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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Signs to tell you they probably will be a time waster...is it possible to see any pre-warning signs?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Oh yes. Messages that don’t start with a capital and finish with a full stop. Never had anything come from them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so easy to spot most ... not gonna say how on the forums tho as guys will start to avoid there mistakes ....

the biggest thing is once you know they are a timewaster then block but be prepared for them to set up another profile ...then block again ..

i think the longer your on the scene the more you get to know on how to spot but also listen out for the chat in clubs/socials from couples and women they love to talk about a timewaster / messer/troll/abuser they are very rarely wrong too

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"so easy to spot most ... not gonna say how on the forums tho as guys will start to avoid there mistakes ....

the biggest thing is once you know they are a timewaster then block but be prepared for them to set up another profile ...then block again ..

i think the longer your on the scene the more you get to know on how to spot but also listen out for the chat in clubs/socials from couples and women they love to talk about a timewaster / messer/troll/abuser they are very rarely wrong too"

Ok to dm me them? Unfortunately I haven't been to a club to chat to other single females about this.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Oh yes. Messages that don’t start with a capital and finish with a full stop. Never had anything come from them. "

Note taken

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

What about men who come across very charming? They give alot of themselves away very quickly, like a Trainwreck approach,in the messages?

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By *andamoCouple
over a year ago

thornton heath

There are all sorts of reasons why people 'time-waste'. The oldest idea is that they're unhappy in a relationship, want something but feel guilt.

Then you have 'cat-fishers'.

People living pseudo lives online.

Then you have people who post pictures from years ago, hoping you get to know the 'real them' before you learn the truth.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"There are all sorts of reasons why people 'time-waste'. The oldest idea is that they're unhappy in a relationship, want something but feel guilt.

Then you have 'cat-fishers'.

People living pseudo lives online.

Then you have people who post pictures from years ago, hoping you get to know the 'real them' before you learn the truth.

"

My only reservation about old photos is I stopped being a silver member since covid started so I can't upload new photos and don't wish to delete my old photos.

What about dodgy profile names like 'dick slayer'?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I definitely agree on cheating husbands but again not too sure how I can tell they are from their profile, unless they admit to it?

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By *andamoCouple
over a year ago

thornton heath

I'll have you know 'dick slayer' is one of our closest friends. It was the name that drew us to him/her/they, slightly romantic.

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By *andamoCouple
over a year ago

thornton heath

It's really not that difficult to le out a cheating guy rather than horny single guy. The question is why you choose to be part of it. It's not 1985 anymore.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I'll have you know 'dick slayer' is one of our closest friends. It was the name that drew us to him/her/they, slightly romantic.

"

I actually made that name up and theres lots of profiles with variations of that name

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"It's really not that difficult to le out a cheating guy rather than horny single guy. The question is why you choose to be part of it. It's not 1985 anymore."

Still not sure how you know they're cheating rather than horny?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This might seem weird to some people but I avoid gold site supporters.

In my experience, a majority of the guys who have messed me about have been gold site supporters.

There's no benefit to paying the extra for a gold site supporter package, other than additional web cam docking. It's more expensive and you get fewer days.

Given my experiences, I've come to the conclusion that gold site supporters are predominantly into cyber sex and web cam sex (as that's the only benefit to getting gold over silver). They talk the talk, then when they've climaxed they go offline and ghost you, usually at the stage where you're waiting on their address.

I've met a few gold site supporters, but my experience has been that many of them like to fantasise about meeting - at your expense - and seldom have the nerve to go through with it. Once they've got off over discussing the fantasy of meeting another guy, they log off.

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By *andamoCouple
over a year ago

thornton heath

Ask something of them.

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By *andamoCouple
over a year ago

thornton heath

Sorry was trying to be funny.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

When it comes to being messaged, empty profiles and zero pictures is a red flag. Also someone starting a message with what they'd like to do to us as, dead give away it's going no where, someone's just having a wank.

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By *utonguy2023Man
over a year ago

luton

Gonna say the whole site no one chats or meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many suggestions

- explaining how amazing giver they are

- no verifications

- constantly asking when I will takebhim to the club lol

- young ( new era post pandemic living off porn hub who never seen real womens body )

- when they ask for sex in the car

I refuse flat out talking about sex and they don't get that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they tell me so, who you trying to convince me or yourself? Anyone who doesn't behave that way won't do a speech about it.

