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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If someone has sent you a photo or vice versa, and don't feel attracted. What is the best course of action? Blocking, explaining, ghosting..

I thought explaining was the right thing to do but i did that to someone recently & it didn't go down well. Someone blocked me recently to, that wasn't nice but at least it is clear. Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No means no, and if the person doesn’t accept that, there’s a block button …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think we are compatible

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t think we are compatible "

Like it

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By *al kalMan
over a year ago

london

However nicely you reply, it leaves the door open for someone to have a hissy fit.

You can ignore, block or reply. No one is entitled to a response here even though it may feel like the right thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone has sent you a photo or vice versa, and don't feel attracted. What is the best course of action? Blocking, explaining, ghosting..

I thought explaining was the right thing to do but i did that to someone recently & it didn't go down well. Someone blocked me recently to, that wasn't nice but at least it is clear. Thoughts?"

We just reply “Not for us, thanks” but we’re not bothered if we’re blocked or ignored, we don’t take it personally

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd just say thanks but no thanks and block ,so they can't come back with any why's etc .

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By *zlakMan
over a year ago

Norwich

I usually say we are not compatible and or we have different interests. I do reply though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd just say thanks but no thanks and block ,so they can't come back with any why's etc ."

'Thanks but no thanks' ha ha

Seems so harsh, but at least honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say sorry not for me but good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just say sorry not for me but good luck. "

Nice one

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If someone has sent you a photo or vice versa, and don't feel attracted. What is the best course of action? Blocking, explaining, ghosting..

I thought explaining was the right thing to do but i did that to someone recently & it didn't go down well. Someone blocked me recently to, that wasn't nice but at least it is clear. Thoughts?"

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If someone has taken the time to read my profile and message accordingly I'll always respond positively even if they're not for me.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton


"I just say sorry not for me but good luck. "

Exactly this.

If they've sent a photo that I requested, I would not just block with no explanation.

However, if they asked me to explain myself after I responded with a 'not for me,' I would just block at that point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone has sent you a photo or vice versa, and don't feel attracted. What is the best course of action? Blocking, explaining, ghosting..

I thought explaining was the right thing to do but i did that to someone recently & it didn't go down well. Someone blocked me recently to, that wasn't nice but at least it is clear. Thoughts?

............................

If someone has taken the time to read my profile and message accordingly I'll always respond positively even if they're not for me."

I think that's great, it's nice to get feedback to, especially when new to the site

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No thank you and block if necessary (it usually isn't on our case). There's no need for an explanation it's often not asked for or welcome. If someone does ask for an explanation 9/10 it's so they can argue that your reasons are invalid.

In short be polite, unambiguous and firm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You sound very sweet and decent. I'd say if it was an uninvited photo on an intro message, just delete it, if after a single or a few messages, a simple thanks but no thanks, if it was after some chatting, a fuller but still simple not for me.

If in any of those cases they start wheedling or get nasty, just block. People get so worked up about blocking but it's hardly the end of the world!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You sound very sweet and decent. I'd say if it was an uninvited photo on an intro message, just delete it, if after a single or a few messages, a simple thanks but no thanks, if it was after some chatting, a fuller but still simple not for me.

If in any of those cases they start wheedling or get nasty, just block. People get so worked up about blocking but it's hardly the end of the world!"

Yes thats what i meant blocking is still clear, im starting to wonder if there is any nice way to say no tbh

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By *lex.and.SexCouple
over a year ago

Bedale

For us it depends on the tenor of the original request.

Disrespectful requests are summarily blocked

Pleasant requests are politely declined with something to the effect of "not our type" as it's effectively the truth.

Often we block those we reject, not out of rudeness but because if we have rejected them once then unless it's based on something that is variable (we once rejected someone based on a truly awful haircut for example) then the odds are 99.9% on that we would reject them at any future engagement. The odds are also fairly high that a couple of months down the line we may have forgotten why we rejected them and we may find ourselves messaging them to their great confusion.

