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By *pen 2 offers OP   Man
over a year ago

Irchester

Hi all, I would be interested to hear peoples opinions on this.

Personally I've sent winks thinking that they are a way of breaking the ice/letting someone know that you are interested in them.

However given the fact that there are so many single males on here contacting cpls and females, does anyone actually check them or do you simple receive too many to look/think that it's a lazy way of making contact?

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

I dont check them, I just delete them lol

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

It is my only form of one to one communication.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I would have said put more effort in mate

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I think men probably get more out of them than women and couples.

By nature, men dont get a lot of messages or winks, and I mean that when compared to couples and females who get shed loads.

So as a man, if someone winks at me, I will acknowledge it with a message, which may in turn lead to something. If not, I just carry on as normal.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I dont check them, I just delete them lol"

+1

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By *pen 2 offers OP   Man
over a year ago

Irchester


"I think men probably get more out of them than women and couples.

By nature, men dont get a lot of messages or winks, and I mean that when compared to couples and females who get shed loads.

So as a man, if someone winks at me, I will acknowledge it with a message, which may in turn lead to something. If not, I just carry on as normal."

That's pretty much how I view winks received as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont check them, I just delete them lol

+1 "
+2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never bothered to send any. Most folks profiles that I have read state that they will delete and block anyone sending a wink, so yes, I think they are a total waste.

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By *uttyMan
over a year ago

Local to you maybe


"I dont check them, I just delete them lol

+1 "

Damn this means I need to start composing a message lol

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By *pen 2 offers OP   Man
over a year ago

Irchester


"I dont check them, I just delete them lol

+1 +2 "

Thought that would be the case for the majority of people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see it as lazy, can't be bothered to write a tailored message

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We check winks and if we like the look of the person will wink back. I imagine that single guys must get tired of sending messages so we're never offended by winks it's how they comport themselves afterwards that counts.

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By *un4usCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

We like a wink to show you are interested.

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By *ukkakecoupleukCouple
over a year ago

horsham


"I dont check them, I just delete them li also just delete them never ever check but i would never ever send a wink myself.but hey everyones different xol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont check them, I just delete them lol

+1 +2 "

+3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are useless for single guys who want to meey women or couples. Apart from that i've spoken to and met up with people where the first contact was a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind receiving winks, if we like the profile then we follow up with a short message.

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By *ayseanMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Personally iv had meets that have started from sending a wink so don't think they are a bad thing! But can understand that alot of couples+ladies get loads of them so may just delete them but for a single male as myself they are good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to be in a pretty generous mood to send someone an unsolicited message, so I use winks a fair bit.

However I can fully understand why some people don't bother with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we allways delete winks lazy mans way all so delete greyed out images ???

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By *H.coupleCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Hi all, I would be interested to hear peoples opinions on this.

Personally I've sent winks thinking that they are a way of breaking the ice/letting someone know that you are interested in them.

However given the fact that there are so many single males on here contacting cpls and females, does anyone actually check them or do you simple receive too many to look/think that it's a lazy way of making contact?

"

occasionally we'll look at winks, sometimes it highlights profiles and we'll read them.

If we get a wink, we will wink back. it shows your interested, but we would expect a message after.

Some people see it as lazy, but we just see it as another form of communication.

Each to their own and all that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

gained meets from them, as well as fabbbing pics...so no...dont believe they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, I would be interested to hear peoples opinions on this.

Personally I've sent winks thinking that they are a way of breaking the ice/letting someone know that you are interested in them.

However given the fact that there are so many single males on here contacting cpls and females, does anyone actually check them or do you simple receive too many to look/think that it's a lazy way of making contact?

"

we asked an audience of 100 people and thier pointless answers were......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I decided sometime ago to wink and send a message... I appreciate couples/ladies get bombarded so I hope both go someway to show I'm more than interested..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we like winks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont check them, I just delete them lol

+1 +2 "

That's just what I thought folk do !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I like getting winks....always nice to know that someone is interested in your profile!

