FabSwingers.com forum: Blocked

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If we contact someone and they don't want to meet we tend to find blocking is a good way of ensuring we don't " pester" them again. We always precede the blocking with a polite message. Do others do this ?

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"If we contact someone and they don't want to meet we tend to find blocking is a good way of ensuring we don't " pester" them again. We always precede the blocking with a polite message. Do others do this ?

We do the same we even message all winks and invites and if way out from what we are looking for we message with

~Thanks for .... wink/invite or viewing profile. As you are not what we are looking for (possibly give a reason) we will block you, please don't take this personally this is just so that neither of us waste time contacting each other.

Thanks for (wink/invite/viewing) and happy swinging..

We then block.. we didn't and got fed up with guys coming back again and again.. so easier to do this and with this message maybe they don't get too stroppy about it... lol can but hope..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously? Why on earth message people you are blocking? What does it achieve?

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

It's Thirsday again isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't block anyone - you never know what may interest you another time !

But we ignore quite a few messages when we are busy or not in the mood .

If we are feeling horny we don't wanna restrict opportunity lol x

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Seriously? Why on earth message people you are blocking? What does it achieve? "

And why not, it explains that its nothing they have done wrong they are just not what we are looking for and its to save time on both sides... We only message winks, invites etc and some profile views like that.. but too many get shitty about blocking and although some are because they are being twats .. (we don't tell them) the ones that aren't being twats and are just not what we are looking for its just polite !! see the thread about how stroppy people get when you block without telling them why, and if you search here plenty block for the reason of not wasting each others times.. and loads state that on their profile...

Do I worry no not really thats what we do and thats what we shall keep doing at least the ones we block that haven't done anything wrong know that they haven't done anything wrong..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Yes. Blocking is a site tool, not a statement of your opinion of anyone. It just makes sure you (or they) don't appear in each others searches in the future and, as you say, also ensures you don't inadvertently message them again forgetting it was a 'no' last time round.

Trouble is, far too many people on here seem to have issues with handling rejection and take being blocked personally.

Pork

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

Yes. Blocking is a site tool, not a statement of your opinion of anyone. It just makes sure you (or they) don't appear in each others searches in the future and, as you say, also ensures you don't inadvertently message them again forgetting it was a 'no' last time round.

Trouble is, far too many people on here seem to have issues with handling rejection and take being blocked personally.

Pork"

Exactly thats why we message the ones that have done nothing wrong just not into the same as us or whatever don't fit with what we want.. its not personal so at least maybe they don't take it personally and get upset or stroppy..

We just thought it was polite ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's right about now that I like to post a highly inflammatory comment and derail the thread, causing a 175 post argument.

But i'm not going to do that today. Even though its rant Thursday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's right about now that I like to post a highly inflammatory comment and derail the thread, causing a 175 post argument.

But i'm not going to do that today. Even though its rant Thursday.

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Don't know how you're managing to contain yourself, Jodie....

Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Containment=Tight pants!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Containment=Tight pants!"
Hey-ho........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always thought that people who get annoyed at being blocked by a stranger must be incredibly needy in the same way as those who get upset at not getting a no reply are. But apologizing to a stranger for blocking them is taking that to a whole new level... Seriously what does it matter if a stranger, that you have no desire to meet, takes exception to being blocked?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only a few reasons I block

1. Not looking for my skin type

2. The mailer asking for face pics when they have none , then after all the arm wrestling about why they have none to hand agree to yahoo mail a pic of some legs WTF that gets a big fat one

That's about it really

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"I've always thought that people who get annoyed at being blocked by a stranger must be incredibly needy in the same way as those who get upset at not getting a no reply are. But apologizing to a stranger for blocking them is taking that to a whole new level... Seriously what does it matter if a stranger, that you have no desire to meet, takes exception to being blocked? "

To us personally couldn't give a shit what they think.. however its an experiment after all the crap threads on here moaning about manners.. see some people think you are wrong for just blocking, some don't, some people think you are wrong for not replying some don't, some people think you are being mad for letting people know that you are blocking them, some people think its really rude for not letting them know.. get the picture... and we also would prefer not to upset people that although we would not meet and play with we are regulars at the FAB Cardiff Social and will happily chat to people we have blocked at the social, you can chat to anyone doesn't mean that they are suitable play mates.. so if they are blocked but you have said nothing personal just not for us to play with the generally have no issues being shitty at socials.. after all we can walk away but a shitty bloke at a FAB social is not fair on anyone else there really now is it..

