FabSwingers.com forum: Intoxicated meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What’s everyone’s thoughts on intoxicated meets?

Personally it’s not for me, but I find that I’m regularly asked to meet people at their place when they’re d*unk or otherwise using something.

Is this common? It doesn’t seem safe to me, especially when meeting a stranger for the first time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think some people drink their nerves, but go too far. We would also not start any play if we felt the other person was intoxicated by any substance. Too much risk for boundaries to be broken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I'm okay if someone needs a drink or two for nerves or because they like a drink but if I felt they were drinking a lot or were quite d*unk, I'd back off. I have to feel like consent is fully there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always d*unk, wife normally sober and the normal one lol

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

Don't drink, I've seen the horror achohol can have on people.

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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago

Sleaford

Don't mind a couple to settle the nerves but not completely wasted....unfortunately we have experienced this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s everyone’s thoughts on intoxicated meets?

Personally it’s not for me, but I find that I’m regularly asked to meet people at their place when they’re d*unk or otherwise using something.

Is this common? It doesn’t seem safe to me, especially when meeting a stranger for the first time "

It's a massive no for me, but it's very common on here. A lot of the curious guys on here can only meet with some 'Dutch Courage.' It's well established that alcohol and d***s numb your inhibitions.

I want someone to be fully aware of and in control of what they're doing. I want them to be able to consent and not turn around later and falsely claim that it wasn't consensual and that I took advantage.

If anyone mentions being d*unk, I will decline. If they mention chems, snow, lines or anything else, I just block them.

I drive to all of my meets and don't ever drink if I'm going to be driving, or drive if I'm going to be drinking, so I only meet sober.

Had a lot of 'straight' guys asking me to go over whilst they do snow/lines and I just block them now.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't mind a little drink, I'm not a huge drinker myself but I couldn't meet if they were blind d*unk.

Mrs

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By *klifeCouple
over a year ago

reading

We’ve had both we’ve been so d*unk we hardly remember the next day but that’s normally with one of my freaky girlfriends after we’ve had a girls night and come back to ours to wake up hubby … but when we arrange a meet from here we just have a couple to relax or it ruins the evening xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fundamentally not, ever.

Partly because I find pissed people really dreary (although I love my wine).

But mostly because I play with at least a touch of kink and kink needs clear heads.

And lastly....if you need Dutch courage, why on earth are you doing this?

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

never for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of small glasses of wine maybe at most for me, more than that is a no no for me. What’s the point ? I’d rather remember and enjoy everything that happens

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By *hors fantasyCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool

In eyes of UK law a d*unk lady = unable to consent to what’s it called when you fuck someone without concent…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fundamentally not, ever.

Partly because I find pissed people really dreary (although I love my wine).

But mostly because I play with at least a touch of kink and kink needs clear heads.

***And lastly....if you need Dutch courage, why on earth are you doing this?***"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't play d*unk, we have a 2 drink max rule if we go on a social or to a club.

You can't consent if you're d*unk.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

There have been two occasions when I've arrived at a meet to find my prospective playmates to be quite intoxicated

In both instances, I turned them down and left...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a little drink but not to the point of intoxication, it just spoils the meet, I am normally the traveling one anyway...

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

Never if d*unk.

Think law changed/is changing that if a woman has a large glass of wine = classed has over the limit = means she`s d*unk and unable to consent.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't drink at all and never have done. I've no issues at all with anyone who does but when it comes to sex not a chance in hell if they decide to combine the two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope we get our buzz from sex so no we dont drink and will not play with others who do ....

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan

"Never if d*unk.

Think law changed/is changing that if a woman has a large glass of wine = classed has over the limit = means she`s d*unk and unable to consent. "

So… over the limit to drive means cannot give consent?

And the previous poster who insinuated that if someone is d*unk then it = ra**?

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