FabSwingers.com forum: Are private house parties a thing of the past now?

By *etwifeandhim69 OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

10 years ago when we joined Fab there always seemed to be a lot of parties going on. By that i mean acctual parties. 6 plus people. We would see them streamed in the chat rooms for all to enjoy or we would often see them them posted on the meets / events section in our area. We attended numerous ones ourselves.

Then we noticed they kinda dried up in about 2018 in our spesific area (or at least within a distance we could reasonably travel to at the time). There seemed at that time a shift more towards clubs as well.

Then covid happened and not seen single one posted in our region since.

Now we are not saying house parties have ended here. We are just saying we havnt seen them in our area for a long time. Is it the same elsewhere or is it a case if people shifted more to clubs and covid puts people off them now?

We've tried to do a few ourselves when we knew we had a free house but it would.always end up as small affair since people would cancel last minute so weve stopped trying.

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By *orkcoastguyMan
over a year ago

Bridlington.

The last paragraph sums up the problem: trying to get people to confirm that they are coming then some cancelling or just not turning up at all.

Having a place where I can accommodate a 'gathering' I do get asked to host and seemingly then get asked to start to make up the numbers with my own contacts.

I know that the club scene is a popular option but that is not for everyone for various reasons.

That said, when they happen and work it is really wonderful!

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

We have a couple who host a party once a month at theirs. It is hard work getting other couples to attend , and I raise my cap to them for trying each month to get a group of like minded couples together.

So yes private parties do exist and can be fun

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By *LUFFER200Man
over a year ago

North Devon

I used to live just North of London and regularly attended private house parties prior to Covid. Great events each and everyone of them. I am now living in North Devon and have been unable to get an invite to a private house party so am wondering if the OP is correct in that they don’t happen anymore or perhaps the local scene here is just very quiet.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

This is a very good question.

We used to get constant invites to parties. However, we've not had one since covid.

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

"This is a very good question.

We used to get constant invites to parties. However, we've not had one since covid."

We’re interested in party invites. Pre covid we tried to host ourselves and not one person replied!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we first joined Fab about 5yrs ago we noticed that there were occasionally house parties in the 'arranged meets' section in distances we could fairly easily drive to. Being new & cautious when we contacted the hosts to find out how we could join them,the responses were quite vague. Understandably they wouldn't want to go giving out details too easily especially with fairly new members but we also needed assurances that it wasn't just a hoax. Speaking on video call like WhatsApp would seem to us to be the best option for both sides to ensure we're all genuine. But both times the hosts went offline and we never saw them online again.

This was pre Covid.

Could have been that there was already enough people at the party & they didn't need the hassle or they didn't think we were compatible with what they were looking for or they got distracted by the sex games or it was a hoax.

Not seen any house parties Surrey/Hampshire since rejoining. Thing of past and possibly for the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a very good question.

We used to get constant invites to parties. However, we've not had one since covid.

We’re interested in party invites. Pre covid we tried to host ourselves and not one person replied!"

Really???? That's actually quite surprising

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A swinger friend of mine had fantastic parties before covid, but has had none since restrictions were lifted. Hopefully they will recommence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have a couple who host a party once a month at theirs. It is hard work getting other couples to attend , and I raise my cap to them for trying each month to get a group of like minded couples together.

So yes private parties do exist and can be fun "

When you say it's hard work getting couples to attend, is it because they don't contact to say they're interested or because you out the ones you don't want.

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

They’re definitely more far and few between nowadays.

A good few years ago it was all about the house parties. We’d attend them at least once or twice a month. Amazing times!

We just wish we had the kind of house to be able to throw them ourselves but know we couldn’t keep it hush from the blummin neighbours.

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

There were definitely private parties occurring when we first joined Fab. Also know a few people who attended social events and would often be invited back to a party when the pub closed. Not seen anything recently though but suspect Covid is a big factor....

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We’ve been invited to a few locally since joining, we wasn’t able to attend due to already having plans so not sure if they went ahead or not x

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

Being in London you would think there are loads but not really. Also having organised one they are really hard work! Literally emailing double the number of people you want to try and get some. I must have emailed 30+ couples and we ended up with 6 attending

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

This is so true. I have been swinging on and off for almost 2 decades. When I started house parties were the norm and clubs/spas were an occasional treat.

After one of my longer breaks that lasted five years everything had changed. Clubs were everywhere and even private parties were now monetized which I think is a real shame.

