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Does this site depress you ?

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By *weetPea-k OP   Man
over a year ago

chelmsford

I know i will probably get all the haters saying the site is what you make it but if we are all honest, does anyone else sometimes find yourself actually feeling really down after a day of rejection on here ? Especially when you have sent kind respectful messages and just get knock back after knock back or even worse the dreaded you have been blocked from viewing this profile message

As i said i know its a sex site and i shouldn't take it seriously but somedays it really does effect my moods

Anyone else or just me ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

Sometimes it can frustrate me and sometimes I think I spend too much time here when I could be doing something more productive.

Maybe take a break or freshen up your profile if it’s getting you down x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it starts to effect your mood, I'd say it's time to take a break. When the fun stops, stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s totally ok to feel like that, regardless of what anyone else thinks/says.

Maybe have a break and see how you feel without being on here.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Remember OP it's a swingers site, not a sex site. If you are messaging purely to get sex and it comes across like that you may well get a fair amount of rejection. Relax, chat and have fun but also, as others have said, take a break if you need to.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

Wasn't it Friedrich Nietzsche who suggested lowering your expectations, then you won't be disappointed...

Reframe Fab.

It's just a bit of harmless fun and if you're taking it too seriously, like others have said, take a break from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can do you good to have a break and come back refreshed

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By *weetPea-k OP   Man
over a year ago

chelmsford

Im thinking a break my be the thing to do

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By *arcosaMan
over a year ago

London

Yes, I'm afraid it does, especially as, the reality is that, the deck is stacked against me. But I'm not going to give in. God loves a trier.

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

You just learn to accept the rejection and move on

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

you must look at it as a bit of fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s like dating sites but dialled to 11 in my experience.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Nope it doesn’t at all. I think if you feel like that maybe take a break

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

There are times when I've gound mu experience on here completely negative. So I hide the profile and take a break.

It's not worth letting this place bring you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it all about expectations.

Have none, and you'll probably be fine.

If not, as others have said, take a break

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By *exymarvelMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Have no expectations is the best way, mutual attraction is key, one day itll happen

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By *exymarvelMan
over a year ago

cardiff

Its a lifestyle site not pof

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think an activity where you're putting yourself forward like we do here has the potential to lower your mood.

I'm huge advocate of protecting your self esteem where possible. Even the most secure of us need to realise when we need to temporarily remove ourselves from the arena.

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

Only in the sense i go through phases, when i spend too much time on here looking. Get used to messages not answered, but selective in what and who i send too.

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By *weetPea-k OP   Man
over a year ago

chelmsford

Thank you all for your comments,your all saying what i know myself really i just wanted to know i wasn't alone in how i feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope works for us ...its about knowing when to be on here and when not ..its really that simple ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As other have said it sounds like you need to take a break.

You’re also looking for a very specific thing which limits your chances on here. I’m not saying change what you’re looking for but maybe lower expectations a bit because what you are looking for will only appeal to a very small number of people.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Thank you all for your comments,your all saying what i know myself really i just wanted to know i wasn't alone in how i feel "

Definitely not alone!

As others have said, when I find this place impacting my sense of self then I take a break and come back to it when I can treat it as a bit of entertainment once more.

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By *lixir of lifeMan
over a year ago

knob Creek

I’d say your taking this way too seriously..

Perhaps spending too much time on here ..

Many better things to do or worry about in life ..

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"As other have said it sounds like you need to take a break.

You’re also looking for a very specific thing which limits your chances on here. I’m not saying change what you’re looking for but maybe lower expectations a bit because what you are looking for will only appeal to a very small number of people."

This, very much so, OP. Also, out of that small group of people, some may not like that you are married and playing away.

Anyway, good luck to you, OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are in any way depressed or upset at getting knocked back or ignored then being on here as a single man isn’t the place for you .

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By *imbob85Man
over a year ago

inverness

Yeh certainly does at times you try to be polite and nice and get it thrown back in your face at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP your profile is okay and you explain what you’re looking for unfortunately, and this will be the case for many, it’s not what we want. Don’t take it as a rejection but rather a mismatch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The opposite for me.

It cheers me up, having good chats on messages, a couple meets lined up and having a laugh in the newly discovered forum x

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Being married reduces your chances on here. Have you been to a club

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes – it's massively, gigantically depressing. There's only so much rejection anyone can take. It would grind anyone down eventually.

If it's affecting you too badly, take a break. You can always come back when you're feeling more equipped to deal with what it does to your self-esteem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first started on this site two years ago it was very frustrating at the Covid thing kicked in. I've had a few meets in the interval and I've learnt to not take it too seriously. The ladies are getting bombarded with messages so they can pick and choose whom to respond to. My self-esteem is good so I don't worry about rejection. It can be somewhat frustrating when messages don't even get read. But this is a no-strings, no-obligation site and it's best to be regarded as a bit of an exploration into the possibility of meeting a suitable playmate rather than an absolute guarantee. I have left the site several times in frustration but now choose to not get frustrated and simply step back from it and then return a few weeks later.

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By *ou only live onceMan
over a year ago

London

Sorry you're feeling that way, OP. This place can be tough, but try not to take it to heart (easier said than done, I know)

Remember there's a great big wide world out there beyond Fab to meet people in too!

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