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"I don't think you can visually, only on what they say; accom at certain times, or travel/hotel only, making up excuses or delaying meets. It's all conjecture for me as I've never been in that position. Feels shitty to imagine an innocent unsuspecting partner though" With my crazy working hours and commitment with friends and family. I'm really pushed for scheduling a meet. I can't accommodate either. But I'm definitely not married or in a relationship | |||
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"I am one of those looking for discreet adult fun as i am in a sexless marriage due to her health issues...i get no where on here for being honest and told i should leave her...i think leaving her is more hurtful than discreet adult fun....we all have needs but here goes for all the abuse and hateful words "Can't you talk about it with her? As that would hurt me the most is the deciet and lack of communication and trust. Your situation slightly different as she can't help not giving you what you want. Communication is the key. | |||
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"I am one of those looking for discreet adult fun as i am in a sexless marriage due to her health issues...i get no where on here for being honest and told i should leave her...i think leaving her is more hurtful than discreet adult fun....we all have needs but here goes for all the abuse and hateful words "Look to be totally honest with you it’s your choice and your decision what you do in your own life is completely up to you and I don’t agree with people hurling abuse at this it not affecting there lifes as long as you make the person aware your planning on meeting and let them make the choice as to many people judge to quick and say you shouldn’t do this and that but it’s not there life and no one’s telling them how to live there’s If you get caught out then your the one who has to deal with the consequences not them | |||
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"Cracks me up how when a bloke says he is cheating everyone has a right moan - yet when a women says she is in here with out hubby’s permission (and one member gets regular full on gangbangs behind hubby and says so in profile) no one blinks and eye, think a cheating guy will get less “meets” than a cheating lady so why is it ok for her but not him? One rule for one! "  | |||
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"Cracks me up how when a bloke says he is cheating everyone has a right moan - yet when a women says she is in here with out hubby’s permission (and one member gets regular full on gangbangs behind hubby and says so in profile) no one blinks and eye, think a cheating guy will get less “meets” than a cheating lady so why is it ok for her but not him? One rule for one! " But is exchanging sexy talk and nudes cheating? Its such a grey area | |||
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"I am one of those looking for discreet adult fun as i am in a sexless marriage due to her health issues...i get no where on here for being honest and told i should leave her...i think leaving her is more hurtful than discreet adult fun....we all have needs but here goes for all the abuse and hateful words
Can't you talk about it with her? As that would hurt me the most is the deciet and lack of communication and trust. Your situation slightly different as she can't help not giving you what you want. Communication is the key."Exactly have you tried to talk to her? A reasonable and loving spouse can't expect their partner to give up sex for the rest of their lives because they can't or don't want a sexual relationship anymore l. That's a horrendously cruel thing to do to the person they love. Just as damaging as the deceit and hurt involved when your caught cheating on your life partner husband / wife (most are caught in the end). KJ KJ | |||
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"I know some women don't help themselves by withholding sex or not making sex a priority, sabotaging the lust and desire for their partner. Which in turn leads to men going off doing these things. But it's the deciet I find very uncomfortable with and I just don't want any part of it." men do that too....they withhold sex etc. And not all men go elsewhere are being denied. My exs most definitely weren't yet everyone went off behind my back | |||
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"Can't you talk about it with her? " I doubt it's that easy in a lot of cases. There's probably a lot of emotional history, and if the couple were able to talk honestly and openly about sex then they probably wouldn't be having these problems. But I assume this thread will go the same way as all similar threads. If any single males are rash enough to poke their heads above the parapet then they'll immediately get shot down by a load of smug couples who don't know how lucky they are! | |||
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"Cracks me up how when a bloke says he is cheating everyone has a right moan - yet when a women says she is in here with out hubby’s permission (and one member gets regular full on gangbangs behind hubby and says so in profile) no one blinks and eye, think a cheating guy will get less “meets” than a cheating lady so why is it ok for her but not him? One rule for one! "Wrong a lady was open about cheating received just as much condemnation in a thread last week. The threads not there now as she likely self reported her thread to have it removed. Point is most people felt the same regardless of the cheaters gender. Yes a few single guys likely desperate for a meet overlooked / excuses it but that's driven by the 100 single males for every single lady / couple ratio. A lot of the successful single guys with multiple meet veris didn't agree with what she was going to her hubby either and said as much. KJ | |||
