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By *kmale421 OP   Man
over a year ago

wirral

I'd like to ask for help from the members of FAB to a question I've been pondering?

I'm meeting up with a couple who I have met before on New Years Eve for a night of fun at Xtasia. Now we're all staying at The Premier Inn next door, but I'll be arriving seperately to them.

I have suggested to the lady (and her partner is in agreement with me) that she meets me in hotel reception wearing just a coat and heels. She's playing a little bit hard to get on this idea, while not having ruled it out.

So, members of FAB, in order to help her out maybe you'd like to contribute to this thread and give the lady some advice. Should she meet me in reception in just her coat and heels or should she just wear normal clothes?

Your thoughts, advice and experiences would be appreciatted, thanks.

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

i hope that it is a good coat and that she feels warm wearing it

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

Just the coat and heels

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Does a stole count as a coat?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'd like to ask for help from the members of FAB to a question I've been pondering?

I'm meeting up with a couple who I have met before on New Years Eve for a night of fun at Xtasia. Now we're all staying at The Premier Inn next door, but I'll be arriving seperately to them.

I have suggested to the lady (and her partner is in agreement with me) that she meets me in hotel reception wearing just a coat and heels. She's playing a little bit hard to get on this idea, while not having ruled it out.

So, members of FAB, in order to help her out maybe you'd like to contribute to this thread and give the lady some advice. Should she meet me in reception in just her coat and heels or should she just wear normal clothes?

Your thoughts, advice and experiences would be appreciatted, thanks."

The only person who can decide if she wants to do it is her, if someone tried to "persuade" me by enlisting the help of a load of other people I'd pull right out of any meet, it wouldn't bode well for my limits being respected later on in the evening.

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By *kmale421 OP   Man
over a year ago

wirral


"I'd like to ask for help from the members of FAB to a question I've been pondering?

I'm meeting up with a couple who I have met before on New Years Eve for a night of fun at Xtasia. Now we're all staying at The Premier Inn next door, but I'll be arriving seperately to them.

I have suggested to the lady (and her partner is in agreement with me) that she meets me in hotel reception wearing just a coat and heels. She's playing a little bit hard to get on this idea, while not having ruled it out.

So, members of FAB, in order to help her out maybe you'd like to contribute to this thread and give the lady some advice. Should she meet me in reception in just her coat and heels or should she just wear normal clothes?

Your thoughts, advice and experiences would be appreciatted, thanks.

The only person who can decide if she wants to do it is her, if someone tried to "persuade" me by enlisting the help of a load of other people I'd pull right out of any meet, it wouldn't bode well for my limits being respected later on in the evening."

Well Nicecouple, that would be true if the context of my post was written in the way you have taken it. However, the lady and gentleman know me pretty well and know that this post is written with a sense of tongue in cheek and humour, rather than being used in a way to "force or persuade" her to do anything, and as for respecting a ladies/couples limits, lets just say that in the real world rather than the fun way this post was and is intended, the limits of anyone I meet with is /are well and truely respected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tried to get S to wear tarty clothes in public since we met, she agrees at first but later as she is getting ready to go out she changes her mind. When I ask her why she just says "I didn't feel I looked nice". It's dawned on me now that she is uncomfortable and I've been so blinkered by what I want I forget to take into consideration how she feels.

This is not a weekly request but every few months when we go to the pictures without the kids.

So women love doing this, some don't.

She now knows what you want, it's now her decision and hers alone.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I'd like to ask for help from the members of FAB to a question I've been pondering?

I'm meeting up with a couple who I have met before on New Years Eve for a night of fun at Xtasia. Now we're all staying at The Premier Inn next door, but I'll be arriving seperately to them.

I have suggested to the lady (and her partner is in agreement with me) that she meets me in hotel reception wearing just a coat and heels. She's playing a little bit hard to get on this idea, while not having ruled it out.

So, members of FAB, in order to help her out maybe you'd like to contribute to this thread and give the lady some advice. Should she meet me in reception in just her coat and heels or should she just wear normal clothes?

Your thoughts, advice and experiences would be appreciatted, thanks."
Mmmmmmm this has been a fantasy of mine for a long time full length fur coat sexy lingerie killer heels ruby red lipstick and a big smile ..meeting at the bar slowly unbuttoning my coat to reveal what im wearing underneath.... Ahhhh opppps sorry fantasising here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She should do what she wants - not what you want...

I'm with Nicecouple - I'd be backing out if I felt that I was being pushed about anything, and if I found out about someone discussing it on here in this way, no mater how jokingly meant, it would be block and forget no matter how many time we'd met before...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I'd like to ask for help from the members of FAB to a question I've been pondering?

