FabSwingers.com forum: group sex: am I too vannila

By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

So after having a horrific experience many years ago when first on the scene (I was more naive then). I decided again to experience a gang bang. Even though I was being illogicaly paranoid and anxious, The organiser was brilliant,lads were great both were really good at creating a relaxed environment and the girls were amazing. Performing stuff that is on my list of fantasies yet I found myself not enjoying it as I thought I would, and ended up watching for almost all of it as I was unable to perform.

With a lot of swinging based around group sex I think the question I want to ask is am I just too vannila for the scene? I love the Club scene however.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

No, you've just discovered what is not for you.

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

Not for everyone

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No op,

It wouldn't be my thing either ,we all like diff things & there's something for all on fab.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I find gang bangs different to group sex

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By *irtuousBullMan
over a year ago

lake district

When you say "with a lot of swinging based on group sex" I really don't think that's the case...

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"When you say "with a lot of swinging based on group sex" I really don't think that's the case..."

Is sex between two singles swinging ?

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"When you say "with a lot of swinging based on group sex" I really don't think that's the case...

Is sex between two singles swinging ?"

That is debate where I think the definition of swinging is out of date none the less not all people or couples who hook up would consider themselves swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after having a horrific experience many years ago when first on the scene (I was more naive then). I decided again to experience a gang bang. Even though I was being illogicaly paranoid and anxious, The organiser was brilliant,lads were great both were really good at creating a relaxed environment and the girls were amazing. Performing stuff that is on my list of fantasies yet I found myself not enjoying it as I thought I would, and ended up watching for almost all of it as I was unable to perform.

With a lot of swinging based around group sex I think the question I want to ask is am I just too vannila for the scene? I love the Club scene however."

A few year's ago I'd organised a MMFF,us ladies knew both the guy's but they'd never met, my friend and I had dressed the same, sexy knickers, white blouses and a silk scarf around our necks, things started off really well, lots of kissing, touching etc, we used the scarfs to blindfold the guy's so we could take it in turns to "play" with them, but when we got down to actually fucking my guy couldn't perform, I took him to another room where we had a chat, he said he enjoyed watching but wasn't sure if he'd be as good as the other guy, both us ladies knew how good he was, I persuaded him to come back to the other room with me, and yes he was a good and throughly enjoyed his one and only MMFF

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By *ake_holeMan
over a year ago

London

"When you say "with a lot of swinging based on group sex" I really don't think that's the case...

Is sex between two singles swinging ?

That is debate where I think the definition of swinging is out of date none the less not all people or couples who hook up would consider themselves swingers."

I think swinging is a wide umbrella that means lots of things. I don't think it particularly means group sex. There's separate room swapping, hot wiring ect.

I usually use it as a term that covers this specific scene as, while there is crossover with kink/other sex based activities it's very much it's own thing.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I wouldn’t call a gang bang, group sex.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Hot wiring sounds electrifying !

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By *um2me123Man
over a year ago

burin

Ive been on some type of sex site on and off for some time. Very sexual, mostly been into the one on one scene, but did have a 3some. The idea of a more kinkier scene like gang bang is a turn on, but not sure my more quiet demeanor would mesh....kudos to everyone that enjoys then, not so sure its me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If you don't enjoy gang bangs don't participate. I personally would absolutely hate it.

Do what you like doing.

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"Hot wiring sounds electrifying !"

I see what you did there. What is hit wiring?

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

If you're happy to attend and watch at a group event, that doesn't sound vanilla to me. Difficulty in performing can happen when you feel insecure or think others are watching and judging you. Once you lose your inhibitions and realize everyone just wants to have fun and isn't staring at you, you'll enjoy yourself.

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"If you're happy to attend and watch at a group event, that doesn't sound vanilla to me. Difficulty in performing can happen when you feel insecure or think others are watching and judging you. Once you lose your inhibitions and realize everyone just wants to have fun and isn't staring at you, you'll enjoy yourself. "

Tbh they were a lot bigger and more experienced than I was the second time round.

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By *spotpleasurerMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Tbh they were a lot bigger and more experienced than I was the second time round."

I'm usually neither the biggest nor the smallest in a group and it doesn't bother me. Size isn't everything! And you shouldn't feel worried about being inexperienced. As long as you're not nervous, have a positive attitude and interact well with the others, you'll have fun.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

You like what you like.

Gangbangs ain't our thing. We preffer it balanced or favouring more women as wife's not really bothered about multiple dicks.

Just find what works for you.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

For me a gangbang and group sex are very different beasts.

The vibe is very very different imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a lot of swinging based around group sex I think the question I want to ask is am I just too vannila for the scene? I love the Club scene however."

