FabSwingers.com forum: “We don’t give out our phone number”….Is this still a valid excuse?

By *omorebull OP Couple
over a year ago

gateshead

20 years ago, mobiles were extremely expensive. You got a contract, one number and one phone. If you accidentally or carelessly gave your number to someone who turned out to be an idiot, you were stuck with the abusive calls and texts. Not a pleasant place to be.

Now…

Burner phones are a fiver from Cash Converters.

Simcards can be obtained from Poundland (guess the price)

In the event you hook up on here with a moron or a stalker (male or female!), just bin the sim and get another.

Everyone should get a phone for sexy time. There’d be a lot less bogus ads as you could immediately check whether “Babygirl Ashleigh” was really”Emphysema Eddie”. Then you could have fun with the excuses…

“Can’t answer as family here”

“She’s at work”

“Too shy to talk…but we’ll open our legs”

Maybe we should have our own charter on here about how we use the site…there’d be a lot less ads but far more genuine people

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I don't give out mine. Can talk on fab or not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont want two phones so I never give my number out. More than happy to converse on kik which is safe enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't give out mine. Can talk on fab or not at all"

Here here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you got family pic as your WhatsApp photo don't really want strangers looking lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't give out mine. Can talk on fab or not at all"

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By *ixedDevilMan
over a year ago

Bootyville

Prefer to give out my snapchat. You can do everything on there the same as if you exchanged phone numbers, so I think its the better option

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By *ussy licker99Man
over a year ago

smethwick

I always give out my number. Also on my profile not that I receive any calls though

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

While I agree that it is easy to have burner phones, most people simply don’t want the added extra hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I dint give out number

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By *strokeC100Couple
over a year ago

chester

We always kept a ‘ play phone’ for just this purpose when we were more active. Made sense

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

We only give out number if definite meet, then it's him that's sorts out WhatsApp chat. Saves me being bugged by unwanted attention.

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By *nsatiablebutfussyCouple
over a year ago

Stoke

Yeah we only give our number when we know we're definitely meeting and set up a group chat

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By *ynxxxMan
over a year ago

Southeast London

"20 years ago, mobiles were extremely expensive. You got a contract, one number and one phone. If you accidentally or carelessly gave your number to someone who turned out to be an idiot, you were stuck with the abusive calls and texts. Not a pleasant place to be.

Now…

Burner phones are a fiver from Cash Converters.

Simcards can be obtained from Poundland (guess the price)

In the event you hook up on here with a moron or a stalker (male or female!), just bin the sim and get another.

Everyone should get a phone for sexy time."

It definitely works for me. It's easier to chat/call/send pics, once you're past the initial Fab introductions.

As you say, it's fairly inexpensive nowadays to get a phone (with SIM) that's WhatsApp enabled.

Also, less chance of accidentally sending the wrong kind of pic or vid to the wrong contact or group

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

I happily give out my number to people I’ve met.

Before that it’s on here and Kik mostly. A Skype video call if I’m unsure on someone.

No need for a second phone.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

100% its a valid reason, not an excuse! Bloody wierdos everywhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s as valid an excuse as any.

It’s valid for them, even if you think it isn’t.

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By *ussy licker99Man
over a year ago

smethwick

Genuine people you think will not take the pee and be respectful and understanding

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By *omorebull OP Couple
over a year ago

gateshead

Lol touched a few nerves there I see. Some of the old time excuses coming to the fore again. Just pointing out that immediate phone contact confirms that at least people say they’re the sex they are and that all of the people involved are equally up for play.

Chat apps that allow voice chat do the same job but I suspect that a lot don’t want to speak on those either for the same nefarious reasons. Do people really turn up for meets without voice verification or do they chat with couples by text for weeks before realising that all is not as it seems?

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

What if you want a break? But everyones got your number...

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

Only give out my number once I’ve been chatting for while and really want to meet. It’s easy to just delete and block x

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

We will give out number only when we feel comfortable that the person receiving it isnt a mentalist

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By *ussy licker99Man
over a year ago

smethwick

Exactly if you don't like someone you can easily block their number.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

We only meet at socials or clubs so why would we.

However, we have special friends who do know them.

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By *omorebull OP Couple
over a year ago

gateshead

"What if you want a break? But everyones got your number..."

Turn your sex phone off. Or get a new sim when you’re ready to play again. That’s the point

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By *andsCouple
over a year ago

Edin

Don’t give out our numbers, been on here for a very long time and it’s never been an issue

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By *ussy licker99Man
over a year ago

smethwick

Most of the fake people pretending to be the opposite sex and those who have an excuse for everything will always never want to call

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

As soon as you move correspondence from Fab and to text/voice/messenger service, you lose the ability to report the other person if they get abusive or don't turn up for a meet. If things are kept in Fab then there's a trail that admin can see.

We give out our numbers only when we're likely to meet someone.

