and often FAB the odd one or seven.....Then visit the profile to see the age range is 21-57

Nothing wrong fabbing pics. It’s what the feature is there for. I fab peoples pics I have zero interest in but just find the pics cool looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many read but most ignore it! The amount of times a message starts ‘I know I’m not what you’re looking for but….’

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Visiting Scotland

Most don’t. It’s a good thing though, as the ones that actually bother stand out easier.

Same with random friend requests with zero chat. Stands people out.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Visiting Scotland

"I think many read but most ignore it! The amount of times a message starts ‘I know I’m not what you’re looking for but….’"

This also happens!

“I know you say you don’t like this, but I’ll be the one to fix that”

Again no bad thing though, shows someone that doesn’t respect boundaries instantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not many I often get asked questions that you would know the answer to if you had read my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t read profiles to just chat or talk to someone. If I’m then interested to meet them. That’s when I’ll read it looking for a reason not to ask them for anything more than an online chat.

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By *s2walesCouple
over a year ago

Gwent...

Most don't read your profile don't look at ages etc. It's a shame but that's how it is I suppose...

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

The only way to stop it is to block people messaging you and search for and message profiles you are interested in first.

It's fab it has always happened and will continue to happen so really if it bothers you so much that is the only solution to it. "

I sometimes do turn my messages off, but I don’t always want to. I like getting messages from nice, respectful people. It’ll always bug me that people have no manners, and my block list gets bigger every day. I’d really like to be able to have more options to restrict who could message me, that would solve the problem. But doubt there’ll be kind of improvement made.

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By *ocoaTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

I put a fair bit of effort into my profiles so it's irritating when people ask me questions that are clearly answered in it. Friend requests from strangers are a pain but I don't have a problem with winks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think many read but most ignore it! The amount of times a message starts ‘I know I’m not what you’re looking for but….’"

We get a fair few of these. I just delete them.

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By *he SmithsCouple
over a year ago

East Devon & London

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By *he SmithsCouple
over a year ago

East Devon & London

We’re nice people but don’t suffer fools.

Our profile has been carefully honed into a rather blunt instrument over the years in order to be effective but remains ignored by most of those who contact us.

Our narrative gives us every excuse to delete or block daily one liners, winks and unsolicited friend requests from those who haven’t read it.

Admin of the account is easy as a result and if we’re not receiving replies from those that consider us fussy then that’s fine, they probably aren’t for us anyway.

Fab’s doors are open to all and it’s a broad church as a result. In the absence of anything better we have to accept regular frustration for the occasional gem.

Mrs S realised she could make a fortune running creative writing courses for single guys. As long as she doesn’t have to look at their willies first…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read the profile and try to.mention something off it in the first message...I think it's only common courtesy and a good convo starter...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our experience less than 25%, some cant even spell never mind read.

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By *lipflops n ShortsMan
over a year ago

Alicante (Spain)

I read all the profiles so I know if I'm going to waste my time or not. And hopefully others read mine as well.

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Admit I’ve messaged before reading get seduced by a great pic.. but as teacher use to say …. Pay attention at the back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to have “no doms or bulls thanks” on our profile

Complete waste of time as every other message was some twat wanting to slap Dora about or give her what she needs while I watch.

Strangely enough though not a single verification amongst them.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"We’re nice people but don’t suffer fools.

Our profile has been carefully honed into a rather blunt instrument over the years in order to be effective but remains ignored by most of those who contact us.

Our narrative gives us every excuse to delete or block daily one liners, winks and unsolicited friend requests from those who haven’t read it.

Admin of the account is easy as a result and if we’re not receiving replies from those that consider us fussy then that’s fine, they probably aren’t for us anyway.

Fab’s doors are open to all and it’s a broad church as a result. In the absence of anything better we have to accept regular frustration for the occasional gem.

Mrs S realised she could make a fortune running creative writing courses for single guys. As long as she doesn’t have to look at their willies first…"

I love this. This is how I feel. You can just put it into words more eloquently than I can.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We’re nice people but don’t suffer fools.

Our profile has been carefully honed into a rather blunt instrument over the years in order to be effective but remains ignored by most of those who contact us.

Our narrative gives us every excuse to delete or block daily one liners, winks and unsolicited friend requests from those who haven’t read it.

Admin of the account is easy as a result and if we’re not receiving replies from those that consider us fussy then that’s fine, they probably aren’t for us anyway.

Fab’s doors are open to all and it’s a broad church as a result. In the absence of anything better we have to accept regular frustration for the occasional gem.

Mrs S realised she could make a fortune running creative writing courses for single guys. As long as she doesn’t have to look at their willies first…"

You could expand photography. Some of the face pics we get sent are shocking. There's a belief from a lot of guys that you need to look mean and moody in their pics. They just look unfriendly and therefore unfuckable. It's rare that we see anything resembling a smile.

We had a message recently from a guy who had pics without his face that he'd gone to an awful lot of trouble to get done. They looked professional. When asked for a face pic he sent one that looked hurried, his hair was a mess and his expression was of someone that had woken up in prison on Christmas day.

For some reason the worst ones recently the guys are always wearing high-vi's jackets.

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

I'd say 95% don't which makes it easier to block them first message....win win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% of people read my profile before messaging.

I get many compliments, just on how amusing they’ve found it.

I’m awesome.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Visiting Scotland

"We used to have “no doms or bulls thanks” on our profile

Complete waste of time as every other message was some twat wanting to slap Dora about or give her what she needs while I watch.

Strangely enough though not a single verification amongst them. "

I think people just look for key words and jump on it.

If I had £1 for every time someone had mentioned wanting to do a thing I had on as a dislike I’d live in a bloody big house by now. Amusingly since I removed that line literally two people gave mentioned it in their messages.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"100% of people read my profile before messaging.

I get many compliments, just on how amusing they’ve found it.

I’m awesome.

If you make it worth their while to read, then it's more likely to be read.

I've seen some profiles that have more words than War and Peace and I'm not willing to invest 30 minutes in reading it.

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By *he SmithsCouple
over a year ago

East Devon & London

" For some reason the worst ones recently the guys are always wearing high-vi's jackets. "

Ah yes, the recent phenomena of the High Vis jacket profile photo.

Guess it’s been drummed into them that if they wear one they’ll stand out.

They do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read them - some of you have very detailed profiles to help the time wasters not waste your time!

There is no helping some!

So many dont read for sure!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I think it's probably something like 20% for us. Certainly virtually no men do. The number is only made up by couples and single women, and not all of them do either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very little judging by the amount of messages we get that say "can I fuck your wife". When it states that I'm the one online and not hubby

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Downham Market

It's one thing that single guys are better at. I think about 75% of messages we get from single guys clearly haven't read our profile, whereas it's almost 100% of messages from couples.

(Bry)

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