FabSwingers.com forum: Seems to be getting worse!!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't usually as a rule use the forums, and I'm not sure if "The Lounge" is the correct forum to use (apologies if I should have used another), but, I just wanted to find out if other Forum users are finding the amount of "no shows" is rapidly on the increase? I logged in after returning from work to find two people on my friends list and three people on my hotlist all complaining (quite rightly so) that they had been let down tonight. I've been on FAB for over four years now and I have never to my knowledge let anyone down. Is it getting worse? and is there anything that can be done to out the serial offenders?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lot of the time if i invite a man round i dont expect him to turn up,

then am surprised when he does.

thats one reason why i like inviting more than one round.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Are they talking about no-shows or cancellations?? In just over 12 months I've had one no-show where I was all dressed up with no-one to shag - no call, text or message and disappeared from the site...on a couple of other occasions I've had to cancel meets and when I've done so I've let the person/people know as soon as I knew, and I've had a couple of meets cancelled, again I was told soon as - life does get in the way sometimes, but I'd be pissed off if I was left in the lurch...there is a mechanism to report no-shows but to be honest, if they were kicked off the site, what's to stop them opening another account? I have filters in place so if I respond to a message, it means that person has taken time to read (at least) the first coupla lines of my profile rather than just looking at the pics, so that's a bit of a way of ing out the numpties (well it works for me, mostly) and I've had meets where I've been messaging/texting for weeks and meets where we've only exchanged a few messages - maybe I've just been lucky or maybe my twatometer works properly most of the time

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

Oh, and I forgot to say, Welcome to the forums, nice avatar

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh, and I forgot to say, Welcome to the forums, nice avatar

Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been swinging for 11 years and only had two no shows in all that time, its been about 4 years since the second one, so i dont feel i can moan about no shows really as i dont feel thats bad going

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"a lot of the time if i invite a man round i dont expect him to turn up,

then am surprised when he does.

thats one reason why i like inviting more than one round.

It's a shame you have to think that way....surely it would be better if you invite someone round, you were confident they would turn up!! Would be a bonus if you invited three and they all turned up of course!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"ive been swinging for 11 years and only had two no shows in all that time, its been about 4 years since the second one, so i dont feel i can moan about no shows really as i dont feel thats bad going"

I've seen a few people on here talk about it and I have to say I tend to stick by it.............but a good gut reaction about someone usually pays off!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was meant to be getting a massage tonight, but he never text to arrange. However I was very confident he wouldn't so I didn't bother getting showered/ready. In fact I am still in my work clothes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ive been swinging for 11 years and only had two no shows in all that time, its been about 4 years since the second one, so i dont feel i can moan about no shows really as i dont feel thats bad going

I've seen a few people on here talk about it and I have to say I tend to stick by it.............but a good gut reaction about someone usually pays off!!"

it does

Ive seen people who moan they have had 3 no shows in a week, i think if your arranging that many meets a week your just churning thro as many meets as possible so the chances are your going to arrange meets with time wasters as your not really spending time getting to know people

I dont want someones life story but i do like to have a chat and get a feel for someone before i meet them, as a single working mum my spare time is limited so i dont want to waste it arranging meets with someone till im sure about them

it dont always work but on the whole my way works for me

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I was supposed to have a meet tonight. originally for last night but I wanted to postpone as I had a dentist appointment so he said he would text to confirm and didn't. But then I knew he wouldn't as he's done this sort of thing before.

I get so weary of that sort of thing, or the guys who message and are gung ho for a meet then disappear when its time to arrange something. They may not be no shows, but they are just as boring.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I know that life gets in the way and things happen but, for me, it is really annoying when I get cancelled on. Usually I have said 'no' to other meets as I have already arranged one. To then be cancelled on - on the day, even at a few hours notice - means I may not get a meet that night. I just won't go online to find any old shag at short notice. And as I only meet Saturdays due to other commitments, it means I go without. Very, very frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair I haven't had a no show for a long time and very few cancellations. But I do tend to go for people with at least 2 verifications and I have chatted to a bit. Whoever said above about gut instinct, it's very true.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I was supposed to have a meet tonight. originally for last night but I wanted to postpone as I had a dentist appointment so he said he would text to confirm and didn't. But then I knew he wouldn't as he's done this sort of thing before.

