FabSwingers.com forum: Opened up to my wife!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Soooo after being on fab a while and chatting to people I finally had the nerve to open up to my wife about the idea of watching her with another guy, random I know but it's been a fantasy of mine for some time I just didn't know how to tell her, but I have and was quite surprised as she said it's not something she feels comfortable with now but will let me know if she feels comfortable and it feels right,

Yes sex with my wife is amazing, she gorgeous and I wouldn't want to spend my life with anyone else, it's just I got fascinated with this lifestyle a while ago and got more and more things sexually I would like to explore with her, so really excited to see where this could go and I think it will open us up more to eachother and have a bit of fun also thankyou to anyone that I have spoken to and has given me advice as it really did help now I feel even more comfortable talking to her about things x

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Right. Ok, I'll give you your dues. You're the first guy on here with profile that doesn't appear to be looking to meet behind his partners bqck but rather is here to learn (and you are clear about that).

For that, I'll commend you.

So, lets get down to it.

She may never come round with it and fantasy will have to remain fantasy. That's the reality of the situation. She may also decide to try it, hate and it may damage your relationship. That's worse case scenarios.

Or she may go the other way. Try it, love it and you both go on a new journey together.

The fact is, you've done all you can do for the moment. You've told her, she's processing and now you need to wait for her to make a decision.

If and when she discusses it again, you can show her the site or any amount of info about swinging and all it's various flavours. Plus how much porn is there out there to watch, much of it homemade? Alternatively you can suggest going to a club and observing rather than joining in.

All you can do is wait and not push her. Let her make her own mind up and see what she thinks.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Totally appreciate your advice yes as I said I'm going to be patient, and yes it is a fantasy, if she finds she wants to go forward with it great if it turns out she didn't enjoy it that's fine but it also means I can open up to her now about attending clubs just to observe like you said which I think is a great idea

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By *ussraneCouple
over a year ago

Romford

I did exactly the same as you OP 18 months ago, What I didn’t do was bombard her with my fantasies instead I brought each thought in gently to her until she was ready to start communicating back. This journey took us 18 months until d-day which was last Friday and wow what a fantastic experience, we feel even closer than we was before, it has definitely enhanced our love for one another and taken us emotionally to a new level. Take your time don’t rush her and respect her decisions. M

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Good luck....well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck . You planted the seed. Leave the ball in her court

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By *8v3nCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I was on the same journey. It took some time and lots of communication. From my experience

- women (but equally men) like to be adored and desired and thats a thinking box you'd like to open.

- yes it can be seen as taboo topic in the society. But actually you are not alone. Especially if you go to club or she has a glance on fabs, shell realise that there's lots of that stuff;

- I needed to assure by action that I am not trying to get rid of her or destroy our relationship by giving her to another guy;

- watching porn together was great and discussing likes and dislikes. For us we struck a cord with that and spoke more about how naughty we can get;

- realising that each of have numerous hearthrobs during life. I can guarantee she has or had someone she fancied and thought what if she'd give in. At least in fantasy. Even discussing that can open interesting conversation.

And the end result is that we feel very close, there are no secrets of sex nature between us. It is quite liberating.

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