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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Everyone has thier own criteria when it comes to who they want to play with.

That's great and in our opinion the way it should be, ok some people don't care who they play with so long as they have the appropriate body parts and we hope those people have lots of fun, we are sure they do.

But for us and many more, criteria is everything.

Like many social skills stand high on our list, personality can often overcome physical attraction, and we are looking for fun social times with our sex, if you look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie it's not a bad thing but if you did you probably wouldn't be considering meeting us

if you look like Sally and Kevin Webster it's cool, (let's face it Sally needs shagging to give her something else to think about, she really needs to get a life)

So yes we like to find people who are sexually attractive to us, have a sense of humour and can hold a conversation.

Others have different ideas about who they would like to meet, many people don't like to meet smokers and we understand that 100%, we respect that, after all, deodarants, breath freshners and all the hygene in the world doesn't always help get rid of that horrible, "been to the crematorium on the way to the meet" effect.

Some people have age criteria, not wishing to play with people as young as thier children or old enough to be thier parents, we understand that, we respect that, it's not for us since the last thing on our mind when we are swinging is our parents or children, but each to thier own, live and let live. Our personal age criteria is 18-97 now in truth we do find most 18yr olds too imature but there are some great exceptions so we don't rule them out. We probably wouldn't find most 97 year olds sexually attractive but you never know, if someone is has the qualities we stated above, personality, sex appeal etc we don't give a seconds thought to how old they are (within legal limits)

So what I would like to know (ahh yes got to the point at last) is:

Why do those who state on thier profiles "WONT MEET SMOKERS" contact us ?

Why do those who state an age criteria above or below our ages contact us ?

Sasha is 27, I am 54 - if your profile says max age 35 we are just not for you are we

So how do other people think about this ? is it just me who wonders about this, have I got too much time for thinking ? can I really be a good surfer if I use "ALWAYS and ULTRA" ? cos I would love to be able to do that.

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By *yber pimpMan
over a year ago

durham area

lmao nearly fell asleep getting to the point, but definately worth the effort of staying awake. i get similar things happening, only meet couples im single, age preference not within range. seems strange i can messages off those that i would not contact but can not get them off those i do. one of lifes great mysteries i think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has thier own criteria when it comes to who they want to play with.

That's great and in our opinion the way it should be, ok some people don't care who they play with so long as they have the appropriate body parts and we hope those people have lots of fun, we are sure they do.

But for us and many more, criteria is everything.

Like many social skills stand high on our list, personality can often overcome physical attraction, and we are looking for fun social times with our sex, if you look like Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie it's not a bad thing but if you did you probably wouldn't be considering meeting us

if you look like Sally and Kevin Webster it's cool, (let's face it Sally needs shagging to give her something else to think about, she really needs to get a life)

So yes we like to find people who are sexually attractive to us, have a sense of humour and can hold a conversation.

Others have different ideas about who they would like to meet, many people don't like to meet smokers and we understand that 100%, we respect that, after all, deodarants, breath freshners and all the hygene in the world doesn't always help get rid of that horrible, "been to the crematorium on the way to the meet" effect.

Some people have age criteria, not wishing to play with people as young as thier children or old enough to be thier parents, we understand that, we respect that, it's not for us since the last thing on our mind when we are swinging is our parents or children, but each to thier own, live and let live. Our personal age criteria is 18-97 now in truth we do find most 18yr olds too imature but there are some great exceptions so we don't rule them out. We probably wouldn't find most 97 year olds sexually attractive but you never know, if someone is has the qualities we stated above, personality, sex appeal etc we don't give a seconds thought to how old they are (within legal limits)

So what I would like to know (ahh yes got to the point at last) is:

Why do those who state on thier profiles "WONT MEET SMOKERS" contact us ?

Why do those who state an age criteria above or below our ages contact us ?

Sasha is 27, I am 54 - if your profile says max age 35 we are just not for you are we

So how do other people think about this ? is it just me who wonders about this, have I got too much time for thinking ? can I really be a good surfer if I use "ALWAYS and ULTRA" ? cos I would love to be able to do that."

your post got me looking at your profile. its not often i get a good chuckle, its brill.

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

We get a wink or a message or invite from the people who do not like smokers,

When i point out we smoke.

not even ops sorry or thanks for pointing that out.

rant over lol

ian

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

No different to those guys who claim to be "Bi" just so they can fook the female, oh yeh, even tho their profile states he's Straight"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get people saying they only like slim people which I am not being a big girl. I point it out and they may have seen me on cam and still wink or ask for a friend invite. I then look at their other references on profile and see that am not what looking for at all but they just want to look.

I'm happy with who I am but wish people would stick to what they are looking for and like us stop looking at ones that they wont meet.

It would cut down on the amout of unwanted attention that we get. It is hard reading every ones profile but it does pay off.

We get alot of people from UK wanting to hook up but they don't look where we are and it can be a real problem when we point it out. I think it makes them think that we are time wasters. But if they really read profile they would know that we have standards that we wanted respected in regared to age and location, not willing to travel more than 50miles due to further would mean an over night stay and we have young kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is a game, a bit of fun. Look at a profile, have a chat, if you like each other - meet, if not, don't meet.

Some people can just be toooooo clinical in their 'criteria' and before anyone says it, NO we won't just meet anyone, but for heavens sake this is fun, a pastime, a hobby, call it what you will, but one thing it isn't - the be all and end all of life.

Lighten up and accept it for what it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Swinging is a game, a bit of fun. Look at a profile, have a chat, if you like each other - meet, if not, don't meet.

Some people can just be toooooo clinical in their 'criteria' and before anyone says it, NO we won't just meet anyone, but for heavens sake this is fun, a pastime, a hobby, call it what you will, but one thing it isn't - the be all and end all of life.

Lighten up and accept it for what it is."

Nope thought about this one but cannot accept it, as this to needs to be a mutual thing that both of us agree on then people have to show me that they will show respect to my partner before they get near her.

Those who choose to have unprotected sex will never be having sex with us.

Show too much aggression in your profile and we really dont wanna know you

Yes this is fun, we think that it is fun if you follow your own criteria, meeting but just going into it open armed not caring who you play with and under any conditions can lead to bad meets and even health risks.

Like you say you have criteria, perhaps some people have a rigid criteria with very set and high standards but that is what is making it fun for them

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


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Nope thought about this one but cannot accept it, as this to needs to be a mutual thing that both of us agree on then people have to show me that they will show respect to my partner before they get near her."

I thought this was a strange concept, it has to be mutual and you both agree on it, but "then people have to show me that they will show respect to my partner before they get near her", might be just me

The key thing is that we all have our own views, standards, like and dislikes. If your clinical you probably miss out on lots of opportunities, but its your choice.

In life we don't like everyone that we meet, we certainly don't want sex with everyone we meet (unless your male lol). The key is just accept folks for who they are and what they do, as said previously this is supposed to be fun.

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By *4tCouple
over a year ago

warrington

we got a message from a couple, out of the blue, whom we hadnt contacted. the message read along the lines of, please dont contact us, you are far to hardened for us.........wtf some strange folk lol

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


"we got a message from a couple, out of the blue, whom we hadnt contacted. the message read along the lines of, please dont contact us, you are far to hardened for us.........wtf some strange folk lol"

Agreed. If you hid half your verifications and your friends list, they'd be all over you, but you wouldn't be any different as people.

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