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"I definitely agree on cheating husbands but again not too sure how I can tell they are from their profile, unless they admit to it?"

Photos i view the background more than the person ??

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"There are all sorts of reasons why people 'time-waste'. The oldest idea is that they're unhappy in a relationship, want something but feel guilt.

Then you have 'cat-fishers'.

People living pseudo lives online.

Then you have people who post pictures from years ago, hoping you get to know the 'real them' before you learn the truth.

My only reservation about old photos is I stopped being a silver member since covid started so I can't upload new photos and don't wish to delete my old photos.

What about dodgy profile names like 'dick slayer'?

"

Just do it for one payment you have to keep renewing it every time it runs out do you..

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By *klifeCouple
over a year ago

reading

We only meet people after we have video crammed with them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting ready the various responses !!

As a genuine and single guy, it’s just as hard and time consuming to filter out the catfish and time wasters, rebuilding a network of likeminded genuine people is slow and painful.

But as part of lessons learnt, sounds like I need to down grade my membership from “gold”, change my profile name and attend more socials !!

In summary, ladies don’t forget there are genuine and fun guys out there too, just looking for likeminded playmates so please treat us fairly

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Interesting ready the various responses !!

As a genuine and single guy, it’s just as hard and time consuming to filter out the catfish and time wasters, rebuilding a network of likeminded genuine people is slow and painful.

But as part of lessons learnt, sounds like I need to down grade my membership from “gold”, change my profile name and attend more socials !!

In summary, ladies don’t forget there are genuine and fun guys out there too, just looking for likeminded playmates so please treat us fairly "

Sure I know there is and met 1 so far who kept his word and was a gentleman. But I don't have time to waste on time wasters

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Interesting ready the various responses !!

As a genuine and single guy, it’s just as hard and time consuming to filter out the catfish and time wasters, rebuilding a network of likeminded genuine people is slow and painful.

But as part of lessons learnt, sounds like I need to down grade my membership from “gold”, change my profile name and attend more socials !!

In summary, ladies don’t forget there are genuine and fun guys out there too, just looking for likeminded playmates so please treat us fairly

Sure I know there is and met 1 so far who kept his word and was a gentleman. But I don't have time to waste on time wasters "

Maybe you're looking at the wrong age group? What do I know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about men who come across very charming? They give alot of themselves away very quickly, like a Trainwreck approach,in the messages?

"

Yes, avoid them.

Also any who ask for pics or want to talk about sex. They are just wanking.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It helps to fix realistic expectations here. I don't think most people are compatible with most other people, including me. Thus it's reasonable to assume that most people I start chatting with, will not lead to sex with them or meetings. This could include a number of fantasists but we'd hope that most are just not going to be appropriate matches.

Expect most positive starts to fizzle out. That's potentially not optimistic but it must surely be realistic, if we have fairly limited ranges of people we'll be compatible with - and on both sides.

I go very slowly with everyone. No instant or fast meetings. It self-selects a lot of men out, who are in the wasting game. I'm clear upfront about it. And, of course, I don't get into erotic chat. Or give my number etc out, until meeting and they're more likely to be reliable.

Take the onus of responsibility onto yourself for wasted time. Sure, the others have a part to play in it but I always believe it's me that cultivated the seeds. Then, learn each time, everything that you can, from an experience that had a poor outcome.

Block new and unverified users, if you are less sure.

Just don't be hard on yourself, even if you have strict rules and tried a new approach out. There will be people who have phenomenal expertise in misleading others. You can only take reasonable steps to help yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When they’re very vague with answers to normal questions.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Wanting to turn the chat sexual v early and continuing to try when you steer it away.

Going quiet for ages and then reappearing often.

Asking to move to kik it Snapchat indicates they just want wank material.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! Well I've certainly learnt a lot

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By *eniandMikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Our favourite, which we receive at least 2/3 times a day, is a “single” guy messaging us claiming to be part of couple for a meet! But have no idea how they set up a single profile by mistake! And of course can’t change it now.

Also….it’s pretty clear from some other single guy pics just by the decor of the rooms in the background of their pics that a woman’s touch has been at work!!

