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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Been on here years and never had a meet clearly doing somthing wrong....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been on here years and never had a meet clearly doing somthing wrong.... "

Can't think what?! You haven't asked for advice, so none can be given. Look at your profile and imagine it was a female or couples. Would you message it?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Been on here years and never had a meet clearly doing somthing wrong....

Can't think what?! You haven't asked for advice, so none can be given. Look at your profile and imagine it was a female or couples. Would you message it?"

Do you want some advice OP?

Happy to give it on here if so.

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes advice would be great

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Op your profile is v lacking

You need some public pics and more text to tempt people into wanting to meet you.what do you offer ?

Sell yourself as there are so many other single males on here with good pics and profiles.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Yes advice would be great"

OK.

I'll be blunt.

There isn't a hope in hell that we'd ever message a profile with no visible photos and less words in the bio than you put in your opening post on this forum thread.

And I suspect most others would feel the same. So even if you constructed a wonderful opening message it would be a waste of time given that you've put zero effort into your 'shop window'.

If you can honestly say that you'd message a woman's profile having no idea of what she looked like or what she was looking for then that says heaps for your motivation for being on site.

People aren't interested in chasing for info. You have to tempt them and give them a reason to be interested.

A

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By *risxbrisxMan
over a year ago

Bristol

The profile is empty dude what do you expect?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Desperation and pity are not attractive looks.

If something isn’t working for you, change it up.

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east


"Been on here years and never had a meet clearly doing somthing wrong.... "

Clearly

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Know the feeling mate, just one meet, been led on and dumped a few times too

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Know the feeling mate, just one meet, been led on and dumped a few times too"

What exactly do both you and the OP expect? You've both got lazy pictureless profiles that are almost blank! Why would any couples or single women pick you out of the other thousands of guys on here? Also, neither of you are going to find that 99 year old you're looking for!

It amazes us that there are still members on here with blank pictureless profiles wondering why they aren't getting anywhere. Even guys with pictures struggle so you've both got absolutely no chance as they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Know the feeling mate, just one meet, been led on and dumped a few times too

What exactly do both you and the OP expect? You've both got lazy pictureless profiles that are almost blank! Why would any couples or single women pick you out of the other thousands of guys on here? Also, neither of you are going to find that 99 year old you're looking for!

It amazes us that there are still members on here with blank pictureless profiles wondering why they aren't getting anywhere. Even guys with pictures struggle so you've both got absolutely no chance as they are.

"

Hit the nail on the head. Our inbox is full of picture less and bio profiles and they still expect us to drop everything and go fuck them now.

Even as a couple we struggle to get meets, but then again, we are picky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes advice would be great

OK.

I'll be blunt.

There isn't a hope in hell that we'd ever message a profile with no visible photos and less words in the bio than you put in your opening post on this forum thread.

And I suspect most others would feel the same. So even if you constructed a wonderful opening message it would be a waste of time given that you've put zero effort into your 'shop window'.

If you can honestly say that you'd message a woman's profile having no idea of what she looked like or what she was looking for then that says heaps for your motivation for being on site.

People aren't interested in chasing for info. You have to tempt them and give them a reason to be interested.

A"

Agree completely x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

No public photos

Will meet anyone

That's a huge no from me.

Mrs

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

We need a bit of visual and mental stimulation to get us interested. Some photos (they don’t need to be face or cocks) and profile text saying a bit about you and what you’re looking for will help us decide if we want to engage, after receiving an introductory message.

Plus, not being able to accommodate is a bit of a red flag for some as it is assumed you may have a partner. We wouldn’t accommodate at home but we prefer hotel meets.

Lou x

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By *llaandGCouple
over a year ago

London

Also (with the insight from the million+ other posts saying the same thing) don't mistake Fabs for a cheap dating site. It's not. It's a space for people that enjoy a certain lifestyle to explore, meet, and have fun. Single men looking for meets but not willing to put any effort in often find themselves wondering what they're doing wrong, even though the question has been answered a very great deal on the fora.

You'd be better off (all together now) using the resources to find socials in your area, and meeting people that way first up.

But for more general tips, the following are slight red flags for profiles:

No photo

Short message

Been on over a year with no veris

Cannot accommodate

Only interested in F or

Hope that helps,

G

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

You aren't very identifiable from your profile which makes me suspicious. No description of yourself or public photos?

There isn't really anything on there that would make me want to strike up a conversation.

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By *rchitectMan
over a year ago

Dorchester

It’s the lack of photos that kills it for you.

You are up against 100’s of other guys.

You need a USP on this site to succeed

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