Not at all - not everything is for everyone. It’s a fantasy of mine to take part in a gang bang with another girl, both of us being fucked by the multiple guys with our partners watching, then our partners fuck us last. I’m well aware that the reality might not live up to the fantasy, and if so I’ll just score it from our list and find something else to try lol

F (Mrs)

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

With a lot of swinging based around group sex I think the question I want to ask is am I just too vannila for the scene? I love the Club scene however.

F (Mrs)"

If you are ever in the London area himandher often organise such events for people.

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

With a lot of swinging based around group sex I think the question I want to ask is am I just too vannila for the scene? I love the Club scene however.

F (Mrs)

If you are ever in the London area himandher often organise such events for people."

I can private message you a link to their profile of you want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t do group sex or gangbangs - it’s not for everyone!

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"I wouldn’t do group sex or gangbangs - it’s not for everyone! "

I understand/appreciate what the women get from group sex but what do the men get from it. I know this seems like a stupid question from some one who attended a GB and bukkake but then I really didn't play as such, but what do the men get from it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a lot of swinging based around group sex I think the question I want to ask is am I just too vannila for the scene? I love the Club scene however.

F (Mrs)

If you are ever in the London area himandher often organise such events for people."

Thanks for the info

F (Mrs)

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

Your welcome.

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

With a lot of swinging based around group sex I think the question I want to ask is am I just too vannila for the scene? I love the Club scene however.

F (Mrs)

If you are ever in the London area himandher often organise such events for people.

Thanks for the info

F (Mrs)"

Apologies the profile is pronounced as H3rAndHim

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I understand/appreciate what the women get from group sex but what do the men get from it."

There's more to group sex than gangbangs and bukkake. I enjoy seeing, hearing, and just being aware of the presence of others while we're all in the same room playing. And of course there's the option of changing partner, having multiple partners at the same time... it's all good filthy fun.

Not everyone has to like it. But that's what I enjoy.

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

And with gangbangs and bukkake, they're fun in their own right, but so much better when your partner is the recipient.

I enjoy seeing other people enjoy themselves. It's partly an empathy thing, partly being a perve. Being a part of giving that pleasure is extra good.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

You are just establishing what you like and what you don’t.

Being in a queue, getting yourself prepared for the exact moment, sounds like my worst nightmare!

We are working through different things to find out what we enjoy and what we don’t.

Some is trial and error and others are ‘that’s staying on the to-do list’

There are plenty more things to try…

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By *xfor_johnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

"No, you've just discovered what is not for you."

Quite. You never know how you'll react until you try it, and it's fine not to be OK with a particular situation. I was invited to a gangbang a few months ago, having previously met the organiser, who knew my background, and I walked out before it got going as I couldn't make any connection with the other people there - it just didn't seem right to me at that time.

It also made me appreciate what I have got, vanilla or not.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Personally speaking gang bangs and the greedy girl scene has never done much for me. I don't know, they often they just seem a bit cold and degrading to the men involved. I know that not how it is for everyone or how everyone sees them but thats the feel I often get. Not always, ive seen some beauty and tenderness in some gang bangs. And of course not everyone is looking for tenderness or connection, which is fine.

But I'm absolutely a pig in shit when it comes to an orgy with a good mix. Especially when everyone is just free and there's lots touching, kissing and togetherness. The orgies that just flow naturally and beautifully if anyone knows what I mean?

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By *oxes OP Man
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"No, you've just discovered what is not for you.

It also made me appreciate what I have got, vanilla or not."

Thankyou for sharing your experience. I found that with my first experience I honestly felt like an object to be used, no communication, and having to pay £50 to help cover the cost and the host not realising I attended when I messaged her a day later added to that feeling.

This last time was better off but with messages like "avoid chat it's really off putting when you having an orgy and someone is talking", quite disheartening. Although no one seemed to be abiding to this rule.

If you do not mind me asking was it for the lack of communication that prevented connection?

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Everyone has different thresholds and modes of pleasure and group sex vs. gangbang activity are not mutually exclusive

I go to private house parties 1-2 times a month. It's typically 10-12 blokes 3-4 girls and you'll find the girls engaging in true "group sex" (being pleasured by 2-3 men at one time often very sensually) and "gang bang" activity (getting fucked and spunked one after the other in a series) all during the same party. For me, it'll typically be "group sex" in the beginning evolving to getting "gang banged" towards the end !

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By *xposedInTheSunCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

Some things are just better as fantasies...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gangbangs are, as many have commented, a niche thing. They're not for everyone.

Of course many like the 'idea' and the 'fantasy' but the reality can be too - whatever the word is - in the heat of the moment causing many men to suffer stagefright. Seen it happen on the cams here too.

But its ok. Its maybe just not for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m into the idea of groups sex, but calling something a Gangbang immediately takes away the sexiness of it. (I’m weird like).

we all will take to some things op, and not enjoy others.

Stick to what you like, vanilla is popular on fab.

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