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"I'm fully aware people can request whatever they like from here and if you don't fit the criteria that's tough luck but that's not the point here. If you can accomodate and the person you'd like to meet isn't local but can be there at a given time on a given day as requested then why do people insist that they should be local only? Please don't comment (if you can help it) about noshows as they are far away, let's presume they have veris which show they clearly travel. Let's get to the nitty gritty of 'why' they HAVE to be local, would especially like to hear from those who have this as a filter/meet choice criteria. Just interested, no malice. "Why do they have to explain themselves | |||
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"Also what if someone has travelled for hours, they turn up and you don't like them? Bit of a wasted journey isn't it? " Good point. No way I’d travel mile and miles to meet someone off here and I wouldn’t expect them to travel miles and miles to me me. | |||
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"Also what if someone has travelled for hours, they turn up and you don't like them? Bit of a wasted journey isn't it? " Always ask for pics in messages and also have a social. That way you will know  | |||
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"Also what if someone has travelled for hours, they turn up and you don't like them? Bit of a wasted journey isn't it? Always ask for pics in messages and also have a social. That way you will know "I do this myself, but it's also the reason I only meet (somewhat) locally. No one in their right mind would travel 2+ hours for a social with one person/couple would they? 
Not unless I had been talking to them for months on cam and felt like I actually knew something about them to know we would 100% get on.
It says in my profile the area I meet but I still get guys saying 'I can drive and get a hotel' like that's the only reason I'm saying no to them? | |||
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"Also what if someone has travelled for hours, they turn up and you don't like them? Bit of a wasted journey isn't it? Always ask for pics in messages and also have a social. That way you will know "Forgetting for a moment the amount on here who are now refusing to send face pictures (for whatever reason) we've had people send pictures that absolutely did not represent the person who turned up. We've been on the scene long enough to know not every meet leads somewhere and thats fine as long as everyone is polite about it. But we have found in the past that those who travel considerable distances (or at least the ones we interacted with) think they're onto a sure thing when it was obvious from initial introductions we where not on the same page. We dont actively say local only but given the choice, thats where we keep it as we cant travel all that far compared to some others. | |||
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"Also what if someone has travelled for hours, they turn up and you don't like them? Bit of a wasted journey isn't it? Always ask for pics in messages and also have a social. That way you will know
I do this myself, but it's also the reason I only meet (somewhat) locally.
No one in their right mind would travel 2+ hours for a social with one person/couple would they?
Not unless I had been talking to them for months on cam and felt like I actually knew something about them to know we would 100% get on.
It says in my profile the area I meet but I still get guys saying 'I can drive and get a hotel' like that's the only reason I'm saying no to them? "Totally get that. If there's a great connection then yes I think we would travel further afield but like you said only people after trying their luck will travel hours for a social | |||
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"Both the above points hit the nail on the head for us" Same for me too! | |||
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"Both the above points hit the nail on the head for us Same for me too! " We only meet people we have a connection too as we're poly. Plus we're not looking to shag our way through the site. For both these reasons we will only meet local (within a certain travel time) x | |||
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"I'm fully aware people can request whatever they like from here and if you don't fit the criteria that's tough luck but that's not the point here. If you can accomodate and the person you'd like to meet isn't local but can be there at a given time on a given day as requested then why do people insist that they should be local only? Please don't comment (if you can help it) about noshows as they are far away, let's presume they have veris which show they clearly travel. Let's get to the nitty gritty of 'why' they HAVE to be local, would especially like to hear from those who have this as a filter/meet choice criteria. Just interested, no malice. "I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that wasn’t local as I don’t like the pressure and obligation I’d feel if they’d travelled along way just to see me. Imagine after 5 mins saying “I’m sorry you’ve travelled from the other end of the country but I’m not into this, bye”. | |||
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"As others have said, the pressure is on when someone has travelled. Its an awful feeling. I cant relax, even if I like them. I also feel like people who will drive for hours to meet me must have a different attitude to sex than I do and that makes me anxious. I wonder what motivates them... I would just opt for a quick wank
Fay "this, as well as the fact that after such a long journey they might not be what you might call 'fresh '. | |||
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"I'm fully aware people can request whatever they like from here and if you don't fit the criteria that's tough luck but that's not the point here. If you can accomodate and the person you'd like to meet isn't local but can be there at a given time on a given day as requested then why do people insist that they should be local only? Please don't comment (if you can help it) about noshows as they are far away, let's presume they have veris which show they clearly travel. Let's get to the nitty gritty of 'why' they HAVE to be local, would especially like to hear from those who have this as a filter/meet choice criteria. Just interested, no malice. "Maybe they are looking for a regular meet? Maybe they don't want to meet some guy who is so desperate for a fuck they are willing to travel hundreds of mailes? | |||
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"Also what if someone has travelled for hours, they turn up and you don't like them? Bit of a wasted journey isn't it? Always ask for pics in messages and also have a social. That way you will know
I do this myself, but it's also the reason I only meet (somewhat) locally.