I'm meeting up with a couple who I have met before on New Years Eve for a night of fun at Xtasia. Now we're all staying at The Premier Inn next door, but I'll be arriving seperately to them.

I have suggested to the lady (and her partner is in agreement with me) that she meets me in hotel reception wearing just a coat and heels. She's playing a little bit hard to get on this idea, while not having ruled it out.

So, members of FAB, in order to help her out maybe you'd like to contribute to this thread and give the lady some advice. Should she meet me in reception in just her coat and heels or should she just wear normal clothes?

Your thoughts, advice and experiences would be appreciatted, thanks.

The only person who can decide if she wants to do it is her, if someone tried to "persuade" me by enlisting the help of a load of other people I'd pull right out of any meet, it wouldn't bode well for my limits being respected later on in the evening.

Well Nicecouple, that would be true if the context of my post was written in the way you have taken it. However, the lady and gentleman know me pretty well and know that this post is written with a sense of tongue in cheek and humour, rather than being used in a way to "force or persuade" her to do anything, and as for respecting a ladies/couples limits, lets just say that in the real world rather than the fun way this post was and is intended, the limits of anyone I meet with is /are well and truely respected."

I see thank you for explaining that. In that case I would say to her that I often go out with just lingerie, hold ups and heels under a coat and it is a very thrilling and exciting thing to do. If you feel comfortable with it do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what sort of coat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as it is going to be "New Years Eve" I think some nice warm thermals would be appropriate, both leggings and vest (Perky)

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Does a stole count as a coat?"

I guess it's better than a stoat !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does a stole count as a coat?

I guess it's better than a stoat !"
.. or a Ferret.

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By *kmale421 OP   Man
over a year ago

wirral


"Does a stole count as a coat?

I guess it's better than a stoat !.. or a Ferret.

"

being a Northerner I may bring a whippit too...

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"Does a stole count as a coat?

I guess it's better than a stoat !.. or a Ferret.

being a Northerner I may bring a whippit too..."

She will be chilly in one of them !

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"She should do what she wants - not what you want...

I'm with Nicecouple - I'd be backing out if I felt that I was being pushed about anything, and if I found out about someone discussing it on here in this way, no mater how jokingly meant, it would be block and forget no matter how many time we'd met before...

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear OP, some people have taken this in a very serious way. Never mind

I think the lady should cover up and keep warm under the coat, so I suggest nipple tassles, a nice wax and vajazzle, hold ups and high heels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the person in question here, i am thinking of something much more seductive.... (Perky)

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

If I was her Id say I'll come naked with just a coat on if you do the same....... Would you

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"As the person in question here, i am thinking of something much more seductive.... (Perky)"

It's you? What are you thinking of instead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never liked people trying to tell me what to wear for a meet. Id much rather wear clothes i feel comfortable in then dress down into something sexy behind closed doors. So that when im out in publc only the person im meeting knows just how naughty i am and it isnt blatantly obvious to everybody else who sees me or comes into contact with me.

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By *ovlad1986Man
over a year ago

Bedworth


"Ive never liked people trying to tell me what to wear for a meet. Id much rather wear clothes i feel comfortable in then dress down into something sexy behind closed doors. So that when im out in publc only the person im meeting knows just how naughty i am and it isnt blatantly obvious to everybody else who sees me or comes into contact with me.

"

You should wear what you want to wear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sod the coat black heels with stockings red with white trim suspender belt same colours and of course hes to be bra and thong to match the rext but the bra cups should be trimmed with white faux fur and dont for get to keep her nice and warm a red with white trim Mrs Santa hat it may be new years but its still christmas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive never liked people trying to tell me what to wear for a meet. Id much rather wear clothes i feel comfortable in then dress down into something sexy behind closed doors. So that when im out in publc only the person im meeting knows just how naughty i am and it isnt blatantly obvious to everybody else who sees me or comes into contact with me.

You should wear what you want to wear "

I do, hence what i was just trying to say lol

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

A from A and S got it right.

You have no idea what her personal issues and hang ups may be and how they influence what she walks through the door in.

I have me a boyf off a transatlantic flight in just a basque, stockings, heels and a flasher mac. BUT he wasn't expecting it and I wouldn't have felt half as excited if he had asked me for it - a lot of the fun was anticipating his reaction so I didn't notice any drafts etc.

As for going naked under a coat, well I'm a big girl in some departments and won't even run out to put the bin out without a bra on under my pj top even when it's all covered by my big, snuggly dressing gown. So there's no way I would go in just a coat and heels and no other support.

