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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"

We all have to start somewhere, meet him for a social, somewhere public, hopefully you'll know if he's OK, good luck

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By *y gameMan
over a year ago

open wide


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"

Reverse pic search on google?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"

personally we never meet anyone unverified

that doesn't meant verified by the site, if the person can verify by video call, that's good enough for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you can determine that. Every verified person has a first meeting somewhere. If you trust your gut and them, then why not go with it

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

Everyone has to start somewhere, we were all unverified once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone put a forum post up about me I'd be absolutely furious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone put a forum post up about me I'd be absolutely furious "

What do you mean, OP hasn't mentioned any names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Video call them?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If someone put a forum post up about me I'd be absolutely furious

What do you mean, OP hasn't mentioned any names"

I agree. Just advice. I think every deserves a chance x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"

Provided you do the usual safety checks to verify you are not meeting somebody dangerous why not?

Maybe make the first meeting a social in a very public place like a coffee shop, pub, cafe, etc.

We all start off on fab with no meets.

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By *hyguy999Man
over a year ago

Killarney


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"

Yeah. If everyone said that, he'll never get a veri. Has to start somewhere. Meet for a social first and see where that goes

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By *hyguy999Man
over a year ago

Killarney


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??

Reverse pic search on google?"

What is this?

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??

Reverse pic search on google?"

How do you do that

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Reverse image search on a laptop:

Type Tineye into google and upload the image you want to check out.

Google reverse: Click on images on the top right of your screen and then click on the camera icon and upload the image you want to check out.

Quite often you'll find that the person you're chatting to is a pornstar who normally lives in California, but is now in Lancashire and on here looking for meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met two people on here, both were like myself, unverified.

Still am, they couldn't verify me.

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London

"An unverified" sounds like something out of Bladerunner or the like. Maybe you've missed your vocation as an author of dystopian novels.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I wouldn't meet anyone not verified as I like my head to be on my shoulders and not in a plastic bag in a river

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"Reverse image search on a laptop:

Type Tineye into google and upload the image you want to check out.

Google reverse: Click on images on the top right of your screen and then click on the camera icon and upload the image you want to check out.

Quite often you'll find that the person you're chatting to is a pornstar who normally lives in California, but is now in Lancashire and on here looking for meets "

Or an American insta star who is now a Birmingham hotwife

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Nothing wrong with it just make sure you meet in public so you feel comfortable first see how a social goes if it goes smoothly I'm sure either could have a plan B

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"

Give him a chance, most Men on here are genuine.

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By *ldbutrandyMan
over a year ago

West Midlands


""An unverified" sounds like something out of Bladerunner or the like. Maybe you've missed your vocation as an author of dystopian novels."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone put a forum post up about me I'd be absolutely furious

What do you mean, OP hasn't mentioned any names"

She doesn't have to. He'll know

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I have met quite a few unverified guys, most were bloody great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"

I met an unverified guy on an old profile and he actually turned into a really really good FWB of mine before we stopped seeing each other so it depends

I've stopped meeting unverified guys now cause just had too many bad experiences with men to take the risk

But I would say meet for a social first and take things from there if you really like him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have met quite a few unverified guys, most were bloody great! "

Yes this

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I've met plenty who are unverified I just get them to video call via Snapchat so I know they are who they are claiming to be.

Meet in a public place for a social too

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

Reverse image search is a wonderful tool to use aswell

I've caught many catfish out with that on here and on dating sites too

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

If they aren't even photo verified I wouldn't bother.

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By *aurus1987Man
over a year ago

toon

I was unverified when i came here. Got chatting to a woman local to me, and after a year, we met. You know the rest. Not met any since because of the way i look and peolle can be soo judgemental. I really am a sweetheart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How old is their profile? If they've been on months and haven't had any meets I'd be concerned about them not showing. There are ways to verify they are real before a meet, like a video call

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone put a forum post up about me I'd be absolutely furious

What do you mean, OP hasn't mentioned any names

She doesn't have to. He'll know "

How so? Only a very small percentage of people on Fab use the forums.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's fine to meet him but there's a higher chance that he's unreliable. I would only meet him after speaking on the phone, possibly further photos exchanged and his being committed to frequently communicating during travel to the meeting, to give extra confirmation that he's who he says he is and that he's travelling to see you.

A social first is sensible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire "

Like any meet after online introduction, thinking safety is a good idea. On here, there are too many who either don't materialise, or expect to fuck just because they turned up. Usually profiles that have been on a year with no veris. It's not hard to get verified on here if you really want to.....

