FabSwingers.com forum: success rate-meet now,planned,clubs

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

how have you had the best success at getting a meet you want?

using the meet option?

messaging and asking to plan a meet?

going to a club and see what happens?

we have tried a few times using the meet today option but never had any success with that.

we chatted to a bloke on cam once and that led to a mmf

we chatted to a local couple for a bit and that led to three meets.

most of our other meets and our best hit rate has been going to a club and being surrounded by people looking for the same thing,beginning to think this site is a facebook for adults.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

I only do the "club" meets now....

Saves so much time and i enjoy my evening no matter what

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

that is our default setting nowadays.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Always clubs or parties now.

I started off on this site quite well, but there are so few actual single men in York who can accommodate, and me not being able to accommodate whittles down the pool of meets considerably.

I am currently talking to two single men in York, both can accommodate, but neither will set a concrete date for a meet. Whereas going to Isis last Friday meant three very nice shags. So much easier, and the social aspect is great too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to arrange meets when we are attending a club because if for whatever reason it doesn't work out you are still guaranteed to have a good night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the Facebook comment too! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been into clubs - tried and didn't enjoy it. The majority of my meets occur either when I'm working away - in which case ill pop a meet post up and adjust my postcode to appear on local updates for a few days before the trip - or simply by messaging. Either those I've enjoyed some banter with in the forums or those whose profiles catch my eye.

Tbh - I probably get as many messages coming in as I send out myself. But a bit of forward planning never hurts - and if nothing gets arranged I can count on one hand the number if last minute meets that have happened.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Agree with the Facebook comment too! x"

It does seem that less people are wanting meets at the mo. Perhaps its the time of year and January will be stuffed full of horny people desperate for a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have virtually given up, nobody seems interested in us anymore

Clubs seem to be the only option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a good mix. We have had a good time our first time in a club, had good meets from messaging and have had one from the only meet advert we put up. We may have been lucky with that though as we were on holiday and only had a couple of responses, one of which appealed!

The best for us seems to be messaging at the moment, we have had quite a few meets and repeat meets from that. But we have just started going to be going to clubs more so that may work out well. Wait and see!

I suppose it depends on what you are comfortable with really.

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By *asperthedogCouple
over a year ago

midlands

We agree, and have done for some time now, clubs is the only way forward. "only meet at clubs" is a good filter as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only do the "club" meets now....

Saves so much time and i enjoy my evening no matter what

We still like the occasional home games tho

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We don't do club, tried them a couple of times but just not for us.

Have had mixed success with posting for a late minute meet but we do prefer to try and arrange something in advance.

Both of us prefer private meets but we do find them very difficult to arrange as lot of people just aren't comfortable with them. (or most of the ones that we are interested in)

Find small private parties to be the easiest and most successful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only do the "club" meets now....

Saves so much time and i enjoy my evening no matter what

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

its a mixture of everything....

I have made a lot more contacts from the various socials I have been to, and I do like clubs but in a sense it is a different frame of mindset..... for me the playing has never been the be all and end all....

they all have there advantages and disadvantages and they good thing is that you use as many or as little of those as you please....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine has been through messaging/winking at local people that i'm willing to travel to and being lucky enough to get a reply back and not disappear in amongst the pile of other stuff they get in their inbox.

Then when opportunity arises I make sure to stay in contact, turn up when arranged and make a real effort. I understand the lack of opportunities there can be at times so I make a real effort which has resulted in numerous repeat performances with people.

In fact i'm still in contact and friends with most people i've met through facebook. Just can't meet some anymore because they got to the point where they wanted a relationship and since they didn't come back on here i'm assuming it's a non-swinging relationship too.

Bottom line that worked.

Stay persistant until you receive opportunity.

When you get opportunity play it cool and make an effort for the meet itself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had chance to go to a club yet but when me and my ex can afford it we'll be doing that. She's already been to one with a guy off here so i'll know a little of what to expect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We still like the occasional home games tho"

Lol !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i used to meet i used to like 121 more than clubs

and i have used the meet request before and had no issues with it or replying to a meet listing someone else has

clubs have there needs and as much they can be fun after my last experience at chams i haven't been back since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to do more bi MMF/MMMF meets, but our local club doesn't have a group play room on bi night (only once per month any way) and the private rooms are quite small.

So it has to be private meets. Tried to set one up last week, one guy cancelled, the other was a no show.

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By *nJ_NW_cplCouple
over a year ago

wirral

When we are able to get out and play we just let people know where we are going to be (usually Townhouse) and if anyone wants to meet us that is a bonus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No success as of yet. Dont know where im going wrong but time will tell.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Most of my meets have been arranged through this site and the majority of those are people we meet again

Rare and spontaneous nights out at clubs and parties without arranging to meet someone we already know or have been chatting to have a good success rate but for me are mostly unforgettable apart fron the odd occasion when we've met someone thats been fabulous enough to want to meet again

Ive never used the meet today function so have no idea if that would be successful for us,I usually ask the people on my friends list first if we have an unexpected night to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was interesting reading the comments from Cpl and F on this.

Rather than arrange something that never happens weeks in advance it is better to seize the moment.

I still try "Meet today" but it would seem a few on here don't understand the concept of today.

I think titbook or cockbook would be very apt re-branding at times.

Been to two clubs but always prearranged company before getting there.

Not actually pulled in one yet but as a single guy I'm not surprised.

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

I have found the messaging/contact as the most successful.

I have tried the 'meet today' and almost arranged the meet but the posters had to pull out at the last minute.

As a single guy, clubs are pretty much a waste of time as most guys will say. So, I keep chancing my arm with the contacts on here, but making sure I read the profile properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All our meets are arranged via here never been to a club x we normally arrange over chatting and getting to know them but have used the meet today twice and had good results from it

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

planning meets by far - you know exactly which dates you are free and what time. You also get a feel if somes messing you about.. last minute meets - they are fun (though I only know from my half) but I expect there are some quite naff males who have gotten a shag out of them that people wouldnt ordinarily meet if they were planning one

up to you and what your tastes are (sexually) I suppose

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

To add .. i have also met some quite naff women/couples posting last minute meets - for the most they want a fuck and go. Which on a fri/sat night after travelling say 25 miles can be disappointing arriving back home before 12

Never understand why people are happy at just 1x sex then out (unless its a marathon of course)

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We started off by going to cubs, and when we met people we liked there had home meets with them, and started meeting friends of friends at our homes. We still go clubbing and must say we have a have a higher success rate in clubs that through on-line groups like fab.

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