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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham

Hello all,

Not posting this just because I'm your usual frustrated fella!

I've been watching the status wants & meet requirements recently and yes of course I know men dominate the percentage of people on here (love percentages, mum was an economics lecturer!) - it seems these days alot of women are looking for the 'porn star' type ( for fill fantasy etc) with the perfect pecs and 9+' member, whilst I'm not exactly back of the queue in the manhood department I'm also not into double figures, where as men on here never state the same type of requirements in their meet demands with the ladies. When I've read over the forums alot of ladies say they don't want something inside them that will cause injury! and like a man with personality, wit, charm and without a doubt a huge sex drive - they wouldn't be here otherwise!

Has anyone else noticed this? It seems to be all ages...

So, where are the real women/couples that do play with nice, attractive others that aren't on the freakish size department? I've only had compliments on my manhood, keep myself nice, I'm always polite, articulate and complimentary but on here rarely get a meet, when I was on here about 7-8 years ago I had quite a few successful meets...

I've seen plenty of people having meets on here with average nice people too, so maybe my polite ways don't work! Is direct better? Can't see it being a turn on!

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

You'll find size and being ripped matters for only a small percentage of genuine Women, personality counts for more, though of course looks are important.The former is more what Men think is important, as is fucking for hours and driving a Ferrari.

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham


"You'll find size and being ripped matters for only a small percentage of genuine Women, personality counts for more, though of course looks are important.The former is more what Men think is important, as is fucking for hours and driving a Ferrari. "

My thoughts and hopes exactly!! I'd rather have some fun with someone/people that I got along with, and can have a giggle along the way. Btw I hate Ferrari's! Give me a classic car with its quirks and looks anyday!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone else noticed this?"

Noticed what though?

You’ve just said you see a lot of women wanting the porn star type.

Then you say you’ve seen a lot of ladies that don’t want that and want personality…

Then you ask where they are? Didn’t you just say you read them on the forum?

If you struggle on here get yourself to socials and meet people in person

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

All women are individuals op

Some will want ripped hunks with massive dongs and many don't .

That's ok for people to like what they like,we all can.

Many are happy with a bloke who they are attracted to who has a decent sense of humour.

I've seen lots of men seek gym fit bunnies,I'm obviously not one so I'd avoid contacting those profiles.

There is something for all on fab

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Lots of people men and women have written what they are looking for on their profiles. If I see a man is looking for a slim gym fit woman,women with smaller boobs,women younger or older than I am. It doesn't bother me I just move on and look for someone who's criteria I fit.

I don't know why it is such a issue if you don't match what someone is looking for on here. There are plenty more who you will match with .

I've never looked for a certain type and I couldn't care less about dick size and I have never asked anyone about theirs before I met them. It's more about how we get on and if we can chat about normal things rather than it always having to be about sex that gets boring fast for me.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I guess it depends on how it is presented. As a preference or as the only thing they will accept.

Either way, I don't often figure!

;-)

I guess women probably need to pre-filter a little bit to at least try to stem the flood of inbound messages.

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Tops and bottoms of it is that it's all down to personal choices and wants ant any particular time much the same of like somtimes a want hard and fast or others slow and passionate. A woman could oneday want to be thrown all over by a big dominant alpha type then the next day want slow and sensual with just a nice normal guy (not speaking for all women there) the wonderful thing about fab and everyday life is that no two people are the same and foe us personally that's a great thing

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham


"All women are individuals op

Some will want ripped hunks with massive dongs and many don't .

That's ok for people to like what they like,we all can.

Many are happy with a bloke who they are attracted to who has a decent sense of humour.

I've seen lots of men seek gym fit bunnies,I'm obviously not one so I'd avoid contacting those profiles.

There is something for all on fab

"

I guess I was going by the status people put up and the meets section, it seems to be dominated by those seeking horses with a six pack!

I'm not shallow, I find all types attractive!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its swinging the whole idea in a nut shell is to find what and who you want ??

i dont get men moaning about what women / couple want if they dont fit then people are not asking you to message them or jump thro hoops they just know what they want...

also men only see what they want to see and at the ,oment all they seem to see is women wanting hung gym gods yet when you start looking and reading its so far from the truth ... but even then stop looking at what you cant have and seek what you can (within your preference too)

if only men had a preference too yep we know some do but just imagine how good it would be if alot of men lost that any hole a goal attitude and acually had a preference themselves theyed get a lot more respect...

but at the end of the day none of the above really matters as there will be men who will get zero chance just because of the massive difference in % of men 100/200 men per woman that will always mean alot of men just wont get anywhere and thats just the blunt truth and with men flooding in daily + all the men posing as women /couples make it even harder ...