I get so weary of that sort of thing, or the guys who message and are gung ho for a meet then disappear when its time to arrange something. They may not be no shows, but they are just as boring."

Agree. Agree. Agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been pretty lucky to only have had one 'no-show' since joining, so can't complain really... I have noticed an increase of people posting about it though.

Perhaps it's just down to the huge influx of new members? I guess the more people there are, the more chances of it happening.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I've been pretty lucky to only have had one 'no-show' since joining, so can't complain really... I have noticed an increase of people posting about it though.

Perhaps it's just down to the huge influx of new members? I guess the more people there are, the more chances of it happening.

Well I won't complain too much, as it gives me more reason to go to clubs instead. There's always someone there, if only for a chat and giggle.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To be fair I haven't had a no show for a long time and very few cancellations. But I do tend to go for people with at least 2 verifications and I have chatted to a bit. Whoever said above about gut instinct, it's very true."

I'd quite like to see a new "Gold" standard verification for those that have a good long service history and have been verified by a pre determined number of fellow long servers.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'd quite like to see a new "Gold" standard verification for those that have a good long service history and have been verified by a pre determined number of fellow long servers. "

Unfortunately that doesn't always work. I have had 3 actual no shows in the two years I have been on here, and all of them were verified. Its just the luck of the draw, and part of being on this site. I just report them to admin, block, and move on. Since I got my Kindle I don't mind sitting in pubs on my tod so much any more.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

It's a bit disheartening when you offer to be a substitute (having met before) - get turned down, then find the person later moans about a load of no shows/what's the point.

But that's their choice I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been pretty lucky to only have had one 'no-show' since joining, so can't complain really... I have noticed an increase of people posting about it though.

Perhaps it's just down to the huge influx of new members? I guess the more people there are, the more chances of it happening.

Agree on the number of new members.........I've also noticed an increase in the number of couples profiles where the husband seems to have been given permission to play alone!!!!

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Some people are so lucky to even get a meet

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Some people are so lucky to even get a meet"

Awwww. Well you know whwre I am petal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As said in a prev thread i would gladly pay a yearly premium just to out the timewasters!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have never had a no show in the nearly three years we have been swinging. We have had one guy cancel and he genuinely was so ill he was in hospital.

But we don't meet people until we get to know them through messages and txts. I know some don't like email tennis but it's saved us many a wasted night.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have never had a no show in the nearly three years we have been swinging. We have had one guy cancel and he genuinely was so ill he was in hospital.

But we don't meet people until we get to know them through messages and txts. I know some don't like email tennis but it's saved us many a wasted night."

I'm glad to hear it...............but then again I'm not surprised you've not had a no show, who in there right mind would miss an opportunity to see you in your rocking chair!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

We never rush into anything with anyone,I like to get a really good feel for people before I arrange any sort of meet,if thats too much trouble for anyone then im cool with that,but we mostly have a fantastic time so I doubt ill change the way I do things on here,there are times when we've had to postpone meets and there have been times when the people we have arranged to meet have had to do the same,life happens! and sometimes its unavoidable,does'nt mean people are timewasters

One no show in 4 years and I had a feeling that he would'nt turn up so arranged a plan B which turned out really well

I don't think things have changed much in here but I do question,peoples expectations on ocassion,how they arrange their meets and what they actually think a timewaster is,as you can get accused of being a timewaster for saying no thank you,or for not responding to a message,or for changing your mind after chatting for a while when its clear that you are'nt actually compatable

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"Some people are so lucky to even get a meet

Awwww. Well you know whwre I am petal. "

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

i must have been very lucky them because iv never had a no show yet,sadly i did have to let someone down because of serious family issues but i rearranged

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I had a meet arranged not so long ago. We were supposed to meet late as the football was on and I had to go out earlier. Time went on and I sent a text and didn't get a reply. Eventually I got a text telling me he had fallen asleep watching the football.