(Bry)

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By *omorebull OP Couple
over a year ago

gateshead

"Most of the fake people pretending to be the opposite sex and those who have an excuse for everything will always never want to call "

Totally agree!!

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

"What if you want a break? But everyones got your number...

Turn your sex phone off. Or get a new sim when you’re ready to play again. That’s the point

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I don't know how much you time you spend living a fab life but i'm definitely not getting a second phone for this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Prefer to give out my snapchat. You can do everything on there the same as if you exchanged phone numbers, so I think its the better option

Totally agree

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't give our phone number unless we have a definite meet arranged. We don't give a reason or an excuse for this. If people wish to use it as a filter then neither of us have lost anything.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"As soon as you move correspondence from Fab and to text/voice/messenger service, you lose the ability to report the other person if they get abusive or don't turn up for a meet. If things are kept in Fab then there's a trail that admin can see.

We give out our numbers only when we're likely to meet someone.

(Bry)"

Exactly!

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By *omorebull OP Couple
over a year ago

gateshead

We give out our numbers only when we're likely to meet someone.

Good point but when you’re ready to meet, how do you know that the people you’re meeting are the people they say they are? Several years ago there was a freak in the north east posting pics of a girl and directing people to the home of a severely disabled person who had obviously wronged this idiot in some way. A simple phone conversation would have nipped that in the bud and as for protection, it would have given the police something to work with. I think you’ll find that admin have an “oh dear” attitude to this kind of thing as some of these morons pay their site subscription fees every month.

(Bry)"

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"I don't give out mine. Can talk on fab or not at all"

Same here. I don't see the need to give away my mobile number, or to get a "burner phone just for fun" and then be bombarded by messages every 5 seconds. And I hate talking on the phone anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don’t give out our phone number”….Is this still a valid excuse?

Yes.

I don't see the issue chatting on here or on another platform that keeps your number anonymous. Don't see the need to give out my number.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Too many weirdos out there. Apps exist that do the job of stuff like WhatsApp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol touched a few nerves there I see. Some of the old time excuses coming to the fore again. Just pointing out that immediate phone contact confirms that at least people say they’re the sex they are and that all of the people involved are equally up for play.

Yes and after 5 years on here doing just that I've never had an issue. I've never had a voice verification with someone lol

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By *hubby CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

As a couple we have a ‘burner’ aka fab phone, it makes sense and doesn’t need carrying around, it can simply be left on and off when ever it is needed.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

A lot of Samsung phones have dual SIMS. They are cool because you get the option of having two separate WhatsApp profiles.

I also use Telegram because you can chose to either hide or reveal your mobile number. Another nice touch is the fact you can set pictures and videos on a self destruct timer when you share them with people.

So whilst I have some sympathy with peoples (women especially) desire to not share numbers. I get wary when people are unwilling to understand my desire for them to prove their authenticity if they want me to invest my valuable time chatting with them back and forth over an extended period of time. Especially if they don't have any/recent verifications.

I've been burnt too many times by fantasists stringing me along with fake (especially couples) accounts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this a joke? Anyone who doesn't accept the many valid reasons I have not to give my number out can see themselves out of my inbox. I will offer Telegram when I'm ready to chat off Fab.

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Why can't people just chat on here or if not get kik. I don't see the need for phone numbers personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, don't want a second phone and won't give out my number. We are happy to chat on telegram though. If that makes us fake, so be it.

Pxx

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

"Good point but when you’re ready to meet, how do you know that the people you’re meeting are the people they say they are?"

It's generally not an issue for us. We get zero interest from single women, so we're not going to be caught out by a guy pretending. We have almost zero interest from couples and the single guys pretending are easy to le out through messaging.

So we generally only meet single guys. As long as we have a good selection of pics, we can work out if they look like they say they do. And they come to us, so although it's never happened, if they turn up and they're not whey they said then they don't get through the door.

(Bry)

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By *hantelle-La-SlutTV/TS
over a year ago

South Birmingham

don't give my number. and i have arranged plenty on meet on here without issues.

Kik is useless too as most want pics.

you do not need a phine number at all. to prove you are rel and genuine or need to speak with someone.

and giving your number to someone you never met is really stupid.

i would not carry another phone just for that.

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By *ussy licker99Man
over a year ago

smethwick

We give out our numbers only when we're likely to meet someone.

(Bry)"

100% agree all the way. I even give my number out when I message. If people are real and honest then they can call you and speak.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No nerves touched here btw. I'd rather not give my number out.

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By *enuine_J87Man
over a year ago

Eastleigh

I just see it same as dating apps. You ‘match’ or message, the conversation flows, if you really intend to meet up and hopefully more than once you can swap numbers. Saves coming onto this website for every message. If for whatever reason it doesn’t work out or they are a weirdo you can just block them in 2 seconds.

As a single guy I have no other person to hide my phone or messages from. I’ll admit the idea of a second phone definitely doesn’t appeal to me at all.

