FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies and couples have the pick

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

So, so many threads with replys to men saying single ladies and couples have the pick of anyone they want, is it just me that doesn't get this.

We most definitely don't have the pic of anyone we want, I mean if we want a meet now with a pic of a cock then maybe, but who does?

Just because single men outweigh the rest doesn't mean we have a GOOD selection to choose from.

These replies to people bug me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're very correct, we don't have the pick and hell the majority of messages we get from blank profiles and one liners, wouldn't turn up anyway, they're just after wank fodder.

Plus we all want something out if it, so the attraction has to be there.

Yes we may have the luxury of being picky and choosy, but then we pick someone who's respectable/fun/serious... they're more likely to be picky and choosy too and turn us down as they'll have the pick of couples/singles

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

You kinda have the pick, but it very much depends on your standards I think

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Yep, there still has to be attraction and as is often discussed, it’s even harder to get 4 way attraction.

Single girls do have more interest, but we both know from experience that Becky could post a meet invite and get dozens of replies offering an instant meet..

Whether they would be people she was attracted to is a different thing altogether.

And as the OP rightly points out, hard to tell from a dick pic or a shadow.

On Fab, as in life, you get out what you put in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say you have the "pick" I'd say you have the huge inbox full of mens cocks to deal with..

Assume you just mass delete

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By *laction manMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Respectfully I think this goes both ways. I’ve found often single ladies or couples can be just as rude or have a profile that’s just close ups of spread pussies, or text with a massive list of must-be's or can’t-be’s. Remember when Fabs used to be fun, flirty and respectful? Probably showing my age there lol

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"You kinda have the pick, but it very much depends on your standards I think

Standards don't really come into it when your messaged by nothing but a cock or blank profile, that's definitely not a pick

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Respectfully I think this goes both ways. I’ve found often single ladies or couples can be just as rude or have a profile that’s just close ups of spread pussies, or text with a massive list of must-be's or can’t-be’s. Remember when Fabs used to be fun, flirty and respectful? Probably showing my age there lol"

Totally get that but generally single ladies and couples don't constantly comment about how easy it is for the men a d difficult it is for us.

Generally it's just assumed we pick who we want which is far from the case.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Totally get that but generally single ladies and couples don't constantly comment about how easy it is for the men a d difficult it is for us.

Generally it's just assumed we pick who we want which is far from the case."

I found it much easier as a single guy on here than I've ever found it as a couple.

I only had to worry about my tastes, wants and diary management.

In all honesty is waaaaay harder as a couple. Single men have it easy. Probably not as easy as single women, but significantly easier than any couple.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We have the pick of people who are interested in us. It's the same for everyone

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Totally get that but generally single ladies and couples don't constantly comment about how easy it is for the men a d difficult it is for us.

Generally it's just assumed we pick who we want which is far from the case.

I found it much easier as a single guy on here than I've ever found it as a couple.

I only had to worry about my tastes, wants and diary management.

In all honesty is waaaaay harder as a couple. Single men have it easy. Probably not as easy as single women, but significantly easier than any couple.

Completely agree, 3 and 4 way attraction is so hard to come by.

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By *agertha73Couple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Completely agree, 3 and 4 way attraction is so hard to come by."

As a couple, this has been the hardest thing.

PS/ we have the pick of hundreds of messages that say "hi". Really difficult to know which "hi" is the most interesting and is worth saying "hi" back

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Everyone has the ability to decline an invitation to meet, which includes single males declining to meet couples or single women if they don’t have am interest.

The issue tends to be that fab is seem as a version of vaginamon go, so any profile with a vagina attached is an instant win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well works for me

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Completely agree, 3 and 4 way attraction is so hard to come by.

As a couple, this has been the hardest thing.

PS/ we have the pick of hundreds of messages that say "hi". Really difficult to know which "hi" is the most interesting and is worth saying "hi" back "

Your lucky we don't even get a hi

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Everyone has the ability to decline an invitation to meet, which includes single males declining to meet couples or single women if they don’t have am interest.

