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"Not really, I like a vibrator but can't beat the real thing, the connection, knowing he's turned on, making him moan are all the things that lead me to a great orgasm. DIY by vibrator is never as intense and normally just a quick fix. Mrs " This! Despite my DIY massage gun vibrator being incredible. | |||
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"Not really, I like a vibrator but can't beat the real thing, the connection, knowing he's turned on, making him moan are all the things that lead me to a great orgasm. DIY by vibrator is never as intense and normally just a quick fix. Mrs " This I find most interesting as the "human element" plays a big part. It's also something I find somewhat concerning as the 3 answers here are from people my age or a little bit older. K was older than me and she was fine, C & M were both around five years younger than me and had similar experiences and problems. One thing I've found with a lot of the younger generation with a much longer exposure to smartphones, dating apps and social media is text messages allow them human contact without human interaction, for many of them text is the primary mode of interaction and in real life interactions are secondary to them, not exactly second nature. It seems from my experience a lot of these women become immune to the "human element" of sex from overexposure to sex toys, because the majority of their sexual interactions are with inanimate objects. Like the moans the groans, the changes in the how hard a man is or how much they're turning him on, none of this registers for them, have any other men experienced this? Like I met R twice, she was 32, had never been in a relationship in her life, hadn't had sex for over two years and had a "computer mouse" sort of vibrator and although she squealed like a pig when she came from intercourse, whenever we had sex, having sex with an actual person seemed like a super weird experience for her, like she wasn't really used to having intercourse with something that had a mind of it's own haha. Maybe I've just met too many weird women from dating apps,who knows. I'd love to hear from more single or younger people, or from men about some of their experiences, or if I'm the only one that's putting any of this together | |||
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"Not really, I like a vibrator but can't beat the real thing, the connection, knowing he's turned on, making him moan are all the things that lead me to a great orgasm. DIY by vibrator is never as intense and normally just a quick fix. Mrs This I find most interesting as the "human element" plays a big part. It's also something I find somewhat concerning as the 3 answers here are from people my age or a little bit older. K was older than me and she was fine, C & M were both around five years younger than me and had similar experiences and problems. One thing I've found with a lot of the younger generation with a much longer exposure to smartphones, dating apps and social media is text messages allow them human contact without human interaction, for many of them text is the primary mode of interaction and in real life interactions are secondary to them, not exactly second nature. It seems from my experience a lot of these women become immune to the "human element" of sex from overexposure to sex toys, because the majority of their sexual interactions are with inanimate objects. Like the moans the groans, the changes in the how hard a man is or how much they're turning him on, none of this registers for them, have any other men experienced this? Like I met R twice, she was 32, had never been in a relationship in her life, hadn't had sex for over two years and had a "computer mouse" sort of vibrator and although she squealed like a pig when she came from intercourse, whenever we had sex, having sex with an actual person seemed like a super weird experience for her, like she wasn't really used to having intercourse with something that had a mind of it's own haha. Maybe I've just met too many weird women from dating apps,who knows. I'd love to hear from more single or younger people, or from men about some of their experiences, or if I'm the only one that's putting any of this together " Masturbation is a good thing though, right? If you're not in a relationship for whatever reason it's the next best thing. | |||
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"Not really, I like a vibrator but can't beat the real thing, the connection, knowing he's turned on, making him moan are all the things that lead me to a great orgasm. DIY by vibrator is never as intense and normally just a quick fix. Mrs " " I don't think you're too old to answer the question at all and if it's not broke, don't fix it lol I don't think there's anything wrong with masturbation to a point, however many of us will have heard about men who wank and watch porn until they can't get it up for "normal women". If it's not inhibiting your ability to have pleasure with people, I see nothing wrong with it. However as you say if it's a "quick fix" that's one thing, if it's your only fix, that's something completely different... | |||
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"Yes and no. I would say that since getting some toys in the last few years (because my rather nasty ex went ballistic when I had a tiny bullet vibrator) that I've finally worked out my own body and now I can have a good time even if I'm alone. I would also say that I really can't be bothered with fingers very often anymore because it takes so much longer and isn't usually as intense. But you can't beat the real thing and I think whether or not I finish depends on how comfortable I am with the person (so I can get out of my own head) rather than because I have a vibrator. The right person can make me finish just as quickly as a toy and I would say I enjoy it more too. " So I'm curious, I have so many questions of which these are a few lol Before toys I imagine it was just your fingers right? Do you feel like the vibrator took the levels of Intensity of your orgasms up in general? Like before you had your fingers and that was cool but now the vibrator is another level, or is it more before your fingers could get you to that level and now they just can't? Before the vibrator did you need the "right person" to make you finish? Or was getting into sexual situations enough to get there? Would you mind sharing? | |||
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"Yes and no. I would say that since getting some toys in the last few years (because my rather nasty ex went ballistic when I had a tiny bullet vibrator) that I've finally worked out my own body and now I can have a good time even if I'm alone. I would also say that I really can't be bothered with fingers very often anymore because it takes so much longer and isn't usually as intense. But you can't beat the real thing and I think whether or not I finish depends on how comfortable I am with the person (so I can get out of my own head) rather than because I have a vibrator. The right person can make me finish just as quickly as a toy and I would say I enjoy it more too. So I'm curious, I have so many questions of which these are a few lol Before toys I imagine it was just your fingers right? Do you feel like the vibrator took the levels of Intensity of your orgasms up in general? Like before you had your fingers and that was cool but now the vibrator is another level, or is it more before your fingers could get you to that level and now they just can't? Before the vibrator did you need the "right person" to make you finish? Or was getting into sexual situations enough to get there? Would you mind sharing?" No fingers never got me the same result, obviously it was fun but this is a whole different level, quite frankly I've got short arms and small hands and I just can't quite reach the parts a man or a vibrator can haha! Yes and no to the question about getting there. It was always the same person so I was very comfortable so no not a problem. Since then I've had some trauma etc... And I'd say confidence is shaken a bit so I find it harder in general to finish unless it's someone I'm totally comfortable with (or I've had some wine). | |||
