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Stage Fright.

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By *xJustForFun! OP   Couple
over a year ago

aberdeen

Any guys get this, had this?

Wish I was asking for a friend.

But we were on a social last night, which turned into our first meet.

Girl on girl mostly .

Which was just as well as I'm normally hard just sitting in a bumpy bus, but I swear to god I couldn't have managed if I had a splint and a can of spray starch.

Been angling for this most my life. Finally happens and my dick is away to the shops on his own.

WTAF.

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

you defo cant be on your own,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not on a meet but it has happened before. It’s embarrassing but usually women are quite understanding. It was probably the anticipation more than anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let it bother you, I think most Men will at some point have a similar issue.

A moment like you describe can be overwhelming to say the least.

Maybe nerves, or fears of regrets.

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By *xJustForFun! OP   Couple
over a year ago

aberdeen

I mean my misses is hot. His missus was hot. Things they were doing were hot. End results were hot. He kept his kit on , so not as if I was up against Big Harold.

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

Yes suffered it a few times.... Nothing you can do about and plenty of other ways to enjoy the moment so if it ever happens I try not to worry about it.

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By *nked_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Yeah I'm sure it happens to everyone at some point. I've had a couple of incidents amd the only things I can really suggest is try and not let it bother you and try and relax as much as possible (easier said than done) the more pressure you put on yourself the worst it can get, so try and remove yourself from the situation for a few minutes, and just chill,most people who you will play with will have had it either happen to them or someone they will have played with and know its common so will be understanding and patient.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Not stage fright but girl on girl does nothing for me so I wouldn't be turned on. Maybe the reality didn't live up to the fantasy.

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By *ad boy maverickMan
over a year ago

basildon


"Any guys get this, had this?

Wish I was asking for a friend.

But we were on a social last night, which turned into our first meet.

Girl on girl mostly .

Which was just as well as I'm normally hard just sitting in a bumpy bus, but I swear to god I couldn't have managed if I had a splint and a can of spray starch.

Been angling for this most my life. Finally happens and my dick is away to the shops on his own.

WTAF. "

It's not hapend on a meet but it happened once, ironically with a girlfriend. We started getting cuddly and necking. Next thing she drags me to her bedroom , strips off her dress- stockings and suspenders and said the condoms are on the shelf , I hope you can fuck for more than 3 minutes. Needless to say that was a real turnoff. So it may have been psychological. ?

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

This happens all the time! I went through a period where I couldn't get it up at clubs at all. No matter how exciting the setting or sexy the partner. Then, as soon as we got home, boiiing!

All you can do is accept it might happen and have a plan B in mind. Tongue, fingers, toys etc.. Not having that performance pressure usually helps.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Don't fuss, it's not an issue, not a competition.

If you all had a great night, all good.

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By *xJustForFun! OP   Couple
over a year ago

aberdeen


"Not stage fright but girl on girl does nothing for me so I wouldn't be turned on. Maybe the reality didn't live up to the fantasy."

Nope. It absolutely did.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Been enjoying the scene for 25 years together.

I'd be a complete liar if I said I'd never had stage fright moments in that time. Not common thankfully but has happened once or twice in that time when I was in a new "out of.my comfort zone" situation. First visit to a club for example. I just relaxed, stopped putting pressure on myself and let it happen naturally and problem.solved

I suspect you where just over thinking it last night. Next time just chill out and relax more.

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By *xJustForFun! OP   Couple
over a year ago

aberdeen


"Been enjoying the scene for 25 years together.

I'd be a complete liar if I said I'd never had stage fright moments in that time. Not common thankfully but has happened once or twice in that time when I was in a new "out of.my comfort zone" situation. First visit to a club for example. I just relaxed, stopped putting pressure on myself and let it happen naturally and problem.solved

I suspect you where just over thinking it last night. Next time just chill out and relax more."

Wise words them.

Thanks all.

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By *ananaman41Man
over a year ago

Dublin


"I mean my misses is hot. His missus was hot. Things they were doing were hot. End results were hot. He kept his kit on , so not as if I was up against Big Harold.

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Maybe that was your mistake. Get the big man on the case next time out

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By *arry monk40Man
over a year ago

Telford

Happens to us all especially if you overthink the meet beforehand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happened a few times when I was on anti depressants

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By *isser36Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast

Not happened on a meet but happened to me with a lass in everyday life , she was absolutely stunning as well, I think my biggest mistake was I pulled her early doors and knew a shag was a dead cert so enjoyed abit too much beer, when she got me to her place I was raring to go got down to it and started fucking and....wtf my little fella starts dieing... goes limp so she give me a suck and finally gets him to some semblance of semi on so we start again....oh no he goes limp again...we do this a few times before she says fuck it let's just leave it hahaha I was mortified! I couldn't even get hard in the morning it was so in my head! I tried to see her again after that and promised her a "stiff one" but you won't be surprised to hear she never took me up on it. Hahah . Anyone that says its never happened is a lier!

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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield

Sadly but nice to hear I'm not on my own and some very comforting replies, cheers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah don’t worry. I can go the other way and spaff a load in seconds

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