Blocking as I understand it means we won't appear in their searches nor they in ours. Should make things cleaner and more efficient for all concerned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For us it depends on the tenor of the original request.

Disrespectful requests are summarily blocked

Pleasant requests are politely declined with something to the effect of "not our type" as it's effectively the truth.

Often we block those we reject, not out of rudeness but because if we have rejected them once then unless it's based on something that is variable (we once rejected someone based on a truly awful haircut for example) then the odds are 99.9% on that we would reject them at any future engagement. The odds are also fairly high that a couple of months down the line we may have forgotten why we rejected them and we may find ourselves messaging them to their great confusion.

Blocking as I understand it means we won't appear in their searches nor they in ours. Should make things cleaner and more efficient for all concerned. "

Yeah its just amazing how 'not our/my type' can be taken.

I suppose it is very personal, its peoples bodies at the end of the day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No thank you and block if necessary (it usually isn't on our case). There's no need for an explanation it's often not asked for or welcome. If someone does ask for an explanation 9/10 it's so they can argue that your reasons are invalid.

In short be polite, unambiguous and firm "

What about if they have said something thats a dealbreaker, but been chatting for a while.? I'm way too conscientious for this site!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"No thank you and block if necessary (it usually isn't on our case). There's no need for an explanation it's often not asked for or welcome. If someone does ask for an explanation 9/10 it's so they can argue that your reasons are invalid.

In short be polite, unambiguous and firm

What about if they have said something thats a dealbreaker, but been chatting for a while.? I'm way too conscientious for this site!"

It's entirely up to you and if you feel you owe the person an explanation then give one. However my personal opinion is that you can spend an awful lot of time worrying about someone who really isn't giving you much thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone has sent you a photo or vice versa, and don't feel attracted. What is the best course of action? Blocking, explaining, ghosting..

I thought explaining was the right thing to do but i did that to someone recently & it didn't go down well. Someone blocked me recently to, that wasn't nice but at least it is clear. Thoughts?"

Deleting and moving on.. i wouldnt bother explaining as it probably lead to more hassle than it worth.

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Normally a "Thanks for the message but I dont think we're compatible" or something along those lines.

If they come back with anything afterwards we usually just delete

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't even give a reason for turning down a social event like a wedding. If anyone asks I say "personal reasons".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm, just delete and move on if it's a cold call.

If you're chatting and it's an instant no, just say and move on.

I'd like to think everyone is mature and thick skinned enough to handle the tiniest rejection.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

It depends on a few variables for me.

My profile makes perfectly clear what I’m looking for. If I receive an unsolicited picture out with what I’m looking for I will at the very least delete and block. Occasionally I’ll reply and explain that I didn’t appreciate the picture because my profile made clear I wouldn’t want to receive it (that’s usually only if it’s a picture of genitals).

If the picture sent is in line with what I’m looking for in general, but perhaps not to my taste I’ll generally chat with the person and let them know they’re not for me. My profile makes it clear that I don’t meet strangers through Fab, so it’s easy enough to just say that if our paths cross I’ll say hi. That’s it.

From experience I try not to engage with anyone much until I know what they look like, I’ve had a few awkward conversations where I haven’t had a pic up front.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone has sent you a photo or vice versa, and don't feel attracted. What is the best course of action? Blocking, explaining, ghosting..

I thought explaining was the right thing to do but i did that to someone recently & it didn't go down well. Someone blocked me recently to, that wasn't nice but at least it is clear. Thoughts?"

I usually say "not for me,happy fabbing" if they then keep sending messages I delete them, if they carry on, I block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually lie, I say thanks for your message but I've actually just met someone. Good luck in your search. That's my response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually lie, I say thanks for your message but I've actually just met someone. Good luck in your search. That's my response."