I have learnt not to arrange a meet for football nights.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"I had a meet arranged not so long ago. We were supposed to meet late as the football was on and I had to go out earlier. Time went on and I sent a text and didn't get a reply. Eventually I got a text telling me he had fallen asleep watching the football.

I have learnt not to arrange a meet for football nights."

Hahaha... that made me laugh.

If I had been in his shoes I'd have come up with another excuse cause that is on a par with "the dog ate my homework"

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I have learnt not to arrange a meet for football nights.

Hahaha... that made me laugh.

If I had been in his shoes I'd have come up with another excuse cause that is on a par with "the dog ate my homework"

It won't be long - I haven't had "the dog ate my homework" yet but all things are possible in the world of swing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a lot of the time if i invite a man round i dont expect him to turn up,

then am surprised when he does.

thats one reason why i like inviting more than one round.

like your style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could folk just put in status disappointed xyz did not turn up as way of getting round the name and shame rule.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still yet to have a no show, and would never do it to anyone either.

I probably would say that these days there are more people that, when you speak to them, don't seem likely to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a lot of the time if i invite a man round i dont expect him to turn up,

then am surprised when he does.

thats one reason why i like inviting more than one round.

im surprised considering the amount of guys who complain about not getting meets.

shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In had to cancel for the first time on Monday due to illness. But I let her know well in advance and have rescheduled for Sunday . Not had a problem with no shows just one with a girl somehow becoming a man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been pretty lucky to only have had one 'no-show' since joining, so can't complain really... I have noticed an increase of people posting about it though.

Perhaps it's just down to the huge influx of new members? I guess the more people there are, the more chances of it happening.

Agree on the number of new members.........I've also noticed an increase in the number of couples profiles where the husband seems to have been given permission to play alone!!!!"

Similar here though more supposedly single guys but cannot accommodate, turns out there is a wife somewhere who doesn't know, best not to post on a cheaters thread as that is how I caught one guy out I had arranged to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no way to eliminate the scourge of people cancelling or timewasters. This is a regular whinge on here and the answer is to just deal with it.

Charging people a fortune won't work as other pay sites have the same problem. Having a 'gold standard' is just terrible elitism for those who collect veris like Tripadvisor reviews.

You're just as likely to be stood up by someone with 10 veris as someone with

1. Life gets in the way occasionally.

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"I've been pretty lucky to only have had one 'no-show' since joining, so can't complain really... I have noticed an increase of people posting about it though.

Perhaps it's just down to the huge influx of new members? I guess the more people there are, the more chances of it happening.

Agree on the number of new members.........I've also noticed an increase in the number of couples profiles where the husband seems to have been given permission to play alone!!!!

absolutely brilliant.. men forget that they have to be really really good at telling lies to do that sort of thing.. and most are not at all good at it

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

We had a few days child free arranged a few social meets with a view to more.. not one of arranged meets turned up..

so we decide to go to Cardiff fab socials.. and now if guys want to meet we will be at the next social get there if you wanna meet us.. saves us wasting our time.. even at one of those had a good number that were going to go and meet us there.. most didnt turn up at that either.. were we miffed there... no we were there having fun anyway.. so they do or dont turn up but at a social who cares loads to chat to anyway.. much better than no shows when you are just meeting them in a pub etc...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We had a few days child free arranged a few social meets with a view to more.. not one of arranged meets turned up..

That sounds a good idea

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"We had a few days child free arranged a few social meets with a view to more.. not one of arranged meets turned up..

