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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any women on here looking for married men ?

If hubby likes football and she likes rugby and they go and watch separately surely it’s the same if a man has certain interests and she doesn’t

Obviously this applies vice versa and a married women has the right to choose too

But I’m interested in your perspective

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

At the saunas most guys attending seem to be married or in a relationship and playing away

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

If hubby likes football and she likes rugby and they go and watch separately surely it’s the same if a man has certain interests and she doesn’t

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It depends if they sneak off to the football or rugby and lie about where they have been or if they have both agreed they can go separately

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any women on here looking for married men ?

If hubby likes football and she likes rugby and they go and watch separately surely it’s the same if a man has certain interests and she doesn’t

Obviously this applies vice versa and a married women has the right to choose too

But I’m interested in your perspective "

It’s all fine and dandy as long as the wife and hubby have talked about it and she’s happy that hubby is at the football match and not out with the guys or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We primarily like to meet MF couples (long term or married) that is key to us as our definition of swinging is the old fashioned 'partner swapping'.

We do occasionally meet with singles but not singles who are married. For us if someone is married and engaging with other for sex when their partner does not know - it's basically cheating, so it's not for us. Many married folks give excuses - my other half knows - I'm in a sexless marriage but that is a red flag to us as well because it mean emotional baggage or something toxic is happening.

We will add if you are married and looking to engage at least be honest about it, because that gives the people you are engaging with a choice. To cheat on your partner and to cheat other on your status is a double no no. Not everyone will agree but as you said.... thoughts please.

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By *annylickerMan
over a year ago

Chester-le-Street

I'm always open and honest about been married.

Meets are few and far between for me, but it's the opinion of the person you want to meet.

If they say not for them, i just make a note of it x

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By *illingdon_ladMan
over a year ago

Bicester


"We primarily like to meet MF couples (long term or married) that is key to us as our definition of swinging is the old fashioned 'partner swapping'.

We do occasionally meet with singles but not singles who are married. For us if someone is married and engaging with other for sex when their partner does not know - it's basically cheating, so it's not for us. Many married folks give excuses - my other half knows - I'm in a sexless marriage but that is a red flag to us as well because it mean emotional baggage or something toxic is happening.

We will add if you are married and looking to engage at least be honest about it, because that gives the people you are engaging with a choice. To cheat on your partner and to cheat other on your status is a double no no. Not everyone will agree but as you said.... thoughts please. "

I get why you say this but it's also a huge judgement by yourselves. In my case my wife has given me permission because she was pregnant and struggled with sex and didn't want to swing for obvious reasons, she knew I had urges so said I could play away but would like to know. The judgement always levied towards married men is we are always liers and cheats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“The judgement always levied towards married men is we are always liers and cheats.”

Only liars and cheats (men or women) if they are lying and cheating. Plenty of couples are strong and honest enough to allow ethical non monogamy.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If you can say to your partner

"I'm just off to have sex with someone" in the same way you say

"I'm just off to a football match" it's all fine and dandy. The trouble starts when the lies start.

I don't care personally about the situation in anybody's relationship but I won't meet anybody whose partner thinks they're at the football when in fact they're not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think anyone seeks it out and anyone can say they are single so people shouldn't be naive to think they are. But the general attitude between shagging married men and shagging married women is very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I get why you say this but it's also a huge judgement by yourselves. In my case my wife has given me permission because she was pregnant and struggled with sex and didn't want to swing for obvious reasons, she knew I had urges so said I could play away but would like to know. The judgement always levied towards married men is we are always liers and cheats. "

There are no rights of wrongs everyone has a different take on the subject. It's also not judgement by us - it's our preference that is all.

If someone (man or woman) chooses to go behind partners back that is cheating.

If they have permission okay as long as they tell interested parties so they can make choice.

In your instance - wife pregnant we would say no - as that is emotional baggage we don't want.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

We try and avoid married people (apart from couples!) for the simple reason that there's another person involved that can cause a no-show. The wife/husband suddenly has a day off work, falls ill, plans a surprise, etc. The other person can't get away and we're left waiting for someone that doesn't turn up.

(Bry)

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By *othstMan
over a year ago

Brighton

I have been guilty of saying I'm just popping out to the pub for a few quiet pints with friends not mentioning it's the six Nations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We primarily like to meet MF couples (long term or married) that is key to us as our definition of swinging is the old fashioned 'partner swapping'.

We do occasionally meet with singles but not singles who are married. For us if someone is married and engaging with other for sex when their partner does not know - it's basically cheating, so it's not for us. Many married folks give excuses - my other half knows - I'm in a sexless marriage but that is a red flag to us as well because it mean emotional baggage or something toxic is happening.

We will add if you are married and looking to engage at least be honest about it, because that gives the people you are engaging with a choice. To cheat on your partner and to cheat other on your status is a double no no. Not everyone will agree but as you said.... thoughts please. "

We work to a very similar set of rules where we can x

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"Any women on here looking for married men ?

If hubby likes football and she likes rugby and they go and watch separately surely it’s the same if a man has certain interests and she doesn’t

Obviously this applies vice versa and a married women has the right to choose too

But I’m interested in your perspective "

If the wife knows it’s not an issue

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I have been guilty of saying I'm just popping out to the pub for a few quiet pints with friends not mentioning it's the six Nations "

Shocking!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I've found married men entitled and boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've found married men entitled and boring. "

we find a lot of men on here entitled and boring... not all though

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By *reedy JamesMan
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

One extra aspect of meeting married men for me is that I'm always imagining the implicit comparison with his wife; and so I am spurred on to be better, to be more slutty.

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