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Verifying after repeated meets - do you?

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By *edplusone OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Wondering what everyone’s thoughts are on verifying after each repeat meet with the same people? Do you?

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I might verify a second time after some repeat meets. I mean, if they’re that good surely it’s nice to let others know?

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

I do. Upto them if they want to display all of them, some of them or none of them as I do, but yes I like to give them that option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn’t unless we hadn’t met with them in a long time.

I’ve read repeat veris that can sometimes come across as slightly possessive and ‘hands off’

Very off putting.

Viv

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I would probably do one for a social and then another if there were a play meet. Not necessarily for every time we met up though.

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they hadn’t had a veri in a while just to show they’re still active.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We might do a second one if we meet others in a new environment or different club. Definitely won't be doing a veri every time we bump into the same people at chams I just cba ha

Kitty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only joke veris. I'd prefer no veris for either of us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would probably do one for a social and then another if there were a play meet. Not necessarily for every time we met up though.

LvM"

This is what I would do too.

Verify for a social and then again for a sexual meet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes do.

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By *shyaWoman
over a year ago

bedford

I would verify after initial social meet - just to show the person turned up. If it is followed by a physical meet - I will also verify (first one only). I think it helps others, giving more dimension to the person's profile.

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry


"I would probably do one for a social and then another if there were a play meet. Not necessarily for every time we met up though.

LvM

This is what I would do too.

Verify for a social and then again for a sexual meet xx

"

Same here. Lots of people verify after a social and say they can’t wait to meet again. I often wonder how many do actually meet up again. That’s why I do the second veri

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By *edplusone OP   Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Same here. Lots of people verify after a social and say they can’t wait to meet again. I often wonder how many do actually meet up again. That’s why I do the second veri "

That’s an excellent point, as people tend to be quite ‘diplomatic’ with veri’s a second one shows you did actually connect with them, and they are reasonably normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wondering what everyone’s thoughts are on verifying after each repeat meet with the same people? Do you?"

If I see someone with many verifications from the same person I assume that’s a fwb or fb. That’s all I take from it.

For me, I’d need to meet someone more than once to have that option….

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By *orthseatiger69Man
over a year ago

Ayrshire /North lanarshire

I have done so when I have met the same person more than once , as it may be a different setting .

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

Not really, and I always wait for a meet rather than the social

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Not really, and I always wait for a meet rather than the social "

Guess we need to impress on the coffee then

LvM

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I always do. Up to people if they want to show them.

As someone who likes repeat meets I like seeing that someone has met people more than once.

It shows that the “met this lovely one for a fun social” wasn’t just polite waffle. They were nice enough to meet again.

Also can be helpful if you only meet 2/3 regular people, as I did previously. People could be wary if it looks like you haven’t met anyone for 6/12 months, but actually it was just that I met the same people for a while.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Sometimes yes. We like to see some repeat veris on a profile with loads of veris. People wanted to meet them a second time

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me


"Not really, and I always wait for a meet rather than the social

Guess we need to impress on the coffee then

LvM"

Ha ha I didn't mean it's a hard gate to cross, just it's nice to have a little more *ahem* information to guide ones pen

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By *orkshireDrifterMan
over a year ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

If one is meeting regularly it goes beyond the usual verifying thing on here. Maybe periodically as a favour showing both are still active but best to just enjoy each other ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be doing it 3 or 4 times a week takes the fun out of it ... (same by the way)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same man

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

why not ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand a second one from cam to in person but feedback after every meet? Not normal.

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By *essicagraceWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

I will verify again if something significant has changed/happened, such as first meet being a social and second a hook up. Or if its been a while and we've, say, gone to a club together. Kinda like reverifying under a different circumstance. I wouldn't verify every single time I saw someone cause... why? Unless there's a new situation I'd want to say "yeah cool and safe" for, who is the extra veri helping? I don't need a diary made of fab veris hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought the whole point of a veri was to confirm they are in fact who they say they are? Not to give a blow by blow account of their sex life. Also I'd be fucking offended if some guy was running off to write a veri every time we met.

It's

Just

Weird

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By *essicagraceWoman
over a year ago

birmingham


"I thought the whole point of a veri was to confirm they are in fact who they say they are? Not to give a blow by blow account of their sex life. Also I'd be fucking offended if some guy was running off to write a veri every time we met.

It's

Just

Weird"

Same I'd hate it!! I'd feel like I was being peed on.

Also I like you a lot.

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By *ixi n DogCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

Sometimes we do. We think it goes to show that you must be at least half decent and not total bellends if people want to meet you again after the first time!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sometimes. I only display one verification per person

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

No, I wouldn’t. I don’t think it’s necessary.

Although I was part of another thread about veris and someone said something along the lines of ‘we don’t all express our excitement in the same way’ which I hadn’t thought of before.

So whilst I probably wouldn’t do a repeat veri, I realise it’s all part of the experience for some folk. Some really enjoy the veris.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’d give a second because that could be very telling.

For example first was a social and then met again for play would show that the guy is happy to meet for socials first.

A second meet also means they’re probably not a nutter lol.

Wouldn’t bother with any more though.

Looks a bit weird usually.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"We’d give a second because that could be very telling.

For example first was a social and then met again for play would show that the guy is happy to meet for socials first.

A second meet also means they’re probably not a nutter lol.

Wouldn’t bother with any more though.

Looks a bit weird usually. "

I think it also depends on if you display all verifications, too. I see them as mementoes and mostly for me, and just display a handful.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Depends how psychotic you want to look

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By *iceButtSlimMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Don't really see any point in multiple verifications from the same people, it just seems pointless. The only time it might be handy is if you haven't met anyone new in say six month or so, as you do get profiles saying don't bother us, or will be ignored if you haven't any recent verifications.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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No.

I'd send them a little personal veri if they really wanted it but no. It's not really for me. I don't tend to write one for people I've had sex with. Maybe if I've met them at a few socials and the first was really naff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

No. Whats the point.

Its not a log book.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

I might if I had met with them at a social then a meet or if my last verification was quite a while ago.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe


"Don't really see any point in multiple verifications from the same people, it just seems pointless. The only time it might be handy is if you haven't met anyone new in say six month or so, as you do get profiles saying don't bother us, or will be ignored if you haven't any recent verifications."

It's called territory marking - how will everyone know you're obsessed with her if you haven't verified her 5 times?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. Whats the point.

Its not a log book.

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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago

Hyde

I have twice .... but more likely if one was a social and a follow up play and filth.

I wouldn't do more than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twice that's it they don't need any more...

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By *iceButtSlimMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"Don't really see any point in multiple verifications from the same people, it just seems pointless. The only time it might be handy is if you haven't met anyone new in say six month or so, as you do get profiles saying don't bother us, or will be ignored if you haven't any recent verifications.

It's called territory marking - how will everyone know you're obsessed with her if you haven't verified her 5 times?!"

Yep as a single guy verifying a lady multiple times comes over a bit like that.

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