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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How many (new) ladies do you message before you get an 'interested in you'.

I'm finding an average of about 10-15 messages.

What about you guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many (new) ladies do you message before you get an 'interested in you'.

I'm finding an average of about 10-15 messages.

What about you guys?"

I tend not to message 'new' ladies as soon as they appear on site for any number of reasons.....but mainly because they are going to be bombarded from the word go!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

I rarely bother these days. Most of my meets are from clubs, previous playmates or people I've chatted to on the forums.

If I do send messages it's usually to a meet request. Very low success rate though...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How many (new) ladies do you message before you get an 'interested in you'.

I'm finding an average of about 10-15 messages.

What about you guys?

I tend not to message 'new' ladies as soon as they appear on site for any number of reasons.....but mainly because they are going to be bombarded from the word go! "

Yes you're right.

Think i should have worded it better because what i meant by 'new' was ladies you haven't messaged before. Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many (new) ladies do you message before you get an 'interested in you'.

I'm finding an average of about 10-15 messages.

What about you guys?

I tend not to message 'new' ladies as soon as they appear on site for any number of reasons.....but mainly because they are going to be bombarded from the word go!

Yes you're right.

Think i should have worded it better because what i meant by 'new' was ladies you haven't messaged before. Lol."

Ahh...sorry.....I hardly ever get responses from messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I hope the 10-15 messages are'nt to the same woman!

Poor thing will be having a nervous breakdown

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How many (new) ladies do you message before you get an 'interested in you'.

I'm finding an average of about 10-15 messages.

What about you guys?

I tend not to message 'new' ladies as soon as they appear on site for any number of reasons.....but mainly because they are going to be bombarded from the word go!

Yes you're right.

Think i should have worded it better because what i meant by 'new' was ladies you haven't messaged before. Lol.

Ahh...sorry.....I hardly ever get responses from messages! "

You have plenty of meets, though!

:D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One.

Because I'm that good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many (new) ladies do you message before you get an 'interested in you'.

I'm finding an average of about 10-15 messages.

What about you guys?

I tend not to message 'new' ladies as soon as they appear on site for any number of reasons.....but mainly because they are going to be bombarded from the word go!

Yes you're right.

Think i should have worded it better because what i meant by 'new' was ladies you haven't messaged before. Lol.

Ahh...sorry.....I hardly ever get responses from messages!

You have plenty of meets, though!

:D"

I get by.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many (new) ladies do you message before you get an 'interested in you'.

I'm finding an average of about 10-15 messages.

What about you guys?"

I rarely bother messaging anybody unless they message me first. I know, lazy right? I just can't cope with all the rejection us single guys have to put up with on here ...two or three messages a week is my maximum lol

Probably explains why I haven't had any meets this time round lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many (new) ladies do you message before you get an 'interested in you'.

I'm finding an average of about 10-15 messages.

What about you guys?

I tend not to message 'new' ladies as soon as they appear on site for any number of reasons.....but mainly because they are going to be bombarded from the word go!

Yes you're right.

Think i should have worded it better because what i meant by 'new' was ladies you haven't messaged before. Lol.

Ahh...sorry.....I hardly ever get responses from messages!

You have plenty of meets, though!

:D

I get by..... "

27 varifications???? You do more than get by, you must be a God haha

Ah it's all good I'm just here for laughs more than anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More recently I have taken to only message if someone KEEPS looking at my profile of they have "winked" me .....or if on rare occasion that an exceptional person comes along who's profile does't say " no bi men" etc etc

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I dont message them - they never reply as they are always spammed up with guys who cant get meets mailing them.

Its a pointless mail

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I have never mailed for a meet on this site or the last

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have never mailed for a meet on this site or the last"

So how does one get meets then?

K.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely message anymore, have found that if you wait to be contacted by someone that is interested then they are more likely to be the real deal. Endless messaging is a waste of time in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many (new) ladies do you message before you get an 'interested in you'.

I'm finding an average of about 10-15 messages.

What about you guys?"

So let me get this right.

You message 10 - 15 women in a hope that one will show interest?

maybe its me but your playing a very silly game.

How about actually taking a true interest in someone you like, learn a bit about them, let things flow fluidly then arrange a meet?

I am shocked by this thread in all honesty.

But different strokes for different folks.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"I hope the 10-15 messages are'nt to the same woman!

Poor thing will be having a nervous breakdown "

Pmsl you will answer ! damn you

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I have never mailed for a meet on this site or the last

So how does one get meets then?

K."

attended socials, worked in a swingers club & the chat rooms all worked for me

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By *ral.steveMan
over a year ago

LEEDS

I have only just started using this site properly and have messaged a few in the past with no success yet but will keep trying

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By *eet_the_spartanMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"How many (new) ladies do you message before you get an 'interested in you'.

I'm finding an average of about 10-15 messages.

What about you guys?

I tend not to message 'new' ladies as soon as they appear on site for any number of reasons.....but mainly because they are going to be bombarded from the word go!

Yes you're right.

Think i should have worded it better because what i meant by 'new' was ladies you haven't messaged before. Lol.

Ahh...sorry.....I hardly ever get responses from messages!

You have plenty of meets, though!

:D

I get by..... "

Haha, that face makes me laugh. I think Fab needs a like button..

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

No disrespect to Fab intended but it isn't about the fact that I (or anyone else) is still out there on Fab as much as the fact I'm still out there - full stop.

Over the last 15-20 years the number of adult playgounds has diminished dramatically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even bother messaging the new ones unless the profile looks legit, they have at least a couple pics and have self-verified to show they are really that person. Don't wanna end up talking to a guy pretending now do we?

I threw up a fake female account with no pics just to see the _iewpoint from the recipients _iew and you'd be suprised how many guys just flooded the inbox with complete tripe. Bunch of desperate fucking idiots with no tact summed it up. Just for the record I didn't message anyone back or play them for a fool but at least now it makes sense why it's best not to bombard women until they've had at least a week or so to settle in and at least confirmed themselves as a real legit female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only meets I get are from people messaging me lol

I just message other people to pass the time lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will usually only answer a message if it has a face pic attached and is interesting, a little bit of humour helps...One liners def don't work or indeed very blunt crude ones, these just get deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always used to send a nice polite message and a photo and always mention something that is written in their profile so they know I have read it. However I hardly ever got any replies. I would only message a lady once couldn't see the point in sending more. If they don't reply to your first message the will not reply to anymore you may send.

I don't really bother sending mails that often these days. No real point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 100 lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have been on this site since day one.

don't message very often as the choices where i am are very limited as i'm not into BBWs.

But as a message to meet ratio, i would say 10/1.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

alot i guess depends on location as well.. guys who are very central to a large city for example are clearly gonna have alot more to choose from than country bumpkins !

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"alot i guess depends on location as well.. guys who are very central to a large city for example are clearly gonna have alot more to choose from than country bumpkins ! "

Oi nothing wrong with bumpkins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hardly any and the odd one that might reply are abusive! Its not easy been a guy on here ha ha

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