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"I don't think you can visually, only on what they say; accom at certain times, or travel/hotel only, making up excuses or delaying meets. It's all conjecture for me as I've never been in that position. Feels shitty to imagine an innocent unsuspecting partner though With my crazy working hours and commitment with friends and family. I'm really pushed for scheduling a meet. I can't accommodate either. But I'm definitely not married or in a relationship " I’m the same. My daughter is grown up and moved back in so accommodating can be tricky. Work is relentless and I enjoy a social life so meets can hard to arrange but I’m 100% single with nothing to hide. Sometimes real life makes things seems underhand when it’s just how it is! | |||
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"Is it because men don't care as much as women if she's cheating? Just curious as men's minds apparently work different to women. I'm not impressed by any cheat, regardless of their gender" Men's mind do often work differently. Many (by no means all) guys when cheated on blame the cheating wife. Often (by no means all) women who are cheated on often blame the person their hubby cheated with with. Especially if it was a 'perverted' swinging couple who corrupted her hubby. We have seen this often over the years. KJ | |||
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"Is it because men don't care as much as women if she's cheating? Just curious as men's minds apparently work different to women. I'm not impressed by any cheat, regardless of their gender" I think that you're right there, if they're getting laid most men won't care if a woman is cheating. Cal | |||
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"Is it because men don't care as much as women if she's cheating? Just curious as men's minds apparently work different to women. I'm not impressed by any cheat, regardless of their gender I think that you're right there, if they're getting laid most men won't care if a woman is cheating. Cal" I've been told by many they prefer it.. ( I'm single so not cheating) | |||
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"I know some women don't help themselves by withholding sex or not making sex a priority, sabotaging the lust and desire for their partner. Which in turn leads to men going off doing these things. But it's the deciet I find very uncomfortable with and I just don't want any part of it.men do that too....they withhold sex etc. And not all men go elsewhere are being denied. My exs most definitely weren't yet everyone went off behind my back " Yes me too, I experienced all that. Lol but fab is different ball game. Just like to be more savvy about cheaters on here | |||
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"Is it because men don't care as much as women if she's cheating? Just curious as men's minds apparently work different to women. I'm not impressed by any cheat, regardless of their gender I think that you're right there, if they're getting laid most men won't care if a woman is cheating. CalI've been told by many they prefer it.. ( I'm single so not cheating) " They prefer sleeping with a cheater because it's heightens the sex knowing they been very naughty? And they feel more comfortable the woman won't be so emotionally demanding because she's already got that from her partner? | |||
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"I don't think you can visually, only on what they say; accom at certain times, or travel/hotel only, making up excuses or delaying meets. It's all conjecture for me as I've never been in that position. Feels shitty to imagine an innocent unsuspecting partner though With my crazy working hours and commitment with friends and family. I'm really pushed for scheduling a meet. I can't accommodate either. But I'm definitely not married or in a relationship " ???? I’ve been TOLD I’m married. I’m not yet divorced, so technically they’re right I suppose.  it’s like they want you to be.  | |||
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"I don't think you can visually, only on what they say; accom at certain times, or travel/hotel only, making up excuses or delaying meets. It's all conjecture for me as I've never been in that position. Feels shitty to imagine an innocent unsuspecting partner though With my crazy working hours and commitment with friends and family. I'm really pushed for scheduling a meet. I can't accommodate either. But I'm definitely not married or in a relationship ???? I’ve been TOLD I’m married. I’m not yet divorced, so technically they’re right I suppose. it’s like they want you to be. "I get asked if I'm married because I'm very busy and can't accommodate | |||
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"I don't think you can visually, only on what they say; accom at certain times, or travel/hotel only, making up excuses or delaying meets. It's all conjecture for me as I've never been in that position. Feels shitty to imagine an innocent unsuspecting partner though With my crazy working hours and commitment with friends and family. I'm really pushed for scheduling a meet. I can't accommodate either. But I'm definitely not married or in a relationship ???? I’ve been TOLD I’m married. I’m not yet divorced, so technically they’re right I suppose. it’s like they want you to be.