If I like the look of the profile I'll send a "thanks for the wink" message and then see where it goes. Really can't understand why some get so wound up by them.

S x

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By *pen 2 offers OP   Man
over a year ago

Irchester


"No we like winks x"

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By *pen 2 offers OP   Man
over a year ago

Irchester


"We check winks and if we like the look of the person will wink back. I imagine that single guys must get tired of sending messages so we're never offended by winks it's how they comport themselves afterwards that counts. "

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By *pen 2 offers OP   Man
over a year ago

Irchester


"Well I like getting winks....always nice to know that someone is interested in your profile!

If I like the look of the profile I'll send a "thanks for the wink" message and then see where it goes. Really can't understand why some get so wound up by them.

S x"

Used to be on another site where they were generally used as a first contact by most people, then messages followed if their was mutual winking! x

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By *pen 2 offers OP   Man
over a year ago

Irchester


"gained meets from them, as well as fabbbing pics...so no...dont believe they are."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me but I only check out those who fit my age, distance and being single or a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a ton of winks from couples, friends invites too, I'd be flattered if my profile didn't clearly state at the very beginning that I have no interest in them. Needless to say, they get deleted swiftly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is my only form of one to one communication."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont check them, I just delete them lol

+1 +2

+3 "

+4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well I like getting winks....always nice to know that someone is interested in your profile!

If I like the look of the profile I'll send a "thanks for the wink" message and then see where it goes. Really can't understand why some get so wound up by them.

S x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr J uses them as a means to establish that there is an interest on his part... If I agree I like too, we follow up with a message.

S & Mr J x

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By *ottscouple1Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

We delete all winks.

It's just a lazy way out

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I'll look at my winks occasionally - if the avatar picture or strapline catches my eye I'll look at the profile and have on occasion winked back if I liked the look of him/her/them - that to me is putting the ball back into his/her/their court and if they then sent me a message that indicated they'd read my profile then I'd respond, other than that I don't bother with them and I think I've only sent pity winks after forum requests

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By *pen 2 offers OP   Man
over a year ago

Irchester


"I get a ton of winks from couples, friends invites too, I'd be flattered if my profile didn't clearly state at the very beginning that I have no interest in them. Needless to say, they get deleted swiftly."

Ha ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look at my winks and friendship requests, not very often admitted but if I saw a wink and liked the profile id wink back

Im not into allowing strangers access to my face pic and other friends only pics without at least some interest (usually in mail)

but i do look at both, so i dont think they are useless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont check them, I just delete them lol"

+1

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By *thyorksCouple
over a year ago

ROTHERHAM


"I dont check them, I just delete them lol

+1 +2

+3

+4 "

+5

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

A while back I read thru a profile.....yes read anno not like me lol anyway... The profile in question clearly stated they would not entertain winks and would delete and block immediately anyone who winked them so I took that onboard and didnt wink......2days ..yes 2days later I became all excited as waiting for me when I logged on was a wink (now this is a big thing for me lol) I hurriedly went to see who my new winker was only to see it was the very same cpl.....nowt as queer as folk ehh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It looks like there is a quite a divide on 'The Winks Question' between singles and couples. When we first joined, I had only swung as a single guy and I HATED the things! I never sent them before, and would delete immediately any we got.

In the past few months I have mellowed somewhat, and now I take them as someone just saying they like the look of our profile.

If... and ONLY if... we like the look of their profile, we'll wink back. If we don't hear from them, then fair enough - that's as far as it goes.

But... I would never see them or send them as a way of introducing ourselves. When I do that, it's a message, and if the other couple have face pics in their public gallery (why????) we attach ours to the intro message.

