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By *otwifeEmilyUK OP   Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

What is the best way to tell people you're not interested in them without offending them?

We seem to get abuse back or people trying to persuade us otherwise with comments like 'I would give you multiple orgasms' forgetting we are a couple!

Don't get us wrong some people are absolutely respectful about it but the majority are not.

How would you like to be told no?

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

Very much depends on the person, sometimes you have to be plain rude/ just block them! Sadly it’s just the way it is I think!

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By *otwifeEmilyUK OP   Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"Very much depends on the person, sometimes you have to be plain rude/ just block them! Sadly it’s just the way it is I think!"

It certainly appears that way

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By *zmukMan
over a year ago

doncaster

As a single guy, I'm no stranger to rejection, but I don't see a good case for posting abuse.

Mostly I get ignored, but when I do get a rejection message, it is usually neutral or polite.

But regardless, I don't get the case for dishing out some grief. Would I ever benefit? Is the other party going to change their mind because of it? Doesn't it help me with my next approach? Will it 'teach them a lesson'? Clearly, no.

My advice to the OP is remain polite when letting people down (because we're not all idiots), and rest assured, if there is a negative reaction, it will be their problem and not yours.

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By *antasy Explorers 1313Couple
over a year ago

A place where others reside


"What is the best way to tell people you're not interested in them without offending them?

We seem to get abuse back or people trying to persuade us otherwise with comments like 'I would give you multiple orgasms' forgetting we are a couple!

Don't get us wrong some people are absolutely respectful about it but the majority are not.

How would you like to be told no?"

Don't ever feel that you have to justify yourself to anyone just because you are using an online platform to meet people for sexual activity. A simple no thanks would do it in person but people use the anonymity of the Internet to pursue their personal agendas with their entitled attitudes. Sadly some people perceive that your being online means that there's a desperate thirst for sexual gratification that must be quenched in that instant by the first person to message you in the last five minutes!

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By *xxLandNxxxCouple
over a year ago

Nuneaton

Thanks for the interest but your not what we’re looking for, all the best and good luck with your search x

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By *uchislife66Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I always thank folk for a reply and say good luck in your search

It is nice to get a reply

Never an abusive message in return from myself

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Depending on the message they send we either just straight delete it or will politley reply with the reason why they arent what we're looking for

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By *9Karm69Man
over a year ago

plymouth/chesterfield


"Thanks for the interest but your not what we’re looking for, all the best and good luck with your search x

"

Sadly yes I get quite a few rejections as being 62 & single, but the above is nice and so polite

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By *di086Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

Simply say no? ,yet not always works here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is the best way to tell people you're not interested in them without offending them?

We seem to get abuse back or people trying to persuade us otherwise with comments like 'I would give you multiple orgasms' forgetting we are a couple!

Don't get us wrong some people are absolutely respectful about it but the majority are not.

How would you like to be told no?"

Hi & thanks for your msg & interest but not quite our type thanks… good luck

BUT - I also appreciate this is not possible for lots of women with loads of messages that don’t float their boat, so fully understand why msg’s just get deleted.

It really is up to the person sending a msg to have enough respect to know that they won’t be everyone’s cup of tea prior to sending one and be prepared for either a polite decline OR a deleted msg,

Smile & move on…. For both parties

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By *ayezzMan
over a year ago

Manchester/Birmingham

I prefer a couple to tell me they aren't interested or I am not their type, simple and clear on my end of things. Alternatively a simple delete of my message always serves its purpose. I often get mixed messages when being left on read, not sure about anyone else. Especially as a single guy messaging a couple, read could mean a number of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer a couple to tell me they aren't interested or I am not their type, simple and clear on my end of things. Alternatively a simple delete of my message always serves its purpose. I often get mixed messages when being left on read, not sure about anyone else. Especially as a single guy messaging a couple, read could mean a number of things. "

I used to be confused about this little dilemma too, wondering if one had read it & waiting for the other too etc..

But if not replied to within 24 hours as a general rule I accept it’s a No & delete msg myself to stop any wandering …

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

With a straight guys it's very easy. I either say please go read my profile as i know you havnt. Or when they say thry like my profile amd think we a perfect match I like to ask what makes them think that after reading it as is very clear what I am and am not here for I don't have anything ticked on the kink list. Can be very entertaining at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What is the best way to tell people you're not interested in them without offending them?

We seem to get abuse back or people trying to persuade us otherwise with comments like 'I would give you multiple orgasms' forgetting we are a couple!

Don't get us wrong some people are absolutely respectful about it but the majority are not.

How would you like to be told no?"

A polite - we aren’t interested, thanks - is fine. We realise that we aren’t going to be everyone’s cup of tea, and rejection is just part of the process of finding people to get to know. Anyone becoming abusive just gets blocked, their behaviour says a lot more than them than it does about anything else…

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately it does depend on the individual. Some just can't take rejection. You're probably like me and don't like to reject in a blunt nasty way, but we can't all fancy everyone else otherwise we'd live in a boring world..

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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"Thanks for the interest but your not what we’re looking for, all the best and good luck with your search x

"

This is a good one and similar to what we would send to someone who sent a decent message.

I would say that our response would be based on the amount of effort the sender has put in though. If it is blatantly clear they didn't bother to read our profile and/or they send a pathetic 3 word message it is going straight in the bin!

I know our profile is long, I put a lot of effort into writing it so people who are serious would be able to get a good idea of what we are looking for and if we would be compatible. However I have highlighted "we don't play with straight singles" at the very top! If they can't read that far I'm not going to waste my time replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We just say thanks for taking the time to message but not for us. If it’s rude or abusive, we just block and then delete the messages.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"What is the best way to tell people you're not interested in them without offending them?

We seem to get abuse back or people trying to persuade us otherwise with comments like 'I would give you multiple orgasms' forgetting we are a couple!

Don't get us wrong some people are absolutely respectful about it but the majority are not.

How would you like to be told no?"

I just block. Saves both parties the time. Not worth the energy over thinking about it

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Oh please report these people as we don't want a site filled with numpties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a no from us.

"You're joking"

No, we're serious, you're not it type

"F@_#£4 sgrd&£-5£:"

Blocked.

Polite no... If you get abuse back... Tell them to fuck off and block them.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I just say thanks but no thanks happy swinging & block ,then they can't come back with but why's etc.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Just say not interested / good day .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you, but no thank you. Happy fabbing."

Miss S x

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

I often say no thanks and explain why. Occasionally I get an angry response and I usually just block at that point.

Gbat

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


""Thank you, but no thank you. Happy fabbing."

Miss S x"

All that’s needed really.

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By *hillenCouple
over a year ago

Borehamwood

Perhaps there could be a button relating to the first message received which would automatically reply along the polite refusals mentioned before. This would then perform an automatic msg delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a simple str8 forward no thanks ... if they cant handle that then sorry but thats their problem .... rejection is a big part of swinging and there no point in giving confusing messages be straight to the point but polite = no thanks

when we say no thanks we then block before they even get a chance to react but we block so we dont keep having to say no thanks makes life so much easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest and polite with a degree of diplomacy… that’s what I try to do!! Xx

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