FabSwingers.com forum: Opening .message

By *d777799 OP Man
over a year ago

Wickham

When your sending new people a message , what's your opening message?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Something that subtly shows I've read their profile.

Something witty.

Eye of newt.

A face pic

And no imperial complications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t take advice from me given my success rate. However, if you think there’s a single applicable text for all scenarios, then you’ve already lost the game.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

It would be about why I'm writing. I want to show that I've considered whether they might actually like to hear from us or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't wanna listen to drivel!

Want to actually have something to go by that will tell me who you are

A spark - just a tiny one - something that will ignite our interest.. It's not a lot to ask.. we've put ourselves out there, we've gotten naked and taken photos, wrestled with the sodding technology (we are of a certain age FFS this shit is not as easy as it looks) and we've procrastinated for days over what to say about ourselves.. second guesses it, changed it 100 times and then just launched it as is in despair.

We deserve more than just a one liner or inane drivel surely?

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By *d777799 OP Man
over a year ago

Wickham

"I wouldn’t take advice from me given my success rate. However, if you think there’s a single applicable text for all scenarios, then you’ve already lost the game. "

Lol you not having much luck?

This what I thought as well

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By *r and Mrs B xxCouple
over a year ago

Chippenham

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By *d777799 OP Man
over a year ago

Wickham

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By *d777799 OP Man
over a year ago

Wickham

"Don't wanna listen to drivel!

Want to actually have something to go by that will tell me who you are

We deserve more than just a one liner or inane drivel surely?"

Yes definitely this is what I thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tailor it to the individual and what's on their profile. I never send just one line of conversation and never use text speak.

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

"I tailor it to the individual and what's on their profile. I never send just one line of conversation and never use text speak."

Is all about luck buddy and........... i would have so many to say but better keep it like it is. You will find out in time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tailor it to the individual and what's on their profile. I never send just one line of conversation and never use text speak.

Is all about luck buddy and........... i would have so many to say but better keep it like it is. You will find out in time."

So far, I'm doing ok with how I message.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

"When your sending new people a message , what's your opening message?"

Definitely not worth tailoring messages, they just get deleted anyway. Best idea is to use something catchy and clever, like "my balls, your chin, meet tonight?" Be sure to add close up dick pics so they have something to fap to while they wait for you to arrive. I'd say thank me later, but you'll be too busy slaying vag

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By *Ci LutherMan
over a year ago

Cumalot

Compliment the profile.. offer a polite chat.. ensure potential meet that I’m polite respectful and not pushy

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

If I told you then it would also be your first message and I wouldn't stand out from the crowd anymore

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

It's best not to have a standard one, they are generally obvious and an automatic delete for most people

If I'm sending a message it's because something in their profile has grabbed my eye, be it the bio text or a picture, so I'll generally start with that

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

"Compliment the profile.. offer a polite chat.. ensure potential meet that I’m polite respectful and not pushy"

I don't mean to sound rude but that's pretty much every generic message or profile

'I liked your profile

Would you like to chat

I promise if we get the chance to meet I won't mess you about, I'm reliable, clean, smell nice'

They should all be a given, if it has to be highlighted it sounds like you don't have much about you, & as harsh as it sounds it no better message than the one liners

'Hi'

'How are you?'

'What you up to?'

Or a Friday/Monday favourite

'Weekend plans?' 'Good Weekend'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certainly not a cock or pussy picture

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By *aviniaCDTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds (close to GAP)

Be honest!! Just say 'I haven't bothered looking at your profile, except the photos, but any chance of a f*ck?'....

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

"Don't wanna listen to drivel!

Want to actually have something to go by that will tell me who you are

We deserve more than just a one liner or inane drivel surely?"

It has to be different for everyone so I picked fantasia-pair as they looked like someone we would get on with..

Hello Viking and The Baddest Bitch

Come across your profile and you have us tied up in knots and was thinking if you scratch our backs we could possibly help you with your itch and help Tick more of the boxes.

MM&CM

It's not rocket science!

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By *ooki82Man
over a year ago

Plymouth

Read the bio and pick out something you have in common, However, when the bio says

"30 year old male/female/couple looking to meet men"

there's not loads to go on. Haha

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I compliment on profile or pics and if we have likes incommon invite to chat further .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A dick pic.