If you only meet to play and don't go to the FAB socials where you are likely to bump into local people you have blocked then it doesn't matter, but we do go to socials and this is all supposed to be fun so stroppy gits at a social is not needed.. We don't grovel and say so sorry so so sorry for blocking you we just tell them its not personal its just what we do.. and plenty still pm us in the chatroom and are fine with us...and yes they can still pm us or some can for some reason !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to social, go to clubs. See people we know we've blocked. Don't feel guilty or embarrassed and, not that anyone ever has but if they got shitty it would say far more about them than me.

And when at clubs I don't feel the need to apologise to those we don't speak to or play with and explain not our type. As frankly that would be somewhat weird and arguably somewhat rude.

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Go to social, go to clubs. See people we know we've blocked. Don't feel guilty or embarrassed and, not that anyone ever has but if they got shitty it would say far more about them than me.

And when at clubs I don't feel the need to apologise to those we don't speak to or play with and explain not our type. As frankly that would be somewhat weird and arguably somewhat rude."

right ... and we feel its more polite our way... but we are happy you are happy..whats the issue.. this was a thread asking for thoughts and opinions.. i am not saying the way you are doing it is wrong neither is ours it works for us.. does anything else matter.. it wasnt a thread to get everyone doing it the same way... so not sure where its going really...the guys e have dealt with it works its supposed to be fun and if the way we do it helps an unsecure person to deal with it then great.. if not tough shit...

Just because not suitable doesnt mean we cant be nice to each other in the lifestyle.. thats how it used to be anyway..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depending on the quality of the unsolicited first message and the mood I am in at the time of reading the message, I may not send a reply and hit the block button right away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

usually blocked without the polite message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

will just block without message

will also block unverifieds who keep looking,especially unverified 'women' as they will be men or dont meet anyway.

people who friend invite without message get a block also

the feature is there,may as well use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go to social, go to clubs. See people we know we've blocked. Don't feel guilty or embarrassed and, not that anyone ever has but if they got shitty it would say far more about them than me.

And when at clubs I don't feel the need to apologise to those we don't speak to or play with and explain not our type. As frankly that would be somewhat weird and arguably somewhat rude.

Just because not suitable doesnt mean we cant be nice to each other in the lifestyle.. thats how it used to be anyway.."

If it was a thread asking for opinions then why get so heated that I disagree...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day it is a tool available to you that ensures repeated contact doesn't happen. We use it when we don't want to talk to a profile or if they have been rude. It tends to be the latter.

I would say we are on some peoples block list. We couldn't care less. I don't walk down to a pub and expect to like everybody in there and for them to like me. Why should the internet be any different?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"Seriously? Why on earth message people you are blocking? What does it achieve? "

I don't block that much, unless I'm pestered or someone gets out of line etc, but I generally prefer to let people know that things aren't going to proceed.

For this reason, whether blocking or not, I'd like to think that it closes the door, as some people create new profiles and then continue potentially hassling, even though their common sense should tell them to back off.

I agree with your point that you never know what needs there may be in future and I try not to burn bridges.

I'd like to see an option to send a short message open when a user initiates blocking, to say 'thanks, no thanks' or whatever they may want. It could be disabled or not, depending on preferences, but many would not use it, preferring instead to keep silent, such as yourselves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking for serial looking , how very dare they

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"Go to social, go to clubs. See people we know we've blocked. Don't feel guilty or embarrassed and, not that anyone ever has but if they got shitty it would say far more about them than me.

And when at clubs I don't feel the need to apologise to those we don't speak to or play with and explain not our type. As frankly that would be somewhat weird and arguably somewhat rude.

Just because not suitable doesnt mean we cant be nice to each other in the lifestyle.. thats how it used to be anyway..

If it was a thread asking for opinions then why get so heated that I disagree...

i aint heated.. you are the ones that arent posting your opinions on op post or what you do.. i posted what we do and you are disagreeing.. did we ask for your opinion on what we do ..no.. do we really care about your opinion ..no not really.. as i said why people cant just accept that others do what suits them and feel the need to go on and on about how wrong they feel they are.

I stated what we do .. You came back about it i explained why we did it and that it works for us.. you are the ones that seem to have got an issue with it not me.. as i said you way works for you our way works for us.. what others think shouldnt matter.. and we never offered our opinion on your way and we never asked you for yours on our way.. so not sure why you are going on about it and not posting re ops post.. hey ho.. somethings never change..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just block someone, wouldn't tell them why, don't see the point

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By *isandreTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

I've never blocked anyone, but I can see the sense in it from an avoiding future time wasting point of view.

I also think it's a nice thing to send a message explaining as the second poster on the thread does.

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