That sounds a good idea

Its much easier, supports the socials and saves us wasting our time, if they show up at a social and we hit it off then arrange something after for another day.. and if they don't show up you got loads to chat to anyway.. and you can have several planned to come and social meet there on one night and you pick any or who you want to arrange play meets with. If they have bothered to travel to a social then they are a little more likely to turn on play night...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have had a couple of meets planned, and as a single man on here, its like gold dust getting one. so when they cancel, yes its disappointing and frustrating, but if given notice , its polite.

i had one cancel day before, but as i met her before i know she had to be ill to cancel(she was) and the other one was day before, but due to her work pattern that changed, so now i have to arrange all over again, so yes it can be an uphill struggle sometimes, but can be worth it in the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been pretty lucky to only have had one 'no-show' since joining, so can't complain really... I have noticed an increase of people posting about it though.

Perhaps it's just down to the huge influx of new members? I guess the more people there are, the more chances of it happening.

Agree on the number of new members.........I've also noticed an increase in the number of couples profiles where the husband seems to have been given permission to play alone!!!!

absolutely brilliant.. men forget that they have to be really really good at telling lies to do that sort of thing.. and most are not at all good at it "
both my wife and i have single profiles as well as a couples one, we both get benefits out of both for diferent reasons

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

"I've been pretty lucky to only have had one 'no-show' since joining, so can't complain really... I have noticed an increase of people posting about it though.

Perhaps it's just down to the huge influx of new members? I guess the more people there are, the more chances of it happening.

Agree on the number of new members.........I've also noticed an increase in the number of couples profiles where the husband seems to have been given permission to play alone!!!!

absolutely brilliant.. men forget that they have to be really really good at telling lies to do that sort of thing.. and most are not at all good at it both my wife and i have single profiles as well as a couples one, we both get benefits out of both for diferent reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been pretty lucky to only have had one 'no-show' since joining, so can't complain really... I have noticed an increase of people posting about it though.

Perhaps it's just down to the huge influx of new members? I guess the more people there are, the more chances of it happening.

Agree on the number of new members.........I've also noticed an increase in the number of couples profiles where the husband seems to have been given permission to play alone!!!!

Thats good but we were aiming at the ones that aren't in that situation and actually cheating.. we don't meet marrieds with or without partners permission thats the only way we can be sure with most that say yes I am allowed.. (thats not aimed at you) but not too many are in your position which is fine its the others that I meant.. "
we will both verify each other that we can meet with who ever, i have had men ask if its ok to meet, they cant believe i let wife meet alone!!!! why??? shes not cheating, we are open and honest about who we meet and where, with a few rules texts , no overnighters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Goes through phases. Had a few no shows and last 2 meets have restored faith. Golden rule is. Dont take it 2 personally. Lots of nice people out there.

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By *rSinfulMan
over a year ago

mysteryville

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By *rSinfulMan
over a year ago

mysteryville

"a lot of the time if i invite a man round i dont expect him to turn up,

then am surprised when he does.

thats one reason why i like inviting more than one round.

Who could turn u down not me mate x

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

No shows?? These days my inbox is more for chatting than meeting ... not entirely out of choice.

.. only realised I had mislaid my 'play-phone' for 4 days in a different jacket. Charged the flat battery and turned it on: nope, not one text, missed call, or voice mail.

Oh well.

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By *reyyaMan
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

I get so weary of that sort of thing, or the guys who message and are gung ho for a meet then disappear when its time to arrange something. They may not be no shows, but they are just as boring."

Maybe these men are in relationships and their partner sprang something on them... single men don't have this to deal with...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit disheartening when you offer to be a substitute (having met before) - get turned down, then find the person later moans about a load of no shows/what's the point.

But that's their choice I guess."

Happened to me last time I was here.

Blocked the person who put me as second option, no thanks!

