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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If someone couldn’t accommodate and only ever messages first thing in the morning and last thing at night, would you assume they’re attached?

Its screaming red flags to me but maybe I’m overthinking it!

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By *incskinksCouple
over a year ago

lincoln

If it’s screaming red flags to you then maybe it’s best to trust your instinct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages morning and evening only makes me think they just work during the day.

If attached wouldn’t you assume they spend mornings and nights with their partner?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Messages morning and evening only makes me think they just work during the day.

If attached wouldn’t you assume they spend mornings and nights with their partner?"

I’d assume that during the day on a weekend that they’d be out doing stuff with their wife and/or kids!

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"If someone couldn’t accommodate and only ever messages first thing in the morning and last thing at night, would you assume they’re attached?

Its screaming red flags to me but maybe I’m overthinking it!"

There's many reasons why people can't accommodate and they might be working during the day.

But at the end of the day , go with your gut instinct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always go with your gut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't assume anything, people have lives outside of here so I only expect them to message when they can. If you feel strongly about them being attached then listen to your gut, otherwise it shouldn't matter too much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't assume anything, people have lives outside of here so I only expect them to message when they can. If you feel strongly about them being attached then listen to your gut, otherwise it shouldn't matter too much."

I feel strongly about them being attached! So I’ll go with my gut instinct I think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gut instinct is normally right but as others have said the may not log in while working

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By *ad boy maverickMan
over a year ago

basildon

I do a full time job and a part time locksmith so it can keep me busy. If your really unsure get a burner phone and call him from that. Won't be difficult to check.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to always go with your gut OP. don’t second guess yourself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always trust your gut OP

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We instinctively recognise normal. Gut feeling is us instinctively recognising what isn't normal.

In this instance there could be loads of reasons including he's married but also he has a job where he can't use his phone or even that he only logs in to fab twice a day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We instinctively recognise normal. Gut feeling is us instinctively recognising what isn't normal.

In this instance there could be loads of reasons including he's married but also he has a job where he can't use his phone or even that he only logs in to fab twice a day"

He doesn’t work weekends which rules out work, think I’m gonna have to go with my gut on this one!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We instinctively recognise normal. Gut feeling is us instinctively recognising what isn't normal.

In this instance there could be loads of reasons including he's married but also he has a job where he can't use his phone or even that he only logs in to fab twice a day

He doesn’t work weekends which rules out work, think I’m gonna have to go with my gut on this one! "

Well you strike me as someone who usually knows her own mind. If you feel it's wrong I'd go with that

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By *ndiiiMan
over a year ago

Paisley Scotland

Gut instinct is seldom wrong.

Yes there could be numerous reasons but if your not feeling it follow your gut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There a million reasons why someone may show such behaviour, but if they do not fit your pattern then it is better to leave well alone because the heebie-jeebies rarely go away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always trust your gut OP "

Exactly x

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

Ask what sort of times he would like to meet. If can't do weekends and preference is for 3pm on a Wednesday afternoon then attached Sooooo many men can't meet at weekends for some odd reason

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Go with your gut, I'd say maybe working but your gut feelings are usually right.

Mrs

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd be suspicious

Not of the can't accommodate alone,but only messaging first & last thing makes me think it's when a partner is in bed or has gone to work etc.

Always trust your gut and you won't go far wrong .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't assume anything, people have lives outside of here so I only expect them to message when they can. If you feel strongly about them being attached then listen to your gut, otherwise it shouldn't matter too much.

I feel strongly about them being attached! So I’ll go with my gut instinct I think! "

Ha e you asked them out right if they are attached?

KJ

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"We instinctively recognise normal. Gut feeling is us instinctively recognising what isn't normal.

In this instance there could be loads of reasons including he's married but also he has a job where he can't use his phone or even that he only logs in to fab twice a day

He doesn’t work weekends which rules out work, think I’m gonna have to go with my gut on this one! "

Ask for a phone chat that usually s out the married guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone couldn’t accommodate and only ever messages first thing in the morning and last thing at night, would you assume they’re attached?

Its screaming red flags to me but maybe I’m overthinking it!"

My advice would be- don't advertise on your profile that you won't meet attached men. Say you're fine with it as long as they are honest.

That way they will tell you they are attached... and you can tell them to fuck off.

People will lie to get sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We instinctively recognise normal. Gut feeling is us instinctively recognising what isn't normal.

In this instance there could be loads of reasons including he's married but also he has a job where he can't use his phone or even that he only logs in to fab twice a day

He doesn’t work weekends which rules out work, think I’m gonna have to go with my gut on this one!

Ask for a phone chat that usually s out the married guys"

Several times ....... I can't chat or message on phone because it's a work phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they go off line on a night is usually a sign they're attached.

If you're messaging tonight ask them to call. Guys always wanna call!! If they say no, it's probably because the wife is sat at the other end of the sofa.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

One thing I’ve learned on fab is that if something feels off, it usually is.

Go with your gut on that one.

As others have already said, there might be different reasons for why someone isn’t communicating during the day, the work being most likely.

For me, if someone is quite chatty during the day and then goes radio silent after 5pm and on weekends, that’s a huge red flag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or in work

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'd just ask them outright and find out that way if there was something I wanted to know.

Other than that I go with my gut instinct as it's usually pretty spot on with things.

But someone just on in the morning and evenings would say more to me that they work unless at any point they won't speak at other times even when not working. The not accomadating would just mean to me that they are like I am and don't want to be bringing people they don't know well to their home. That is never a red flag to me it is a sensible decision in my eyes on here to not accomadate no matter what your gender is until you know they are trustworthy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd just ask them outright and find out that way if there was something I wanted to know.

Other than that I go with my gut instinct as it's usually pretty spot on with things.

But someone just on in the morning and evenings would say more to me that they work unless at any point they won't speak at other times even when not working. The not accomadating would just mean to me that they are like I am and don't want to be bringing people they don't know well to their home. That is never a red flag to me it is a sensible decision in my eyes on here to not accomadate no matter what your gender is until you know they are trustworthy. "

See for me cannot accommodate is a red flag and almost every time I’ve turned someone down because of it, I’ve been proven right as they usually confess! It’s not foolproof of course but just another way for me to try to avoid attached guys, if some genuinely single guys get caught up in it then so be it.

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