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Wow! Well I've certainly learnt a lot "

Me too

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By *alypsoWoman
over a year ago

Hinckley


"Signs to tell you they probably will be a time waster...is it possible to see any pre-warning signs?"

Yes, they won’t swap numbers, they literally have one sentence or word replies. They aren’t verified is the major one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they’re very vague with answers to normal questions."
guilty

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By *D835Man
over a year ago

London


"It helps to fix realistic expectations here. I don't think most people are compatible with most other people, including me. Thus it's reasonable to assume that most people I start chatting with, will not lead to sex with them or meetings. This could include a number of fantasists but we'd hope that most are just not going to be appropriate matches.

Expect most positive starts to fizzle out. That's potentially not optimistic but it must surely be realistic, if we have fairly limited ranges of people we'll be compatible with - and on both sides.

I go very slowly with everyone. No instant or fast meetings. It self-selects a lot of men out, who are in the wasting game. I'm clear upfront about it. And, of course, I don't get into erotic chat. Or give my number etc out, until meeting and they're more likely to be reliable.

Take the onus of responsibility onto yourself for wasted time. Sure, the others have a part to play in it but I always believe it's me that cultivated the seeds. Then, learn each time, everything that you can, from an experience that had a poor outcome.

Block new and unverified users, if you are less sure.

Just don't be hard on yourself, even if you have strict rules and tried a new approach out. There will be people who have phenomenal expertise in misleading others. You can only take reasonable steps to help yourself. "

Good response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People that have been on here for a year and not meet or photo verified

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

well over 80-90 % of people on here got no intention of meeting unless it s in a club enviroment , think about it ...

fakes and timewasters are another two separate matters .....

folks who ve been here over a year with no pics , or veri , just avoid ...

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Many suggestions

- explaining how amazing giver they are

- no verifications

- constantly asking when I will takebhim to the club lol

- young ( new era post pandemic living off porn hub who never seen real womens body )

- when they ask for sex in the car

I refuse flat out talking about sex and they don't get that lol "

I know it's a sex site but yeah it also freaks me out when they go too quickly into detailed things they want to do to me, even before seeing any proper photos of me etc. I find it all peculiar

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Wanting to turn the chat sexual v early and continuing to try when you steer it away.

Going quiet for ages and then reappearing often.

Asking to move to kik it Snapchat indicates they just want wank material."

I get that alot. They flirt.. disappear, reappear a year later like nothing happened. Now i just block them to save us both the aggro

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By *ipvanwinkieMan
over a year ago

out of town!


"Many suggestions

- explaining how amazing giver they are

- no verifications

- constantly asking when I will takebhim to the club lol

- young ( new era post pandemic living off porn hub who never seen real womens body )

- when they ask for sex in the car

I refuse flat out talking about sex and they don't get that lol

I know it's a sex site but yeah it also freaks me out when they go too quickly into detailed things they want to do to me, even before seeing any proper photos of me etc. I find it all peculiar "

And if you actually do respond positively, you know that in several minutes they’ll be gone…probably cleaning up

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Many suggestions

- explaining how amazing giver they are

- no verifications

- constantly asking when I will takebhim to the club lol

- young ( new era post pandemic living off porn hub who never seen real womens body )

- when they ask for sex in the car

I refuse flat out talking about sex and they don't get that lol

I know it's a sex site but yeah it also freaks me out when they go too quickly into detailed things they want to do to me, even before seeing any proper photos of me etc. I find it all peculiar

And if you actually do respond positively, you know that in several minutes they’ll be gone…probably cleaning up "

Ok don't bother with "wankers" lol

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By *ornado69Man
over a year ago

Princess Risborough

They are a nightmare on here. I always turn up but inevitably there will be the rare occasion where something does stop me. I always let the person or couple know in advance its called respwct and decency. I have paid for hotels, ecen driven hours only to have people and couples turn out to be timewasters.

I think FAB should delete their accounts if its proven that they are continual offenders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't forget to report them as well.

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By *xploring_FunWoman
over a year ago

Coventry

People who are overly effusive before face photos are swapped or any chat has happened is my big red flag.

