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By *rs322 OP   Woman
over a year ago

sandy

Me and my husband have recently been descussing the idea of him meeting alone. I already do this but with women only, just my preference.

It feels amazing to be desired by others and Id love for my husband to have a similar feeling with going on solo meets.

Alot of the time it depends on the woman as to if dreaded jelousy comes up, I never know why it does but I still find the thought incredibly hot.

I suppose my question is how do I get passed that so we can both enjoy ourselves?

Something makes me feel uneasy but I don't know what it is. Some part of me thinks it could be the only child in me in that I'm missing out.

I know it's going to be a huge turn on for me but I also can't shift this feeling.

I could do with chatting to someone who has been in my shoes?

TIA, Neat

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips


"Me and my husband have recently been descussing the idea of him meeting alone. I already do this but with women only, just my preference.

It feels amazing to be desired by others and Id love for my husband to have a similar feeling with going on solo meets.

Alot of the time it depends on the woman as to if dreaded jelousy comes up, I never know why it does but I still find the thought incredibly hot.

I suppose my question is how do I get passed that so we can both enjoy ourselves?

Something makes me feel uneasy but I don't know what it is. Some part of me thinks it could be the only child in me in that I'm missing out.

I know it's going to be a huge turn on for me but I also can't shift this feeling.

I could do with chatting to someone who has been in my shoes?

TIA, Neat "

My partner used to be jealous of me meeting with women. So for a long time, we'd only do MMF - I even allowed her to go and stay away with men. Then one day, a mutual female friend visited us and we ended up having a threesome and had a lot of fun. The lady stayed a while and we both enjoyed some 1 on 1 with her while the other partner went out. My wife wasn't at all jealous that time - even when she got back and found us still in bed fucking the living daylights out of one another. She hasn't been jealous since and is even happy with me going off to visit other hotwives.

So, I guess what I am trying to say is that the THOUGHT of your man with another woman might be far worse than the SIGHT of it. Perhaps you need to see him with another woman and get into enjoying HIM enjoying himself.

It will help if you are happy about yourself, your body etc, and that you feel that your relationship is permanent -whatever happens.

We've been together 30 years now, so we both see this as a permanent fixture and it really is 'til death do us part' now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi,

My previous Dominant used to meet women alone. It took some time. I was insanely jealous at the start. We managed it by, him not telling me he was going to meet her, so I wouldn't be at home alone twiddling my thumbs. I knew it was coming but didn't know when. He would tell me when he came home, and we could enjoy the sexiness of it together.

In the end, for me the humiliation of not being enough for him was what drove it.

Remember to go slow and have open communication. Hope it works out

Good luck x

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By *ilthyRacersCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

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By *ilthyRacersCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

It’s slightly different for us because we met on here, so while we were a casual thing him meeting other people (and me meeting others too) was a very normal thing.

It’s not always easy so you should work out where your boundaries are. It’s much better to relax something that was previously a no-go than you deal with something feeling off.

We have complete openness with each other. Everyone we meet separately is aware of that. There’s no secrets or detail that can’t be shared if the other half wants to know.

You also need a plan of what you’ll do if you do get jealous and don’t like it. It does happen. We have an agreement where we try and work it out, but if after a second meet the other partner is still uncomfortable there are no more meets. Our relationship is the most important.

99 times out of 100 we love it when the other meets and then tells us about it. The 1 time something makes us uncomfortable is rare, and worth the rest of it.

J

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By *rs322 OP   Woman
over a year ago

sandy

Thank you, I have enjoyed the veiw of him with another woman on a couple of occasions. It sends me wild. I also an very confident in myself and our marriage. We both definitely know we are permanent as you put it.

You're right the thought is far worse than the sight of it. I know that for sure.

Some women I have no once of jelousy, others I Do. It hasn't got anything to do with their physical features either as they've all been different. I just can't seem to find a common denominator.

We've descussed all sorts and I know that an over night meet will not sit right with me nore would cuddling either.