And I like to choose my outfit myself - I know what my wardrobe contains and love to anticipate how something will be received. In fact I asked a fb recently how he'd like me to dress for him and he said that I always surprised and impressed him and made him feel special by what I wore so he wanted me to choose!

So while it may be your fantasy she may have already been getting her own buzz anticipating how you will react to what she has in mind...

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By *ovlad1986Man
over a year ago

Bedworth

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By *ovlad1986Man
over a year ago

Bedworth


"Ive never liked people trying to tell me what to wear for a meet. Id much rather wear clothes i feel comfortable in then dress down into something sexy behind closed doors. So that when im out in publc only the person im meeting knows just how naughty i am and it isnt blatantly obvious to everybody else who sees me or comes into contact with me.

You should wear what you want to wear

I do, hence what i was just trying to say lol"

I just wear my birthday suit but think there is law against it tho

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By *kmale421 OP   Man
over a year ago

wirral


"Oh dear OP, some people have taken this in a very serious way. Never mind

I think the lady should cover up and keep warm under the coat, so I suggest nipple tassles, a nice wax and vajazzle, hold ups and high heels.

"

I think I may just add a little to this thread, and I appreciate the above comment as too many people have taken this way too seriously.

As Perky has added to the thread and stated that she is the lady concerned for this meet, I'd simply like to add a comment.

Perky (and Pork) know that my OP was simply a bit of fun and was meant to get some light hearted banter from people on the forum. The 3 of us are all going to Xtasia's NYE party and we are all staying in the same hotel. As for Perky choosing her own outfit, well she is and has, I have no idea what she's planning to wear for the evening, but she has been teasing me by dropping hints and I know that whatever she wears she'll look gorgeous and ofcourse it's aimed at getting a reaction. For that matter though, Perky has no idea what I'm planning to wear that night either and the tease process has been played out in reverse too.

So to the people whom saw this as a humerous thread, well good for you and thank you, to the people whom thought I was dictating what a lady should wear, well if you got to know me better you'd know that would never be the case and as to whether Perky does wear a coat and nowt else when she meets me at the hotel reception on NYE, well one of us might let you all know in 2013

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Oh dear OP, some people have taken this in a very serious way. Never mind

I think the lady should cover up and keep warm under the coat, so I suggest nipple tassles, a nice wax and vajazzle, hold ups and high heels.

I think I may just add a little to this thread, and I appreciate the above comment as too many people have taken this way too seriously.

As Perky has added to the thread and stated that she is the lady concerned for this meet, I'd simply like to add a comment.

Perky (and Pork) know that my OP was simply a bit of fun and was meant to get some light hearted banter from people on the forum. The 3 of us are all going to Xtasia's NYE party and we are all staying in the same hotel. As for Perky choosing her own outfit, well she is and has, I have no idea what she's planning to wear for the evening, but she has been teasing me by dropping hints and I know that whatever she wears she'll look gorgeous and ofcourse it's aimed at getting a reaction. For that matter though, Perky has no idea what I'm planning to wear that night either and the tease process has been played out in reverse too.

So to the people whom saw this as a humerous thread, well good for you and thank you, to the people whom thought I was dictating what a lady should wear, well if you got to know me better you'd know that would never be the case and as to whether Perky does wear a coat and nowt else when she meets me at the hotel reception on NYE, well one of us might let you all know in 2013"

In fairness to those of us who took it too seriously we don't know you and you can't see a person's intention in a post. We were just stating an opinion and can't really be blamed for sticking up for a lady who we thought MIGHT be being coerced into something.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I turned up to meet my fb just wearing skimpies under my coat. Then he wanted to pick something up from the supermarket!! LOL He had no idea what I was wearing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turned up to a meet in Just my coat sexy lingerie and a coat! Met in a country side pub first then we went back to our meets house, the look on his face when I took my coat off was a picture! Found it very erotic going out dressed like that!!

Perky whatever you wear, have fun

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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago

from a town near you

i drove 15 miles in a raincoat and skimpys,i got stopped by the police was having a fit wondering what i would do if arrested for whatever they thought i had done

turns out i had a brake light out and he was kindly letting me know

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I have been to Waitrose (other supermarkets are available) in a corset, hold ups and heels with a raincoat over and quite a few other places. If it's exciting for you I highly recommend it. Mrs N here by the way

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Mmmmm sounds great to me

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By *kin BohnerMan
over a year ago

derby

Personally I am always naked under my clothes...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Personally I am always naked under my clothes... "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

about a month ago we went to pick a car up for my daughter, it was tipping rain out of the sky like nobodies business. On the way back the darn thing broke down not once but 7 or 8 times. I was wearing a skirt, boots and fishnets and when I got out of my car to jump start my daughters someone drove through a puddle and drenched the back of my skirt...I had to take it off and drive home in my fishnets I was dreading getting stopped by the police too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does a waistcoat count ??? hey im just asking!