Taking notes in case I receive that message from you

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"If someone has sent you a photo or vice versa, and don't feel attracted. What is the best course of action? Blocking, explaining, ghosting..

I thought explaining was the right thing to do but i did that to someone recently & it didn't go down well. Someone blocked me recently to, that wasn't nice but at least it is clear. Thoughts?"

Thanks for your message.

Don't need to expand unless they push for a reason.

Honesty is the best policy is what you tell kids, in my experience being totally honest is certainly not the best policy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I actually lie, I say thanks for your message but I've actually just met someone. Good luck in your search. That's my response.

Taking notes in case I receive that message from you "

Ps love your profile

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"If someone has sent you a photo or vice versa, and don't feel attracted. What is the best course of action? Blocking, explaining, ghosting..

I thought explaining was the right thing to do but i did that to someone recently & it didn't go down well. Someone blocked me recently to, that wasn't nice but at least it is clear. Thoughts?"

It's a site rule that if someone deletes a messages, its a no I'm not interested. Not something I agree with and I'm of the same opinion as you that a polite no thanks suffices. I've been called out on this in previous posts similar to this before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No means no, and if the person doesn’t accept that, there’s a block button …"

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"It depends on a few variables for me.

My profile makes perfectly clear what I’m looking for. If I receive an unsolicited picture out with what I’m looking for I will at the very least delete and block. Occasionally I’ll reply and explain that I didn’t appreciate the picture because my profile made clear I wouldn’t want to receive it (that’s usually only if it’s a picture of genitals).

If the picture sent is in line with what I’m looking for in general, but perhaps not to my taste I’ll generally chat with the person and let them know they’re not for me. My profile makes it clear that I don’t meet strangers through Fab, so it’s easy enough to just say that if our paths cross I’ll say hi. That’s it.

From experience I try not to engage with anyone much until I know what they look like, I’ve had a few awkward conversations where I haven’t had a pic up front. "

Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

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By *entle VoyeurMan
over a year ago

Adel, Leeds

From a single male perspective, a thanks but no thanks is fine. If I’m being honest I don’t like it when people block you after saying no - I understand why I guess (the whinging and questions) but personally I still like looking at their pics

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

I've had my fair share of rejections. Whilst all are disappointing none are worth getting worked up about.

If my message is deleted I'll just shrug and put it down to experience.

If they send a polite "no thanks" message I'll sometimes reply with a "fair enough, all the best" and sometimes, again, shrug and put it down to experience - all depends on how their reply is worded.

Where I get confused is when messages are read but not deleted or replied to. Usually I'll go to my default shrug, but sometimes, at a later point, may send another message.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"It depends on a few variables for me.

My profile makes perfectly clear what I’m looking for. If I receive an unsolicited picture out with what I’m looking for I will at the very least delete and block. Occasionally I’ll reply and explain that I didn’t appreciate the picture because my profile made clear I wouldn’t want to receive it (that’s usually only if it’s a picture of genitals).

If the picture sent is in line with what I’m looking for in general, but perhaps not to my taste I’ll generally chat with the person and let them know they’re not for me. My profile makes it clear that I don’t meet strangers through Fab, so it’s easy enough to just say that if our paths cross I’ll say hi. That’s it.

From experience I try not to engage with anyone much until I know what they look like, I’ve had a few awkward conversations where I haven’t had a pic up front.

Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

"

If a profile is hidden isn’t it generally taken to mean that they aren’t looking? That’s what mine means. No one has a chance at the moment. That’s the point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No thank you and block if necessary (it usually isn't on our case). There's no need for an explanation it's often not asked for or welcome. If someone does ask for an explanation 9/10 it's so they can argue that your reasons are invalid.

In short be polite, unambiguous and firm

What about if they have said something thats a dealbreaker, but been chatting for a while.? I'm way too conscientious for this site!