I guess couples may be more inclined to not give out their number? I wouldn’t know though but it seems that way. Maybe it’s an age/generation thing as well?

For all my years online dating or fab on and off, it’s always been the same pattern, match, talk, if it goes well you swap numbers. As time goes on more apps start appearing such as kik and snapchat that means you can talk or swap pictures without the actual phone number.

As I say, if it turns sour on the odd occasion you can block them in 2 seconds and it’s over.

I’ve still met people in the past who only wanted to chat via the app we matched/first messaged on, then swap numbers after the first meet. As I know we all have differing opinions on giving out numbers or not, it’s hardly a dealbreaker if someone doesn’t want to, I’m not here to force anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything to uphold privacy should be respected. Kik snap. Plenty of avenues aswell the site itself. Not a issue to not get someone's personal number.

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By *ussy licker99Man
over a year ago

smethwick

Can get to find out if people are genuine on the phone. Also video calls a good way to verify.

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By *bzHotCplCouple
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Don’t want two phones and won’t give out number to people we’ve never met.

Just get a Skype account for fab and use that to vid call anyone you are unsure of.

To be honest you can usually spot the fakes and time wasters a mile off anyway!!!

Simples….

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By *imandLiz14Couple
over a year ago

Needham

We only meet at Chameleons so no need for phone numbers.

In the past when we did meet Jim's number was given for contact when meets had been arranged

And sometimes kik

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By *essymae8t8TV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

After I've chatted on here 1st if they don't give me a contact number the red flags start flying for me..

It's a swinging site to meet people so if you can't trust the person with your number then why would you meet them at all???

In fact I wouldn't not meet anyone without having their mobile number and speaking on it 1stly.

Its ludicrous to meet anyone just off fab alone right?? so many fake profiles and catfish.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Only exchange numbers, when I've had a really great connection knowing by that gut feeling,never fails.

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By *iptoptottyWoman
over a year ago

Watford, Herts

I never give out my number because it’s linked to my social media. If I put someone’s number in my phone then within days I see them as a friend suggestion on FB. I like to keep my family/private life separate from my swinging lifestyle. My phone number links the two so it’s better to use one of the messaging apps that don’t require a phone number just a username

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I don't give out my number on here there are a very small handful have it and they are people I got to know well first and met before they got my number. If it bothers someone that I won't before we meet that's fine they can just move on. So far it hasn't been an issue with anyone I've met.

I have no interest in having a second phone I am not that invested in fab that I feel the need to have a second phone for it.

When I first joined I did phone someone with my number withheld and it ended up just being awkward and him expecting phone sex so no it's not something I will do again.

We can chat well enough on here to know each other and decide if we will meet or not.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"After I've chatted on here 1st if they don't give me a contact number the red flags start flying for me..

It's a swinging site to meet people so if you can't trust the person with your number then why would you meet them at all???

In fact I wouldn't not meet anyone without having their mobile number and speaking on it 1stly.

Its ludicrous to meet anyone just off fab alone right?? so many fake profiles and catfish. "

If my verification record, conversation, and off site conversation (which can include photos, video, video chat - none of which requires phone number) aren't enough, then I don't think a phone number would change it. (What's to stop a time waster from having a "fun times wind up" burner phone)?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Doesn't bother me giving my number out, the block function is available if needed as is the mute on chats.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually a SwingSIM makes sense if you have a spare slot. A burner phone is probably too much effort. I'm never quite sure how much data Telegram and Signal hold, so would avoid. What amazes me is how many people genuinely hate talking on the phone - I love it...Gen Txt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tried a burner. I forget about it so things die a death lol

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Plus phone number is linked to two factor verification, banks, etc not so easy to swap anymore.

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By *omorebull OP Couple
over a year ago

gateshead

"Plus phone number is linked to two factor verification, banks, etc not so easy to swap anymore. "

Not hard at all with a PAYG sim and top up vouchers! Keep your contract phone for your friends and family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus phone number is linked to two factor verification, banks, etc not so easy to swap anymore.

Not hard at all with a PAYG sim and top up vouchers! Keep your contract phone for your friends and family"

Maybe a pay as you go phone is t difficult to get OP but I don't think you're hearing what a lot are saying, most don't want a second phone. Of you works for you, great but that doesn't mean that everyone will do it or wants to.

Pxx

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By *omorebull OP Couple
over a year ago

gateshead

"Plus phone number is linked to two factor verification, banks, etc not so easy to swap anymore.

Not hard at all with a PAYG sim and top up vouchers! Keep your contract phone for your friends and family

Pxx"

Fully get it…and at the end of the day, everyone has their own criteria as to whether they feel people are genuine or not and what they do about it. Good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s interesting. How do you know they didn’t insult us.? Insult lies with the receiver, not the giver."

I think you mean offence. Insult is to treat with insolence, indignity, or contempt. It's up to the recipient if they take offence to take insult that's given.

Offence is taken not given.

