FabSwingers.com forum: What made you get into swinging?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was it always a burning desire? Did it just happen?

For me personally, I’ve always known I felt differently about sex and my sexuality, but just thought there was something wrong with me and I spent too much time pleasing other people and none pleasing myself.

When I met J, and swinging randomly came up in conversation after I’d sent a joking meme about gangbangs, we both discovered it was something we both wanted to explore together. And here we are…over to you Fabulous people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watching sexcetera and curiosity of the club La Chambre that was here in Sheffield

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was it always a burning desire? Did it just happen?

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Combination of being on holiday with an ex on a nudist beach.. and … catching another ex with 2 guys at a party and me joining in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Approached by a couple on a lads holiday, many years back, one of my favourite holidays

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By *hocolateRodMan
over a year ago

London and over UK

Totally by chance. Answered lonely hearts column in independent years ago (yes it was the paper version). Lady called me and we had a chat. And she told me she liked to have sex in front of her boyfriend! i literally fell off my chair. Got hooked.

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By *orny boy 123Man
over a year ago

southampton

Well my wife left and I had two boys y to o look after then I thought what the hell give it a go now I havre do one lots of naughty things

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Invited to a "party" many years ago and that's where it started...totally naive to it all before then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Watching sexcetera and curiosity of the club La Chambre that was here in Sheffield "

Not seen that, will have to check it out. There’s not much of a scene in this part of the world so I guess I’ve been pretty sheltered when it comes to exploring clubs etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Was it always a burning desire? Did it just happen?

F (Mrs)

Combination of being on holiday with an ex on a nudist beach.. and … catching another ex with 2 guys at a party and me joining in "

That sounds like it was quite a horny experience…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Approached by a couple on a lads holiday, many years back, one of my favourite holidays "

I’ll bet it was a good holiday! Take it that was you hooked after that?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Totally by chance. Answered lonely hearts column in independent years ago (yes it was the paper version). Lady called me and we had a chat. And she told me she liked to have sex in front of her boyfriend! i literally fell off my chair. Got hooked."

Now that’s quite an introduction to the scene! Sounds like it was fun though

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

Friends who are swingers, talking to me about the lifestyle and the three of us realising I had the same intrest and desires.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well my wife left and I had two boys y to o look after then I thought what the hell give it a go now I havre do one lots of naughty things "

Be good for your confidence as well, I’ll bet. That’s something I found, I left an abusive relationship and my self-confidence was at a real low. Then I met J, we got into the scene and it’s amazing how much better I feel about myself. Also being “me” for the first time in my life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Invited to a "party" many years ago and that's where it started...totally naive to it all before then."

I’d love it if there were parties like there seemed to be “back in the day”! I’m quite keen to explore the club scene, but feel a house party situation would be more relaxed…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Friends who are swingers, talking to me about the lifestyle and the three of us realising I had the same intrest and desires."

Did you feel quite liberated when you discovered it was something you didn’t realise you were into? That’s how I felt when I could finally be open about what I wanted sexually

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford

My then wife and I deciding that we wanted to have sex with other people and actually doing it, following a lot of fantasising and will we, won't we conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Approached by a couple on a lads holiday, many years back, one of my favourite holidays

I’ll bet it was a good holiday! Take it that was you hooked after that?

F (Mrs) "

Yeah that was me fully into to, pre websites, remember the old contact magazines and Polaroids, how times have changed!

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

Hi OP,

Nice profile BTW.

I was inveigled into a threesome by two lovely bi girls who I met at a wedding.

Fond memories.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I had always wanted to participate in group sex. Watched loads on television and read many written articles on the subject. My ex was a bit prudish so when we split I took myself off to a swingers club and never looked back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Approached by a couple on a lads holiday, many years back, one of my favourite holidays "

Would love to hear the details.

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By *_Love_CandyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

Via my ex.

Unfortunately, have subsequently found out that whilst we where together, he was also cheating on me. Do wonder if you can have this lifestyle with a partner and be faithful together

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By *reddy400Man
over a year ago

birmingham

I’ve always tried making sex fun interesting but if you haven’t got the right partner it’s just gonna end up vanilla....that’s probably why I’m still single I scared them away

I enjoy being single having my own space come an go when I please an see who I want to see no questions asked.....

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I grew up in this kinda experience/world it's been going on longer than people think

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

With my ex. The sex was mind blowing and I just wanted to clone him. I often said to him I wish there was 2 of him. We spoke about adding people to the mix. At a night out he asked me if I wanted to go to the sex club. I said yes and we set a couples profile up that night. I've been on here with various single and couple profiles since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Found out about it at uni and I have never stopped since

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By *egin551Couple
over a year ago

south west !

A Genuine Sexual Desire to see my wife have sex with another man,

I mentioned it to her over 15 years ago and never thought any more about it.