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham


"Lots of people men and women have written what they are looking for on their profiles. If I see a man is looking for a slim gym fit woman,women with smaller boobs,women younger or older than I am. It doesn't bother me I just move on and look for someone who's criteria I fit.

I don't know why it is such a issue if you don't match what someone is looking for on here. There are plenty more who you will match with .

I've never looked for a certain type and I couldn't care less about dick size and I have never asked anyone about theirs before I met them. It's more about how we get on and if we can chat about normal things rather than it always having to be about sex that gets boring fast for me."

You're a real woman, that's why you can articulate such a positive answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not shallow, I find all types attractive!"

and its not shallow to have a preference

you'll find alot of women and couples dont buy into the i like all thing we all have likes and dislikes unless your goal is any hole is a goal ?? dont make people who know what they want the ones in the wrong

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham


"I'm not shallow, I find all types attractive!

and its not shallow to have a preference

you'll find alot of women and couples dont buy into the i like all thing we all have likes and dislikes unless your goal is any hole is a goal ?? dont make people who know what they want the ones in the wrong"

I completely get everyone has their own taste and preferences, I was just playing! I go through phases of fancying a certain type, but I do find all colours, sizes and shapes attractive personally

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

Fab is something of a fantasy, as a couple we have our life partner so anyone else is a guest to our party!!!

If that’s not ok then by all means say and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the above poster said fab is about fantasy. If someone wants a massive knob attached to a Greek god then good for them.

We don’t want anything like that. Mrs feels pain with anything bigger than average and isn’t particularly into the shredded physique.

This isn’t to say we wouldn’t meet those types either because we would but it’s not something we actively look for.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Not all women want that. There may be lots of reasons they don’t find some men attractive

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Ok I think the main reason your struggling is your attached. That’s a big no no for most of us on here

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham


"Ok I think the main reason your struggling is your attached. That’s a big no no for most of us on here"

I get that, my post wasn't a particular dig at myself, it was more the fact I'd noticed alot of meets and statuses have the preference for hung gym bunnies.

I know I'm not to everyone's taste, but hopefully I am to others, I will never appear desperate, that's a complete turn off for anyone!

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Ok I think the main reason your struggling is your attached. That’s a big no no for most of us on here

I get that, my post wasn't a particular dig at myself, it was more the fact I'd noticed alot of meets and statuses have the preference for hung gym bunnies.

I know I'm not to everyone's taste, but hopefully I am to others, I will never appear desperate, that's a complete turn off for anyone!"

I wouldn’t do day time meets either but I’m not looking for some Adonis hung like a horse so we are here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all,

Not posting this just because I'm your usual frustrated fella!

I've been watching the status wants & meet requirements recently and yes of course I know men dominate the percentage of people on here (love percentages, mum was an economics lecturer!) - it seems these days alot of women are looking for the 'porn star' type ( for fill fantasy etc) with the perfect pecs and 9+' member, whilst I'm not exactly back of the queue in the manhood department I'm also not into double figures, where as men on here never state the same type of requirements in their meet demands with the ladies. When I've read over the forums alot of ladies say they don't want something inside them that will cause injury! and like a man with personality, wit, charm and without a doubt a huge sex drive - they wouldn't be here otherwise!

Has anyone else noticed this? It seems to be all ages...

So, where are the real women/couples that do play with nice, attractive others that aren't on the freakish size department? I've only had compliments on my manhood, keep myself nice, I'm always polite, articulate and complimentary but on here rarely get a meet, when I was on here about 7-8 years ago I had quite a few successful meets...

I've seen plenty of people having meets on here with average nice people too, so maybe my polite ways don't work! Is direct better? Can't see it being a turn on!"
nope rather have a normal man with dad bod tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello all,

Not posting this just because I'm your usual frustrated fella!

I've been watching the status wants & meet requirements recently and yes of course I know men dominate the percentage of people on here (love percentages, mum was an economics lecturer!) - it seems these days alot of women are looking for the 'porn star' type ( for fill fantasy etc) with the perfect pecs and 9+' member, whilst I'm not exactly back of the queue in the manhood department I'm also not into double figures, where as men on here never state the same type of requirements in their meet demands with the ladies. When I've read over the forums alot of ladies say they don't want something inside them that will cause injury! and like a man with personality, wit, charm and without a doubt a huge sex drive - they wouldn't be here otherwise!