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By *enuine_J87Man
over a year ago

Eastleigh

Is there a way to do this where it isn’t copy/pasting all the previous thread as a quote reply in every message, so tedious scrolling past it all…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s interesting. How do you know they didn’t insult us.? Insult lies with the receiver, not the giver.

I think you mean offence. Insult is to treat with insolence, indignity, or contempt. It's up to the recipient if they take offence to take insult that's given.

Offence is taken not given. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont want two phones so I never give my number out. More than happy to converse on kik which is safe enough "

This exactly

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Well. This escalated quickly.

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By *omorebull OP Couple
over a year ago

gateshead

"Well. This escalated quickly."

Didn’t it just! Lol

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By *ed LipstickWoman
over a year ago

Fucksville

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By *orkcoastguyMan
over a year ago

Bridlington.

Kik or wkr for me.

On my profile if they want to use it.

Certainly not my actual number.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only give my number out to people I trust. Even more so when certain texts or messages can be seen on locked phones-which I found out to my cost x

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By *omorebull OP Couple
over a year ago

gateshead

"Only give my number out to people I trust. Even more so when certain texts or messages can be seen on locked phones-which I found out to my cost x

Yes that is a danger!! Always check your settings!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well put

We have a play phone … had an awkward Experience sharing own number so are still vulnerable to problem causers… you only block a number

And so many ways to be track down

Mad world xx

Gone the days of ex-directory number protection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t want a burner and I would never give our numbers out on here.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

A sex phone may be advantageous to those "who need sex" but to those of us who don't need it and are content with using the site as it is the suggestion is redundant.

Having never chatted to or met anyone classed as a timewaster and never had a no show in all my years here so I assume that's down to doing something right.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

This thread is a prime example as to why I don’t give my number out without meeting people.

Behind a screen people can pretend to be anything. Even a normal, reasonable person.

At some point when the lid comes off that I don’t want to have to change my number. Burner phone or not.

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By *omorebull OP Couple
over a year ago

gateshead

"This thread is a prime example as to why I don’t give my number out without meeting people.

Behind a screen people can pretend to be anything. Even a normal, reasonable person.

At some point when the lid comes off that I don’t want to have to change my number. Burner phone or not."

Agree with you. Precisely why we ask for one.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

"This thread is a prime example as to why I don’t give my number out without meeting people.

Behind a screen people can pretend to be anything. Even a normal, reasonable person.

At some point when the lid comes off that I don’t want to have to change my number. Burner phone or not.

Agree with you. Precisely why we ask for one."

Far less hassle just having a social in a pub. Considerably safer for me.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Suppose the op’s question and responses give a little indication to how intense or laidback fab is to forum users.

We’ve found we don’t need another phone to have fun or find friends in a fab community.

Just us.

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By *ohnandJulieCouple
over a year ago

Now…

Burner phones are a fiver from Cash Converters.

Simcards can be obtained from Poundland (guess the price)

In the event you hook up on here with a moron or a stalker (male or female!), just bin the sim and get another.

“Can’t answer as family here”

“She’s at work”

“Too shy to talk…but we’ll open our legs”

Maybe we should have our own charter on here about how we use the site…there’d be a lot less ads but far more genuine people"

Yes it is.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

We give out our numbers only when we're likely to meet someone.

(Bry)"

This is why I now stick to communications on here.

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I don't to be communicable by phone for the most part. Very few swingers have my number and that's not about to change.

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By *sabellatina80Couple
over a year ago

London

This

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

I very rarely give my phone number out, and never to people prior to meeting. I feel much safer chatting on here. There is plenty of opportunity to exchange live photos to prove they are genuine.

If people insist that I, as a single lady, give out my phone number, they have no concept of safety issues and the possibility of ladies being hassled. I've experienced it. Block someone's number and they contact you using a different phone.

People have their own beliefs regarding this, so just do what suits you, but don't expect everyone to feel the same.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I don't want another phone. We can talk on here or Kik. My phone is for friends and work.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

We always had a phone just for play when we were playing, then had a phone that took two sim cards. We turned it off totally when not wanting to meet but for the most part people didn't harras us on it anyway.

We only gave the number out once we were arranging a meet though, we used to prove who we were by skype etc

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley

Ye if you don’t want to give it out many other ways to make contact

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

" Several years ago there was a freak in the north east posting pics of a girl and directing people to the home of a severely disabled person who had obviously wronged this idiot in some way. A simple phone conversation would have nipped that in the bud and as for protection, it would have given the police something to work with. I think you’ll find that admin have an “oh dear” attitude to this kind of thing as some of these morons pay their site subscription fees every month.

That is totally not true, they would take what you have said very seriously and the person wouldn't be on the site anymore.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Can I remind people that nitpicking peoples profiles is not allowed. Also attacking the poster is against rules too

https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

Here are the rules if anyone wants to check them out

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

In the 9 years of fabbing, we've given a phone number out three times. And they've only been to people who we've met more than once and consider friends. And sane

Otherwise, we stick to fab mail or kik.