The second is guys who claim to be “100% reliable” or “different from other guys”. Ones who launch into how hard guys make it for good guys like him in a big way always turned out to be a waste of time when I first joined here.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you


"Signs to tell you they probably will be a time waster...is it possible to see any pre-warning signs?"

Profiles that state: can't travel, can't accommodate & veris are all on cam only . I take that as just an online pen pal lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages that seem like they’re wanking as they write them

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The most obvious is when they clearly haven't read my profile and ask to meet or for a facepic in their opening message.

It's their own time they are wasting so it doesn't bother me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Messages that seem like they’re wanking as they write them "

This sums it up so well!!

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Messages asking for pics or sex talk. They are usually the ones on for a wank and nothing else.

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood

The one that are so enthusiastic from the the start of the conversation, usually turn out to be fake or timewasters

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"The one that are so enthusiastic from the the start of the conversation, usually turn out to be fake or timewasters "

Humm that's many men...some write novels as an intro message (obviously copied and paste)

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Messages asking for pics or sex talk. They are usually the ones on for a wank and nothing else. "

That is also most of the messages I receive lol..sounds like only 0.5% of my messages are ok then lol

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Messages asking for pics or sex talk. They are usually the ones on for a wank and nothing else.

That is also most of the messages I receive lol..sounds like only 0.5% of my messages are ok then lol "

I just be myself, with a cheeky line, frequently putting myself down. Don't do sexy talk, which conversely, outs some ladies off x

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Messages asking for pics or sex talk. They are usually the ones on for a wank and nothing else.

That is also most of the messages I receive lol..sounds like only 0.5% of my messages are ok then lol

I just be myself, with a cheeky line, frequently putting myself down. Don't do sexy talk, which conversely, outs some ladies off x"

How successful have you been?

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast


"so easy to spot most ... not gonna say how on the forums tho as guys will start to avoid there mistakes ....

the biggest thing is once you know they are a timewaster then block but be prepared for them to set up another profile ...then block again ..

i think the longer your on the scene the more you get to know on how to spot but also listen out for the chat in clubs/socials from couples and women they love to talk about a timewaster / messer/troll/abuser they are very rarely wrong too"

Gentlemen jay thinks you're a timewaster.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline


"Messages asking for pics or sex talk. They are usually the ones on for a wank and nothing else.

That is also most of the messages I receive lol..sounds like only 0.5% of my messages are ok then lol

I just be myself, with a cheeky line, frequently putting myself down. Don't do sexy talk, which conversely, outs some ladies off x

How successful have you been?"

Ok. I'm no superstud, as I'm fab 'old' (over 50). I go to clubs and socials. I probably talk too much x

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Messages asking for pics or sex talk. They are usually the ones on for a wank and nothing else.

That is also most of the messages I receive lol..sounds like only 0.5% of my messages are ok then lol

I just be myself, with a cheeky line, frequently putting myself down. Don't do sexy talk, which conversely, outs some ladies off x

How successful have you been?

Ok. I'm no superstud, as I'm fab 'old' (over 50). I go to clubs and socials. I probably talk too much x"

Are you successful though?

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I feel like with all this advice, pretty much noone in my inbox is genuine. They all have timewaster traits. I literally had 100 messages yesterday where none I could say "oh I feel comfortable wanting to continue talking to you"....but when I do find a conversation attractive, afew chats later, they disappear..

Fab life for you?

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By *he MuffinmanMan
over a year ago

West Gloucestershire


"What about men who come across very charming? They give alot of themselves away very quickly, like a Trainwreck approach,in the messages?

"

Let’s not forget that women can be time wasters just as much as the men. I’ve experienced quite a few in my time on Fab and have become a dab hand at identifying the ones that it’s not going any where with

X

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"What about men who come across very charming? They give alot of themselves away very quickly, like a Trainwreck approach,in the messages?

Let’s not forget that women can be time wasters just as much as the men. I’ve experienced quite a few in my time on Fab and have become a dab hand at identifying the ones that it’s not going any where with

X

"

Being a woman who asked this question, I can't really comment on how women message on here but yes it's people in general. But you can tell me can the comments made on this thread apply to women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you can get 100s of messages over a week and at times not one will appeal for many reasons fron simply dont like to the convo not being right ...

id say trust you gut feeling if you get a 100 message and not one is right for you for what ever reason then thats about right you have to go though 1000s to find the right ones ... dont forget to block those your not interested in otherwise they will keep trying ..

if i put the meet sign up messages flood in its rare to find a meet ..so glad ive long term regulars for fun as id be living like a nun ... dont ever lower your preferences/standards /wants /dislikes ....the block button is your best tool on fab use it...