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By *weetdebWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I dont really meet that often and it would always be a social initially.Thankfully i have never had a no show or even a late cancellation but what i sooooooooooooo hate are the ones that you chat to for ages and are sort of arranging to meet ,pencil in a date,albeit unconfirmed then they dissappear from the site for a week or so.......God,that makes me so bloody mad,if you dont wanna meet then just say,no big shakes,i dont bloody care....i suppose these are the ones that are referred to as the dreamers,,,,grrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I dont really meet that often and it would always be a social initially.Thankfully i have never had a no show or even a late cancellation but what i sooooooooooooo hate are the ones that you chat to for ages and are sort of arranging to meet ,pencil in a date,albeit unconfirmed then they dissappear from the site for a week or so.......God,that makes me so bloody mad,if you dont wanna meet then just say,no big shakes,i dont bloody care....i suppose these are the ones that are referred to as the dreamers,,,,grrrrrrrr"

The dreamers..............the sad married men that get their kicks from pretending to be single, get to the point of an arranged meet then bash one out instead!! Unfortunately there seem to be more and more of them these days!!

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By *awkeye and HotlipsCouple
over a year ago

Takeley

Like that one: twatometer lol Can't say we have had any that have been a no show...yet...sure it will happen. Had postponements and had to postpone ourselves too, due to mitigating circumstances, it happens. Guess you use your gut instincts, we do, bit like life in the Vanilla world, there are arses out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just lately.....exactly my point, wasting my time but least it saved on petrol, just beginning to wonder if men do really want to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No shows?? These days my inbox is more for chatting than meeting ... not entirely out of choice.

.. only realised I had mislaid my 'play-phone' for 4 days in a different jacket. Charged the flat battery and turned it on: nope, not one text, missed call, or voice mail.

Oh well."

Been there done that luckily had worked out the guy wasn't going to meet me as he had read my message I had sent him on here but not replied so stayed home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could folk just put in status disappointed xyz did not turn up as way of getting round the name and shame rule."

No you are not allowed to name and shame, if you get caught, you will get reported and your profile stripped back to a blank canvas so I believe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been quite lucky in the fact I've not really had a no show, just none confirmations lol.

I was supposed to have a meet last week...he forgot

....I'm giving up expecting a meet to actually happen now, then if it does it's a bonus

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By *weetdebWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Could folk just put in status disappointed xyz did not turn up as way of getting round the name and shame rule.

No you are not allowed to name and shame, if you get caught, you will get reported and your profile stripped back to a blank canvas so I believe

Really?...i didnt realise that you couldnt name and shame...I'v never done it myself but quite often seen names of timewasters on peoples profiles????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could folk just put in status disappointed xyz did not turn up as way of getting round the name and shame rule.

No you are not allowed to name and shame, if you get caught, you will get reported and your profile stripped back to a blank canvas so I believe

Really?...i didnt realise that you couldnt name and shame...I'v never done it myself but quite often seen names of timewasters on peoples profiles????"

No you are not and you should report their profile, just because they think that person is a timewaster doesn't mean that they are, two sides to a story and all that

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By *weetdebWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

"Could folk just put in status disappointed xyz did not turn up as way of getting round the name and shame rule.

No you are not allowed to name and shame, if you get caught, you will get reported and your profile stripped back to a blank canvas so I believe

Really?...i didnt realise that you couldnt name and shame...I'v never done it myself but quite often seen names of timewasters on peoples profiles????

No you are not and you should report their profile, just because they think that person is a timewaster doesn't mean that they are, two sides to a story and all that"

Im not doubting you but that really does surprise me.I've never felt the need to do it but seen it so many times on profiles that it seemed the norm.I've been on here over 2 years but guess you learn something everyday,but i can see that the rule makes sense,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have come not to the conclusion the only way to meet people is to go to clubs or partys as from monday we will keep our profile but wont meet anyone anymore from this site there is no point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have come not to the conclusion the only way to meet people is to go to clubs or partys as from monday we will keep our profile but wont meet anyone anymore from this site there is no point."

Such a shame!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have come not to the conclusion the only way to meet people is to go to clubs or partys as from monday we will keep our profile but wont meet anyone anymore from this site there is no point.