Depending on your social media settings it can be possible to find people by searching for their phone number. This happened once with us when a 'single guy' sent us his number and it lead back to his Facebook account, showing photos of his family.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dual SIM phone but mostly sensible filtering prevents eejits from having your number

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

Now…

Burner phones are a fiver from Cash Converters.

Simcards can be obtained from Poundland (guess the price)

In the event you hook up on here with a moron or a stalker (male or female!), just bin the sim and get another.

“Can’t answer as family here”

“She’s at work”

“Too shy to talk…but we’ll open our legs”

Maybe we should have our own charter on here about how we use the site…there’d be a lot less ads but far more genuine people"

Disagree. Don't do phone at all I talk on fab only. Once I decide to meet someone I'll swap numbers so that they can verify I'm Gail and not "Eddie" as you said. If they don't believe I'm Gail upfront or don't accept my way of things, then they're free to move on. I have zero interest in buying a second phone.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not giving out my phone number and I don't want a second phone.

I have had problems in the past from men I have given my number to..

I don't want my phone pinging with messages at random times.

There is a cost involved in a burner phone and my family would wonder why I had it.

If I have a meet arranged, I will Kik with the person. You can video call on Kik now anyway.

If a member wants phone numbers, they must look for members who do give them out.

It's all down to personal preferences really, like most things on Fab ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Giving out a personal phone number is basically giving out your personal information. Where you live ect.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

You can use something like Kik or Whatsapp. Then you don't have to give your number out.

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

We give out our numbers only when we're likely to meet someone.

(Bry)"

Exactly this... and there is no invalid excuse, if you don't want to give out your number then you shouldn't need to give an excuse why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely don’t give my number out on here, and it’s not an excuse, it’s a good reason.

If someone has my number they can message anytime you want, and you can’t switch off from it.

A few people I know we’ll have my contact off here, but otherwise it’s just as easy to communicate in here

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

"I happily give out my number to people I’ve met.

Before that it’s on here and Kik mostly. A Skype video call if I’m unsure on someone.

No need for a second phone. "

This. Before you meet someone, Ithink it's better to use anonymous stuff like fab, kik etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After I've chatted on here 1st if they don't give me a contact number the red flags start flying for me..

It's a swinging site to meet people so if you can't trust the person with your number then why would you meet them at all???

In fact I wouldn't not meet anyone without having their mobile number and speaking on it 1stly.

Its ludicrous to meet anyone just off fab alone right?? so many fake profiles and catfish. "

No it isn’t. I know very few people who gov entire number out, and arranging meets is not an issue.

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By *aughtynottsCouple
over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

Having given it out prior it seems to give people the excuse to think they can message you everytime they need a booty call, so I don’t think anyone should have to give out their personal number and people should respect that many want to fuck and go they don’t want the endless contact after.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

"I very rarely give my phone number out, and never to people prior to meeting. I feel much safer chatting on here. There is plenty of opportunity to exchange live photos to prove they are genuine.

People have their own beliefs regarding this, so just do what suits you, but don't expect everyone to feel the same."

Pretty much this.

If I decide to meet someone it is always purely a social meet first anyway.

I hate talking on the phone to anyone apart from close friends and family (and even then it's a very select few). I've no desire to talk to a total stranger.

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

"Having given it out prior it seems to give people the excuse to think they can message you everytime they need a booty call, so I don’t think anyone should have to give out their personal number and people should respect that many want to fuck and go they don’t want the endless contact after. "

Totally agree.... we like to meet in clubs and keep it all very anonymous as far as contact after that is concerned

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Now…

Burner phones are a fiver from Cash Converters.

Simcards can be obtained from Poundland (guess the price)

In the event you hook up on here with a moron or a stalker (male or female!), just bin the sim and get another.

“Can’t answer as family here”

“She’s at work”

“Too shy to talk…but we’ll open our legs”

Maybe we should have our own charter on here about how we use the site…there’d be a lot less ads but far more genuine people"

Sounds like a load of b……

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I don't give out mine. Why would I want a random stranger to have it?

You can call on Snapchat so I use that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We give out our numbers only when we're likely to meet someone.

(Bry)"

Absolutely this. Works well for us.

Viv

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By *uckslut888Woman
over a year ago

Loughborough

There’s this little feature on phones now called ‘BLOCK’ if your potential meet turns out to be a complete d*ck!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give my number out. I once had someone give my number out to different people on dating apps and I had to change it. Now, my number is only given if we have met a few times and going to meet again.

I think it's another preference, if it doesn't work, then we're not compatible in that sense.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Totally agree.... we like to meet in clubs and keep it all very anonymous as far as contact after that is concerned

Agree with this and if we ever changed we certainly wouldn't be giving our number to a hidden profile OP.