Pork

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I had a wink off a guy today who was single (gasp), can accommodate (GASP), and is local to me (faints), and who had put on his profile that he winks so as not to send a pointless message. If I was interested I was to wink back. I thought that was a neat way of doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the beginning we had winks from couples..wrote nice messages to then blocked so just ignore them now

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By *andS69Couple
over a year ago

Chester


"we allways delete winks lazy mans way all so delete greyed out images ??? "

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, the 'lazy' argument gets right up my nose.

In my case, it's precisely because I'm *not* lazy that I send winks. I'm a busy individual and I don't have time to waste composing multiple tailored messages that only end up straight in the trash.

Winking back will definitely get you a message in response, if that's what you'd like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we've made 2 new friends this weekend, just by responding to their winks.

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I would sometimes prefer a wink than a message to initiate contact

I can ignore it without feeling any guilt,and if it comes from a fabulous profile then the doors are open for me to either wink back or send a message myself

Saves a lot of time in the long run for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we check winks,if we like what we read,we wink back,then start messaging.we hope ppl do the same with ours.

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By *onderlust76Woman
over a year ago

St helens

I always look at them check profile then act accordingly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We check winks and if we like the look of the person will wink back. I imagine that single guys must get tired of sending messages so we're never offended by winks it's how they comport themselves afterwards that counts. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have had a few meets that began as a wink, think its a good place to start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer a message to a wink, don't always check winks, but check messages regularly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, the 'lazy' argument gets right up my nose.

In my case, it's precisely because I'm *not* lazy that I send winks. I'm a busy individual and I don't have time to waste composing multiple tailored messages that only end up straight in the trash.

Winking back will definitely get you a message in response, if that's what you'd like."

That's exactly how I see the purpose of a wink. Have been guilty of sending a few of my own...

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

cant see any problem with them .. have met up with guys before who have sent them so wud be mad to knock them !

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By *iker BullMan
over a year ago

leeds

They are to a blind bat,,as are nod's apparently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will have a look and if I like the profile I'll wink back and see what happens. Have sent the odd one or two as well and had responses from them. I will delete if the profile is the usual 'ask me if you want to know anything'or 'will fill in later', but a decent profile will get a response x

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By *ngelsdevilWoman
over a year ago

Merseyside

I would say on the whole possibly BUT I had a great few meets with a guy i winked at so they do work sometimes

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By *laphe1Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I like them and think they are flattering,don't understand why people would just delete them without having a butchers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit, as a single guy I never sent any cos they never really elicited a response.

As part of a couple we get far more winks and we both look. When we get a wink we'll have a look at the profile we will wink back and wait for them to mail us. We will mail straight back if we really wanna meet.

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By *orthern Monkey 74Man
over a year ago

Oakham

I don't normally send them as I know a lot of people prefer a message however this does annoy me as I think if used correctly they can be good. Like already mentioned you wink someone to say hello I like the look of you(profile), they wink back meaning the same then you start messaging. This would save a lot of time and at least you know the other person likes your profile for starters.

Maybe if enough people start doing this it will catch on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi all, I would be interested to hear peoples opinions on this.

Personally I've sent winks thinking that they are a way of breaking the ice/letting someone know that you are interested in them.

However given the fact that there are so many single males on here contacting cpls and females, does anyone actually check them or do you simple receive too many to look/think that it's a lazy way of making contact?

"
yes

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House

We're not bothered if someone winks us tbh. It shows they've read (or most likely, just looked at the pictures ) our profile. Most guys, after a while on this site, get fed up of sending mails, giving a description of themselves or what they are looking for from others etc. We'd rather receive a wink than a generic message they've sent a thousand others, those we delete without hesitation.

We've sent winks from our couples profiles and had nothing back, sent winks from this profile and got nothing back ... but when we do get a reply then .... well read the veri's

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By *reedy_for_funCouple
over a year ago

My House


"I don't normally send them as I know a lot of people prefer a message however this does annoy me as I think if used correctly they can be good. Like already mentioned you wink someone to say hello I like the look of you(profile), they wink back meaning the same then you start messaging. This would save a lot of time and at least you know the other person likes your profile for starters.