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"you can get 100s of messages over a week and at times not one will appeal for many reasons fron simply dont like to the convo not being right ...

id say trust you gut feeling if you get a 100 message and not one is right for you for what ever reason then thats about right you have to go though 1000s to find the right ones ... dont forget to block those your not interested in otherwise they will keep trying ..

if i put the meet sign up messages flood in its rare to find a meet ..so glad ive long term regulars for fun as id be living like a nun ... dont ever lower your preferences/standards /wants /dislikes ....the block button is your best tool on fab use it..."

Oh it's my fave tool but one bloke said I was being harsh blocking people. But you're right, save each other time. I know exactly what I like. I been on enough dates, read enough messages, met enough men to be informed what I makes me happy and comfortable. But on fab, I don't have enough experience of timewasters. Met about 6 and they all been different I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they ask for loads and loads of pictures before a meet. I avoid.

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By *KG12Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

With most profiles that we have viewed, there is at least 2/3 pics to give you an understanding of there physical attributes.

So apart from a face pic, there is no need to exchange further pics. Anybody asking for more, is likely adding them to their bank.

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By *ows the time 300Man
over a year ago

Rickmansworth

Chat, meet, have fun and maybe meet again, should be so simple

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By *hristopherd999Man
over a year ago

Brentwood


"The one that are so enthusiastic from the the start of the conversation, usually turn out to be fake or timewasters

Humm that's many men...some write novels as an intro message (obviously copied and paste)"

Women too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Messages asking for pics or sex talk. They are usually the ones on for a wank and nothing else.

That is also most of the messages I receive lol..sounds like only 0.5% of my messages are ok then lol

I just be myself, with a cheeky line, frequently putting myself down. Don't do sexy talk, which conversely, outs some ladies off x"

I find men that put themselves down off putting tbh

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Chat, meet, have fun and maybe meet again, should be so simple "

Frankly it's not though. Total unnecessary mind field

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Chat, meet, have fun and maybe meet again, should be so simple "

no its not that simple as a woman far more to it than that ...men say that as thats how simple they think meeting for sex is well it is if your on tinder but its fab its a swingers site

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland


"Messages asking for pics or sex talk. They are usually the ones on for a wank and nothing else.

That is also most of the messages I receive lol..sounds like only 0.5% of my messages are ok then lol

I just be myself, with a cheeky line, frequently putting myself down. Don't do sexy talk, which conversely, outs some ladies off x

I find men that put themselves down off putting tbh"

Total turn off, like they're either fishing for compliments or have a crippling lack of self confidence

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Asking for lots of pics or turning the conversation dirty all the time

Living quite far away but claim they're coming to my area soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not wanting to speak on the phone first before arranging a meet and only wanting for face pics.

The second they use reasons why they can't speak on the phone.

In the bath/shower

Kids awake

Driving

In 15mins time..

Etc

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Fife

Dunno wish I knew I think I'm on 15 ghosted interactions socials planned chatting weeks then they never show up.

Or they reply coffee is at my house you fucking or not let's bypass the social...

So guess I e had dual sided time wasters.. those never intending to be more than keyboard strokers and those that think they will get instant stroking without physically meeting first.

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"I feel like with all this advice, pretty much noone in my inbox is genuine. They all have timewaster traits. I literally had 100 messages yesterday where none I could say "oh I feel comfortable wanting to continue talking to you"....but when I do find a conversation attractive, afew chats later, they disappear..

Fab life for you?"

women tend to sit back and not message first, and expect the guy to make all the effort , sending a message to a female and expect them to reply is pointless ... this site works best for info on clubs and socials .... and not meant for single men...

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By *aughtynottsCouple
over a year ago

Outside Nottingham

Been on the site more than 6 months with no meets and only ever become photo verified. It’s not hard to arrange even just a social in that time if your serious.

Verifications by cam only no intention of real meets.

People who want to talk dirty on messages all the time, yawn.