8 years next month she stated out the blue she’d found ‘Fab’ and we should set up a couples profile.

Since then Marie has been in the driving seat so to speak.

I trust her implicitly and know it’s all about fun.

We celebrate our Silver Wedding anniversary next year.

2 Big Parties planned, one Vanilla and one Naughty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First trip to Amsterdam and being less “aware” back then I went to a sex shop not realising what the shop actually offered. Opened my eyes and the door into this lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby first brought it up during sex about involving other guys. This turned into roleplay and the more we did it the more I wanted it to happen for real.

Then about 4 years ago while away in Manchester we met a guy in the hotel bar. Things just fell into place. What a night and there as been no looking back

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Was it always a burning desire? Did it just happen?

F (Mrs)

F (Mrs)"

It boils down to this.

My wife convinced me to have sex with her friend. Thats it. Opened the doors and the rest is history. Never thought about it before but she was the one who opened the doors where we started exploring.

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

Just a strong desire to see my (now) wife have sex with other men, to see how she responded in different environments, to different sized cocks and how different her orgasms were with someone other than me.

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By *restonM50Man
over a year ago

preston

I had a religious upbringing where sex was something to be ashamed of.

Discovered Porn and began to explore

Then discovered Adam and eves in Manchester. It blew my mind that people could be relaxed and have tge fun they wanted.

Have discussed with partners over the years with very mixed responses.

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By *ustmemyselfandi1Man
over a year ago

southampton

I was coaching my sons football team and got on well with the parents.

Made a bit of a risqué joke on the sideline and got a text from one of the mums.

Told her “I’m not sure your husband will appreciate this” and she replied with “well, he told me to send it…..”.

Started chatting and they introduced me to Fab and all of its wonders!

Purely by a chance flirty joke, crazy really!

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

"I was coaching my sons football team and got on well with the parents.

Made a bit of a risqué joke on the sideline and got a text from one of the mums.

Told her “I’m not sure your husband will appreciate this” and she replied with “well, he told me to send it…..”.

Started chatting and they introduced me to Fab and all of its wonders!

Purely by a chance flirty joke, crazy really!"

And did you fuck with that particular couple?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was coaching my sons football team and got on well with the parents.

Made a bit of a risqué joke on the sideline and got a text from one of the mums.

Told her “I’m not sure your husband will appreciate this” and she replied with “well, he told me to send it…..”.

Started chatting and they introduced me to Fab and all of its wonders!

Purely by a chance flirty joke, crazy really!

And did you fuck with that particular couple?"

A neighbours wife introduced me to it in my mid teens

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By *igBobby82Man
over a year ago

Hartlepool

Don't want to bring down the tone but for me, it was a combination of loneliness and wanting to put myself out there.

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By *entDomMan
over a year ago

Paddock Wood, Kent

I was lucky enough to fuck a few attached and married women in my teens. It was a real turn on and still is today. Whilst the seduction is great it's time consuming so where better than here to find what I need

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By *ustmemyselfandi1Man
over a year ago

southampton

"I was coaching my sons football team and got on well with the parents.

Made a bit of a risqué joke on the sideline and got a text from one of the mums.

Told her “I’m not sure your husband will appreciate this” and she replied with “well, he told me to send it…..”.

Started chatting and they introduced me to Fab and all of its wonders!

Purely by a chance flirty joke, crazy really!

And did you fuck with that particular couple?"

I met her as my first ever meet.

The husband was involved in all the planning and got videos but she was at home, dressed to kill and literally “showed me the ropes”.

Never looked back since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our story is quite ordinary. We were simply watching TV and the characters in the show visited a swingers club. As I was sipping my tea my wife said, ‘I wouldn’t mind going to one of those places’. I nearly spat the tea out of my mouth in surprise. The more we chatted, the more excited we both became. And then we did it. Best show I ever watched. Can’t even remember the name of the show but so glad we watched it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I originally joined fab to find a fb/fwb. Found a mutual mum friend in real life who was also on here and we decided to try a club together for the first time. We became regulars and it went from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Her affairs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably like a lot of people: watxhing porn made me really interested in having sex with a couple

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By *vening SongCouple
over a year ago

diss

At a dinner party at friends the hostess went upstairs,came down naked and stripped me off too me there n then at the table in front of the men soooo horny then he took me and fucked me and me had her best afters I've had lol c xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ego needed stroking. ..

now I hope to cohearse women to stroke it

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Just a strong desire to see my (now) wife have sex with other men, to see how she responded in different environments, to different sized cocks and how different her orgasms were with someone other than me."

I like this approach because we are the same. However, we are the other way around. My wife had the desire to see me with other women and the same mental approach. Same thing, just gender swapped. Thats how we started.