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Never give out my number until after a few meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a emp popped in society half the population would be in dire straights.

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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago

Longridge

Had two numbers, both the same since 1991 - Vodafone's most loyal customer. 0831.. remember them?

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"What if you want a break? But everyones got your number...

Turn your sex phone off. Or get a new sim when you’re ready to play again. That’s the point

Then have to tell all the contacts that you want to keep in contact with your new number?

Sounds like a total faff.

There are plenty of apps that you can chat on without giving a number, then you can just exchange your number with people you have met and trust.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'd also like to say - valid excuse?

The way anyone operates is up to them. We meet in the middle. If I don't want anyone to have my number, I'm not answerable to them. They can like it or lump it.

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By *straightguys4uMan
over a year ago

bromley

Easy solution. I give my burner number and say:

Ring me for a chat and hide your number.

It’s a sure fire way to see off the fakes on here.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

"There’s this little feature on phones now called ‘BLOCK’ if your potential meet turns out to be a complete d*ck!! "

That only blocks that one number though.

It doesn’t stop them calling or messaging from another number. Or sending messages from an online platform.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

It's not an excuse. We don't want to. So, we don't.

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

We keep our ‘FAB life’ and our ‘real life’ separate, we would never give our phone numbers out because it jeopardises that deliberate separation. We can talk on here or via Kik. If they don’t like that then we aren’t the people for them.

C x

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

Seems like a bit of a palava. Just chat here or kik. If worried about couples not really bei_g couples or ladies being men just just focus on people who are verified. Cuts out most of the jokers. We do give our phone number once we've met and feel comfortable but even then prefer not to. Swinging is out separate world. Also if on WhatsApp think you sometimes end up getting the person suggested as a friend on Facebook and therein a real pandoras box.

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

"There’s this little feature on phones now called ‘BLOCK’ if your potential meet turns out to be a complete d*ck!!

That only blocks that one number though.

It doesn’t stop them calling or messaging from another number. Or sending messages from an online platform. "

Or potentially finding you on Facebook....

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"There’s this little feature on phones now called ‘BLOCK’ if your potential meet turns out to be a complete d*ck!! "

They still got your number though..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just takes one idiot to plaster your phone number on a status. In this day in age with snapchat and other apps why you would give your number out I've no idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Easy solution. I give my burner number and say:

Ring me for a chat and hide your number.

It’s a sure fire way to see off the fakes on here.

And the genuine people who don’t want to do that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Na people have professional and personal lives where things that happen on here whether right or wrong get frowned upon. Plenty of apps that allow for verification without disclosing a phone no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It just takes one idiot to plaster your phone number on a status. In this day in age with snapchat and other apps why you would give your number out I've no idea

people fa to realize you can be doxxed in a matter of minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We keep our ‘FAB life’ and our ‘real life’ separate, we would never give our phone numbers out because it jeopardises that deliberate separation. We can talk on here or via Kik. If they don’t like that then we aren’t the people for them.

C x"

Brilliant comment x totally agree with you x

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

C x

Brilliant comment x totally agree with you x

It’s called respect and if someone can’t respect those wishes then we would have zero trust that they’d respect our other boundaries.

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate snap and any vidchat we got recorded on another by platform and ended up on a porn site. My husband and I trusted that information with the other party.He is retired military officer it almost ruined our life. So noore video evidence . Hence why I do not show my face. Be careful all on your decisions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Giving out a personal phone number is basically giving out your personal information. Where you live ect. "

So is inviting people to your home? Invite the right people and it's all gravy

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
over a year ago

Home

No way would I give my number outon this

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Most of the fake people pretending to be the opposite sex and those who have an excuse for everything will always never want to call "
or maybe some people just don't want to chat to people on the phone.

When I was on as a couple,he liked to chat on the phone as a group before we would meet and I hated it. All the crappy flirting and small talk.

I don't care if someone thinks I'm not real. I am not giving out my number

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Giving out a personal phone number is basically giving out your personal information. Where you live ect.

So is inviting people to your home? Invite the right people and it's all gravy

"
I wouldn't invite anyone home either. Or give my surname, or where I live beyond Derbyshire. No need for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

C x

Brilliant comment x totally agree with you x

It’s called respect and if someone can’t respect those wishes then we would have zero trust that they’d respect our other boundaries.

C x"

Definitely respect is the most important thing xx there's too many arseholes on here who have got no respect or manners for limits and boundaries x it's nice to see there are people like yourselves who have got both of those 2 important things on here x

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

C x

Brilliant comment x totally agree with you x

It’s called respect and if someone can’t respect those wishes then we would have zero trust that they’d respect our other boundaries.

C x

Everyone has limits and boundaries and deserves to have respect. The lifestyle requires a lot of mutual trust because of that but we also need to do things to safeguard ourselves and not giving a phone number or personal information is part of that.