I get asked if I'm married because I'm very busy and can't accommodate "It’s the accommodation thing. There should be a sub tick box. Can’t accomadate - spouse/no spouse | |||
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"I don't think you can visually, only on what they say; accom at certain times, or travel/hotel only, making up excuses or delaying meets. It's all conjecture for me as I've never been in that position. Feels shitty to imagine an innocent unsuspecting partner though With my crazy working hours and commitment with friends and family. I'm really pushed for scheduling a meet. I can't accommodate either. But I'm definitely not married or in a relationship ???? I’ve been TOLD I’m married. I’m not yet divorced, so technically they’re right I suppose. it’s like they want you to be.
I get asked if I'm married because I'm very busy and can't accommodate
It’s the accommodation thing. There should be a sub tick box.
Can’t accomadate - spouse/no spouse "I'm confused, are you a cheater or not? | |||
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"I am one of those looking for discreet adult fun as i am in a sexless marriage due to her health issues...i get no where on here for being honest and told i should leave her...i think leaving her is more hurtful than discreet adult fun....we all have needs but here goes for all the abuse and hateful words "Your life, your problem. It annoys me when men in your situation come into my inbox seeking connection when I’ve been very clear I don’t want that, otherwise not my business. | |||
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"I am one of those looking for discreet adult fun as i am in a sexless marriage due to her health issues...i get no where on here for being honest and told i should leave her...i think leaving her is more hurtful than discreet adult fun....we all have needs but here goes for all the abuse and hateful words "I’m the same as you if your honest you get abuse if you say nothing and they find out more abuse | |||
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"I am one of those looking for discreet adult fun as i am in a sexless marriage due to her health issues...i get no where on here for being honest and told i should leave her...i think leaving her is more hurtful than discreet adult fun....we all have needs but here goes for all the abuse and hateful words
Can't you talk about it with her? As that would hurt me the most is the deciet and lack of communication and trust. Your situation slightly different as she can't help not giving you what you want. Communication is the key."I have ask the same thing all I get is you married me and if you leave it will cost you loads | |||
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"I don't think you can visually, only on what they say; accom at certain times, or travel/hotel only, making up excuses or delaying meets. It's all conjecture for me as I've never been in that position. Feels shitty to imagine an innocent unsuspecting partner though With my crazy working hours and commitment with friends and family. I'm really pushed for scheduling a meet. I can't accommodate either. But I'm definitely not married or in a relationship ???? I’ve been TOLD I’m married. I’m not yet divorced, so technically they’re right I suppose. it’s like they want you to be.
I get asked if I'm married because I'm very busy and can't accommodate
It’s the accommodation thing. There should be a sub tick box.
Can’t accomadate - spouse/no spouse
I'm confused, are you a cheater or not?"I’m confused. I didn’t think you asked me…. No I’m not. I just commented on the fact how people think you’re cheating when you can’t/won’t accommodate. | |||
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"I been reading on other forums about so many women telling us about their partners secretly messaging other women, flirting and exchanging nude photos etc. Not sure how many of them actually meet. So how can you tell if a fab profile is one of them? I did get afew men on here eventually admit they secretly have a partner shame they definitely didn't want to tell me at the beginning "Dont know if you can tell. If someone's lying, how is it possible to tell online? If someone's sneaking around behind their partners back, they are not likely to admit it till they have no choice / are caught. Same statement goes for how do you know if someone's telling the truth as well? I'll openly admit I'm a guy who messages other women on here and via other methods. Trades photos and what have you but if I message a woman from my single profile I'll make it bluntly clear in the opening message that I'm married, that it's an open marriage and both my wife and I or on here as a couple and together. I'll refer them to this profile and my wife's and then it's up to them to make their mind up. I I would like to think given what's written in the profiles, the veris attached to them and the straightforwardness would put peoples mind at ease. But does it? Does it put people off even? I dont know. But in the grand scheme of it, it's an odd one on Fab. On one hand I get why some women on fab wont meet or talk to men with partners. Thats fine. For a multitude of reasons, thats the choice those ladies make and it's their preference (and it's one I respect). However, on the other hand, by now, I feel many people should know, on here there is a given level of bullshitting going on from a percentage of the user base. From fake accounts to people cheating with everything in between. They're gonna have people lying about all sorts. Guess you just have to keep your guard up and if something smells fishy, it's not the tuna! | |||
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I created a profile and gave it a go, tbh it wasn’t great and a lot of hard work with little reward