We've grown some since then but yeah, I get it. We started early on and are now married but my wife had the same desire as you.

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

All ways new I wood enjoy seeing wife with other men and joining in with the fun started over 20 years ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hi OP,

Nice profile BTW.

I was inveigled into a threesome by two lovely bi girls who I met at a wedding.

Fond memories.

Thank you

Sounds like a great introduction to the scene

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Approached by a couple on a lads holiday, many years back, one of my favourite holidays

I’ll bet it was a good holiday! Take it that was you hooked after that?

F (Mrs)

Yeah that was me fully into to, pre websites, remember the old contact magazines and Polaroids, how times have changed!"

Aw I can’t imagine what it was like before websites haha

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Via my ex.

Unfortunately, have subsequently found out that whilst we where together, he was also cheating on me. Do wonder if you can have this lifestyle with a partner and be faithful together "

Sorry you had that happen to you. I won’t lie, this is something that that I do worry about, especially having been cheated on before in a previous monogamous relationship. But this is where I feel the communication and trust is really important. Time will tell, I guess….

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had always wanted to participate in group sex. Watched loads on television and read many written articles on the subject. My ex was a bit prudish so when we split I took myself off to a swingers club and never looked back."

If I lived somewhere not in the middle of nowhere, I think that’s what I would’ve done. We would love to experience a club, not done that yet

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A Genuine Sexual Desire to see my wife have sex with another man,

I mentioned it to her over 15 years ago and never thought any more about it.

8 years next month she stated out the blue she’d found ‘Fab’ and we should set up a couples profile.

Since then Marie has been in the driving seat so to speak.

I trust her implicitly and know it’s all about fun.

We celebrate our Silver Wedding anniversary next year.

2 Big Parties planned, one Vanilla and one Naughty

Sounds like you’ve planned the perfect celebrations - congratulations as well!

F (Mrs)

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

We visited a nudist beach and got chatting to a lovely couple who said they visited a Manchester club to do things we had never even imagined....

It put our imaginations into overdrive.

Once back home the journey began, never looked back, great confidence builder meeting all those naughty people.

Our secret life.

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Seeing a then GF give a guy a blow job without them knowing I could see. Instead of getting angry I got aroused.

Told her later that I’d seen her and the effect it had. Great sex followed very quickly, and we discovered swinging

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

That’s exactly how it happened to me too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was coaching my sons football team and got on well with the parents.

Made a bit of a risqué joke on the sideline and got a text from one of the mums.

Told her “I’m not sure your husband will appreciate this” and she replied with “well, he told me to send it…..”.

Started chatting and they introduced me to Fab and all of its wonders!

Purely by a chance flirty joke, crazy really!"

Love this “pure chance” thing! That’s how it started for us as well, so can relate. And yes, it is crazy how one minute it’s all just fantasy and suddenly you find yourself with someone on entirely the same wavelength

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't want to bring down the tone but for me, it was a combination of loneliness and wanting to put myself out there. "

You’re not bringing the tone down, you’re just being honest. I’ve never done internet dating or “putting myself out there” before…my self confidence isn’t great. However, now that I’m properly exploring the lifestyle and Fab with someone I trust, it’s done wonders for my confidence. Should I find myself single again, I would absolutely come on here myself. Hope Fab is a good experience for you!

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Sharing sexual fantasy with my husband x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I originally joined fab to find a fb/fwb. Found a mutual mum friend in real life who was also on here and we decided to try a club together for the first time. We became regulars and it went from there. "

I have a mum friend who’s on here as well, I love it that I have a real life friend to chat to about stuff lol. She is now part of a couple and they go to clubs, but it’s not something J and I have experienced yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We visited a nudist beach and got chatting to a lovely couple who said they visited a Manchester club to do things we had never even imagined....

It put our imaginations into overdrive.

Once back home the journey began, never looked back, great confidence builder meeting all those naughty people.

Our secret life.

Love it! The ‘secret life’ things makes it even more of a thrill, I think. I’m so boring and sensible in my “real life” people would probably either be shocked or not believe what I got up to in my spare time lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Seeing a then GF give a guy a blow job without them knowing I could see. Instead of getting angry I got aroused.

Told her later that I’d seen her and the effect it had. Great sex followed very quickly, and we discovered swinging"

That’s hot - being watched is a fantasy for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That’s exactly how it happened to me too."

I actually love it that other women have felt empowered to take control of their sex life like this - I always thought I was some kind of pervert lol, but it’s refreshing to know I’m not alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sharing sexual fantasy with my husband x"

Im glad that sharing the fantasy led to being able to explore the reality

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Seeing a then GF give a guy a blow job without them knowing I could see. Instead of getting angry I got aroused.