It's just sex at the end of the day and the thought of him doing it makes me want to self love while I think about it but then when there is a potential for a solo meet and I get the dreaded feeling I haven't got an once of that self love feeling.

So far I'm just putting it down to be being a hormonal woman lol

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By *rs322 OP   Woman
over a year ago

sandy


"Hi,

My previous Dominant used to meet women alone. It took some time. I was insanely jealous at the start. We managed it by, him not telling me he was going to meet her, so I wouldn't be at home alone twiddling my thumbs. I knew it was coming but didn't know when. He would tell me when he came home, and we could enjoy the sexiness of it together.

In the end, for me the humiliation of not being enough for him was what drove it.

Remember to go slow and have open communication. Hope it works out

Good luck x "

Thank you, I have thought about not knowing till he comes home but it would be very fishy him going out without a decent reason, various factors make that hard. One being he doesn't drive and that we have small humans at home too. So I'd therefore know what he was going somewhere without a reason, still sat at home not twiddling my thumbs but taking the opportunity to have a play myself. Lol

I agree, communication when in the swinging world is key when you're a married couple and we definitely have that

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By *rs322 OP   Woman
over a year ago

sandy


"It’s slightly different for us because we met on here, so while we were a casual thing him meeting other people (and me meeting others too) was a very normal thing.

It’s not always easy so you should work out where your boundaries are. It’s much better to relax something that was previously a no-go than you deal with something feeling off.

We have complete openness with each other. Everyone we meet separately is aware of that. There’s no secrets or detail that can’t be shared if the other half wants to know.

You also need a plan of what you’ll do if you do get jealous and don’t like it. It does happen. We have an agreement where we try and work it out, but if after a second meet the other partner is still uncomfortable there are no more meets. Our relationship is the most important.

99 times out of 100 we love it when the other meets and then tells us about it. The 1 time something makes us uncomfortable is rare, and worth the rest of it.

J "

Thank you also, I think you're right. There has to be some way of calling it off if it still doesn't sit right because we are what's important. We have mentioned only a social meet first to see how we both get on with that as a stepping stone and tbh I am happy with that. We've said the same rules for me are for him too, one being on the phone to one another till we meet whoever we are meeting that way we've only just talked so know all is good. I think this would be the only scenario I'll end up using our "safe word" haha!

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

One other thing that might help, or might not...

But perhaps if you could think of the other women as sex toys - not meaning to be derogatory - then maybe it will be easier to handle.

Only a very insecure person would get jealous over a sex toy, right?

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By *rs322 OP   Woman
over a year ago

sandy


"One other thing that might help, or might not...

But perhaps if you could think of the other women as sex toys - not meaning to be derogatory - then maybe it will be easier to handle.

Only a very insecure person would get jealous over a sex toy, right? "

That is very true and totally see where you're coming from. I have also thought this myself.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

May be try it in a club, where your around and can watch , and can alternately leave or ask to stop if you decide it’s not for you.

No missing out that way as your both more in control.

Personally I’d say if your jealous then not to do it at all, it’s meant to be fun xx

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By *rs322 OP   Woman
over a year ago

sandy


"May be try it in a club, where your around and can watch , and can alternately leave or ask to stop if you decide it’s not for you.

No missing out that way as your both more in control.

Personally I’d say if your jealous then not to do it at all, it’s meant to be fun xx"

This crossed my mind too, however the reason for meeting solo is because babysitters are far a few between and silly us had children at the begining of our fab life. So although a club is on our fucker list it's not an easy option.

I've watched him with other women and love the thought of him going off for a meet, I think it's mainly just the other woman and who she is. Some seem to act like I don't even exist, say how they'd be the best he'd ever have knowing we've built a trusted and experimental sex life in the ten years we've been together.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"May be try it in a club, where your around and can watch , and can alternately leave or ask to stop if you decide it’s not for you.

No missing out that way as your both more in control.