No one in their right mind would travel 2+ hours for a social with one person/couple would they?
Not unless I had been talking to them for months on cam and felt like I actually knew something about them to know we would 100% get on.
It says in my profile the area I meet but I still get guys saying 'I can drive and get a hotel' like that's the only reason I'm saying no to them? "Lol, I once got blocked from a couple simply because I was not prepared to travel for a 4-hour drive to a social meet only. | |||
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"I'm fully aware people can request whatever they like from here and if you don't fit the criteria that's tough luck but that's not the point here. If you can accomodate and the person you'd like to meet isn't local but can be there at a given time on a given day as requested then why do people insist that they should be local only? Please don't comment (if you can help it) about noshows as they are far away, let's presume they have veris which show they clearly travel. Let's get to the nitty gritty of 'why' they HAVE to be local, would especially like to hear from those who have this as a filter/meet choice criteria. Just interested, no malice.
I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that wasn’t local as I don’t like the pressure and obligation I’d feel if they’d travelled along way just to see me.
Imagine after 5 mins saying “I’m sorry you’ve travelled from the other end of the country but I’m not into this, bye”. "I know somebody that happened to. He chatted with the woman online for a long time. They talked on skype with the cameras on. They arranged to meet. When they met at the hotel she said "Sorry I don't fancy you" and left. WTF? I could understand if they had not swapped pictures or video talked on Skype. | |||
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"I'm fully aware people can request whatever they like from here and if you don't fit the criteria that's tough luck but that's not the point here. If you can accomodate and the person you'd like to meet isn't local but can be there at a given time on a given day as requested then why do people insist that they should be local only? Please don't comment (if you can help it) about noshows as they are far away, let's presume they have veris which show they clearly travel. Let's get to the nitty gritty of 'why' they HAVE to be local, would especially like to hear from those who have this as a filter/meet choice criteria. Just interested, no malice.
I wouldn’t want to meet anyone that wasn’t local as I don’t like the pressure and obligation I’d feel if they’d travelled along way just to see me.
Imagine after 5 mins saying “I’m sorry you’ve travelled from the other end of the country but I’m not into this, bye”.
I know somebody that happened to. He chatted with the woman online for a long time. They talked on skype with the cameras on. They arranged to meet. When they met at the hotel she said "Sorry I don't fancy you" and left.
WTF? I could understand if they had not swapped pictures or video talked on Skype. "Oh, I never know if I am attracted until I am in the same space as them. I can say "definitely not" from a video, but I cant say "yes, I fancy them" until I am in the same space as them. You cant read peoples body language (at least, not all of it) through a videocall. Theres no way for both your body language to interact and communicate wordlessly. You also cant tell how they smell and the video changes the sound of their voice. No everyones attraction is based on a persons physical features. I have had videocalls where I thought sparks were flying, then met in person and was not comfortable with them at all 
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"Also what if someone has travelled for hours, they turn up and you don't like them? Bit of a wasted journey isn't it? Good point. No way I’d travel mile and miles to meet someone off here and I wouldn’t expect them to travel miles and miles to me me. " Do you go to clubs, or clubs up in Scotland for that matter? If you do, I'll just stay at the bar when i eventually get to one. No one is going to be asking me to join them while they have you as an option. | |||
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"Also what if someone has travelled for hours, they turn up and you don't like them? Bit of a wasted journey isn't it? Good point. No way I’d travel mile and miles to meet someone off here and I wouldn’t expect them to travel miles and miles to me me. Do you go to clubs, or clubs up in Scotland for that matter? If you do, I'll just stay at the bar when i eventually get to one. No one is going to be asking me to join them while they have you as an option." Zzzzzzzzzz | |||
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"Also what if someone has travelled for hours, they turn up and you don't like them? Bit of a wasted journey isn't it? Good point. No way I’d travel mile and miles to meet someone off here and I wouldn’t expect them to travel miles and miles to me me. Do you go to clubs, or clubs up in Scotland for that matter? If you do, I'll just stay at the bar when i eventually get to one. No one is going to be asking me to join them while they have you as an option. Zzzzzzzzzz " Oh god he’s at it again? | |||
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