Told her later that I’d seen her and the effect it had. Great sex followed very quickly, and we discovered swinging

That’s hot - being watched is a fantasy for us

F (Mrs)"
it was by total accident the 1st time, however after doing some research and not easy back then, we went to a club & it went from there

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By *igBobby82Man
over a year ago

Hartlepool

"Don't want to bring down the tone but for me, it was a combination of loneliness and wanting to put myself out there.

F (Mrs)"

Thats very kind of you to say. This life certainly has given me a lot more confidence. And a lot of great memories too. Haha

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"We visited a nudist beach and got chatting to a lovely couple who said they visited a Manchester club to do things we had never even imagined....

It put our imaginations into overdrive.

Once back home the journey began, never looked back, great confidence builder meeting all those naughty people.

Our secret life.

F (Mrs)"

Absolutely.

We are pillars of society in our area.

Tend to people watch in the pub.

What do you reckon, do they, or don't they.

If someone engages in slightly risqué conversation, the conversation in my mind is something like....

If you knew what we got up to last weekend you'd cough up your glass of wine and it would make your fucking toenails curl.

We love it, especially holidays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only come at this from my personal opinion, but as a trans woman it's the ability to explore myself sexually without any of the social anxieties that come with guys who chase transwomen in pubs/clubs. I've learned a lot about myself from meeting people that I wouldn't have known otherwise....or just taken a very long time to learn!

Oh and the swingers crowd as a whole are very accepting of trans folk in general! X

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By *tarf1shWoman
over a year ago

Bracknell

Being with a more vanilla than vanilla partner and the desire to explore my bi-side

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By *ab365XMan
over a year ago

Paisley

TARZAN.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A girl asked me to try i did it was shit so i stick to 121 intimacy is king for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't want to bring down the tone but for me, it was a combination of loneliness and wanting to put myself out there.

F (Mrs)

Thats very kind of you to say. This life certainly has given me a lot more confidence. And a lot of great memories too. Haha"

Haha - yeah I’ll bet the memories are worth it lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can only come at this from my personal opinion, but as a trans woman it's the ability to explore myself sexually without any of the social anxieties that come with guys who chase transwomen in pubs/clubs. I've learned a lot about myself from meeting people that I wouldn't have known otherwise....or just taken a very long time to learn!

Oh and the swingers crowd as a whole are very accepting of trans folk in general! X

That’s a really interesting perspective - although I’m not trans, I’ve certainly found the swinging community accepting and it’s made me feel very much at ease with my own sexuality.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We visited a nudist beach and got chatting to a lovely couple who said they visited a Manchester club to do things we had never even imagined....

It put our imaginations into overdrive.

Once back home the journey began, never looked back, great confidence builder meeting all those naughty people.

Our secret life.

F (Mrs)

Absolutely.

We are pillars of society in our area.

Tend to people watch in the pub.

What do you reckon, do they, or don't they.

If someone engages in slightly risqué conversation, the conversation in my mind is something like....

If you knew what we got up to last weekend you'd cough up your glass of wine and it would make your fucking toenails curl.

We love it, especially holidays.

Haha, love it!

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly remember contact mag days and polalroid snaps and waiting for the postman to arrive etc

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By *igBobby82Man
over a year ago

Hartlepool

"Don't want to bring down the tone but for me, it was a combination of loneliness and wanting to put myself out there.

F (Mrs)

Thats very kind of you to say. This life certainly has given me a lot more confidence. And a lot of great memories too. Haha

Haha - yeah I’ll bet the memories are worth it lol

F (Mrs)"

They really are. But its the people I've met along the way that really stick with me.

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By *aveyDipperMan
over a year ago

Teesside

Wife, she’s bu and wanted to play with other women but wanted me present, it grew from there ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thrill and excitement of meeting likeminded people

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By *_Love_CandyWoman
over a year ago

Greater London

"Via my ex.

Unfortunately, have subsequently found out that whilst we where together, he was also cheating on me. Do wonder if you can have this lifestyle with a partner and be faithful together

F (Mrs)"

Thanks.

I'm sire it works for lots of people, and, I'm still hoping it may work for me. Ha!

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By *ugarbearCouple
over a year ago

Tredegar

i got into swinging because i just loved cock

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Via my ex.

Unfortunately, have subsequently found out that whilst we where together, he was also cheating on me. Do wonder if you can have this lifestyle with a partner and be faithful together

F (Mrs)

Thanks.

I'm sire it works for lots of people, and, I'm still hoping it may work for me. Ha!

Fingers crossed you find something that works

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The thrill and excitement of meeting likeminded people

There is definitely a thrill in getting to know like minded people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something I’d wanted to do for years!

Guess watching group porn a lot in my last relationship added to it

But knowing that my ex wouldn’t dream about swinging after 15 years of a dull sexless relationship we split up!

