FabSwingers.com forum: Professional people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It really does amuse me when profiles state that they are looking for ‘professional people’ - and I’m seeing this more and more recently.

But what does that mean exactly? That they don’t want to meet or play with someone without a certain level of qualification? That they would rule out someone because of the job they do?

Interested to see what other’s perception of this requirement is and even to hear from those who look for ‘professional people’ to find out what their motivation is.

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By *ece_himCouple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Read a professional profile yesterday that was basically talking down on people. All about what they don't want. Regional accents, spelling mistakes in bio, certain clothes, tattoos.

Surely it's much easier to say what you're looking for and you can just ignore the people that don't take your fancy. Also, use message filters.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Read a professional profile yesterday that was basically talking down on people. All about what they don't want. Regional accents, spelling mistakes in bio, certain clothes, tattoos.

Surely it's much easier to say what you're looking for and you can just ignore the people that don't take your fancy. Also, use message filters."

Regardless of ease, positive profiles are much more attractive than negative ones.

Generally, I think people infer from "professional" that they are middle class and have a decent income.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Professional and discrete looking for #youknowwhoyouare

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Yes. We only accept applications from PhD candidates these days.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Personally, I dislike the idea of stooping to the level of mere 'professional'. Having had to work around the half-wittery and baseless pomposity of many such so-called 'professionals' over the years, I find the idea sordid and degrading.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I always understood “professional” as referring to someone career-oriented:

Works a lot, as their career is the main focus, and uses their free time to seek out hedonistic pleasures. As such, they have an understanding of what other busy professionals deal with, and can conduct themselves accordingly in terms of their interests, conversation topics, how they dres, etc.

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

"It really does amuse me when profiles state that they are looking for ‘professional people’ - and I’m seeing this more and more recently.

But what does that mean exactly? That they don’t want to meet or play with someone without a certain level of qualification? That they would rule out someone because of the job they do?

Interested to see what other’s perception of this requirement is and even to hear from those who look for ‘professional people’ to find out what their motivation is.

Professional person= anyone with a job!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always understood “professional” as referring to someone career-oriented:

Possibly. I know we would have missed out on some amazing experiences had we only looked for professional people. Each to their own though, I guess.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I always understood “professional” as referring to someone career-oriented:

Possibly. I know we would have missed out on some amazing experiences had we only looked for professional people. Each to their own though, I guess. "

Likewise.

I understand why some folks use it as part of their screening process, but it isn’t a limiting factor for me personally.

That said, i think the meaning has changed over the years. I imagine you’ll get a wide variety of responses on this thread alone.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"It really does amuse me when profiles state that they are looking for ‘professional people’ - and I’m seeing this more and more recently.

But what does that mean exactly? That they don’t want to meet or play with someone without a certain level of qualification? That they would rule out someone because of the job they do?

Interested to see what other’s perception of this requirement is and even to hear from those who look for ‘professional people’ to find out what their motivation is.

We sometimes get winks and messages from profiles that say they're Professional and looking for Professional people, we're not too sure if they've read our profile or not.

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By *ortherner81Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

"I always understood “professional” as referring to someone career-oriented:

This is a great summary of what goes through my head when I see it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I look at the profile as a whole rather than just one word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Professional defining a distinction, career orientated life and not much time for others maybe.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I generally take it as career oriented and not much free time or used as a reason for no face pics.

I do wonder why it needs to be said though and not just that I've limited time and don't want to give face pics immediately.

A professional could be anything a professional cleaner or a professional doctor.

Either way professional or not makes no odds weather we like or dislike the person is all that matters.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Nobody complains about the many men who describe themselves as truckers or lorry drivers.

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By *as2cheatMan
over a year ago

harrow

"Read a professional profile yesterday that was basically talking down on people. All about what they don't want. Regional accents, spelling mistakes in bio, certain clothes, tattoos.

Surely it's much easier to say what you're looking for and you can just ignore the people that don't take your fancy. Also, use message filters."

People love a pedestal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile mentioned professional because people not respecting our privacy and using our pictures etc could cost us our jobs.

We don't earn above average wages, we aren't looking for middle or upper class people to share our fun with and we respect/treat everyone how we expect to be treated xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Professional equals grew up on a council estate but now drinks over priced coffee from M&S.... or basically pretentious picks.

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY

See the first bit of our profile. It covers the meaning of `Professional`, - and all the other cliches that people use.

Scroll down to the bottom for further cliches. You don`t have to read the whole profile.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Our profile mentioned professional because people not respecting our privacy and using our pictures etc could cost us our jobs.