I did however get an invite to a private party for the first time in years just last week. Talk about nostalgia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still on....I go to the occasional small party in nottingham.....5 or 6 ladies...8 or 9 men

We've all got to know each other so very few no shows.....got going again nicely post covid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve started over inviting just in case. Plus a good WhatsApp group in the lead up helps everyone interact and stay committed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and we never charge. We’ve found the recent ones where someone hires a hotel room for £150 and then charges the 10 couples they’ve invited £40 is slightly crass.

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By *oublethefunMan
over a year ago

royston

Always enjoy a good party and always on the look out to meet new people. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always enjoy a good party and always on the look out to meet new people. Xx"

Me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Miss house parties

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By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago

N Peterborough.

We did host a small party at ours after a gb got cancelled due to timewasters.

Neighbours are too nosy, it's easy these days to record stuff and post on local fb groups so it's not worth the potential aggro.

I don't see anything wrong with charging to cover room costs. Surprised at our last gb only 1 out of 6 guys contributed to the room, nonpayers are now blackballed.

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By *weetnjuicycoupleCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

We’re hoping to arrange one soon so the advice here has been brilliant thanks all - we thought 3 or 4 couples - a single man or two and a single female or 2 - hopefully bi females or at least bi curious lol xx

Any further advice welcome fabbers

Ps it’ll be in Nottingham nudge nudge xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are definitely ones in the North East. Can't say I am interested, but I've been invited to a few and I know of others.

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By *rumcouple2013Couple
over a year ago

Tamworth

So yes private parties do exist and can be fun

When you say it's hard work getting couples to attend, is it because they don't contact to say they're interested or because you out the ones you don't want. "

It hard getting couples to attend. Many make enquires and ask for details then fail to attend. I know every month at least two couples fail to attend. As they like to keep the numbers small when a few couples don’t attend it not only spoils the party but stops others from attending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'd go to one but only verified couples are invited. Nuts considering we can't get verified. No like we haven't tried to meet but soo many timewasters.

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

There’s one thing I’ve never been and would love to try, a house party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christinapink can come to our party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

between couples and women there are still a few going but very private and select as in friends ... the ones we know of no longer have single men due to the problems its caused them ie after the parties and online trolling and abuse on guy went around giving one couples addy out willy nilly ...

we go sometimes but bot too often as couples are really not our thing unless they are interested in cuckolding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We'd go to one but only verified couples are invited. Nuts considering we can't get verified. No like we haven't tried to meet but soo many timewasters. "

it does seem nuts but when you get messed around as much as these couples who organise these parties do then its also totally understandable

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
over a year ago

near you...

We've tried to do hotel parties in London since they re-opened but really hard to get the critical mass. Maybe we need a Fab section just for parties so we can see which ones are happening and who is going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So yes private parties do exist and can be fun

When you say it's hard work getting couples to attend, is it because they don't contact to say they're interested or because you out the ones you don't want.

Thanks for letting us hear from this perspective. Helps understand from both sides a bit better

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By *weetnjuicycoupleCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

It’s on our bucket list to do one x

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

When I first joined fab,Many moons ago

Use to be a couple of couples doing house parties,Single men was invited too(use to be a good relaxed atmosphere) But seems now a few ppl have moved on from the site.

Ain't seen one posted since be back on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can’t say I’ve seen many if any the last year.

When I first joined, I went to a couple and I saw them on my updates weekly…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were thinking about hosting a Halloween party! Thing with us is we are happy to have a few single males as that’s our thing but some couples might not like that and if you worried if a couple cancels or no shows then might be way outnumbered and how do you get the balance right? Not ruling out but just seems a lot of planning and vetting to be potentially let down a lot as that seems quite common

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By *elvetqueenukWoman
over a year ago

norwich

definately a lack of parties for sure in Norwich, and no clubs either

My friend and I tried some socials before covid, to try and get meeting mix of people in person not behind screens, which a lot of people want socials after messaging a bit before any fun meets, so thought this could help, especially if single ladies needed a bit of company / back up? also meet people you might not come across in messages etc, and also can help then get verifications that you have been seen in person and are who you say etc. We still had the same problems of many messages, but then not a lot turning up? some did, and appreciated them. SO, we are now doing them again, and monthly for a while, so people have advance notice they are happening and where etc, to plan to come to one or two. The first went well, so hopefully more will come to future ones and better mix etc.

We are hoping, that there may even be someone with a bigish house to maybe organise a party

or we would even love to maybe hire a place and organise a party or even weekend swingers event, but, finance is the big thing, and we would have to book places in advance and be paid for, to make sure we covered the costs? ( we have heard there has been some "camping weekends for swingers, and been charged £200/£300 a person, and the tents being crap, only matresses on the floor, no proper food available, etc ) and people go back ???? so we were wondering if an actual rented house / holiday home for about the same price might be an option?? but still have the problem of who would want to come, actually book to come? etc - so still in the thinking stage lol

But would love for more couples and singles to come to our socials for a start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Covid and now monkeypox may be a reason. And especially with couples I can get diary problems, although baysitters are not exactly unknown.