C x

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By *ildFrontierMan
over a year ago

Highworth

I can't grumble about people not wanting to give out their phone number. Take using Whatsapp as an example, if you have your phone number associated with other Meta social media platforms (and as it is often used for two-factor authentication or account recovery, a lot of people do have their phone numbers linked), you will very quickly start to see people you have only ever chatted to on Whatsapp, appear as friend suggestions on Facebook under "people you may know". For some it's a privacy thing.

Not everyone wants the complexity in their busy lives of having to run a second phone number.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I don't give out mine. Can talk on fab or not at all"

Ditto

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I do give mine out but only to those I've meet before, or planning to meet or those that I've chatted to for a long while. To be fair, there are other ways to chat besides giving out numbers these days considering the abundance of social media apps these days but within reasons though, I get some may want to preserved their privacy and keep their personal lives separately, which in understandable

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By *onnyadtMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Fab or kik only, kik offers instant communication, that's enough I think. Plus my pockets have enough in them anyway (phone, wallet, set of keys and lose change) adding another phone would be a pain in the arse.

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By *aughtyloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

Kik for us to start

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

We have a play phone but only give it to people we have met that we would like to meet again.

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

We generally don’t give numbers out, our phone numbers we have had for years why risk changing!?

We have Kik and that’s fine

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

We can't even view OP's profile now. Wonder if they blocked us

or suspended by admin? Not much use getting burner phone if can't even see profile. Bloody time wasters

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By *eegh0stsMan
over a year ago

I don’t give my number out to start with. It’s often only after I’ve met the person.

I have multiple other ways of chatting.

But then again, I don’t meet at mine the first time I meet with someone either. It’s either neutral ground for a social or a hotel if something naughty would happen. Once I’ve met and spoken with them then I’m much more likely to share that information.

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By *s2walesCouple
over a year ago

Gwent...

"I don't give out mine. Can talk on fab or not at all"

Good for you it's your choice...

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

"We can't even view OP's profile now. Wonder if they blocked us

or suspended by admin? Not much use getting burner phone if can't even see profile. Bloody time wasters

Same!

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

"I don't give out mine. Can talk on fab or not at all"

This.

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

"I dont want two phones so I never give my number out. More than happy to converse on kik which is safe enough "

And this.

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

"If you got family pic as your WhatsApp photo don't really want strangers looking lol "

And this.

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

"100% its a valid reason, not an excuse! Bloody wierdos everywhere

And this.

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

"It’s as valid an excuse as any.

It’s valid for them, even if you think it isn’t. "

And definitely this.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Of course it’s valid - if someone doesn’t want to give out their number it’s their choice.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Not read whole thread but for us it is a case of respecting other people’s preferences and them in turn respecting ours.

We will not meet anyone if we haven’t spoken to them on the phone. If they are a couple then we want to speak to both of them, albeit briefly.

If for whatever legitimate reason the other person/people do not want to share numbers then that is fine. We respect that. But we won’t be meeting.

We have a “special phone” so it is easy to keep vanilla and naughty separate.

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By *ottsguy74Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Here or kik thats it, once bitten by handing out mobile number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in the 28 nearly 29 years of swinging we have never used our phone.. cams.. emails ..apps on the fab site and other internet sites before fab we've had 100s of sussesful meets are very rare we have been messed around and we will continue that way ..if others want over the phone chats then thats for them ...we will carry on as we do ..works for us very well

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Not read whole thread but for us it is a case of respecting other people’s preferences and them in turn respecting ours.

We will not meet anyone if we haven’t spoken to them on the phone. If they are a couple then we want to speak to both of them, albeit briefly.

If for whatever legitimate reason the other person/people do not want to share numbers then that is fine. We respect that. But we won’t be meeting.

We have a “special phone” so it is easy to keep vanilla and naughty separate."

We take mostly the same approach, but if someone doesn’t want to speak on the phone and we get the right feeling about them we take a chance anyway. And when we have done it’s been amazing, so you never know!

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By *edVelveteenCouple
over a year ago

Heaven in the Midlands

I could continue, but I won't. Point is, you do your way, we'll do our way. Neither way is the 'be all and end all'. Vx

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By *layTimeEssexCouple
over a year ago

Stansted

"I could continue, but I won't. Point is, you do your way, we'll do our way. Neither way is the 'be all and end all'. Vx"

Yep agreed completely. I can understand a bit with couples or ladies as lots of options but as a single man, with generally less options, don't see the point in restricting to people who will talk on phone (burner or not). Fab veri system works well mostly. But each to their own......

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Never given my number out and it’s never been an issue.

Not going out of my way to prove I’m genuine, that’s their problem.

Quick live cam on Snapchat (no phone number/ real names needed) and good to go.

I’m never gonna buy another phone to prove I’m legit haha

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

At the end of the day it is the fakes, weirdos and stalkers who ruin it for genuine swingers. If everyone on Fab was just a decent, nice person who genuinely wanted to meet like-minded swingers, then swapping phone numbers would be no big deal.