The issue tends to be that fab is seem as a version of vaginamon go, so any profile with a vagina attached is an instant win.

There does seem to be a level of entitlement, just because we're here means we should sleep with anyone and have zero standards.

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

Its more options I think

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

The correct term that should be used is.. "single ladies and couples get pick of the litter" this meaning they have pick of what's available to them at the time. Doesn't mean all choices are good or bad etc, but as a single guy, it's just the way we have been "informed" as to how it is.. Even if its not entirely true

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

...but thats on here!!...its not a true reflection of real life and if couples and single women remember that life would be easier on here for single guys

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Too much choice is also very overwhelming. You don’t have time to have quality conversations and find out if you may actually connect with someone.

I feel like I may have missed some absolutely gems here.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Spot on op

I have right filters on to stop all the mail from those I don't want to meet & still rarely find someone I do want to meet.

On our couple profile it's equally hard ,many profiles have no pics of the man & I'm straight.Then it's getting 4 way attraction & when that happens there's 4 people's availability to factor in.

Yes if I wasn't choosy about who I meet ,I could meet regularly,but that's not the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely agree op , we don’t have the pick 90% of our inbox is people that don’t read our profile , don’t meet what we are looking for , or blank profiles that just want dirty talk or wanking material , the other 10% are people who we get on with but vanish without a trace lol , couples definitely don’t have the pick , if anything we have a harder time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99.9 of my/our messages hit the bin .... most blank no pics or sounding entitled / rude or they message is just crap so we dont have the pick as mostly theres nothing to pick from this has always been the same not just with fab but others sites too some of older than fab there is no ''pick'' its more personal than taking a pick ... i have to be sexually attracted at the very leasy and thats berfore anyone types or open thier mouth ....

the more men that join the harder it gets just look at the home page and see how many join then look at who attracts you might get lucky see one then you read the profile or see a status thats a total turn off so we couples dont have it easy fab can sometimes feel like your raiding the trash bin ie full of rubbish ... but the site isstill worth it as every now and then a gold nugget comes along ... i pick no one thats saying you will go with one just you need to pick nope we wait til the rihjy people come along ... picking is for those that dont care who they go with we'd rather go without .....

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By *entDomMan
over a year ago

Paddock Wood, Kent

It's true to an extent. Couples and single women will get lots of approaches wher as guys have to go looking.

But as one of the previous women said (sorry can't recall your name) it can be overwhelming.

I have a fwb and she is trying to organise us involving others. So she set up a couples profile. I try to distance myself from it as it can be confusing, but I do monitor the profile and messages.

Guys you would not believe the lack of effort in either reading the profile properly or in messages, that they put in

And then they complain that they don't get meets or that having exchanged 3 messages they are not meeting that day.

When you are overwhelmed with messages you need to stand out.

Just because it's "easy" for them it doesn't mean they aren't having to put in just as much work as us single guys

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Everyone has the ability to decline an invitation to meet, which includes single males declining to meet couples or single women if they don’t have am interest.

The issue tends to be that fab is seem as a version of vaginamon go, so any profile with a vagina attached is an instant win.

Vaginàmon go.

Amazing.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Completely agree with OP.

We absoultely do not have our pick.

First off we don't meet single guys. Just couples and ladies.

So there is two thirds of the site off our radar.

Secondly, Due to our preffences of what we want, we end up in a niche category anyway.

So.when we are approaching others, we don't get thay far that often on here. If not for clubs and socials, I don't think we would get anywhere on fab.

And thats the point. We've had 3 meets through fab all year. 3..and we are active.

But when we are approached on fab, 99% of the time it's just fakes, time wasters or people who can't read.

Constantly getting offers from single guys (via fwb accounts or claim to be one half of a couple that has a single cam veri from 2017. That or being asked to go on kik and share photos and videos from so.one pretending to be a woman.

Fab, quite frankly is crap.for getting meets now. Local updates are always moaning about people being fake or timewasters.