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" No fingers never got me the same result, obviously it was fun but this is a whole different level, quite frankly I've got short arms and small hands and I just can't quite reach the parts a man or a vibrator can haha! Yes and no to the question about getting there. It was always the same person so I was very comfortable so no not a problem. Since then I've had some trauma etc... And I'd say confidence is shaken a bit so I find it harder in general to finish unless it's someone I'm totally comfortable with (or I've had some wine). " Oh I love the taste of wine on a woman's lips haha I never really considered the short arms part either haha The trauma aspect is a really interesting aspect of it too. It's good you're actually aware of that and cool with sharing it. I think it's hard not have trauma or have to deal with "trauma" especially on online platforms these days. However it's good to take the positives you can from experiences, as it can be quite easy to hold on the negative parts. Getting comfortable and trusting someone makes a big difference too. I hope you're meeting people you can be comfortable with. You sound like a pretty cool, honest and straight forward person person to talk to. It sounds like you're doing pretty well! Did the trauma and bad experiences lead you to spending longer periods alone hence using the vibrator more? Could that potentially have anything to do with you taking longer to finish now? Do you think you could get back to being really comfortable to finishing with someone all the time, or more than once in a session? | |||
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"Thought.. Same for men? D struggled to reach orgasm for quite a while since we met, after a sexless marriage and taking care of himself for over a decade.." I don't see why it would be different for a man to be fair. Our brains function in the same ways. I imagine he's finished rehabilitation and is firing on all cylinders now? Haha :D | |||
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"Thought.. Same for men? D struggled to reach orgasm for quite a while since we met, after a sexless marriage and taking care of himself for over a decade.. I don't see why it would be different for a man to be fair. Our brains function in the same ways. I imagine he's finished rehabilitation and is firing on all cylinders now? Haha :D" Was always firing.. lol it was just the detonation.. | |||
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" No fingers never got me the same result, obviously it was fun but this is a whole different level, quite frankly I've got short arms and small hands and I just can't quite reach the parts a man or a vibrator can haha! Yes and no to the question about getting there. It was always the same person so I was very comfortable so no not a problem. Since then I've had some trauma etc... And I'd say confidence is shaken a bit so I find it harder in general to finish unless it's someone I'm totally comfortable with (or I've had some wine). Oh I love the taste of wine on a woman's lips haha I never really considered the short arms part either haha The trauma aspect is a really interesting aspect of it too. It's good you're actually aware of that and cool with sharing it. I think it's hard not have trauma or have to deal with "trauma" especially on online platforms these days. However it's good to take the positives you can from experiences, as it can be quite easy to hold on the negative parts. Getting comfortable and trusting someone makes a big difference too. I hope you're meeting people you can be comfortable with. You sound like a pretty cool, honest and straight forward person person to talk to. It sounds like you're doing pretty well! Did the trauma and bad experiences lead you to spending longer periods alone hence using the vibrator more? Could that potentially have anything to do with you taking longer to finish now? Do you think you could get back to being really comfortable to finishing with someone all the time, or more than once in a session?" I'm not meeting at all at the moment, mostly read the forums to be honest haha! But yes I think I can be comfortable, generally speaking finishing multiple times was never something I had an issue with because I wasn't over thinking anything. Now I worry too much but I'm sure it'll get better. I'd say using the vibrator more was more because I was single and after a not nice relationship I had never really learned what I did and didn't like. It was more working out how my body works and now it's quite nice to not have to rely on a man being around (and being half decent) for me to have a good time. But I would always choose the real thing over a wank, you don't get intimacy from silicone. | |||
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" No fingers never got me the same result, obviously it was fun but this is a whole different level, quite frankly I've got short arms and small hands and I just can't quite reach the parts a man or a vibrator can haha! Yes and no to the question about getting there. It was always the same person so I was very comfortable so no not a problem. Since then I've had some trauma etc... And I'd say confidence is shaken a bit so I find it harder in general to finish unless it's someone I'm totally comfortable with (or I've had some wine). Oh I love the taste of wine on a woman's lips haha I never really considered the short arms part either haha The trauma aspect is a really interesting aspect of it too. It's good you're actually aware of that and cool with sharing it. I think it's hard not have trauma or have to deal with "trauma" especially on online platforms these days. However it's good to take the positives you can from experiences, as it can be quite easy to hold on the negative parts. Getting comfortable and trusting someone makes a big difference too. I hope you're meeting people you can be comfortable with. You sound like a pretty cool, honest and straight forward person person to talk to. It sounds like you're doing pretty well! Did the trauma and bad experiences lead you to spending longer periods alone hence using the vibrator more? Could that potentially have anything to do with you taking longer to finish now? Do you think you could get back to being really comfortable to finishing with someone all the time, or more than once in a session? I'm not meeting at all at the moment, mostly read the forums to be honest haha! But yes I think I can be comfortable, generally speaking finishing multiple times was never something I had an issue with because I wasn't over thinking anything. Now I worry too much but I'm sure it'll get better. I'd say using the vibrator more was more because I was single and after a not nice relationship I had never really learned what I did and didn't like. It was more working out how my body works and now it's quite nice to not have to rely on a man being around (and being half decent) for me to have a good time. But I would always choose the real thing over a wank, you don't get intimacy from silicone. " Thanks for your input You definitely don't get intimacy alone lol I know what you mean where the forum here can seem to be energy giving and the meeting side can just be very draining haha | |||
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