Your hot.

I'm wanking over your pics.

That's the three I've had in the last five minutes, don't go with any of them.

Try and compliment them or comment on something in their profile to engage in chat.

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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago

Wombwell, Barnsley

Doesn't really matter what you write. It's a bit of a lottery ok here. Something a bit different from the norm that will make you stand out, but there is no guarantee of getting a reply.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It entirely depends on the type of person and their interests but it's more than just a few words

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Your cut and paste type message is your profile. All that is generic about you should be in your write up.

Then send a message that will not give the receiver the heebeejeebies and may entice them to look at your profile.

I generally remark on the thing that drew my attention. This can be a status or a new pic. I use humour as my default setting and keep it short. If they are interested you can expand the next message.

Good luck...it is a lottery out there.

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By *ownwithafeatherMan
over a year ago

Watford

What proportion of messages sent by single guys are never read?

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

"Doesn't really matter what you write. It's a bit of a lottery ok here. Something a bit different from the norm that will make you stand out, but there is no guarantee of getting a reply."

I agree. I've spent five minutes or more thoughtfully trying to write something which will tell them I have actually read their profile and ven when I meet all their criteria including subject title etc, it just gets deleted.

If you approached someone in a bar you wouldn't spew out a load of waffle, it's usually 'hi, can I buy you a drink' so why on here.

If the person finds you attractive, that's all you need.

On here, I think the subject title needs to be catchier than a hi and then it all depends on the photo you enclose.

No guarantees and plenty of luck.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

"Be honest!! Just say 'I haven't bothered looking at your profile, except the photos, but any chance of a f*ck?'....

That's the kind of message that would actually make me laugh & get a response as it's original

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be honest!! Just say 'I haven't bothered looking at your profile, except the photos, but any chance of a f*ck?'....

That's the kind of message that would actually make me laugh & get a response as it's original "

Booby is going to have an inbox filled with that exact message now

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

I always like to reference the days weather as it shows you’re up to date with current affairs…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A maximum of 3 words with an exorbitant number of kisses. Eg "How are you? Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

That kind of imaginative missive scores big. HUGE!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A maximum of 3 words with an exorbitant number of kisses. Eg "How are you? Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

That kind of imaginative missive scores big. HUGE!!"

And if that doesn’t work try misspelling them or cutting it down to “How r u?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wuu2 with a dick pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A maximum of 3 words with an exorbitant number of kisses. Eg "How are you? Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

That kind of imaginative missive scores big. HUGE!!

And if that doesn’t work try misspelling them or cutting it down to “How r u?”"

D'you know, some guys have done that this week. So clever! Xxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A maximum of 3 words with an exorbitant number of kisses. Eg "How are you? Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

That kind of imaginative missive scores big. HUGE!!

And if that doesn’t work try misspelling them or cutting it down to “How r u?”

D'you know, some guys have done that this week. So clever! Xxxxxxxxxxxx"

Damn! I thought I was being really inventive?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A maximum of 3 words with an exorbitant number of kisses. Eg "How are you? Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx"

That kind of imaginative missive scores big. HUGE!!

And if that doesn’t work try misspelling them or cutting it down to “How r u?”

D'you know, some guys have done that this week. So clever! Xxxxxxxxxxxx

Damn! I thought I was being really inventive?!"

Soz

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By *d777799 OP Man
over a year ago

Wickham

"Be honest!! Just say 'I haven't bothered looking at your profile, except the photos, but any chance of a f*ck?'....

Haha I wish it was that easy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't wanna listen to drivel!

Want to actually have something to go by that will tell me who you are

We deserve more than just a one liner or inane drivel surely?

It has to be different for everyone so I picked fantasia-pair as they looked like someone we would get on with..

Hello Viking and The Baddest Bitch

Come across your profile and you have us tied up in knots and was thinking if you scratch our backs we could possibly help you with your itch and help Tick more of the boxes.

MM&CM

It's not rocket science!"

And you'd get a reply from that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would be about why I'm writing. I want to show that I've considered whether they might actually like to hear from us or not. "

Definitely this!

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