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire

Like any meet after online introduction, thinking safety is a good idea. On here, there are too many who either don't materialise, or expect to fuck just because they turned up. Usually profiles that have been on a year with no veris. It's not hard to get verified on here if you really want to....."
I'm here a good while but unfortunately I'm on the Irish side and unless you are hung like a horse and look like thor being a single fella you don't have much hope of getting verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won’t do it anymore. Too many strange people on fab. Really recommend video calling and club meets. X

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home


"I won’t do it anymore. Too many strange people on fab. Really recommend video calling and club meets. X"
im ireland its not as easy as that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I,ve met 2 unverified men recently for socials, both were fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won’t do it anymore. Too many strange people on fab. Really recommend video calling and club meets. Xim ireland its not as easy as that"

I’m sure you could webcam someone on fab if there was mutual attraction. Appreciate there may not be many swinging socials over in Ireland though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won’t do it anymore. Too many strange people on fab. Really recommend video calling and club meets. Xim ireland its not as easy as that

I’m sure you could webcam someone on fab if there was mutual attraction. Appreciate there may not be many swinging socials over in Ireland though "

I’ve had good and bad experiences.

Learned it’s best to try and see face to face first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won’t do it anymore. Too many strange people on fab. Really recommend video calling and club meets. Xim ireland its not as easy as that

I’m sure you could webcam someone on fab if there was mutual attraction. Appreciate there may not be many swinging socials over in Ireland though

I’ve had good and bad experiences.

Learned it’s best to try and see face to face first. "

Did you ever feel unsafe? I feel there’s a safety issue women need to consider, a little more than men do. I have heard bad stories from male friends, too, though.

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By *carletnsparksMan
over a year ago

halifax

He could do the photo veri on the site but at the very least I would if I were you request a video call and first meet as a social in a bar or cafe. If you both want to take it further you could move on to a club or hotel after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone put a forum post up about me I'd be absolutely furious

What do you mean, OP hasn't mentioned any names"

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

Everyone starts with no verifications. We were all new and someone gave us a chance.

As a single lady keep yourself safe, ask for a social meet in a cafe or busy public area. You'll know when you meet in person what sort of person he is.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire

Like any meet after online introduction, thinking safety is a good idea. On here, there are too many who either don't materialise, or expect to fuck just because they turned up. Usually profiles that have been on a year with no veris. It's not hard to get verified on here if you really want to.....I'm here a good while but unfortunately I'm on the Irish side and unless you are hung like a horse and look like thor being a single fella you don't have much hope of getting verified. "

With an attitude like that…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire "

There is an increased element of danger when meeting people of the interest, especially for women.

There's nothing wrong with people wanted to take extra precautions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely start with a video chat- ideally using an app without giving your personal details away too much. Saves you a wasted trip.

Then be very strict about seeing latest STI results. Above all, trust your Instincts.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I've met a few people who hadn't veris. I don't go by veris anyhow. I judge a person by how they are when I chat to them on here and I chat for a good while before I meet them. I've never done a video or phone call first but always met in a public place for a social when I did meet them.

I've only met two guys who were absolute cockwombles and both of them had glowing veris,the unveried men I've met on here have all been nice guys.

If you have doubts then don't meet him it's as simple as that,only you know what he has like you are the one talking to him. If you think veris are important to you don't chat to people who have none to start with and it will solve the problem.Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you can decide if it's worth the chance. Go with the vibe and if it's good, just meet in a public place and take it from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're all un verified when we join up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for all your advice. Can I just state, I don’t have issue with unverified. I’d ask the same question if the person was verified but hadnt met in years. I don’t pay much attention to what veris say. Just more of a safety question as he’s the first unverified I’m meeting. I’ve spoken to unverified and verified a gentleman after a video call. I do believe we all start somewhere. Hopefully I’ll return with a glowing praise for him

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

Chichester


"Reverse image search is a wonderful tool to use aswell

I've caught many catfish out with that on here and on dating sites too "

I have had people reverse image me over the years and say. My pics are of a uk trans porn model you fake blah blah . I am replying obviously as that is me then end up getting into why didn’t you say …. I choose not to tell people or they don’t ask.

Be careful with reverse searching as there is alot of adult industry people into swinging but don’t mention that side in here but using same pics across platforms so flag up .

Though for the blatant rips it’s good at catching out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire

There is an increased element of danger when meeting people of the interest, especially for women.

There's nothing wrong with people wanted to take extra precautions "

I get this.

But I aren't taking the word of a stranger that's verified them, I'll just talk to them myself.

It's not hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire

There is an increased element of danger when meeting people of the interest, especially for women.

There's nothing wrong with people wanted to take extra precautions

I get this.

But I aren't taking the word of a stranger that's verified them, I'll just talk to them myself.

It's not hard. "

And no one is asking you to

I'm (and everyone who agreed on the thread) just saying it's an extra layer of protection that's all

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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire and London


"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire "

Well, you don't know what's at stake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"

We met one unverified guy and it was perfect, turned out to be an amazing meet.

