FabSwingers.com forum: Stating dislikes

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve noticed a lot of people state their dislikes on their profile. Isn’t this a recipe for disaster?

If you advertise the things you don’t like, then surely people just learn to hide those traits from you?

I alway though it easier to be vague so people can’t tailor themselves to what they think you want.

Does listing dislikes work for you?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I say I don't like receiving oral or kissing. If people want to tailor themselves to suit that they can

I think they can just as easily say they like the things you do like when they really don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I guess it depends on how they are listed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get what you’re saying, but not sure it factors too much. People will mostly try and present themselves favourably, displaying dislikes or likes gives them something to go on, but it won’t last if it’s genuinely not true.

It can all be a bit of a front until everything is laid bare. Best to be as honest as you can though, saves hassle for everyone

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By *atty CoramWoman
over a year ago

Wimbledon

I like to keep things vague because the pleasure is in the discovery. What I like and dislike could depend on many factors. It's in constant flux.

I hate sex by numbers (ooops there's a dislike) but equally loathe being asked what turns me on. (another dislike)

If I have to tell you, I might as well do it myself and cut out the (middle) man.

But yes I agree that people could also use these 'lists' to tell you what you want to hear... but I can usually perceive this.

Lists can also get out of hand and turn ranty which is not sexy. Maybe dislikes are better broached through discussion.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"I’ve noticed a lot of people state their dislikes on their profile. Isn’t this a recipe for disaster?

If you advertise the things you don’t like, then surely people just learn to hide those traits from you?

I alway though it easier to be vague so people can’t tailor themselves to what they think you want.

Does listing dislikes work for you?"

We are very clear on our dislikes. In 10 years on fab we've had just 1 meet where we felt someone was dishonest about themselves, their situation and what they wanted from a meet. It didn't go anywhere.

We are honest with others and would like the same from others. Lying to get a meet is desperate in my eyes and you'll get caught sooner or later.

To be fair, we don't meet single guys and we do the social thing first so it's less of an issue for us anyway. Couples are couples and are what they say they are and the single women we have met are usually one half of a couple weve met at a social or whatnot anyway.

If.youre just meeting random for a quickie them yeah, you'll get some bullshit there. Not judging anyone, just saying. It's easier to lie for a quick one than it is to have a social connection for repeat meets.

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