It's entirely up to you and if you feel you owe the person an explanation then give one. However my personal opinion is that you can spend an awful lot of time worrying about someone who really isn't giving you much thought. "

True. I used to say just not my type but its caused such a backlash, im now thinking differently about the blockers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If someone has sent you a photo or vice versa, and don't feel attracted. What is the best course of action? Blocking, explaining, ghosting..

I thought explaining was the right thing to do but i did that to someone recently & it didn't go down well. Someone blocked me recently to, that wasn't nice but at least it is clear. Thoughts?

Thanks for your message.

Don't need to expand unless they push for a reason.

Honesty is the best policy is what you tell kids, in my experience being totally honest is certainly not the best policy.

"

I don't mean things like

"I don't like your face" lol

Just mean

"You re not my type etc" wether to mention at all

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Not my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block, job done. This sites harsh af, us mere males don't have to deal with it anyway.

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall


"If someone has sent you a photo or vice versa, and don't feel attracted. What is the best course of action? Blocking, explaining, ghosting..

I thought explaining was the right thing to do but i did that to someone recently & it didn't go down well. Someone blocked me recently to, that wasn't nice but at least it is clear. Thoughts?"

I would personally prefer a message saying thanks but no thanks (and i have gotten them), but i do know that no reply is 90% the case that they aren't interested.

It states somewhere that you aren't obliged to say no thanks. Just no response should be enough.

If people can't accept that you have said 'thanks but not thanks' sorta thing... then block them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone has sent you a photo or vice versa, and don't feel attracted. What is the best course of action? Blocking, explaining, ghosting..

I thought explaining was the right thing to do but i did that to someone recently & it didn't go down well. Someone blocked me recently to, that wasn't nice but at least it is clear. Thoughts?

............................

If someone has taken the time to read my profile and message accordingly I'll always respond positively even if they're not for me."

Yes exactly this - I feel the same. Always try and reply politely even if it’s a no thank you

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No is a complete sentence.

Most men I've had message on here will come back with some reason I should reconsider.

I use it then to block because if they can't respect no via a message, they're not gonna respect a no in person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No is a complete sentence.

Most men I've had message on here will come back with some reason I should reconsider.

I use it then to block because if they can't respect no via a message, they're not gonna respect a no in person. "

Interesting

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall


"No is a complete sentence.

Most men I've had message on here will come back with some reason I should reconsider.

I use it then to block because if they can't respect no via a message, they're not gonna respect a no in person. "

See that's where a those guys but some of us other guys in the similar boat.

Personally when i get a message saying no.. I'll say something like oh damn, well thank you for responding. have a good one.

There is no need to push it any further.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

If I’ve replied prior and then asked for a face pic to which they agreed, I explain I’m not attracted.

If they send it without my ask and I’m not attracted, just delete x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd just say thanks but no thanks and block ,so they can't come back with any why's etc ."

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Put no mingers at top of your profile

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"If I’ve replied prior and then asked for a face pic to which they agreed, I explain I’m not attracted.

If they send it without my ask and I’m not attracted, just delete x"

I get this a lot when my face is revealed! It's a bit of a gut punch but a perfectly reasonable response and a polite rejection.

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"It depends on a few variables for me.

My profile makes perfectly clear what I’m looking for. If I receive an unsolicited picture out with what I’m looking for I will at the very least delete and block. Occasionally I’ll reply and explain that I didn’t appreciate the picture because my profile made clear I wouldn’t want to receive it (that’s usually only if it’s a picture of genitals).

If the picture sent is in line with what I’m looking for in general, but perhaps not to my taste I’ll generally chat with the person and let them know they’re not for me. My profile makes it clear that I don’t meet strangers through Fab, so it’s easy enough to just say that if our paths cross I’ll say hi. That’s it.

From experience I try not to engage with anyone much until I know what they look like, I’ve had a few awkward conversations where I haven’t had a pic up front.

Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

If a profile is hidden isn’t it generally taken to mean that they aren’t looking? That’s what mine means. No one has a chance at the moment. That’s the point. "

Can't say I've heard that a hidden profile means not interested. Everyday a school day!