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By *entDomMan
over a year ago

Paddock Wood, Kent

As a single male profile, I think messages that seem too good to be true, usually are.

My fwb has set up a couples profile to meet some specific scenarios. As a single guy I'm usually the one messaging. Now I find myself reviewing the messages she's received and replying too. And omg how do you couples and ladies deal either some of these guys? The most annoying ones are the fence sitters who are scared to say anything that might jeopardise their chances of a jump. "I'm a Dom but can be submissive for the right woman" As well as those with no imagination at all. "I would kiss you tenderly as I slowly stroke your body playing with your nipples then I'd go down on you making you squirt (good luck there) then I'd fuck both your holes" yawn

It won't be long before you can spot genuine guys. Best advice put some effort into your profile and engage with the ones that have put some effort in and read it.

Good luck, you look lovely

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"As a single male profile, I think messages that seem too good to be true, usually are.

My fwb has set up a couples profile to meet some specific scenarios. As a single guy I'm usually the one messaging. Now I find myself reviewing the messages she's received and replying too. And omg how do you couples and ladies deal either some of these guys? The most annoying ones are the fence sitters who are scared to say anything that might jeopardise their chances of a jump. "I'm a Dom but can be submissive for the right woman" As well as those with no imagination at all. "I would kiss you tenderly as I slowly stroke your body playing with your nipples then I'd go down on you making you squirt (good luck there) then I'd fuck both your holes" yawn

It won't be long before you can spot genuine guys. Best advice put some effort into your profile and engage with the ones that have put some effort in and read it.

Good luck, you look lovely "

I'm glad to see a single guy realising how most men here are super annoying. Some send messages like I'm a prostitute, I immediately block these types now. Ones with no photos too. I have no idea how they slip through my filters but I get at least 10 a day. Then 90% talking to me like I'm an whore

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I feel like with all this advice, pretty much noone in my inbox is genuine. They all have timewaster traits. I literally had 100 messages yesterday where none I could say "oh I feel comfortable wanting to continue talking to you"....but when I do find a conversation attractive, afew chats later, they disappear..

Fab life for you?

women tend to sit back and not message first, and expect the guy to make all the effort , sending a message to a female and expect them to reply is pointless ... this site works best for info on clubs and socials .... and not meant for single men..."

I totally disagree with you. I have messaged guys first and interacted in a positive way but only ones I'm intrigued by. It works the same way in real life, why would it be different online? I'm a pretty straightforward and blunt talking in my mannerism but it's also a cultural thing for me being Asian. If I like you, I will make it clear I do. I'm hoping to have my first fab meet next week, after nearly 3 years of absence. The guy was very down to earth, polite, straight talker like me. Most importantly, I found him equally physically attractive. We been in regular communication since.

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Not wanting to speak on the phone first before arranging a meet and only wanting for face pics.

The second they use reasons why they can't speak on the phone.

In the bath/shower

Kids awake

Driving

In 15mins time..

Etc

"

Well I got slammed on the forum for complaining about a guy making excuses not to speak to me on the phone. I believe now, he was just a fantasist who had no intention of meeting. Just enjoyed the chase on his terms. When I mentioned telephoning like normal people do. He agreed but baled with no apologies etc. Too many trolls in the forum said people just get too busy and forget. They missed the point that he didn't give a fuck he "forgot" by blatantly not apologizing or explaining. Then to call me demanding etc is just narcissistical. Call me old fashion, if I was meant to promise something and couldn't deliver, I would apologize at a later date. I don't think that's being demanding, expecting some apology or reason for not calling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"women tend to sit back and not message first, and expect the guy to make all the effort , sending a message to a female and expect them to reply is pointless ... this site works best for info on clubs and socials .... and not meant for single men..."

yet we and loads like us seek and meet single men we message first often and put in lots of effort ? so is it just that no one is interested in you and thats why you come out with crap for an excuse ? and its not just us we know loads of couples and women who message first the only thing we do different is we dont message all and hope one replys we message people we are genuinely interested in not 100s and hope for the best ''oh ill shag anything'' we are far more selective than that ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not wanting to speak on the phone first before arranging a meet and only wanting for face pics.

The second they use reasons why they can't speak on the phone.