We don't earn above average wages, we aren't looking for middle or upper class people to share our fun with and we respect/treat everyone how we expect to be treated xx

I think that's what most people mean. Personally I can't see anything wrong with describing oneself as professional and I honestly have no idea why people get so annoyed and upset about it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I generally take it as career oriented and not much free time or used as a reason for no face pics.

I do wonder why it needs to be said though and not just that I've limited time and don't want to give face pics immediately.

A professional could be anything a professional cleaner or a professional doctor.

Either way professional or not makes no odds weather we like or dislike the person is all that matters.

Mrs "

Ah it was more people looking for professional people rather than saying they are professional themselves but maybe they go hand in hand?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nobody complains about the many men who describe themselves as truckers or lorry drivers. "

Oh I’m not complaining. Just curious. I can understand why a truck driver says he’s a truck driver. As in he is often in different locations and perhaps looking for a fuck in his cab. People don’t generally say they seek truck drivers though I don’t think.

It was more what that means to people who seek professional people and why they limit themselves to doctors, lawyers, etc etc. Or perhaps that’s not what professional means anymore. Really not saying it’s wrong, just interested to find out what it means and why.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Our profile mentioned professional because people not respecting our privacy and using our pictures etc could cost us our jobs.

We don't earn above average wages, we aren't looking for middle or upper class people to share our fun with and we respect/treat everyone how we expect to be treated xx

I can totally understand that. We need anonymity because of our business (not professional). It was more people seeking professional people - do you think it’s easier to feel comfortable with other professionals as you understand each other’s dynamic and need for discretion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree ….no one wants to hear what you don’t want

What would you like to drink? - I don’t want a fruity cider or anything fizzy Ermm so what would you like to drink ?

FFS

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"See the first bit of our profile. It covers the meaning of `Professional`, - and all the other cliches that people use.

Scroll down to the bottom for further cliches. You don`t have to read the whole profile."

Love it! See you in GC in October!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought professional was somebody who is paid for what they do ?? Which probably make the majority of the working / middle class qualify …..and also sexworkers and premier league footballers

And if you take into account universal credit then they are being paid too …

So really a better word than professional needs to be used !

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

We had a guy start at work a number of years ago at section head level. He introduced himself as being the most professional person in the organisation! Every meeting he prattled on about being "professional". I nicknamed him Bodie (70s/80s telly reference!) and it was quickly adopted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Professional equals grew up on a council estate but now drinks over priced coffee from M&S.... or basically pretentious picks. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our profile mentioned professional because people not respecting our privacy and using our pictures etc could cost us our jobs.

We don't earn above average wages, we aren't looking for middle or upper class people to share our fun with and we respect/treat everyone how we expect to be treated xx

Surely if haveing fun in your free time will cost you your job then should you really be doing it? I mean we cant have it both ways. Very interesting debate to have tho.

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

A lot of the so called professional people can't spell

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

"A lot of the so called professional people can't spell"

Indeed, it's very noticeable.

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY

Love it! See you in GC in October! "

Look forward to it.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It's probably our number one pet hate.

Being professional, work wise or self proclaimed bollocks is completely irrelevant to swinging.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"A lot of the so called professional people can't spell"

Do you need to be able to spell to enter a profession? I know of a lot of doctors whose writing is illegible and can't spell. I know if a chartered surveyor who's dyslexic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to meet people that are like minded and that we've got on with during a group chat xx

We don't care if you are unemployed, a single Mum working two jobs or a billionaire, if there is a connection and everyone is happy that's what matters to us xx

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I always thought the mention of professionals just refers to the type of jobs that won't appreciate the knowledge that there employees are indulging in this lifestyle and I can respect that. I work in education and I don't think It's any person's dream of being mention as a swinger at the next school governors meeting lol

Would I class myself as a professional? I won't go that far lol I barely know what I'm doing now so barely a pro am I

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY

"We like to meet people that are like minded and that we've got on with during a group chat xx

We don't care if you are unemployed, a single Mum working two jobs or a billionaire, if there is a connection and everyone is happy that's what matters to us xx"

Exactly this.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

For goodness sake, just let people run their own profile as they want.

Don't like "professionals" then avoid them, similarly if you don't like overweight people who describe themselves as athletic, unsexy people who describe themselves as sexy, bi guys who describe themselves as straight, married men who describe themselves as single and so on and so on.

Swingers are supposed to be tolerant, so why go bashing people because of a word you either don't understand, don't like, or brings out the inverted snob in you. Get a life.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Cant show my face here as need to be discrete due to my job...but heres my phone number and wassap or i will send on any other app imaginable lmao I never understand the logic in that.

Just like prison is full of innocent people, fab is full of professionals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would class professional as something that needs a degree,solicitor,architect something along them lines.

