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Bringing friends into lifestyle.

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By *exytwoforfun OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East

My wife and me are thinking of asking a friend of mine if he would like to have a threesome with us. My wife likes him and feels relaxed in his company. I am fine with the idear, my only worry is after it happens will it change our friendship. Would love some advice of people who have done this.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a bi male friend who we have know for 20 years or more, and had a very good afternoon with, but since then things have gone very quiet. I think it was that he only wanted the bi side and not another woman involved.

Great shame but thats life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has the friend given any indication that this is something he may be interested in?

How much do you value his friendship? And more importantly is it worth jeopordising losing that friendship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's your mate and only you can decide whether it will change anything.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"He's your mate and only you can decide whether it will change anything."

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By *exytwoforfun OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East

My pal knows we are in the lifestyle and keeps it to himself, he shows an interest and flirts with my wife as he knows i like that, but playing with her is a whole different ball game. He is very open minded though.

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

If hes open minded and knows your swingers and you want it to happen. It sounds like your mate and Mrs want it to. Have a word with him and just say what youd like to happen. Whats his voews and does he think itd make your friendship better or worse? Theres a big difference between flirting and actually joining you for fun JMO

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By *exytwoforfun OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East

Yeah think I will go down that road, will ask him when we are sober not when we have had a drink

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Get some ground rules and expectations in place so there's no confusion afterwards. A friend with benefits! Lucky man...

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"Yeah think I will go down that road, will ask him when we are sober not when we have had a drink"

Let us know if things happen to progress..

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

speaking from personal experience we tried this with a male work mate and it worked out just fine as we had all known each other for a long time and were all very comfortable in each others company .. it lasted for many months and was a very enjoyable time .. hope it works out as successfully for u guys if u decide to go down this road

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I'd never invite a friend to join me in any 'fun' again. Been there and done that before, and it ruined friendships on both occasions.

I would ask yourself whether it's a friendship you are willing to risk losing, whether it could become a situation where he's just wanting the sex over the friendship afterwards, whether any fall-out could get nasty....

I would just suggest you think very long and hard before you make any decisions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perhaps he worries about the same things, my option would be to go for it, and if he says no then i reckon yule all have a laugh about it and carry on as normal....after all, you are good friends if you dont mind sharing

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Don't unless you are prepared to lose a friend. We think you should keep your vanilla and swinging friends separate. A vanilla woman friend broke up with her man and was complaining about her lack of sex, so we invited her to come to Chams with us and said she'd certainly get some there. She was horrified and said "didn't know you two were swingers, how can you do that?" - not quite as liberated as we thought!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first mmf was with my flatmate who was dan's best friend. Great time we are still friends and when op arrives we still indulge.

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By *exytwoforfun OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East

Wow guys thanx for the advice, give us plenty to think about, will post what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best mate asked me once if I'll have a 3some with him and his wife I told him yes but as long as it did not change our friendship in any way as it ment to much to me it would not change in any way... We did it many times over the years and are still best friends

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

our good freinds in the scene done it with a married freind a d*unken party vanilla type caused all sorts of problems he stalked our freinds wife tryed to blackmail saying he would tell his wife ect months and months of hell police ect divorce on the other fellas side all for one d*unken nite ,id say be carefull .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took a work colleague to chams once, she met a guy there she liked and had a great time. They r now engaged and she lost 4 stone from all the sex! She says thanks so much for taking me its changed her life completely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the first couple i met, who i thought were tight as a couple, been together years and had just had their first grandchild.. well they discovered a female friend of theirs was into swinging so started having 3somes.. in the end he left his wife for the friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmm sorry to say but we think you will be playing with fire, How would you feel if he popped around your house after the event when you were at work

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine


"mmm sorry to say but we think you will be playing with fire, How would you feel if he popped around your house after the event when you were at work"
thats what happened to the cpl i was on about ,ended up restraining orders the lot.

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By *exytwoforfun OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East

Thanks for all the advice guys, we decided to go for it and ask our friend and he is most definatley up for it,he and us can't wait. Got something arranged for friday..

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

I hope its good for all of you.... Let us know

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By *ecret ladyWoman
over a year ago

South Manchester...where no-one reads profile's !!!


"Personally, I'd never invite a friend to join me in any 'fun' again. Been there and done that before, and it ruined friendships on both occasions.

I would ask yourself whether it's a friendship you are willing to risk losing, whether it could become a situation where he's just wanting the sex over the friendship afterwards, whether any fall-out could get nasty....

I would just suggest you think very long and hard before you make any decisions. "

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