Told my new partner that I’d love to swing right from the start! She was definitely interested

So off we went to Tenerife on holiday

Joined Fab and went to a club for the first time

Went several times in one week

First night we jumped straight into the deep end

With 3 other guys and another couple

4 years on and never looked back

A brilliant lifestyle

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"I certainly remember contact mag days and polalroid snaps and waiting for the postman to arrive etc "

We talked about that last night...

Having to go into the camera shop to buy Polaroid film and thinking he knows what we are up to...

Contact mags, inserting Polaroid photos, letter and contact number on the front of the enclosed envelope, the anticipation of the postman arriving.

I can remember an enclosed letter in a reply envelope, looked like it had been written by a chimp with a crayon, part of the letter said "I'm a chef and if we meet I'll carve a cucumber into a cock and have it up you quicker than a Ferrari around Brands Hatch", what a silver tongued devil !!

Best meets ever.

Make things difficult, keeps timewasters away.

Happy days.

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

"Hi OP,

Nice profile BTW.

I was inveigled into a threesome by two lovely bi girls who I met at a wedding.

Fond memories.

Thank you

Sounds like a great introduction to the scene

F (Mrs)"

It was, and thank you for starting a really interesting and revealing thread. I enjoy visiting the highlands BTW.

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over a year ago

"Hi OP,

Nice profile BTW.

I was inveigled into a threesome by two lovely bi girls who I met at a wedding.

Fond memories.

Thank you

Sounds like a great introduction to the scene

F (Mrs)

It was, and thank you for starting a really interesting and revealing thread. I enjoy visiting the highlands BTW.

It’s something that I quite like to ask people we are getting to know so I thought I’d make it a forum post since everyone has such a range of experiences to share, it’s fascinating reading what everyone has to say. Yes we do love it here!

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Something I’d wanted to do for years!

Guess watching group porn a lot in my last relationship added to it

But knowing that my ex wouldn’t dream about swinging after 15 years of a dull sexless relationship we split up!

Told my new partner that I’d love to swing right from the start! She was definitely interested

So off we went to Tenerife on holiday

Joined Fab and went to a club for the first time

Went several times in one week

First night we jumped straight into the deep end

With 3 other guys and another couple

4 years on and never looked back

A brilliant lifestyle

What an amazing experience for you both!

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I certainly remember contact mag days and polalroid snaps and waiting for the postman to arrive etc

We talked about that last night...

Having to go into the camera shop to buy Polaroid film and thinking he knows what we are up to...

Contact mags, inserting Polaroid photos, letter and contact number on the front of the enclosed envelope, the anticipation of the postman arriving.

Best meets ever.

Make things difficult, keeps timewasters away.

Happy days.

It’s totally the best way to keep time wasters away - we’ve found that connecting with genuine people on here requires a lot of effort in terms of ing through everyone. J (Mr) is much better at me than spotting the fakes and time wasters - I’ve been caught out a couple of times

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"I certainly remember contact mag days and polalroid snaps and waiting for the postman to arrive etc

We talked about that last night...

Having to go into the camera shop to buy Polaroid film and thinking he knows what we are up to...

Contact mags, inserting Polaroid photos, letter and contact number on the front of the enclosed envelope, the anticipation of the postman arriving.

Best meets ever.

Make things difficult, keeps timewasters away.

Happy days.

F (Mrs) "

When we put our first request to meet on a site like this, we received over 100 replies.

We were blown away.

A couple we had previously met in a club said "if you get 2 genuine meets out of those replies, you’ll be lucky". We scoffed at their, what we thought, negative response.

They were bang on.

If you figure over 90% of people on this site are chatters, dreamers, fantasists and timewasters, you won't be far wrong.

But, but, but.

The real, genuine people will know other real, genuine people and you'll soon be invited into their world of parties, selective gatherings, weekends and holidays.

It's well worth the trawl through the 90%.

Have fun and don't get disappointed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way more genuine in those pre internet days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't want to bring down the tone but for me, it was a combination of loneliness and wanting to put myself out there.

F (Mrs)

Thats very kind of you to say. This life certainly has given me a lot more confidence. And a lot of great memories too. Haha"

That's good to hear and looking at your profile and veris you are a single guy who has totally total embraced the scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I certainly remember contact mag days and polalroid snaps and waiting for the postman to arrive etc

We talked about that last night...

Having to go into the camera shop to buy Polaroid film and thinking he knows what we are up to...

Contact mags, inserting Polaroid photos, letter and contact number on the front of the enclosed envelope, the anticipation of the postman arriving.

Best meets ever.

Make things difficult, keeps timewasters away.

Happy days.

F (Mrs)

When we put our first request to meet on a site like this, we received over 100 replies.

We were blown away.