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Makes me wish I was a copper stopping all these sexy women

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Makes me wish I was a copper stopping all these sexy women "

Goodness only knows how I would have got out of the on the spot fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, would you meet her in public with just a coat and shoes on?

Would you feel comfortable?

Would you be frightened of someone seeing you from your non-swinging life?

Would you feel comfortable if you got caught by security or the police?

How would you feel?

All this has to be taken into consideration.

We take public pics, Mrs Artful dresses as she see's fit and it is all at her pace. The slightest bit of pressure or discomfort turns us BOTH off.

The main thing is, if the woman doesn't feel right about the situation or feels uncomfortable, it wont be fun.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As the person in question here, i am thinking of something much more seductive.... (Perky)

It's you? What are you thinking of instead?"

Sending Pork

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"As the person in question here, i am thinking of something much more seductive.... (Perky)

It's you? What are you thinking of instead?

Sending Pork "

Lol! Obviously you can't say what you'll be wearing or it would spoil the surprise but whatever it is I hope all of you have a great time

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By *kmale421 OP   Man
over a year ago

wirral


"OP, would you meet her in public with just a coat and shoes on?

Would you feel comfortable?

Would you be frightened of someone seeing you from your non-swinging life?

Would you feel comfortable if you got caught by security or the police?

How would you feel?

All this has to be taken into consideration.

We take public pics, Mrs Artful dresses as she see's fit and it is all at her pace. The slightest bit of pressure or discomfort turns us BOTH off.

The main thing is, if the woman doesn't feel right about the situation or feels uncomfortable, it wont be fun.

Good luck."

Well Artful,

As you ask a serious question, the answer in the context of this specific meet is yes I would meet her in the hotel reception of this hotel wearing just a coat and shoes, mainly because both the lady and I are both staying at the hotel.

The hotel itself is booked up for the night, and I would have a small wager that 98% of the people staying at the hotel are attending Xtasia's NYE party, so again for this meet I wouldn't be worried about meeting someone from my Vanilla life.

As for getting caught by Security or Police, I'm trying to imagine why a person wearing a coat and shoes would draw so much attention to themselves that Security or Police would even notice they are there.

I think you'd have to read my other postings in this thread to get the idea that the lady concerned does think of this as fun, though I suspect the dress she'll be wearing for the party will be a lot more daring than the coat and heels....

Anyway, as she's asked me to check round my local shops for a coat for her......looks like she might be planning to make this happen.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well Artful,...

As for getting caught by Security or Police, I'm trying to imagine why a person wearing a coat and shoes would draw so much attention to themselves that Security or Police would even notice they are there."

That rather depends on what kind of coat and what kind of shoes....


"Anyway, as she's asked me to check round my local shops for a coat for her......looks like she might be planning to make this happen....."
... or it means she's flippin tight and wants to make you work for it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, would you meet her in public with just a coat and shoes on?

Would you feel comfortable?

Would you be frightened of someone seeing you from your non-swinging life?

Would you feel comfortable if you got caught by security or the police?

How would you feel?

All this has to be taken into consideration.

We take public pics, Mrs Artful dresses as she see's fit and it is all at her pace. The slightest bit of pressure or discomfort turns us BOTH off.

The main thing is, if the woman doesn't feel right about the situation or feels uncomfortable, it wont be fun.

Good luck.

Well Artful,

As you ask a serious question, the answer in the context of this specific meet is yes I would meet her in the hotel reception of this hotel wearing just a coat and shoes, mainly because both the lady and I are both staying at the hotel.

The hotel itself is booked up for the night, and I would have a small wager that 98% of the people staying at the hotel are attending Xtasia's NYE party, so again for this meet I wouldn't be worried about meeting someone from my Vanilla life.

As for getting caught by Security or Police, I'm trying to imagine why a person wearing a coat and shoes would draw so much attention to themselves that Security or Police would even notice they are there.

I think you'd have to read my other postings in this thread to get the idea that the lady concerned does think of this as fun, though I suspect the dress she'll be wearing for the party will be a lot more daring than the coat and heels....

Anyway, as she's asked me to check round my local shops for a coat for her......looks like she might be planning to make this happen....."

Thanks for answering and clearing up the bits that weren't clear to me.

It does pay to be careful

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