Maybe if enough people start doing this it will catch on. "

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

I check them as its a facility here to use, plus I'm from an era where a wink was considered flattering and a way to make first contact.

Has to be better than the 'fancy a fuck?' messages!

What harm can they do?

You don't have to look if you don't want to,I really don't see what the fuss is about?

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs


"We check winks and if we like the look of the person will wink back. I imagine that single guys must get tired of sending messages so we're never offended by winks it's how they comport themselves afterwards that counts. "

Totally agree!

And those who moan about winks being lazy are the same ones who respond by using + instead of saying totally agree, how lazy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit on using them occassionally, but it's not my only form of communication. I prefer my personality to come out in a special message, not a copy and paste shit one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No we like winks x"

consider yourself winked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a wink off a guy today who was single (gasp), can accommodate (GASP), and is local to me (faints), and who had put on his profile that he winks so as not to send a pointless message. If I was interested I was to wink back. I thought that was a neat way of doing it. "

i have something similar on mine saying if once you read me, send me wink and i come back to you....i put that up ages and ages ago and still not winks...im beginging to think im an outcast ...loner...fool ....forgotten .....and nobody loves me anymore lol .........

But i dont care lol ...life is for living not hanging round waiting for winks lol hehehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont check them, I just delete them lol"
y do they av them though if so many women hate them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mr J uses them as a means to establish that there is an interest on his part... If I agree I like too, we follow up with a message.

S & Mr J x"

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By *andS69Couple
over a year ago

Chester

Thought we'd add out thoughts and not be too lazy by just adding a +1

Like with so many issues there are probably as many opinions as there are members, but in our experience iis as follows.

I (S) love the concept and idea of a wink. Eyes meeting in a busy bar, they wink, you fancy them and wink back and things start from there, but it hardly ever seems to work like that on here.

The large majority of winks we've had fall into the following two categories;

1. This has happened with both guys and couple to us - You get a wink, look at the profile and wink or message back and either get no reply (why wink in the first place!!) or an immediate friend request. Not really the idea to us.

2. These tend to be, but are not exclusively from guys - you get the wink and when you check out the profile all they have is a one or two liner and/or a silhouette or cock shot. How are you supposed to make any judgement on that basis??

We have a limited time to play and to spend on here and consequently we prioritise and as a result we will always give more time to the nicely constructed and worded message. If that means we will or have miss out on the meet of our dreams then that's our problem I guess.

S

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we allways delete winks lazy mans way all so delete greyed out images ???

+1"

Hmmm. Sending winks is lazy.

However, contributing nothing more to a forum thread than '+1' definitely isn't lazy.

Go figure.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Hi all, I would be interested to hear peoples opinions on this.

Personally I've sent winks thinking that they are a way of breaking the ice/letting someone know that you are interested in them.

However given the fact that there are so many single males on here contacting cpls and females, does anyone actually check them or do you simple receive too many to look/think that it's a lazy way of making contact?

"

I personally block and delete about once a week.

I think winks are pointless but appreciate some like them: I'm just not one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, the 'lazy' argument gets right up my nose.

In my case, it's precisely because I'm *not* lazy that I send winks. I'm a busy individual and I don't have time to waste composing multiple tailored messages that only end up straight in the trash.

Winking back will definitely get you a

message in response, if that's what you'd like."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we allways delete winks lazy mans way all so delete greyed out images ???

+1

Hmmm. Sending winks is lazy.

However, contributing nothing more to a forum thread than '+1' definitely isn't lazy.

Go figure.

"

Just for the record I personally agreed that I never look at winks just block delete them - as stated in my profile - I never said they were lazy lol

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I check them out. If they are for me, I wink back - got a few good meets that way. If not I just delete.

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By *pen 2 offers OP   Man
over a year ago

Irchester

Looks like there are a wide variety of opinions on them! Thanks for all the replies everone, I'm off to check for new winks now!!!

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