When she told me that I knew our relationship was dead, I stayed because I didn’t want to leave my kids, just didn’t work and eventually it broke down
Fast forward a few years and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been and found someone even more perverted and naughty than me   | |||
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"I (Mr) used to be on here as a single guy, my ex told me she was no longer interested in sex and I should go find a fuck buddy
I created a profile and gave it a go, tbh it wasn’t great and a lot of hard work with little reward
When she told me that I knew our relationship was dead, I stayed because I didn’t want to leave my kids, just didn’t work and eventually it broke down
Fast forward a few years and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been and found someone even more perverted and naughty than me "I like hearing success stories. Again you weren't technically cheating as your partner knew and gave consent. Totally different from men creating hidden accounts and swapping nudes with random women etc | |||
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"Fab morale police at it again there are male AND female partners on here doing the same get over it "It took me a while to figure it’s a witch hunt thread…. | |||
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"Cracks me up how when a bloke says he is cheating everyone has a right moan - yet when a women says she is in here with out hubby’s permission (and one member gets regular full on gangbangs behind hubby and says so in profile) no one blinks and eye, think a cheating guy will get less “meets” than a cheating lady so why is it ok for her but not him? One rule for one! " I always find it hilarious when someone makes a comment like this, usually a guy..... The obvious difference is the target audience. A reason you might see a women getting a more positive reaction is because of the volume of guys tripping over themselves to try and get laid! | |||
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"Cracks me up how when a bloke says he is cheating everyone has a right moan - yet when a women says she is in here with out hubby’s permission (and one member gets regular full on gangbangs behind hubby and says so in profile) no one blinks and eye, think a cheating guy will get less “meets” than a cheating lady so why is it ok for her but not him? One rule for one! But is exchanging sexy talk and nudes cheating? Its such a grey area " I guess it depends on the dynamic of the couple involved. However the sexy talk and exchange of nudes in this scenario involves both the man and the woman. The woman could also be attached. | |||
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"I am on Fab with my wife’s full knowledge, she is not on here, she did have a profile but really did not get on well with people on here so she looks elsewhere. Our personal dynamic is that we prefer to meet as singles, it is a lot less hassle for us as we both have hectic work and social calendars so arranging a meet when we are both free is problematic at best. I still get untold levels of grief from people on here because there is a firm belief that all married guys on here with a single guy profile must be cheats. Sooooo many closed minds for what is supposed to be such an open minded community., " Why can't you still have your couple profile and if the woman needs reassurance, your wife can give that? One woman offered me her husband which I thought was fab | |||
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"I am on Fab with my wife’s full knowledge, she is not on here, she did have a profile but really did not get on well with people on here so she looks elsewhere. Our personal dynamic is that we prefer to meet as singles, it is a lot less hassle for us as we both have hectic work and social calendars so arranging a meet when we are both free is problematic at best. I still get untold levels of grief from people on here because there is a firm belief that all married guys on here with a single guy profile must be cheats. Sooooo many closed minds for what is supposed to be such an open minded community., Why can't you still have your couple profile and if the woman needs reassurance, your wife can give that? One woman offered me her husband which I thought was fab "Sharing is caring... | |||
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"I am on Fab with my wife’s full knowledge, she is not on here, she did have a profile but really did not get on well with people on here so she looks elsewhere. Our personal dynamic is that we prefer to meet as singles, it is a lot less hassle for us as we both have hectic work and social calendars so arranging a meet when we are both free is problematic at best. I still get untold levels of grief from people on here because there is a firm belief that all married guys on here with a single guy profile must be cheats. Sooooo many closed minds for what is supposed to be such an open minded community., Why can't you still have your couple profile and if the woman needs reassurance, your wife can give that? One woman offered me her husband which I thought was fab "Why should a couple change their personal dynamic to suit other people? I don't want to ask another woman's permission to have sex with a guy. | |||
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"Can't you talk about it with her? This, exactly. I doubt it's that easy in a lot of cases. There's probably a lot of emotional history, and if the couple were able to talk honestly and openly about sex then they probably wouldn't be having these problems. But I assume this thread will go the same way as all similar threads. If any single males are rash enough to poke their heads above the parapet then they'll immediately get shot down by a load of smug couples who don't know how lucky they are!" | |||