I work in the construction industry and have a trade,we do things correctly none of this cowboy shit but I wouldn't class myself as professional but I would call myself a tradesman.

I guess people are looking for similar kinds of people who they connect with rather than meeting people who they have nothing in common with,I wouldn't class tgem as up their own arses it's just a word describing their level of occupation.

Like every thing you can take it as someone thinking they are above you looking down or you can take it as a its probably ment to be taken as in narrowing down the search field to save wasting time on people who your just not going to click with.

Just my interpretation anyway

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"I always thought the mention of professionals just refers to the type of jobs that won't appreciate the knowledge that there employees are indulging in this lifestyle and I can respect that. I work in education and I don't think It's any person's dream of being mention as a swinger at the next school governors meeting lol

Would I class myself as a professional? I won't go that far lol I barely know what I'm doing now so barely a pro am I

Anyone who undergoes teaching/training for a job is a professional. Some just think they are more important than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure on this either… I guess it’s an individuals perception on wether someone is a professional or not but personally if you take whatever you do seriously your being professional about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would I class myself as a professional? I won't go that far lol I barely know what I'm doing now so barely a pro am I

Exactly this it's the job that requires these things not the people that do them.

Teachers, Police, Government etc can't have their pictures everywhere because their jobs are on the line xx

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

They want to meet people who know what it means. If you don't know, it's not you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"They want to meet people who know what it means. If you don't know, it's not you

Like a secret club with a handshake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would class professional as something that needs a degree,solicitor,architect something along them lines.

I work in the construction industry and have a trade,we do things correctly none of this cowboy shit but I wouldn't class myself as professional but I would call myself a tradesman.

Just my interpretation anyway"

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington

"It really does amuse me when profiles state that they are looking for ‘professional people’ - and I’m seeing this more and more recently.

But what does that mean exactly? That they don’t want to meet or play with someone without a certain level of qualification? That they would rule out someone because of the job they do?

Interested to see what other’s perception of this requirement is and even to hear from those who look for ‘professional people’ to find out what their motivation is.

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everyone who has served an apprenticeship gone to uni took a number of years to gain the skills to do a type of job is a professional,,, seen a guy on here a few years ago saying he is a professional,,, he drove down the street with 4 other guys collecting the green dustbins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. We only accept applications from PhD candidates these days."

Nice one ! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My interpretation is that it just means someone works, probably in am office?! ... So they are available evenings /weekends?!

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By *ustyMilfxxxCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

"Professional equals grew up on a council estate but now drinks over priced coffee from M&S.... or basically pretentious picks. "

Bit harsh.

My partner and I are both “professionals”. We both grew up in council estates, I for one was dragged up. Tbh if I was growing up now, hell I would have probs ended up in care.

I like nice coffee ( not M&S)

Does that make either of us pretentious? Does it hell.

Maybe don’t make assumptions ?

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"For goodness sake, just let people run their own profile as they want.

Swingers are supposed to be tolerant, so why go bashing people because of a word you either don't understand, don't like, or brings out the inverted snob in you. Get a life."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all replies. I think some have the wrong end of my stick as my question wasn’t why do people describe themselves as professional but why do some people only seek professionals. On reflection, because I do understand that everyone has a search criteria even if they don’t admit to it, maybe I was more interested in what ‘professional’ means these days and why that would be something to use as a search criteria. Great discussion about it here though and interesting to read especially as we keep our net quite wide and options firmly open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Professional equals grew up on a council estate but now drinks over priced coffee from M&S.... or basically pretentious picks.

Bit harsh.

My partner and I are both “professionals”. We both grew up in council estates, I for one was dragged up. Tbh if I was growing up now, hell I would have probs ended up in care.

I like nice coffee ( not M&S)

Does that make either of us pretentious? Does it hell.

Maybe don’t make assumptions ?"

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Code for they don't want to play with riff raf and chavs, acts like a windbreaker, keeps the unwanted elements on fab at bay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for all replies. I think some have the wrong end of my stick as my question wasn’t why do people describe themselves as professional but why do some people only seek professionals. On reflection, because I do understand that everyone has a search criteria even if they don’t admit to it, maybe I was more interested in what ‘professional’ means these days and why that would be something to use as a search criteria. Great discussion about it here though and interesting to read especially as we keep our net quite wide and options firmly open. "

I think many use the word to put off the type of people that it pisses off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are way too invested in picking apart the wording on others profiles!

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By *eeds fun guyMan
over a year ago

yorkshire

I think many use the word to put off the type of people that it pisses off.

Outsider - That’s a great answer

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think it's the non professionals that get the most annoyed at it

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