FabSwingers.com forum: I can't date - I can swing

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I been here for a while

It's addictive

But in the same time it's ruining my dating skills .

I can't date - u know no sex till I will fuck your brains out .

And then they gone .

Queen of first dates

Longest time someone actually wanted to see me again 4th date till.they just got bored with me ( we had sex on 3 date - )

I am single 7 years ( not counting last 2 pandemic years that was - dildo boyfriend to the rescue) .

But yeah I genuinely don't know how to date .

I suck in that .

Give me social and person I click with bish bash bosh

- satisfied ??.

Then realisation yeah still single

Still no one to rub your feet after work. No one to spoon you .

I am shit showing emotions , or even hugging.

Please - not just me right

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

It's definitely not just you, OP. I think we take advantage of the fact that, with the internet, it is so easy to meet people. You no longer have to count that your friend/family member etc introduces you to potential soulmate, or that you accidentally bump into them. You can go looking yourself, going through tons of profiles of available potential matches. Also, there is the assumption that "grass is always greener on the other side" and people's lack of interest to commit to another person. Sadly, this creates a lot of lonely people.

I feel very lucky myself that I managed to find my partner when I was not looking, and when any relationship was the last thing on my mind. We're still together nearly 4 years on, in an open relationship that suits us both.

Your time will come, OP, and maybe the idea is to stop looking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I been here for a while

It's addictive

But in the same time it's ruining my dating skills .

I can't date - u know no sex till I will fuck your brains out .

And then they gone .

Queen of first dates

Longest time someone actually wanted to see me again 4th date till.they just got bored with me ( we had sex on 3 date - )

I am single 7 years ( not counting last 2 pandemic years that was - dildo boyfriend to the rescue) .

But yeah I genuinely don't know how to date .

I suck in that .

Give me social and person I click with bish bash bosh

- satisfied ??.

Then realisation yeah still single

Still no one to rub your feet after work. No one to spoon you .

I am shit showing emotions , or even hugging.

Please - not just me right "
nope same here keep going for wrong type they say right things but def not my type and i cant do a pity f@ck im out of a dv relationship and say i know what i want but imreally dont think i do think i need to work on me more but like the company ..... sending hugs met a lovely man for a coffee so lets see

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

I can't even remember how many years I've been single. It seems to be that I'm good enough for sex but not for a relationship. I miss cuddling up on the sofa watching a bad movie

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By *klondon1Man
over a year ago

London

"I can't even remember how many years I've been single. It seems to be that I'm good enough for sex but not for a relationship. I miss cuddling up on the sofa watching a bad movie"

This is sad to read…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I been here for a while

It's addictive

But in the same time it's ruining my dating skills .

I can't date - u know no sex till I will fuck your brains out .

And then they gone .

Queen of first dates

Longest time someone actually wanted to see me again 4th date till.they just got bored with me ( we had sex on 3 date - )

I am single 7 years ( not counting last 2 pandemic years that was - dildo boyfriend to the rescue) .

But yeah I genuinely don't know how to date .

I suck in that .

Give me social and person I click with bish bash bosh

- satisfied ??.

Then realisation yeah still single

Still no one to rub your feet after work. No one to spoon you .

I am shit showing emotions , or even hugging.

Please - not just me right "

I hear you loud and clear.

Most face to face skills ,eye contact,listening ques are lost.

Iam still old skool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Internet dating is just about swiping left or right, messaging for a bit, maybe a meet, maybe sex and then to the next person.

No real difference to on here really. You'll have dry patches longer than the searing heat of the Sahara, then a massive downpour out of the blue. No real reason to any of it.

However, the just before valentines and Xmas you'll get more messages it seems

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By *aughtyAlex2021Woman
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

"I can't even remember how many years I've been single. It seems to be that I'm good enough for sex but not for a relationship. I miss cuddling up on the sofa watching a bad movie"

I get you. You are more than good enough but its hard to believe it sometimes. I don't read men well and in my experience they wait for the next thing to come along and boom....they say goodbye. Hopefully you will meet someone nice!

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By *andamoCouple
over a year ago

thornton heath

Definitely not just you. However at least you don't get to be irritated by CONTINOUSLY being unable to screw a lid on properly.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

I wouldn't worry about it. I like being single, I can wear shoes in my own house and it doesn't matter if I don't put something away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I been here for a while

It's addictive

But in the same time it's ruining my dating skills .

I can't date - u know no sex till I will fuck your brains out .

And then they gone .