A couple we had previously met in a club said "if you get 2 genuine meets out of those replies, you’ll be lucky". We scoffed at their, what we thought, negative response.

They were bang on.

If you figure over 90% of people on this site are chatters, dreamers, fantasists and timewasters, you won't be far wrong.

But, but, but.

The real, genuine people will know other real, genuine people and you'll soon be invited into their world of parties, selective gatherings, weekends and holidays.

It's well worth the trawl through the 90%.

Have fun and don't get disappointed.

So true take the time to wade through the wannabe cheaters, incels, time wasters, dreamers and fantasists and you will uncover an amazing world with amazing people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found out that my husband had 2 sisters on the same night.they realised and called him to the house to confront him over it but somehow he got them both in bed,he was 19.it was a few years later I was out with a freind and overhead his name mentioned,he confessed all when I asked him and it started us reading story's,

Readers wives was the magazine then,he loved me to go into the garage to buy it,knowing that when I got to the till if there was a bloke there I would blush

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

colchester

I like sex and someone once said enjoy with others.

So I try.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I certainly remember contact mag days and polalroid snaps and waiting for the postman to arrive etc

We talked about that last night...

Having to go into the camera shop to buy Polaroid film and thinking he knows what we are up to...

Contact mags, inserting Polaroid photos, letter and contact number on the front of the enclosed envelope, the anticipation of the postman arriving.

Best meets ever.

Make things difficult, keeps timewasters away.

Happy days.

F (Mrs)

When we put our first request to meet on a site like this, we received over 100 replies.

We were blown away.

A couple we had previously met in a club said "if you get 2 genuine meets out of those replies, you’ll be lucky". We scoffed at their, what we thought, negative response.

They were bang on.

If you figure over 90% of people on this site are chatters, dreamers, fantasists and timewasters, you won't be far wrong.

But, but, but.

The real, genuine people will know other real, genuine people and you'll soon be invited into their world of parties, selective gatherings, weekends and holidays.

It's well worth the trawl through the 90%.

Have fun and don't get disappointed.

Thanks for the advice. I feel you’re spot on with the “genuine people knowing other genuine people” thing - we have connected with some great people that we would absolutely be friends with to do all these social things with, as well as have fun with, and that’s something that’s important to us. Have learned a couple of hard lessons so far, too!

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Way more genuine in those pre internet days "

I guess because people had to make an actual effort - on Fab anyone can set up a profile and pretend to be anyone. Weeding through the time wasters is a special skill, I think. Won’t be putting it on my CV though haha

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By *la87Man
over a year ago

acton

Joined AFF when I turned 18 because I was shy and thought online was the answer to get laid. Went to a BMFC party. Rather liked the scene and joined the sites the members recommended and it was a fun few years.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

I had a massive urge to see another guy enter his cock into her pussy and for her to grab his arse and pull him in. When it happened it was mind blowing.

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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago

harwich

we had a couple or relationships with single females one lasted 6 months the second 2 years when that ended we started to advertisefor another girl in loot personal adds one couple we spoke to told us about a swingers club near us and we went never looked back 15 years of rushing up and down various motorways for clubs and parties

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By *elsh.couple1Couple
over a year ago

Swansea/neath

Curiosity

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By *igBobby82Man
over a year ago

Hartlepool

"Don't want to bring down the tone but for me, it was a combination of loneliness and wanting to put myself out there.

F (Mrs)

Thats very kind of you to say. This life certainly has given me a lot more confidence. And a lot of great memories too. Haha

That's good to hear and looking at your profile and veris you are a single guy who has totally total embraced the scene

Thank you. I'm certainly enjoying this new life. People really can be so accepting. Or I'm incredibly charming and nice. Haha

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By *andCberksCouple
over a year ago

Newbury

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By *inx and NymphCouple
over a year ago

bristol

Sexual frustration

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By *andotherjCouple
over a year ago

wetherby

A guy I work with told me he organises Greedy Girl Parties. I mentioned this in passing to Mrs J

A few weeks later I asked her what she would like for her birthday. A Greedy Girl Party she answered. I duly asked the guy to organise one for her, which he did. She had such a good time and broke down all inhibition that we joined Fab, and here we are years later!

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By *edonist79Man
over a year ago

Trowbridge

I always had a high sex drive and always liked the idea of kinkier sex drive than usual. My first gf cheated on me and I found out and the idea just turned me on so much.

So after I was alone in Bristol after being dumped by an ex, a city I hadn't been in long, I thought to look for swinging clubs and websites. Was lucky as a few decent UK sites had not long popped up swinging hea ven being one (when it was free) and fab when it first opened.

Was always hoping to meet a partner into it but mainly met women in relationships or couples. Loved it and have only ever stopped when in relationships where the other partner wasn't up for swinging. I'm not the cheating type. I just love my partner sleeping and cheating (so long as I find out at some point).