Personally I’d say if your jealous then not to do it at all, it’s meant to be fun xx

This crossed my mind too, however the reason for meeting solo is because babysitters are far a few between and silly us had children at the begining of our fab life. So although a club is on our fucker list it's not an easy option.

I've watched him with other women and love the thought of him going off for a meet, I think it's mainly just the other woman and who she is. Some seem to act like I don't even exist, say how they'd be the best he'd ever have knowing we've built a trusted and experimental sex life in the ten years we've been together. "

Yeah I get that! Maybe a day time club or something for a few hours.

Personally think socials are worse… just bang and have fun getting to know someone is definitely a boundary for me!

Definitely something to be said for how everyone treats each other and all being comfortable with each other.

But as someone mentioned above, being treat like someone’s husbands sex toy is the exact reason I only play with male halves in clubs. Respect works both ways x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are in a similar boat. We challenged each other quite a long time ago to get pictures of ourselves in the cock sucking pose (no sex allowed or the challenge failed). She achieved hers within two weeks. I haven't actually bothered chasing it too hard as the turn on would only be me sending her the photo which is probably a lot disrespectful to the woman "helping" me.

Bad Bitch is okay and quite turned on in principle with the idea but neither of us want to risk the negative effects should there be any. We are quite secure too so if anyone is not so sure of themselves then it's a bit Takeshi's castle IMO

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By *rs322 OP   Woman
over a year ago

sandy


"May be try it in a club, where your around and can watch , and can alternately leave or ask to stop if you decide it’s not for you.

No missing out that way as your both more in control.

Personally I’d say if your jealous then not to do it at all, it’s meant to be fun xx

This crossed my mind too, however the reason for meeting solo is because babysitters are far a few between and silly us had children at the begining of our fab life. So although a club is on our fucker list it's not an easy option.

I've watched him with other women and love the thought of him going off for a meet, I think it's mainly just the other woman and who she is. Some seem to act like I don't even exist, say how they'd be the best he'd ever have knowing we've built a trusted and experimental sex life in the ten years we've been together.

Yeah I get that! Maybe a day time club or something for a few hours.

Personally think socials are worse… just bang and have fun getting to know someone is definitely a boundary for me!

Definitely something to be said for how everyone treats each other and all being comfortable with each other.

But as someone mentioned above, being treat like someone’s husbands sex toy is the exact reason I only play with male halves in clubs. Respect works both ways x"

I can see why getting to know someone would be a boundary. I don't mind that side to be honest, he's a very conciderate and ego boosting. He'd make a woman feel like she was the only girl in the world and that really is part of the turn on (I suppose that's the hot husband part).

It's like a mind field in my brain over the recent weeks we've been descussing this for, some things make sense other things doesn't.

Absolutely, respect is key and should be at the front of any play.

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By *rs322 OP   Woman
over a year ago

sandy


"We are in a similar boat. We challenged each other quite a long time ago to get pictures of ourselves in the cock sucking pose (no sex allowed or the challenge failed). She achieved hers within two weeks. I haven't actually bothered chasing it too hard as the turn on would only be me sending her the photo which is probably a lot disrespectful to the woman "helping" me.

Bad Bitch is okay and quite turned on in principle with the idea but neither of us want to risk the negative effects should there be any. We are quite secure too so if anyone is not so sure of themselves then it's a bit Takeshi's castle IMO"

That's a hot challenge, we did something similar years ago. Girl he worked with was a huge flirt and I called him out and challenged him to the same thing. He did it, I was so shocked he did but also turned on too.

Takeshi's castle, that's made me LOL!

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By *ensualPleasure96Man
over a year ago

Dunstable

Maybe speak and meet with the women before hand who he sleeps with so that you can be more comfortable knowing who he is meeting.

Slowly build up your confidence with it all and slowly the jealously will ease. Just remember to try and not take it out on him.

Might work just a suggestion x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and I just read your profile - all of it too.. I'll take a bow

As I don't message people that don't want messages I'll just compliment you on your figure!! You done very good there!!

Just take it carefully and communicate - alot - then a bit more

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