FabSwingers.com forum: How hard is this?!

By *r_Mrs_Fox OP Couple
over a year ago

Wantage

So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.

We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.

“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.

Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?

Didn’t think it would be this difficult

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By *ornysquirtingcoupleCouple
over a year ago

somerset

When it comes to single men in my opinion the verifications are a good guide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.

We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.

“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.

No I wouldn’t say so I think it’s just hard work in general. I’ve been stood up cancelled on last min the lot but I keep trying haha. Genuine male here if I’m your type x

Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?

Didn’t think it would be this difficult

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We don't meet single males, but in general we always check verifications it's usually a good guide, good luck I'm sure many males will be commenting.

Mrs

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By *r_Mrs_Fox OP Couple
over a year ago

Wantage

"When it comes to single men in my opinion the verifications are a good guide."

Even the ones with verifications have been let downs

Hey ho… maybe one evening we’ll find someone to play

it’s just annoying because I get ready and all that for ages for like nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.

We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.

“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.

Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?

Didn’t think it would be this difficult

It's just as frustrating for some couples.

Years ago we was either very lucky or fab has now gone shit, we stopped trying to get meets from the site and found clubs a lot more fun and far less time consuming..

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

Pretty much why when we do meet singles, it's always (at least the first time) in a club. That way, if they can't make it for whatever reason on the Big List Of Excuses, we'll be at a club and have plenty of fun.

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By *ornysquirtingcoupleCouple
over a year ago

somerset

"When it comes to single men in my opinion the verifications are a good guide.

Even the ones with verifications have been let downs

Hey ho… maybe one evening we’ll find someone to play

it’s just annoying because I get ready and all that for ages for like nothing."

We have had the same but just have to grateful we can play with each other if it all does not work out.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No idea what we do that's different but we've never had a no show from a single man, 98% of them have turned up the other 2% either cancelled or ghosted after a social.

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By *orkshireDrifterMan
over a year ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

A lot of men are very insecure, worried that they won't be able to get to an erection when required or will cum too quickly.

They like the idea of a meet but can't follow it through.

To compound the issue they lack the good manners to say they can't make it.

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By *_Love_CandyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Have you tried a club. Great way to meet!

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

You've just hit a little bad luck, don't let it knock your confidence plenty of lovely people on here whom would be happy to join you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I get the same as a single female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.

We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.

“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.

Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?

Didn’t think it would be this difficult

This has happened to us on several occasions. This is why we now borrow a husband with permission. It works for us

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich (just for Sat)

"So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.

We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.

“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.

Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?

Didn’t think it would be this difficult

The best solution for is to just go to a club.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

It must be you as the simple amount of guys on here, you could scroll and random stop on any bloke in you your area, ask them to meet and they'd be like a dog with two dick to meet whenever you liked, 9 times out of 10.

If you keep doing the same thing and keep getting the same results then change what you are doing.

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge (West-Mids)

I'd recommend trying a club or organised group social. That way you can check them out in person and get a feel for whether or not you'd be a good fit.

Also, if they have made the effort to attend a social or get a membership at a club they are more likely to actually get off there sofa and show up to a meet!

Good luck OP

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"So we have been on and off fab but never “successfully” (socials only) met a single guy who would actually play.

We arrange something and EVERY TIME they cancel last minute.

“Car is broken”, “been called into work” etc we never met a reliable guy.

Is it us or is it the same for other couples too?

Didn’t think it would be this difficult

As a couple we don't meet single guys. Not our thing. Wife decided to try it once and it was just a stream of time wasters. Stuck to verified guys and even the one we agreed to meet decided at the last moment that he wasn't coming. So we dont bother.

We also run social events from time to time. It's a given for us now that if 15 single guys put their name on the list, you're lucky if three of them turn up.

Now that sounds like a blanket statement that single guys are unreliable. Truth is, many are not. There is simply so many men on here now that there's just a lot of dreamers, time wasters and most of all cheats on here. People who never intend to meet or are sneaking about hoping they can get away from their spouse for a quickie.

On the flip side though we do "try" to meet single women on here and guess what. Similar story with a lot of them as well.

It's just how Fab is.

So our suggestions are this.

Firstly, clubs and / or social events are your friend. This is where you find the folk who are not messing about. You can meet couples and singles at those with ease.

Secondly, stick to either well verified singles who show interest OR find a reasonably well verified couple who play separately. We, for example play separately and are well verified (no, not putting myself forward here). I'm more than happy to join other couples in certain dynamics but for some reason many other couples on here insist on "single guys" and wont meet married guys (which completely defeats the purpose of swinging imo). Just use some common sense basically.

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By *xxblackcatxxxMan
over a year ago

NEWBURY

Happy to chat am outside your age range !!

Im 20 miles from Wantage

Very reliable, my playtime is precious & i realise yours is to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had very similar experiences and has like yourselves resulted in us being on and off here.

Very simply would like to meet a couple of reliable chilled guys and couples for repeat fun. That shouldn't be that hard.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

As others have said, try a club.

Alternatively browse other local couples and see if you can spot who they've met and work out if there's any local guys that seem more reliable. Often you'll see patterns develop (and I say that as an ex-single guy myself). I used to get messages saying 'so and so has recommended you' which in conjunction with frequent club visits meant I was generally busy with meets weekly.

One other option is to see if you can borrow someone's husband. There are many couples who also play separately after all.

Happy hunting.

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

I don't think it is impossible but it is simply timing and finding the right person.

I for one would love to meet you both but I need to be free at the right time which is why I did not get in touch.

Don't give up and keep looking.

Good luck.

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