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By *scarpatMan
over a year ago

sexy town


"I just say sorry not for me but good luck. "

I get this all the time!

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sadly the motto treat others as you would like to be treated yourself doesn't seem to be a thing on here.

All you have to say is no , then you know we're you are rather than feeling like Schrodinger's cat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd just say thanks but no thanks and block ,so they can't come back with any why's etc . "

Same here

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"It depends on a few variables for me.

My profile makes perfectly clear what I’m looking for. If I receive an unsolicited picture out with what I’m looking for I will at the very least delete and block. Occasionally I’ll reply and explain that I didn’t appreciate the picture because my profile made clear I wouldn’t want to receive it (that’s usually only if it’s a picture of genitals).

If the picture sent is in line with what I’m looking for in general, but perhaps not to my taste I’ll generally chat with the person and let them know they’re not for me. My profile makes it clear that I don’t meet strangers through Fab, so it’s easy enough to just say that if our paths cross I’ll say hi. That’s it.

From experience I try not to engage with anyone much until I know what they look like, I’ve had a few awkward conversations where I haven’t had a pic up front.

Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

If a profile is hidden isn’t it generally taken to mean that they aren’t looking? That’s what mine means. No one has a chance at the moment. That’s the point.

Can't say I've heard that a hidden profile means not interested. Everyday a school day!"

What would you think it means?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I’ve replied prior and then asked for a face pic to which they agreed, I explain I’m not attracted.

If they send it without my ask and I’m not attracted, just delete x"

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"It depends on a few variables for me.

My profile makes perfectly clear what I’m looking for. If I receive an unsolicited picture out with what I’m looking for I will at the very least delete and block. Occasionally I’ll reply and explain that I didn’t appreciate the picture because my profile made clear I wouldn’t want to receive it (that’s usually only if it’s a picture of genitals).

If the picture sent is in line with what I’m looking for in general, but perhaps not to my taste I’ll generally chat with the person and let them know they’re not for me. My profile makes it clear that I don’t meet strangers through Fab, so it’s easy enough to just say that if our paths cross I’ll say hi. That’s it.

From experience I try not to engage with anyone much until I know what they look like, I’ve had a few awkward conversations where I haven’t had a pic up front.

Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

If a profile is hidden isn’t it generally taken to mean that they aren’t looking? That’s what mine means. No one has a chance at the moment. That’s the point.

Can't say I've heard that a hidden profile means not interested. Everyday a school day!

What would you think it means? "

Personal reasons?

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We always try and reply. I simply write you are not my type.

If someone has a problem with that they shouldn't be swinging. You can't be everyone's cup of tea x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just say “Thanks for the message but you’re not what we are looking for.” Any follow up questions are ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

If a profile is hidden isn’t it generally taken to mean that they aren’t looking? That’s what mine means. No one has a chance at the moment. That’s the point.

Can't say I've heard that a hidden profile means not interested. Everyday a school day!

What would you think it means?

Personal reasons?"

If you walked up to someone's house and all the lights were off and the curtains pulled shut would you think they'd be fancying popping the kettle on for you and start ringing the bell and banging on the door?

Setting a profile to private is the online version of shutting the curtains.

Lots do it for lots of reasons.

You seem smart enough to grasp this so I'm not sure why you're persisting.

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"

Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

If a profile is hidden isn’t it generally taken to mean that they aren’t looking? That’s what mine means. No one has a chance at the moment. That’s the point.

Can't say I've heard that a hidden profile means not interested. Everyday a school day!

What would you think it means?

Personal reasons?

If you walked up to someone's house and all the lights were off and the curtains pulled shut would you think they'd be fancying popping the kettle on for you and start ringing the bell and banging on the door?

Setting a profile to private is the online version of shutting the curtains.

Lots do it for lots of reasons.