Never managed to go to a swing club though until Jan 2020. Think the cost as a single guy and just being unsure of what it would be like put me off until then. Loved it. Decided I would try to go a few times a year. And then some little virus started doing the rounds and stopped me going

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By accident in the first case. Browsing for free porn on a 56k dial up Internet connection whilst under the influence of alcohol. I happened across SDC back then and had to provide email address and setup a profile to view the photos. Thought it would be hilarious to provide my wife's email address and unsurprisingly she was inundated with messages. She was not a happy chicken - exacted revenge by going to see a guy in London for the night. We participated in a variety of events both together and separately until we parted ways.

This time around I challenged bad bitch to get photographic evidence of her sucking someone off within a two week window. No fucking allowed! She managed it and we have just gone on from there. We had "the" conversation early on about our pasts and we both had some fruity stories to tell.

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By *obbiKentMan
over a year ago

maidstone

lots of reasons to want to, none to not want to

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral

We've grown some since then but yeah, I get it. We started early on and are now married but my wife had the same desire as you."

Wow, it's fantastic to see the dynamic 'from the other side of the street' so to speak. It's good that she and I think alike

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By *omorebullCouple
over a year ago

gateshead

Does anyone remember the green/blue/yellow papers that used to carry classified sales ads? The back pages were always devoted to contact ads and you could call a premium rate number run by the paper, leave a recorded message that they would print as an ad, then call back a few days later to pick up your voice replies. Anyone who replied had to leave their landline number so you could get in touch, therefore there were fewer fakes. I had many meets from the local Admag as it was called, both solo and as a fb couple with a then gf. Simpler and happier days!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We've grown some since then but yeah, I get it. We started early on and are now married but my wife had the same desire as you.

Wow, it's fantastic to see the dynamic 'from the other side of the street' so to speak. It's good that she and I think alike

It definitely is great to know that the dynamic works both ways - I haven’t yet watched J with other women, but get so turned on thinking about it - what a thrill making eye contact with him while another woman fucks him, or sucks him off

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just have a very high sex drive. Doesn’t rule my life but I’m very naughty when the opportunity arises.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s been great to read all the replies so far - thanks everyone for sharing your stories so far!

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were talking about fantasies and one of boss' fantasy was a mff. Greedy wanted to try that too, then we moved on talking about mmf then more.

We are both so happy, comfortable and In tune with each other (and always very horny) that we decided to make it all happen.

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel

True Story…

On a night out a women grabbed me and pulled me outside the pub, asked if “I wanted to go back to her hotel room”, seconds later a guy appeared behind her and said “you picked one then”, “Yeah” she says, “This one”.,.

Said her husband liked to watch, so another bar then back to the hotel….

Next morning we’re all talking in the hotel room and they say “We are swingers”, I’m puzzled, thought that was all keys in a bowl in some mansion….

They told me about Fab, the rest is history. Now I’m making friends, socialising, loving it all, wish I’d known about the scene years before…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just enjoy sex and I’m horny 24/7

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We were talking about fantasies and one of boss' fantasy was a mff. Greedy wanted to try that too, then we moved on talking about mmf then more.

We are both so happy, comfortable and In tune with each other (and always very horny) that we decided to make it all happen.

I think it’s so liberating when you realise you’re on exactly the same wavelength, and there’s definitely a deeper level of trust in my opinion, it feels good

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over a year ago

"True Story…

Said her husband liked to watch, so another bar then back to the hotel….

Next morning we’re all talking in the hotel room and they say “We are swingers”, I’m puzzled, thought that was all keys in a bowl in some mansion….

They told me about Fab, the rest is history. Now I’m making friends, socialising, loving it all, wish I’d known about the scene years before…"

I feel the exact same as you about wishing I’d known years ago about the scene - I’ve always felt differently about sex, but now I know why lol. J is more experienced than me, and I’m enjoying the fact we are exploring together and it feels like we’ve a lot of lost time to make up for…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just enjoy sex and I’m horny 24/7"

Can relate haha. Took me a very long time to be comfortable with my sexuality and find my confidence. I’ve never been on internet dating sites or that before, but should I find myself on my own again (I hope I don’t, but you never know what life chucks at you), I would 100% be on Fab. It’s opened my eyes so much

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel

"True Story…

Said her husband liked to watch, so another bar then back to the hotel….

Next morning we’re all talking in the hotel room and they say “We are swingers”, I’m puzzled, thought that was all keys in a bowl in some mansion….

They told me about Fab, the rest is history. Now I’m making friends, socialising, loving it all, wish I’d known about the scene years before…

F (Mrs)"

I think I was the same with past girlfriends, maybe a couple might’ve been persuaded but we never did….If only we’d know then what we know now…

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over a year ago

"True Story…

Said her husband liked to watch, so another bar then back to the hotel….