But, really, why oh why is it all so very difficult?

One wants to have sex with other people. Having established that as OK to do, I don't quite get why it's such a performance......

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By *ubiamaccaCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Not at all. I have parties for rubia where I invite groups of guys to come round and fuck her. Amazing fun.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I used to go to them around Cambridge, Ely, Waterbeach when Tease2 was running and arranged a couple myself , very hard work , not just getting people to turn up but hard work hosting too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if people have forgotten how to go out after nearly two years of being banned from meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The socials seem a good idea in different areas too .

There is no commitment just a good friendly night out

I always seem to be on nights and weekends though . Perhaps we should arrange a shift workers one

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I wonder if people have forgotten how to go out after nearly two years of being banned from meeting."

No they haven’t , people barely remember COVID and most people I know carried on as normal mostly during COVID. Arranging parties was always hard work long before COVID , fabbers are flaky

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By *etwifeandhim69 OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"I wonder if people have forgotten how to go out after nearly two years of being banned from meeting."

Nah. House parties in our area seemed to dry up before that (at least from what we have observed).

The shift went to clubs and from talking to others it just because it was easier. As other said in this thread, no shows seem to be a regular complaint...though with established freinds its a different matter.

That all said, it might swing the other way again due to rising costs.

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire

"10 years ago when we joined Fab there always seemed to be a lot of parties going on. By that i mean acctual parties. 6 plus people. We would see them streamed in the chat rooms for all to enjoy or we would often see them them posted on the meets / events section in our area. We attended numerous ones ourselves.

Then covid happened and not seen single one posted in our region since.

We've tried to do a few ourselves when we knew we had a free house but it would.always end up as small affair since people would cancel last minute so weve stopped trying.

I’ve been to a couple recently and going again to another part run by the same organiser next week

Just lucky to have them in my area I guess?

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

So yes private parties do exist and can be fun "

I know a local couple who also have parties and they have the same problem - a lot of people have become quite flaky so can be difficult to guarantee numbers/at least get a decent number turning up.

As with other meets it tends to be people who have attended in the past are most reliable.

I do enjoy a good fab party

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder if people have forgotten how to go out after nearly two years of being banned from meeting.

No they haven’t , people barely remember COVID and most people I know carried on as normal mostly during COVID. Arranging parties was always hard work long before COVID , fabbers are flaky "

Totally agree. Its just behaviours and many not valueing others time and efforts spent arrangeing events and parties. Many dont value nor reapect anthing given free!

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

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By *ristinapinkWoman
over a year ago

Staines-upon-Thames

"Christinapink can come to our party

Tell me more

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By *afksedMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Haven’t been to one in quite a while.

Ours were a tight bunch and private.

We knew what we wanted.

But one day one got cancelled and that was it.

It barely gets mentioned now.

Then covid happened and not seen single one posted in our region since.

We've tried to do a few ourselves when we knew we had a free house but it would.always end up as small affair since people would cancel last minute so weve stopped trying.

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By *etwifeandhim69 OP Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"Christinapink can come to our party

Tell me more

Prepare your inbox for lots of invites.

Which sounds way ruder than I intended but hey, when in Rome

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

Our area must be the exception on this... there are normally 2 or 3 a month around us hosted by different people (fab users & another app we are on) that all seem lovely and wonderful...

However as much as we keep getting invited group play just isn't our thing

I definitely think it is area specific

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I wonder if people have forgotten how to go out after nearly two years of being banned from meeting.

No they haven’t , people barely remember COVID and most people I know carried on as normal mostly during COVID. Arranging parties was always hard work long before COVID , fabbers are flaky "

All those "cam" verifications that people showed which said "we met at a party last night", when us and many others weren't even visiting family. Then when meet veris were allowed to be showed, the numbers who met during lockdown were shocking. There were probably more parties in lockdown than now as clubs were closed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a fellow North East Couple we have been invited to a few this year but due to our 2nd child been born at the start of May it wasn't possible for us.

For us anyways private party invites seems very much dependent on who you know and do you have good reputation for been fun, engaging and likely to turn up.

I know one couple who run them don't bother with Fab anymore due to all the time wasters and fantasists, instead they invite trusted friends of friends, people who attend and can perform in clubs etc.

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