You seem smart enough to grasp this so I'm not sure why you're persisting."

I have genuinely asked a few questions. Not called anyone our fot their choices but it Looks like it offends on here when you dare ask a question. I'll go and mute myself in the corner.

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By *aughtynottsCouple
over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

I always politely reply with something along the lines of:

Thanks for your time / message but your not for us happy fabbing

If the chats going south as in they’ve said something I don’t like or I change my mind later on. I say:

We've decided we just don’t think we’d be compatible but thank you for taking the time to message us, happy fabbing. After this one I usually block.

Occasionally people say why not and that annoys me but mostly they say thanks back and we all go about our day lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

If a profile is hidden isn’t it generally taken to mean that they aren’t looking? That’s what mine means. No one has a chance at the moment. That’s the point.

Can't say I've heard that a hidden profile means not interested. Everyday a school day!

What would you think it means?

Personal reasons?

If you walked up to someone's house and all the lights were off and the curtains pulled shut would you think they'd be fancying popping the kettle on for you and start ringing the bell and banging on the door?

Setting a profile to private is the online version of shutting the curtains.

Lots do it for lots of reasons.

You seem smart enough to grasp this so I'm not sure why you're persisting.

I have genuinely asked a few questions. Not called anyone our fot their choices but it Looks like it offends on here when you dare ask a question. I'll go and mute myself in the corner. "

No one seems offended, unless you are, so no need.

Just having a conversation & illustrating a point to try and understand eachother

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By *densweet23Couple
over a year ago

sheffield

Thanks for your message. I wish you look

with your search however at the moment you aren't what we are looking for.

Our needs and preferences do change so we'll be sure to message you if anything changes!

Happy Fabbing

Xx

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"

Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

If a profile is hidden isn’t it generally taken to mean that they aren’t looking? That’s what mine means. No one has a chance at the moment. That’s the point.

Can't say I've heard that a hidden profile means not interested. Everyday a school day!

What would you think it means?

Personal reasons?

If you walked up to someone's house and all the lights were off and the curtains pulled shut would you think they'd be fancying popping the kettle on for you and start ringing the bell and banging on the door?

Setting a profile to private is the online version of shutting the curtains.

Lots do it for lots of reasons.

You seem smart enough to grasp this so I'm not sure why you're persisting.

I have genuinely asked a few questions. Not called anyone our fot their choices but it Looks like it offends on here when you dare ask a question. I'll go and mute myself in the corner.

No one seems offended, unless you are, so no need.

Just having a conversation & illustrating a point to try and understand eachother "

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"It depends on a few variables for me.

My profile makes perfectly clear what I’m looking for. If I receive an unsolicited picture out with what I’m looking for I will at the very least delete and block. Occasionally I’ll reply and explain that I didn’t appreciate the picture because my profile made clear I wouldn’t want to receive it (that’s usually only if it’s a picture of genitals).

If the picture sent is in line with what I’m looking for in general, but perhaps not to my taste I’ll generally chat with the person and let them know they’re not for me. My profile makes it clear that I don’t meet strangers through Fab, so it’s easy enough to just say that if our paths cross I’ll say hi. That’s it.

From experience I try not to engage with anyone much until I know what they look like, I’ve had a few awkward conversations where I haven’t had a pic up front.

Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

If a profile is hidden isn’t it generally taken to mean that they aren’t looking? That’s what mine means. No one has a chance at the moment. That’s the point.

Can't say I've heard that a hidden profile means not interested. Everyday a school day!

What would you think it means?

Personal reasons?"

Yeah it could be anything personal to that person, but it general I think it’s a signal that that person isn’t available for interaction, whatever their reasons may be. For me it’s just sitting in the dark for a bit so people can’t see me

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"It depends on a few variables for me.