After enough years doing this, you get a feel for people pretty quickly. Life is stressful enough and having fun shouldn’t be so hard.

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

Most people dont give out a phone number until they are happy with who they have already met,even then thats not a given. There are so many alternative means of messaging. Main one being here. I'm happy to chat on any means a possible meet would like to, but until i have met someone the idea of handing a 'stranger' my phone number is a little odd.

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"Never given my number out and it’s never been an issue.

Not going out of my way to prove I’m genuine, that’s their problem.

Quick live cam on Snapchat (no phone number/ real names needed) and good to go.

I’m never gonna buy another phone to prove I’m legit haha "

A live cam/snapchat is a perfect alternative to phone number. It establishes you are real and what you say you are.

Maybe for us oldies phones are our go to but you whippa snappers find other tech solutions

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We don’t give out our number.

We use telegram for kink and WhatsApp for friends and family. They are kept seperate so we don’t get mixed up.

Telegram allows you to not provide your phone number but you can still call or voice note/video call.

It works for us and we’ll continue to do it that way. We respect peoples choices though and chat on here if they don’t want to use Telegram. It’s just harder doing a 3/4 way chat on here.

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry

I use kik but prefer Telegram at first and once I feel happy I give out my number. After all it’s easy enough to block a number should I need to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"At the end of the day it is the fakes, weirdos and stalkers who ruin it for genuine swingers. If everyone on Fab was just a decent, nice person who genuinely wanted to meet like-minded swingers, then swapping phone numbers would be no big deal.

After enough years doing this, you get a feel for people pretty quickly. Life is stressful enough and having fun shouldn’t be so hard."

no people ruin it for themselves not others ....people should stop blaming others you are responible for yourself so you can only ruin it for yoursdelf

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

After enough years doing this, you get a feel for people pretty quickly. Life is stressful enough and having fun shouldn’t be so hard.

no people ruin it for themselves not others ....people should stop blaming others you are responible for yourself so you can only ruin it for yoursdelf"

Hmmm not really. A fake profile set up to picture collect and waste people’s time is hardly the fault of the “victim”. Will have to agree to disagree on that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep my convos to Fab!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I regularly go on cam so people can see me there if they need proof I’m real!

I see no need to give out my number!

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

"I use kik but prefer Telegram at first and once I feel happy I give out my number. After all it’s easy enough to block a number should I need to "

People keep saying that, but it’s not actually always just as simple as blocking if someone sets out to be a pain in the arse.

Blocking a number only blocks that number. It doesn’t block any others or prevent messaging from online platforms.

It also doesn’t help if someone then chooses to stick your number on their status - as I’ve seen done several times on here.

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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago

Sent to Coventry

"I use kik but prefer Telegram at first and once I feel happy I give out my number. After all it’s easy enough to block a number should I need to

People keep saying that, but it’s not actually always just as simple as blocking if someone sets out to be a pain in the arse.

Blocking a number only blocks that number. It doesn’t block any others or prevent messaging from online platforms.

It also doesn’t help if someone then chooses to stick your number on their status - as I’ve seen done several times on here. "

Id not thought about anyone putting my number on a status! Maybe I should stick to Apps!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Not read whole thread but for us it is a case of respecting other people’s preferences and them in turn respecting ours.

We will not meet anyone if we haven’t spoken to them on the phone. If they are a couple then we want to speak to both of them, albeit briefly.

If for whatever legitimate reason the other person/people do not want to share numbers then that is fine. We respect that. But we won’t be meeting.

We have a “special phone” so it is easy to keep vanilla and naughty separate."

You wouldn't accept a video call instead?

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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"Not read whole thread but for us it is a case of respecting other people’s preferences and them in turn respecting ours.

We will not meet anyone if we haven’t spoken to them on the phone. If they are a couple then we want to speak to both of them, albeit briefly.

If for whatever legitimate reason the other person/people do not want to share numbers then that is fine. We respect that. But we won’t be meeting.

We have a “special phone” so it is easy to keep vanilla and naughty separate.

You wouldn't accept a video call instead?"

Lol I was using “phone” in the broadest sense. Basically an audio visual device that permits us to verify people are real

As I said up above - you kids with your new fangled technology!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Not read whole thread but for us it is a case of respecting other people’s preferences and them in turn respecting ours.

We will not meet anyone if we haven’t spoken to them on the phone. If they are a couple then we want to speak to both of them, albeit briefly.

If for whatever legitimate reason the other person/people do not want to share numbers then that is fine. We respect that. But we won’t be meeting.

We have a “special phone” so it is easy to keep vanilla and naughty separate.

You wouldn't accept a video call instead?

Lol I was using “phone” in the broadest sense. Basically an audio visual device that permits us to verify people are real

As I said up above - you kids with your new fangled technology!"

Just seems to me that "I can look you in the eye and communicate with you" does the same job as "my number is 07..."

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