Has anyone else noticed this? It seems to be all ages...

So, where are the real women/couples that do play with nice, attractive others that aren't on the freakish size department? I've only had compliments on my manhood, keep myself nice, I'm always polite, articulate and complimentary but on here rarely get a meet, when I was on here about 7-8 years ago I had quite a few successful meets...

I've seen plenty of people having meets on here with average nice people too, so maybe my polite ways don't work! Is direct better? Can't see it being a turn on!"

I have been on and off fab for about 20 years. Nothing has changed.

This is what happens.

When you go to see a psychic you forget all the things they got wrong and remember the things they luckily guessed right. You tell people all the things they guessed right about you and omit to tell them all the things they got wrong.

When you look at fab profiles you forget all the profiles who are not looking for a big-cocked, 6-foot, chisel-jawed, handsome hunk. You do remember all the profiles who are looking for a big-cocked, 6-foot, chisel-jawed, hunk. Your mind is playing tricks on you.

We are all different and looking for different things. Not all women are size queens.

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham


"Hello all,

Not posting this just because I'm your usual frustrated fella!

I've been watching the status wants & meet requirements recently and yes of course I know men dominate the percentage of people on here (love percentages, mum was an economics lecturer!) - it seems these days alot of women are looking for the 'porn star' type ( for fill fantasy etc) with the perfect pecs and 9+' member, whilst I'm not exactly back of the queue in the manhood department I'm also not into double figures, where as men on here never state the same type of requirements in their meet demands with the ladies. When I've read over the forums alot of ladies say they don't want something inside them that will cause injury! and like a man with personality, wit, charm and without a doubt a huge sex drive - they wouldn't be here otherwise!

Has anyone else noticed this? It seems to be all ages...

So, where are the real women/couples that do play with nice, attractive others that aren't on the freakish size department? I've only had compliments on my manhood, keep myself nice, I'm always polite, articulate and complimentary but on here rarely get a meet, when I was on here about 7-8 years ago I had quite a few successful meets...

I've seen plenty of people having meets on here with average nice people too, so maybe my polite ways don't work! Is direct better? Can't see it being a turn on! nope rather have a normal man with dad bod tbh "

Glad to see there's some on here that do!

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham


"Hello all,

Not posting this just because I'm your usual frustrated fella!

I've been watching the status wants & meet requirements recently and yes of course I know men dominate the percentage of people on here (love percentages, mum was an economics lecturer!) - it seems these days alot of women are looking for the 'porn star' type ( for fill fantasy etc) with the perfect pecs and 9+' member, whilst I'm not exactly back of the queue in the manhood department I'm also not into double figures, where as men on here never state the same type of requirements in their meet demands with the ladies. When I've read over the forums alot of ladies say they don't want something inside them that will cause injury! and like a man with personality, wit, charm and without a doubt a huge sex drive - they wouldn't be here otherwise!

Has anyone else noticed this? It seems to be all ages...

So, where are the real women/couples that do play with nice, attractive others that aren't on the freakish size department? I've only had compliments on my manhood, keep myself nice, I'm always polite, articulate and complimentary but on here rarely get a meet, when I was on here about 7-8 years ago I had quite a few successful meets...

I've seen plenty of people having meets on here with average nice people too, so maybe my polite ways don't work! Is direct better? Can't see it being a turn on!

I have been on and off fab for about 20 years. Nothing has changed.

This is what happens.

When you go to see a psychic you forget all the things they got wrong and remember the things they luckily guessed right. You tell people all the things they guessed right about you and omit to tell them all the things they got wrong.

When you look at fab profiles you forget all the profiles who are not looking for a big-cocked, 6-foot, chisel-jawed, handsome hunk. You do remember all the profiles who are looking for a big-cocked, 6-foot, chisel-jawed, hunk. Your mind is playing tricks on you.

We are all different and looking for different things. Not all women are size queens.

"

Exactly, even if you're big or not it's what you do with it and the person that's attached that counts! Yes it's nice being bigger than average (I am) but if you don't have a clue what to do with it a man with half the size could please alot more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can have preferences, they are on a site specifically to fulfill their desires!

I don't get why mainly men open threads like this?

When I read a profile and parts of it makes me cringe/annoys me I hit the block button. It's that simple.

I have been on FAB for a long time and people join here to fulfil fantasies or to chat with people who they find attractive. Some leave after getting what they came for and can happily live a nice vanilla lifestyle.