Such a shame!!!"

Sadly a lot of people are starting to think this way

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over a year ago

I got no showed tonight. I didn't even get a text or a phonecall to say he wasn't turning up. This isn't the first no show I've had. Either I'm choosing people wrong or there's a lot of timewasters about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And heres me just looking for a meet and no bites..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op..I dont think so...theres my answer in a nutshell.I do my best using all the tools fab gives me, then I use my brain to formulate a good hypothesis on how to get my meet.Yes there can be hiccups, through noones fault..that is life after all.

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over a year ago

"Could folk just put in status disappointed xyz did not turn up as way of getting round the name and shame rule.

No you are not allowed to name and shame, if you get caught, you will get reported and your profile stripped back to a blank canvas so I believe

Really?...i didnt realise that you couldnt name and shame...I'v never done it myself but quite often seen names of timewasters on peoples profiles????

No you are not and you should report their profile, just because they think that person is a timewaster doesn't mean that they are, two sides to a story and all that

The problem is for example, I was exchanging texts with a guy one Saturday and he asked me if I fancied meeting up the following day, I said I couldn't because I was spending the day with my family, he then called me a timewaster! He could have named and shamed me on his profile but I was telling the truth and I am a mother! See where I am coming from? Yes there are people on here who are truly wasting people's time but on the other hand, there are some where life gets in the way and just cannot meet at the drop of a hat

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over a year ago

"Could folk just put in status disappointed xyz did not turn up as way of getting round the name and shame rule.

No you are not allowed to name and shame, if you get caught, you will get reported and your profile stripped back to a blank canvas so I believe

Really?...i didnt realise that you couldnt name and shame...I'v never done it myself but quite often seen names of timewasters on peoples profiles????

No you are not and you should report their profile, just because they think that person is a timewaster doesn't mean that they are, two sides to a story and all that

And how many other men would care about what some other guy says?

My guess is....maybe 3? Out of the 300 who would message you regardless.

If a woman or couple considered you a timewaster they would message all of their friends on FAB.

I am pretty sure there is some sort of 'dont meet' list going on for FAB when it comes to those who have an established network here.

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over a year ago

"Could folk just put in status disappointed xyz did not turn up as way of getting round the name and shame rule.

No you are not allowed to name and shame, if you get caught, you will get reported and your profile stripped back to a blank canvas so I believe

Really?...i didnt realise that you couldnt name and shame...I'v never done it myself but quite often seen names of timewasters on peoples profiles????

No you are not and you should report their profile, just because they think that person is a timewaster doesn't mean that they are, two sides to a story and all that

And how many other men would care about what some other guy says?

My guess is....maybe 3? Out of the 300 who would message you regardless.

If a woman or couple considered you a timewaster they would message all of their friends on FAB.

I am pretty sure there is some sort of 'dont meet' list going on for FAB when it comes to those who have an established network here."

I was commenting on another poster who had mentioned that they had seen lots of profiles naming and shaming, I was trying to show them that doing that is necessarily right so I am a bit confused at your comment

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

I've been here a while and only had 2 no shows, one couple and one single lady.

I don't worry too much if i get some notice. However, when they conveniently fall off the face of the planet a couple of hours prior to the arranged meet time, it can be annoying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as of tonight we are now only here to chat to people who are friends, and will now only meet at clubs and partys that either friends hold or we hold. we hope you all have a great time

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over a year ago

No shows are a nuisance, we always organise social meet first, that way not wasting precious play time for someone failing to show.

By holding socials, we feel more able to meet newbies(unverified), great if they show, no loss if they don't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No shows are a nuisance, we always organise social meet first, that way not wasting precious play time for someone failing to show.

By holding socials, we feel more able to meet newbies(unverified), great if they show, no loss if they don't.

This sounds like a great way to meet genuine people.........do you advertise in the forums or do you use the meet today? Or both?

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