Remember, everyone was unverified once, and veries don't mean anything really.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

I just ask if they can send a picture , with something i will request on it like a position , an item in their hands , something written in a paper , etc . There's so many ways to verify someone that is not verified, and that's true we all have been unverified at one point but by precautions i need to verify if are honest profiles

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

He never responded to my message yesterday and made an excuse at the last minute today. Shame as I would have met him. A bit of a two strike situation here

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I did this once. He had been on one day. He was on time, well presented, bought coffee and was as he’d said on his profile.

It seems to be the verified ones have been no shows for social meets.

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"He never responded to my message yesterday and made an excuse at the last minute today. Shame as I would have met him. A bit of a two strike situation here "

Sorry to hear that….

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Im the name of jasus you'd swear meeting an unverified person is like meeting a vampire

There is an increased element of danger when meeting people of the interest, especially for women.

There's nothing wrong with people wanted to take extra precautions

I get this.

But I aren't taking the word of a stranger that's verified them, I'll just talk to them myself.

It's not hard. "

That and a recent DBS check, 2 forms of photo id and a bank statement should fix it!

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By *edonist79Man
over a year ago

Trowbridge

Only way to get verified is to meet. And everyone needs to start first somewhere.

If you want to be safe. I'd suggest.

Meet social first. Somewhere public.

Do a video call on WhatsApp or Kik first to make sure they are who they say they are.

If you are meeting in private have a face pic and give it and their phone number to a trusted friend. Tell them your having a date and maybe end doing more and want the friend to have the details until they know your are safe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to have no problems meeting newbies for a social but what changed my mind was the amount of newbies that found social only very difficult to understand! So I ended up blocking them ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone put a forum post up about me I'd be absolutely furious "

Why? It isn’t negative and she hasn’t named anyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet for a social at a time convenient to you but don’t go too far out of your way.

We broke our own rule last week after an unverified guy begged us for a social jut to get a verification.

As he was local and we had an hour to spare we agreed to meet him for a coffee.

He stood us up.

That’s the last one of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??

Reverse pic search on google?"

How does this work. I'm new here and finding it hard to get that first meet verification.

A video chat is also not a problem for me. If you guys don't mind please could I get your opinions on this.

Would you be happy to verify off of a video call or chat room etc?

I'm not asking anyone to do it for me as such I do understand why meeting a first time could be a worry and anything that helps encourage a relaxed atmosphere will help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could ask for a live pic. Something like... Pinky finger on nose to prove he is who he says he is.

I tend to avoid unverified profiles. But if you like him go for it.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Have a non sexual activity social in a public space ..preferably in the daytime

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry


"Only way to get verified is to meet. And everyone needs to start first somewhere.

If you want to be safe. I'd suggest.

Meet social first. Somewhere public.

Do a video call on WhatsApp or Kik first to make sure they are who they say they are.

If you are meeting in private have a face pic and give it and their phone number to a trusted friend. Tell them your having a date and maybe end doing more and want the friend to have the details until they know your are safe? "

A list of “if you want to be safe” shouldn’t include WhatsApp imo

By the time you find out they’re not who they say they are they have your phone number. Kik, Skype, telegram or the likes are safer options.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I don’t meet unverified guys anymore as I’ve found them horrendously unreliable since the end of lockdown.

When I did I met for a strictly social only first. Relatively quickly to suss out if they’re actually around, likely to meet etc. Then had a fair bit of chat between a social meet and play meet.

For the social it is always somewhere public but not too busy (easier to shout for help in a cafe or bar that isn’t rammed busy and loud).

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I've met unverified men, but always just had a quick social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll add that I don’t care whether someone is verified or not, I’ve never had a no show on this or prev profiles.

I use my gut over Fabs veri system and it’s not failed me yet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seen some unverified people done a social but only one turned out ok

But I would definitely say give him a chance you never know just be careful hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have to start somewhere and get verified???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone put a forum post up about me I'd be absolutely furious

What do you mean, OP hasn't mentioned any names

She doesn't have to. He'll know

How so? Only a very small percentage of people on Fab use the forums."

Exactly, it could be anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I trust my instincts And do my own damage limitation. I'm really surprised at the amount of people that don't. Idiots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other peoples opinions msy be different from mine. So i let my inner empath do the judging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone’s unverified once…

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By *1876Man
over a year ago

Dudley

Some good advice on here...keep yourself safe (but of course that goes for verified too).

I say this as someone who isn't verified himself yet...we're all starting out somewhere

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

How did the meet go?

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"I’ve been chatting to someone, photos are good, chat is good. He’s unverified. I’m a single woman. Is this wise? I think everyone deserves a chance??"

Webcam chat to him first. To varify or they won't talk while they are on cam ask them to wave.

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By *ddfellowMan
over a year ago

Newferry, wirral

I have met both verified and unverified, it can be hit and miss, if you chat long enough you can sort the chaff from the wheat and usualy spot warning signs, me best meat was unverified and said he didnt do veries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also let a friend know you are on a date and maybe send your location to aa friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone’s unverified once…"

This is true.

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