My profile makes perfectly clear what I’m looking for. If I receive an unsolicited picture out with what I’m looking for I will at the very least delete and block. Occasionally I’ll reply and explain that I didn’t appreciate the picture because my profile made clear I wouldn’t want to receive it (that’s usually only if it’s a picture of genitals).

If the picture sent is in line with what I’m looking for in general, but perhaps not to my taste I’ll generally chat with the person and let them know they’re not for me. My profile makes it clear that I don’t meet strangers through Fab, so it’s easy enough to just say that if our paths cross I’ll say hi. That’s it.

From experience I try not to engage with anyone much until I know what they look like, I’ve had a few awkward conversations where I haven’t had a pic up front.

Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

If a profile is hidden isn’t it generally taken to mean that they aren’t looking? That’s what mine means. No one has a chance at the moment. That’s the point.

Can't say I've heard that a hidden profile means not interested. Everyday a school day!

What would you think it means?

Personal reasons?

Yeah it could be anything personal to that person, but it general I think it’s a signal that that person isn’t available for interaction, whatever their reasons may be. For me it’s just sitting in the dark for a bit so people can’t see me "

Understood I wasn't having a go, was genuinely curious

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By *9erloverMan
over a year ago

Sleepy Dorset

Been rejected recently after sending a face pic because I looked like her brother. At least I had an explanation. Thinking that blocking or ghosting without an explanation is just rude and those fabbers can do one anyway

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"It depends on a few variables for me.

My profile makes perfectly clear what I’m looking for. If I receive an unsolicited picture out with what I’m looking for I will at the very least delete and block. Occasionally I’ll reply and explain that I didn’t appreciate the picture because my profile made clear I wouldn’t want to receive it (that’s usually only if it’s a picture of genitals).

If the picture sent is in line with what I’m looking for in general, but perhaps not to my taste I’ll generally chat with the person and let them know they’re not for me. My profile makes it clear that I don’t meet strangers through Fab, so it’s easy enough to just say that if our paths cross I’ll say hi. That’s it.

From experience I try not to engage with anyone much until I know what they look like, I’ve had a few awkward conversations where I haven’t had a pic up front.

Your profile is hidden, what chance has anyone got, with respect.

If a profile is hidden isn’t it generally taken to mean that they aren’t looking? That’s what mine means. No one has a chance at the moment. That’s the point.

Can't say I've heard that a hidden profile means not interested. Everyday a school day!

What would you think it means?

Personal reasons?

Yeah it could be anything personal to that person, but it general I think it’s a signal that that person isn’t available for interaction, whatever their reasons may be. For me it’s just sitting in the dark for a bit so people can’t see me

Understood I wasn't having a go, was genuinely curious"

No I didn’t think you were, I was genuinely curious what you thought it meant too.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Got to be cruel to be kind. I just block after saying no thanks happy fabbing if they keep messaging you. There's a lot of face pics that don't really match the body. It's sex after all, you need to be at least physically attracted to someone. Although some men complain, just because they're not photogenic doesn't mean they're not good in bed. Yes, but not applicable on fab. Hence clubs are more natural way of meeting

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think first depends if its a very early or unsolicited photo v one sent after a rapport has already been established.

I think for the former a simple no thanks or delet and block if fine. You don't owe anyone anything.

However with the later a response is the only right course. In which case its still important to be clear and honest. Maybe a simple I've enjoyed our conversations however I'm looking to tick all my boxes and your not what I am personally attracted to physically (or words to that effect). Naturally if they are a decent well rounded individual they will perfectly understand and it'll be a fine break. If however their not and kick off it just further strengthens your decision they were a wrong decision and delete and block.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

It’s always nice to be polite so we always say sorry your not what we’re looking for .

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Too many people can't accept rejection, so it's usually best to ignore and block.

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By *corcherMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

I usually get the "sorry not my type" reply from a face pic. It's disappointing, but what are you going to do? I just say thanks & move on. It's much nicer getting a reply than getting no reply or blocked, but then each to their own. You just have to live with it.

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