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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For those of you who spend a fair amount of time on the forums.

If you see someone on the forums who expresses a preference for a particular body type that’s opposite to your own but they then message you proposing a meet.

Does that put you off them? Or are you not bothered?

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London

Could simply be they like variety. I do and love the fun here. Mind you some are odd

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could simply be they like variety. I do and love the fun here. Mind you some are odd"

But surely if they like variety they’d just say that in their forum interactions? Rather than expressing a preference in a particular direction!

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London


"Could simply be they like variety. I do and love the fun here. Mind you some are odd

But surely if they like variety they’d just say that in their forum interactions? Rather than expressing a preference in a particular direction! "

True and confuses. I am more about how you get on with person rather than body type

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Could simply be they like variety. I do and love the fun here. Mind you some are odd

But surely if they like variety they’d just say that in their forum interactions? Rather than expressing a preference in a particular direction!

True and confuses. I am more about how you get on with person rather than body type"

Fab is an odd place sometimes

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By *ovikCouple
over a year ago

walsall

If preferences are stated in profile it would deter us from making contact in the first place if we didn’t fit. If they contacted us we would bring it up in the thread. We have no preferences over body, race or what they eat for breakfast. If the convo sparks then we’d be up for the social, then see how things go x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me I get a clear indication from the veris instead. If they only ever meet a certain body type then yeah that puts me off. On the forums, people can go with the crowd and not state their true opinion so I wouldn't take much notice of that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"To me I get a clear indication from the veris instead. If they only ever meet a certain body type then yeah that puts me off. On the forums, people can go with the crowd and not state their true opinion so I wouldn't take much notice of that."

Yeah I always check veris too and I’m certainly put off if for example they only meet BBWs as I’m clearly the opposite to that!

I pretty much exclude them if they post a preference for BBWs on the forum too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they express a definite dislike to a larger lady and then message me wanting to meet up, I will send back a polite no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they express a definite dislike to a larger lady and then message me wanting to meet up, I will send back a polite no thank you."

Yep it’s the same for me if they show a dislike for slimmer ladies!

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By *ad boy maverickMan
over a year ago

basildon

When I was first on years ago I made the mistake of putting a body type.. Huge mistake. You have a pretty face and a gorgeous body but ive seen a woman who describes herself as 16/18 but when you see her pics she's well buff/ fit or very sexy so I wouldn't over worry. I would concern yourself with how well you get on.

Anna who I met briefly and had some great times with before she passed away from cancer was bigger than average but we got chatting through the forum and got on so well I didn't care she was a size 20.

But yes fab is a weird place full of people with specific fantasies.

I've messaged lots of people who you think I'd be a good fit for but they either your not for us or just delete my message and yet according to what they're looking for I'm perfect.... go figure.

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By *umagain58Man
over a year ago

London


"If they express a definite dislike to a larger lady and then message me wanting to meet up, I will send back a polite no thank you.

Yep it’s the same for me if they show a dislike for slimmer ladies! "

You both sound nice and sensible people. That is what is good for me if I may say so

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I was first on years ago I made the mistake of putting a body type.. Huge mistake. You have a pretty face and a gorgeous body but ive seen a woman who describes herself as 16/18 but when you see her pics she's well buff/ fit or very sexy so I wouldn't over worry. I would concern yourself with how well you get on.

Anna who I met briefly and had some great times with before she passed away from cancer was bigger than average but we got chatting through the forum and got on so well I didn't care she was a size 20.

But yes fab is a weird place full of people with specific fantasies.

I've messaged lots of people who you think I'd be a good fit for but they either your not for us or just delete my message and yet according to what they're looking for I'm perfect.... go figure. "

Tbh if I see they’ve expressed a preference for bigger ladies either on the forum, on their profile or in veris we are unlikely to get to the ‘getting on’ stage. I’ll just rule them out!

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By *koda33Man
over a year ago

garvesend

I've recently had something similar

To be completey honest it wasn't a put off. it was nice to generally speak to someone without having a filter x

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By *tudentForFunMan
over a year ago

Craigavon

Wouldn’t put me off, I think everyone has preferences, yet you can still come across certain people that don’t fit them but you are still very attracted to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've recently had something similar

To be completey honest it wasn't a put off. it was nice to generally speak to someone without having a filter x"

I’d imagine a one off is quite different to having it regularly happen though!

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By *koda33Man
over a year ago

garvesend


"I've recently had something similar

To be completey honest it wasn't a put off. it was nice to generally speak to someone without having a filter x

I’d imagine a one off is quite different to having it regularly happen though! "

I suppose to be honest I don't talk to alot of people on this

So I'm just great full for the reply I had lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t put me off, I think everyone has preferences, yet you can still come across certain people that don’t fit them but you are still very attracted to"

Ah see it’s definitely off putting for me, I pretty much rule out any guy who shows a preference for bigger women when I’m the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they express a definite dislike to a larger lady and then message me wanting to meet up, I will send back a polite no thank you.

Yep it’s the same for me if they show a dislike for slimmer ladies! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they express a definite dislike to a larger lady and then message me wanting to meet up, I will send back a polite no thank you.

Yep it’s the same for me if they show a dislike for slimmer ladies!

You both sound nice and sensible people. That is what is good for me if I may say so"

Thank you

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

there has to be some attraction to them , first thing , and get to know them , like in real life situations ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"there has to be some attraction to them , first thing , and get to know them , like in real life situations .. "

Oh definitely!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It's not expressing a preference for a certain body type, it's now they express it. If they put other body types down or say a body type other than mine is 'the best' I know that I would be second best and I'm not interested in that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not expressing a preference for a certain body type, it's now they express it. If they put other body types down or say a body type other than mine is 'the best' I know that I would be second best and I'm not interested in that "

Well put! A lot of the time I come across guys who say that BBW is much better than slim but then they’ll try to arrange a meet with me and I’m not interested in feeling second best!

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"It's not expressing a preference for a certain body type, it's now they express it. If they put other body types down or say a body type other than mine is 'the best' I know that I would be second best and I'm not interested in that

Well put! A lot of the time I come across guys who say that BBW is much better than slim but then they’ll try to arrange a meet with me and I’m not interested in feeling second best! "

You wouldn't be... If a man truly believes that bigger girls are hotter then he wouldn't feel the need to validate that by saying something derogatory about slimmer women... He doesn't believe that, if he has to say it... If I fancy someone, he believes it, because I mean it and don't have to back it up with shitty words about someone different... Maybe that only makes sense to me but...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's not expressing a preference for a certain body type, it's now they express it. If they put other body types down or say a body type other than mine is 'the best' I know that I would be second best and I'm not interested in that

Well put! A lot of the time I come across guys who say that BBW is much better than slim but then they’ll try to arrange a meet with me and I’m not interested in feeling second best!

You wouldn't be... If a man truly believes that bigger girls are hotter then he wouldn't feel the need to validate that by saying something derogatory about slimmer women... He doesn't believe that, if he has to say it... If I fancy someone, he believes it, because I mean it and don't have to back it up with shitty words about someone different... Maybe that only makes sense to me but... "

No, that makes complete sense to me

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