Queen of first dates

Longest time someone actually wanted to see me again 4th date till.they just got bored with me ( we had sex on 3 date - )

I am single 7 years ( not counting last 2 pandemic years that was - dildo boyfriend to the rescue) .

But yeah I genuinely don't know how to date .

I suck in that .

Give me social and person I click with bish bash bosh

- satisfied ??.

Then realisation yeah still single

Still no one to rub your feet after work. No one to spoon you .

I am shit showing emotions , or even hugging.

Please - not just me right "

I literally couldn’t have written this any better. It’s the same for me. Although I seem to achieve a lot of friends. Always friend zoned and never anything more. I’ve fallen for a few over time, but hidden my feelings. To scared of rejection and loosing what I do have. Wish I could turn it around that they are more worried about loosing me, but don’t know how.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I been here for a while

It's addictive

But in the same time it's ruining my dating skills .

I can't date - u know no sex till I will fuck your brains out .

And then they gone .

Queen of first dates

Longest time someone actually wanted to see me again 4th date till.they just got bored with me ( we had sex on 3 date - )

I am single 7 years ( not counting last 2 pandemic years that was - dildo boyfriend to the rescue) .

But yeah I genuinely don't know how to date .

I suck in that .

Give me social and person I click with bish bash bosh

- satisfied ??.

Then realisation yeah still single

Still no one to rub your feet after work. No one to spoon you .

I am shit showing emotions , or even hugging.

Please - not just me right

As we get older, we fear things we can't control more than when we were younger. Even jumping off a fair ride in case we bruise ourselves. Think it's just natural instinct.

Also as we live our lives being single, we don't put up with things we once did. It's our way, or the highway.

I'd like to be in a relationship, but not sure if I can again. Friends with benefits would suit me, but I but would have to be on both terms with the other person.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I flittered between dating and swinging. I know exactly what you mean. Turns out the answer was to do both. Find a date who swings. Now all is good,found my one and we are engaged.

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By *o scandalousWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I would love to find my Mr Right - but it seems I’m destined not to.

I get lonely - want to be able to come back home to someone, cook meals with someone, talk to someone after work, be someone’s little spoon.

Hoping to find a swinger who wants the same thing, and isn’t afraid of commitment.

I somehow think I never will find this though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't even remember how many years I've been single. It seems to be that I'm good enough for sex but not for a relationship. I miss cuddling up on the sofa watching a bad movie"

I'm the same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you're looking at/going for the wrong guys...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the club, but it’s nothing to do with swinging here. 10 years alone now and no clue about dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I literally could have written this myself…but added a few years of being single on top of that.

I been here for a while

It's addictive

But in the same time it's ruining my dating skills .

I can't date - u know no sex till I will fuck your brains out .

And then they gone .

Queen of first dates

Longest time someone actually wanted to see me again 4th date till.they just got bored with me ( we had sex on 3 date - )

I am single 7 years ( not counting last 2 pandemic years that was - dildo boyfriend to the rescue) .

But yeah I genuinely don't know how to date .

I suck in that .

Give me social and person I click with bish bash bosh

- satisfied ??.

Then realisation yeah still single

Still no one to rub your feet after work. No one to spoon you .

I am shit showing emotions , or even hugging.

Please - not just me right "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask where you met? Was it on here?

"I flittered between dating and swinging. I know exactly what you mean. Turns out the answer was to do both. Find a date who swings. Now all is good,found my one and we are engaged."

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

"I can't even remember how many years I've been single. It seems to be that I'm good enough for sex but not for a relationship. I miss cuddling up on the sofa watching a bad movie"

I know that feeling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m no good at dating and also I don’t really know how to do it.

I’ve been single a long time and have vowed to stay that way forever but I do miss having someone to cuddle upto sometimes. I do have a FWB that loves to cuddle but it’s not quite the same as when with a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some guys (like me) would love to find a girlfriend off here. Not just for sex, but actually doing the normal stuff like shopping, holidays, someone to choose a nice birthday present for, or just a walk. But, when vanilla sex doesn't cut the mustard, if you get my point. There are guys on here who would love to date

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"Can I ask where you met? Was it on here?

I flittered between dating and swinging. I know exactly what you mean. Turns out the answer was to do both. Find a date who swings. Now all is good,found my one and we are engaged."

Yes we met on here. We've weren't looking to date. But by the end of the first meet (which started off badly for both of us btw) it was clear there was something more between us. It was ment to be and the rest is history

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