FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling down after a meet

By *ull English with tea OP Man
over a year ago

London

Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…

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By *r_Mrs_FoxCouple
over a year ago

Wantage

No, had it a few times. Sometimes it’s post nut clarity, other times some sort of emptiness creeps in after and sometimes I can’t put my finger on why it left me like it.

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By *idan31Man
over a year ago

ashby

It could be just attention seeking …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…"

I'll be honest man, I don't know about you're life so please forgive me for assuming anything that might be incorrect here.

It could be because deep down you might be needing something else.

I mean sex is fun and all, but there are things, for me personally, that I put before anything sexy happens. This is just a treat for me to have fun on here and mingle with other like-minded people.

Perhaps I'm taking the question way out of context, but this is just the way I've interpreted it, so I hope what I say has some value for you.

Take care buddy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…"

Was it extreme or intense sex in any way that you possibly needed aftercare?

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By *ull English with tea OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…

I'll be honest man, I don't know about you're life so please forgive me for assuming anything that might be incorrect here.

It could be because deep down you might be needing something else.

I mean sex is fun and all, but there are things, for me personally, that I put before anything sexy happens. This is just a treat for me to have fun on here and mingle with other like-minded people.

Perhaps I'm taking the question way out of context, but this is just the way I've interpreted it, so I hope what I say has some value for you.

Take care buddy. x"

Thank you, first time it’s happened and felt really low. First world problems but just interested to know if was common. Guess I’m after “the one” eventually and it just left me feeling empty and really shitty. Hopefully a blip! But thanks for your kind words

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By *ull English with tea OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…

Was it extreme or intense sex in any way that you possibly needed aftercare? "

Nope, good session but nothing out of the ordinary.

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By *mmortalValkyrieWoman
over a year ago

From a galaxy far far away

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…"

Is it a disconnect feeling or the build up and meet was so great, you are now sub meeting dropping?

If so, i get that, you are not alone or unusual x Big hug x

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…

I'll be honest man, I don't know about you're life so please forgive me for assuming anything that might be incorrect here.

It could be because deep down you might be needing something else.

I mean sex is fun and all, but there are things, for me personally, that I put before anything sexy happens. This is just a treat for me to have fun on here and mingle with other like-minded people.

Perhaps I'm taking the question way out of context, but this is just the way I've interpreted it, so I hope what I say has some value for you.

Take care buddy. x

It can be a bit of a crash after the highs. It happens, and is just a chemical thing.

The other deeper empty feeling is something i've experienced.

Take some me time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I get that when I’ve had a really good meet. I feel you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes for me its usually guilt these days that im betraying a memory even if its only for coffee

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…"

I think you've had some solid advice already, minus the knob talking about attention seeking.

As primarily a kinkster, in a slightly different way it sounds like something I sometimes get after a scene called 'sub drop' sounds silly but try having some chocolate and/or a sweet tea and a bath and that might help!

Otherwise, think about whether one off sex is something you actually want in life, like that chocolate bar it tastes good at the time but doesn't give you the body you want long term!

Also - had a little stalk of your profile and it made me laugh so thanks for being the reason I'm going to bed with a smile on my face!

Chin up, and always remember talking about something often makes you feel better!

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could be just like a hangover - this shit is addictive and can leave a gap afterwards

Build up of serotonin followed by a crash will do that

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By *ull English with tea OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…

Is it a disconnect feeling or the build up and meet was so great, you are now sub meeting dropping?

If so, i get that, you are not alone or unusual x Big hug x"

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…

I think you've had some solid advice already, minus the knob talking about attention seeking.

Otherwise, think about whether one off sex is something you actually want in life, like that chocolate bar it tastes good at the time but doesn't give you the body you want long term!

Also - had a little stalk of your profile and it made me laugh so thanks for being the reason I'm going to bed with a smile on my face!

Chin up, and always remember talking about something often makes you feel better!

C x"

Omg after reading this I went in and read the profile. I spilt my drink when I read the granny test. No chance of me getting to the next stage. Lmfao

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By *ull English with tea OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…

I think you've had some solid advice already, minus the knob talking about attention seeking.

Otherwise, think about whether one off sex is something you actually want in life, like that chocolate bar it tastes good at the time but doesn't give you the body you want long term!

Also - had a little stalk of your profile and it made me laugh so thanks for being the reason I'm going to bed with a smile on my face!

Chin up, and always remember talking about something often makes you feel better!

C x"

Thank you and you may have hit the nail on the head, really want a FWB rather than endless one offs eventually. Just got me hard.

And glad you liked the profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…"

I’ve had this a few times, usually lingers for a couple of days too.

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By *ull English with tea OP Man
over a year ago

London

"Yes I get that when I’ve had a really good meet. I feel you.."

Thanks fella!

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…

I think you've had some solid advice already, minus the knob talking about attention seeking.

Otherwise, think about whether one off sex is something you actually want in life, like that chocolate bar it tastes good at the time but doesn't give you the body you want long term!

Also - had a little stalk of your profile and it made me laugh so thanks for being the reason I'm going to bed with a smile on my face!

Chin up, and always remember talking about something often makes you feel better!

C x

Thank you and you may have hit the nail on the head, really want a FWB rather than endless one offs eventually. Just got me hard.

And glad you liked the profile!

Well good luck in finding that!

Also, I can bake a cake even Mary Berry would love

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By *mmortalValkyrieWoman
over a year ago

From a galaxy far far away

OMG BEST PROFILE READ EVER!!!!!! Just died reading that!!!! Very funny and witty x

Awesome sausome x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha, mate you’ve got a GSOH a bit like what I’d type if mrs let me… no advice to give but you sound like the sort of bloke I’d go for a beer with!

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…

Was it extreme or intense sex in any way that you possibly needed aftercare? "

This.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I don’t think anything after a meet , other than my mind is engaged back into getting on with other things. For me I am completely out of sight out of mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was this maybe a sense of guilt .. did you fuck and deep down didn’t want to

Did you feel obliged to perform ?

Was the connection missing that sexual one that allows you to go full out or making do with a situation and possibly regretting the meet

Or was it purely hormone controlled low, following ecstatic blowout

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's pretty normal after the build up and excitement. It can be quite the downer if you've had an amazing time just because it's over. I've had it a few times the day after but if it goes on longer than that, there might be a deeper issue of needing something more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have experienced this the following day and it’s not nice, didn’t help that as a couple we didn’t have our usual reclaim sex as soon as

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Absolutely brilliant profile op!!!

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry

In the 8 years I’ve been swinging, I’ve had that feeling once or twice. I was never sure why. It’s a little disturbing but luckily didn’t last long.

Can I add to the list of those who love your profile. Made me smile thing morning too

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By *ull English with tea OP Man
over a year ago

London

Thanks all for the kind replies, it’s very sweet and shows what a caring bunch you are. It’s also very reassuring to know it’s not uncommon and the possible reasons behind it. Feeling much better already!

And thanks for the profile feedback - glad it’s raised a few laughs / smiles!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does happen quite abit, I know it's normally called sub drop but I find it happens after you top aswell. Hope you feel better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else experienced this? First time, felt really low despite the god sex. Is this unusual? Never had it before as usually on a high…"

as others have already said and given some good advice i just wanted to add your not alone in this. the endorphins from all the build up and excitement of the meet just disappear.

sub drop or similar is very real. possibly a more Fwb situation would be better suited, i feel it works best with me. the little tx messages after a meet and the communication helps the drop after being so intense. also just chatting to others, on here, potential meets, friends can help.

your profile is very well written! had a good chuckle also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a post sex dopamine crash, you'll be fine bud

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