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"Is it because men don't care as much as women if she's cheating? Just curious as men's minds apparently work different to women. I'm not impressed by any cheat, regardless of their gender I think that you're right there, if they're getting laid most men won't care if a woman is cheating. CalI've been told by many they prefer it.. ( I'm single so not cheating) They prefer sleeping with a cheater because it's heightens the sex knowing they been very naughty? And they feel more comfortable the woman won't be so emotionally demanding because she's already got that from her partner?" nail on the head | |||
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"Is it because men don't care as much as women if she's cheating? Just curious as men's minds apparently work different to women. I'm not impressed by any cheat, regardless of their gender I think that you're right there, if they're getting laid most men won't care if a woman is cheating. CalI've been told by many they prefer it.. ( I'm single so not cheating) They prefer sleeping with a cheater because it's heightens the sex knowing they been very naughty? And they feel more comfortable the woman won't be so emotionally demanding because she's already got that from her partner? nail on the head " Quite often women cheat because their emotional needs aren't being met. I think the assumption that they won't be emotionally demanding is an incorrect one | |||
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"Is it because men don't care as much as women if she's cheating? Just curious as men's minds apparently work different to women. I'm not impressed by any cheat, regardless of their gender I think that you're right there, if they're getting laid most men won't care if a woman is cheating. CalI've been told by many they prefer it.. ( I'm single so not cheating) They prefer sleeping with a cheater because it's heightens the sex knowing they been very naughty? And they feel more comfortable the woman won't be so emotionally demanding because she's already got that from her partner? nail on the head Quite often women cheat because their emotional needs aren't being met. I think the assumption that they won't be emotionally demanding is an incorrect one" well my last fwb was married and just wanted to play away as she had everything else she wanted apart from sex... maybe it has just been my experience | |||
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"I am one of those looking for discreet adult fun as i am in a sexless marriage due to her health issues...i get no where on here for being honest and told i should leave her...i think leaving her is more hurtful than discreet adult fun....we all have needs but here goes for all the abuse and hateful words "Why not just leave her? You obviously don't care how she feels so what difference does it make? | |||
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"What a load of sexist drivel… So many women on here behind partners backs too.. It’s just that more men are on here .. Both sexes cheat equally.. And that’s speaking from years of experience.. Suppose it’s cool to man bash on here though "Men just love to jump the sexist band wagon. Remember this was written by a straight woman who wanted more information about male cheaters. Why would I ask about women? If men find it so unfair, why don't you start your own "female sexist bashing post" instead of complaining have a good fabbing day  | |||
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"I am one of those looking for discreet adult fun as i am in a sexless marriage due to her health issues...i get no where on here for being honest and told i should leave her...i think leaving her is more hurtful than discreet adult fun....we all have needs but here goes for all the abuse and hateful words "Wow, well said, my Friend. And I thought I was the only one. Haven't got as far as a meet yet, but enjoy the casual chats I have on here. | |||
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"I am one of those looking for discreet adult fun as i am in a sexless marriage due to her health issues...i get no where on here for being honest and told i should leave her...i think leaving her is more hurtful than discreet adult fun....we all have needs but here goes for all the abuse and hateful words
Can't you talk about it with her? As that would hurt me the most is the deciet and lack of communication and trust. Your situation slightly different as she can't help not giving you what you want. Communication is the key.
Exactly have you tried to talk to her? A reasonable and loving spouse can't expect their partner to give up sex for the rest of their lives because they can't or don't want a sexual relationship anymore l. That's a horrendously cruel thing to do to the person they love. Just as damaging as the deceit and hurt involved when your caught cheating on your life partner husband / wife (most are caught in the end).
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"I am one of those looking for discreet adult fun as i am in a sexless marriage due to her health issues...i get no where on here for being honest and told i should leave her...i think leaving her is more hurtful than discreet adult fun....we all have needs but here goes for all the abuse and hateful words
Wow, well said, my Friend. And I thought I was the only one. Haven't got as far as a meet yet, but enjoy the casual chats I have on here."Even if you're not cheating. Meeting people on fab is tricky. | |||
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