In the bath/shower

Kids awake

Driving

In 15mins time..

Etc

Well I got slammed on the forum for complaining about a guy making excuses not to speak to me on the phone. I believe now, he was just a fantasist who had no intention of meeting. Just enjoyed the chase on his terms. When I mentioned telephoning like normal people do. He agreed but baled with no apologies etc. Too many trolls in the forum said people just get too busy and forget. They missed the point that he didn't give a fuck he "forgot" by blatantly not apologizing or explaining. Then to call me demanding etc is just narcissistical. Call me old fashion, if I was meant to promise something and couldn't deliver, I would apologize at a later date. I don't think that's being demanding, expecting some apology or reason for not calling. "

no one should slam you for how you do things thats your choice but will add we dont use cams / phones / emails or any apps we 100% do it via our profile and we are selective but cant remember the last letdown we had ?

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By *eed.a.signalMan
over a year ago

Local


"There are all sorts of reasons why people 'time-waste'. The oldest idea is that they're unhappy in a relationship, want something but feel guilt.

Then you have 'cat-fishers'.

People living pseudo lives online.

Then you have people who post pictures from years ago, hoping you get to know the 'real them' before you learn the truth.

"

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"women tend to sit back and not message first, and expect the guy to make all the effort , sending a message to a female and expect them to reply is pointless ... this site works best for info on clubs and socials .... and not meant for single men...

yet we and loads like us seek and meet single men we message first often and put in lots of effort ? so is it just that no one is interested in you and thats why you come out with crap for an excuse ? and its not just us we know loads of couples and women who message first the only thing we do different is we dont message all and hope one replys we message people we are genuinely interested in not 100s and hope for the best ''oh ill shag anything'' we are far more selective than that ..."

wow , some very angry people on here !!

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

Think a facetime call, phone call sorts most timewasters out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think a facetime call, phone call sorts most timewasters out. "

100%

Couldn't agree more!

Sorts it out. End of

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Think a facetime call, phone call sorts most timewasters out.

100%

Couldn't agree more!

Sorts it out. End of"

I must be really unlucky then, I do phone calls and video chats. they say they meet then ghost me. (If you're wondering, I don't do sexy stuff on cam just general friendly flirty chit chat)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I’m not sure as that is something we find a lot on here fakes/time wasters/dreamers

I’d say the ones who ask to see more and more, keep saying what they want to do to you, won’t give out there number or speak on the phone, hide behind a profile with not much on it, have no verifications or picture verified I guess the list could go on

My favourite tool is google images and reverse image search as most time wasters we find are fakes and have fake pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think a facetime call, phone call sorts most timewasters out.

100%

Couldn't agree more!

Sorts it out. End of

I must be really unlucky then, I do phone calls and video chats. they say they meet then ghost me. (If you're wondering, I don't do sexy stuff on cam just general friendly flirty chit chat)"

I’m shocked as from what I can see of you on your profile you look stunning hunni there crazy

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Well I’m not sure as that is something we find a lot on here fakes/time wasters/dreamers

I’d say the ones who ask to see more and more, keep saying what they want to do to you, won’t give out there number or speak on the phone, hide behind a profile with not much on it, have no verifications or picture verified I guess the list could go on

My favourite tool is google images and reverse image search as most time wasters we find are fakes and have fake pictures "

Ok I definitely avoid them types but tbh thats most men on here that message. Hence why I now blocked single men. Sick of that kind of chat in my inbox asking for phone sex, meet me now, what you're wearing, can I be your friend so I can see more photos, sexual novels of what they want to do in bed or just hi

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton


"I definitely agree on cheating husbands but again not too sure how I can tell they are from their profile, unless they admit to it?"

I have it on mine I ain’t a time waster but if folk are not verified by fab then that’s a good sign they not who they say they are

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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"I definitely agree on cheating husbands but again not too sure how I can tell they are from their profile, unless they admit to it?

I have it on mine I ain’t a time waster but if folk are not verified by fab then that’s a good sign they not who they say they are"

I had people either refused to want verifications or show them publically

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By *oveYouLoadsMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Marriedpair, currently on holiday at Trevornick but usually based up north.

Makes arrangements to meet and then doesn’t show up.

Posts false what3words locations in order to cause wild goose chases.

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