I know how frustrating it can be sometimes here, from experience I would say I get 1 reply from 10 messages. It doesn't ruin my day, I normally take it as a polite way of saying no thanks

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham

It was more a noticed difference in the statuses and meets that I've been seeing really, predominantly the wants seem to be as I've stated with the big cock, 6 pack etc, nothing wrong with that at all, just that seems to be the norm for the wants for many, where as the meets I've seen men put up never seem to be 'must have big tits, tiny waist' etc...

I would never criticise anyone for their own taste and preferences, it's what this world go round, just as long as no one is getting hurt or breaking a law!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are a normal, polite couple that aren’t porn stars haha. All we are concerned about is whether or not we connect, if there’s mutual attraction or not, and good personal hygiene…

F (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It was more a noticed difference in the statuses and meets that I've been seeing really, predominantly the wants seem to be as I've stated with the big cock, 6 pack etc, nothing wrong with that at all, just that seems to be the norm for the wants for many, where as the meets I've seen men put up never seem to be 'must have big tits, tiny waist' etc...

I would never criticise anyone for their own taste and preferences, it's what this world go round, just as long as no one is getting hurt or breaking a law!"

It doesn't surprise me. The updates/meets is just for a quick shag with not much (or no) effort made so people are not going to look for someone with a good sense of humour.

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham


"It was more a noticed difference in the statuses and meets that I've been seeing really, predominantly the wants seem to be as I've stated with the big cock, 6 pack etc, nothing wrong with that at all, just that seems to be the norm for the wants for many, where as the meets I've seen men put up never seem to be 'must have big tits, tiny waist' etc...

I would never criticise anyone for their own taste and preferences, it's what this world go round, just as long as no one is getting hurt or breaking a law!

It doesn't surprise me. The updates/meets is just for a quick shag with not much (or no) effort made so people are not going to look for someone with a good sense of humour. "

Fair point! I'd much rather have a giggle as things happen than just pound away with no chemistry! Let's face it all people and their bodies can make odd noises and reactions when we're playing, having fun with it all is part of things, to me anyway! Porn sex is mechanical and they're acting, it's completely different.

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham


"We are a normal, polite couple that aren’t porn stars haha. All we are concerned about is whether or not we connect, if there’s mutual attraction or not, and good personal hygiene…

F (Mrs)"

Glad to hear theres people on here like you, now to find some near me! I'm a nice fella, and keep in reasonable shape and love a laugh along the way! Never had a complaint in the past, only criticism is within my own mind, that I know of anyway haha

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By *irmhandmancMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I'll be absolutely f****** if I know! Been on here 5 months,messaged couples, tgirls and girls and all I ever get is ignored and messages from bi guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are a normal, polite couple that aren’t porn stars haha. All we are concerned about is whether or not we connect, if there’s mutual attraction or not, and good personal hygiene…

F (Mrs)

Glad to hear theres people on here like you, now to find some near me! I'm a nice fella, and keep in reasonable shape and love a laugh along the way! Never had a complaint in the past, only criticism is within my own mind, that I know of anyway haha"

I will say that connecting with genuine people requires a fair bit of effort - J (Mr) will browse, ‘Fab’ pics, send winks…and the actual ‘Fab-min’ of messaging etc is generally left to me. He reads all of our messages, though, and we are very much both involved in our profile even though we have only been properly active on it about a month or so. We aren’t looking for specific types of people, we just want to have a laugh with genuine people, and if more happens then even better lol

F (Mrs)

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham


"I'll be absolutely f****** if I know! Been on here 5 months,messaged couples, tgirls and girls and all I ever get is ignored and messages from bi guys! "

Sounds familiar!

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By *owbadisbad OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleaford / Grantham


"We are a normal, polite couple that aren’t porn stars haha. All we are concerned about is whether or not we connect, if there’s mutual attraction or not, and good personal hygiene…

F (Mrs)

Well put and my thoughts exactly

Glad to hear theres people on here like you, now to find some near me! I'm a nice fella, and keep in reasonable shape and love a laugh along the way! Never had a complaint in the past, only criticism is within my own mind, that I know of anyway haha

I will say that connecting with genuine people requires a fair bit of effort - J (Mr) will browse, ‘Fab’ pics, send winks…and the actual ‘Fab-min’ of messaging etc is generally left to me. He reads all of our messages, though, and we are very much both involved in our profile even though we have only been properly active on it about a month or so. We aren’t looking for specific types of people, we just want to have a laugh with genuine people, and if more happens then even better lol

F (Mrs)"

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