But it's a free site. Comes with the territory. Take the good with the bad. Filters no longer work as people just create fake accounts so just gonna have to deal.with it.

Site needs an overhaul but never gonna happen till there's a better alternative.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Whether you are a single guy/girl or couple and despite how many messages you get, only about 2% of those you’d be initially interested in.

So whilst single women and couples get more messages, they have more crap messages to deal with.

We get plenty of messages (depending on what pic we’ve posted) throughout the day but maybe only one or two we would actually want.

So I’d say single guys have it better as they don’t have to waste time on the crap messages received and have to go search for what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my pick of local men who want to meet today to empty their loads. I feel so blessed.

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Completely agree, 3 and 4 way attraction is so hard to come by."

Yes agree with this. We’ve met some great people on here and hope we stay friends for a long time, however it’s been harder than we thought to find people we connect with.

We don’t like to have Do’s and Don’ts lists on our profile, but as time passes and we experience more time wasters and wannabes it gets more tempting!

We filter out single men so don’t get too much spam at all, can’t understand people who say they are swamped by men - set your filters, easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree, 3 and 4 way attraction is so hard to come by.

As a couple, this has been the hardest thing.

PS/ we have the pick of hundreds of messages that say "hi". Really difficult to know which "hi" is the most interesting and is worth saying "hi" back

Your lucky we don't even get a hi

We’re not the only ones then

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

"So, so many threads with replys to men saying single ladies and couples have the pick of anyone they want, is it just me that doesn't get this.

We most definitely don't have the pic of anyone we want, I mean if we want a meet now with a pic of a cock then maybe, but who does?

Just because single men outweigh the rest doesn't mean we have a GOOD selection to choose from.

These replies to people bug me."

Yes they do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, so many threads with replys to men saying single ladies and couples have the pick of anyone they want, is it just me that doesn't get this.

We most definitely don't have the pic of anyone we want, I mean if we want a meet now with a pic of a cock then maybe, but who does?

Just because single men outweigh the rest doesn't mean we have a GOOD selection to choose from.

These replies to people bug me."

Absolutely this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You kinda have the pick, but it very much depends on your standards I think

Not at all.

There may be more men to choose from, but we're in the same pool when it comes to looking for couples and women.

It can actually be more difficult because two couples want a four way attraction.

We struggle because Mr doesn't want to be involved with anyone but with Mrs A.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Everyone is allowed to have preferences

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

We certainly do not have our pick of who we like... firstly there still has to be a mutual attraction on both sides so who's to say they said person isn't attracted to us???

Not only that, we've have certain ladies that are attracted to us as we are them but either ourselves or them haven't been looking for the same things to experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We certainly do not have our pick of who we like... firstly there still has to be a mutual attraction on both sides so who's to say they said person isn't attracted to us???

Not only that, we've have certain ladies that are attracted to us as we are them but either ourselves or them haven't been looking for the same things to experience

This swinging game is / can be soooo complicated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a lot of luck involved - We consider ourselves very fortunate to have swapped messages with an awesome couple right from the start. Like everyone we've had couples and singles that disappear all the way up to arriving at the bar and them flitting

We don't take it too seriously and put everything in to meets when they happen which is Loreal moment.

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"So, so many threads with replys to men saying single ladies and couples have the pick of anyone they want, is it just me that doesn't get this.

We most definitely don't have the pic of anyone we want, I mean if we want a meet now with a pic of a cock then maybe, but who does?

Just because single men outweigh the rest doesn't mean we have a GOOD selection to choose from.

These replies to people bug me."

Yeah quite agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, so many threads with replys to men saying single ladies and couples have the pick of anyone they want, is it just me that doesn't get this.

We most definitely don't have the pic of anyone we want, I mean if we want a meet now with a pic of a cock then maybe, but who does?

Just because single men outweigh the rest doesn't mean we have a GOOD selection to choose from.

These replies to people bug me.

Yeah quite agree"

agree as well

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Not that having the pick seems to help any. Finding the right guy for good woman for a MFM is proving incredibly difficult.

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