Next morning we’re all talking in the hotel room and they say “We are swingers”, I’m puzzled, thought that was all keys in a bowl in some mansion….

They told me about Fab, the rest is history. Now I’m making friends, socialising, loving it all, wish I’d known about the scene years before…

F (Mrs)

I think I was the same with past girlfriends, maybe a couple might’ve been persuaded but we never did….If only we’d know then what we know now…

Or perhaps it’s “delayed gratification” haha - best things come to those who wait

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By *arriedUKCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

For us it was the Channel 4 series open house.

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over a year ago

"For us it was the Channel 4 series open house."

Haven’t seen this yet, def need to give it a watch

F (Mrs)

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By *arriedUKCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"For us it was the Channel 4 series open house.

Haven’t seen this yet, def need to give it a watch

F (Mrs)"

Also we've just started watching Swing which is an American program, let's just say much more graphic than Open House.

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By *he Artful TodgerMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire but travel

"True Story…

Said her husband liked to watch, so another bar then back to the hotel….

Next morning we’re all talking in the hotel room and they say “We are swingers”, I’m puzzled, thought that was all keys in a bowl in some mansion….

They told me about Fab, the rest is history. Now I’m making friends, socialising, loving it all, wish I’d known about the scene years before…

F (Mrs)

I think I was the same with past girlfriends, maybe a couple might’ve been persuaded but we never did….If only we’d know then what we know now…

Or perhaps it’s “delayed gratification” haha - best things come to those who wait

F (Mrs)"

Well maybe, whatever it was I’m loving it now…

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By *D of funCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Wanted to play with other female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was approached by a female half of a couple at a bar and they proposed a 3some, thought it was a once in a lifetime chance, turns out I was wrong

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

All started with a conversation between myself and wifey where we both thought the idea of having sex with others was quite appealing ..before we knew it we were signed up to a site got into chat rooms and it just took off from there and we have never looked back

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Conversation with the Mr, he always wanted a threesome, I'd always wanted to explore another woman and here we are (again)

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"For us it was the Channel 4 series open house.

Haven’t seen this yet, def need to give it a watch

F (Mrs)

Also we've just started watching Swing which is an American program, let's just say much more graphic than Open House."

I like graphic

Maybe will watch Swing first lol

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over a year ago

"True Story…

Said her husband liked to watch, so another bar then back to the hotel….

Next morning we’re all talking in the hotel room and they say “We are swingers”, I’m puzzled, thought that was all keys in a bowl in some mansion….

They told me about Fab, the rest is history. Now I’m making friends, socialising, loving it all, wish I’d known about the scene years before…

F (Mrs)

I think I was the same with past girlfriends, maybe a couple might’ve been persuaded but we never did….If only we’d know then what we know now…

Or perhaps it’s “delayed gratification” haha - best things come to those who wait

F (Mrs)

Well maybe, whatever it was I’m loving it now…

That just makes me think of the old McDonald's advert - “I’m loving it”

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wanted to play with other female "

I’ve always wanted to play with other women…just never imagined I’d be doing this as part of the swinging scene - I keep saying this, but it’s very liberating

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was approached by a female half of a couple at a bar and they proposed a 3some, thought it was a once in a lifetime chance, turns out I was wrong

I love it if I was approached in a bar for a threesome/moresome

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over a year ago

"All started with a conversation between myself and wifey where we both thought the idea of having sex with others was quite appealing ..before we knew it we were signed up to a site got into chat rooms and it just took off from there and we have never looked back

Love it how these random conversations open up a whole new world that you can explore together

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Conversation with the Mr, he always wanted a threesome, I'd always wanted to explore another woman and here we are (again)

Mrs"

Hopefully it’s a great experience for you both, the fact you can explore all this together

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By *arriedUKCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

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By *arriedUKCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"For us it was the Channel 4 series open house.

Haven’t seen this yet, def need to give it a watch

F (Mrs)

Also we've just started watching Swing which is an American program, let's just say much more graphic than Open House.

I like graphic

Maybe will watch Swing first lol

F (Mrs)"

You will need to search this out as it's not on the normal on demand players, you need to look elsewhere.

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over a year ago

"For us it was the Channel 4 series open house.

Haven’t seen this yet, def need to give it a watch

F (Mrs)

Also we've just started watching Swing which is an American program, let's just say much more graphic than Open House.

I like graphic

Maybe will watch Swing first lol

F (Mrs)

You will need to search this out as it's not on the normal on demand players, you need to look elsewhere."

No worries - I’ll go looking

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thought of hot chick that like Seanad much as I do…..

I’m yet to be convinced.

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