FabSwingers.com forum: Not a great bj

By *ob.Skye OP Man
over a year ago

Wisbech

So after a work night out last week, a colleague let me know how much she fancied me. We did a lot of flirting over text and sent each other a few pics. We met up today for a quick fumble which I was super excited for.

She was rubbing my cock and eventually got on her knees and started sucking. I was really disappointed! It was so soft and lame I could barely feel it. She sucked me off for a good 20 minutes but I was nowhere near close to cumming. I had to make excuses and left without an orgasm.

She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice?

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By *heBlankPMan
over a year ago

widnes

Give her constructive guidance. I had a girlfriend that was bad at it but she enjoyed doing it. I told her things I liked as she was doing it and before long she gave incredible bjs.

Just don’t tell her she’s bad at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So after a work night out last week, a colleague let me know how much she fancied me. We did a lot of flirting over text and sent each other a few pics. We met up today for a quick fumble which I was super excited for.

She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice?"

Try telling her how you like it, I expect she was doing what she thought you would like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give her constructive guidance. I had a girlfriend that was bad at it but she enjoyed doing it. I told her things I liked as she was doing it and before long she gave incredible bjs.

Just don’t tell her she’s bad at it

This! Give her some guidance after all not all men like it the same way!

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice?"

I don’t understand why you couldn’t just ask for what you needed to make it good for you?

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By *heycallmehanWoman
over a year ago

nr wakefield

What a shame you didn’t have an orgasm.

Did she? did she fake it?

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By *ob.Skye OP Man
over a year ago

Wisbech

Haha!

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

There are other things that can be done apart from BJs.

Why did you sit through 20 minutes? And what did you do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t have gone 20 minutes or not saying anything if I wasn’t enjoying it and surely there were other things you could have done? Did you do anything for her as it seems selfish to me what you did if not!

Personally I’ve never been told I give a bad bj quite the opposite in fact I know what I’m doing but sometimes even when I think that I still get guidance because some men don’t like it hard, deep or rough

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Give me her number and I’ll train her up like the good little cock sucker she was meant to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give me her number and I’ll train her up like the good little cock sucker she was meant to be

Then she probably realise that he isn’t worth her skills then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always helps giving a woman some tips on what you do and dont like whilst getting a bj.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should have just pulled out, give it a quick tug, jizzed on her tits and ran away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe took control and gone down on her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She probably on netmums seeking advice for next time. Give her another chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP.. how was it left? Are you likely to be arranging to see her again?

How old was she?

Yes you definitely need to guide & help her know how to do it better. It's easier if younger as it could be a bit trickier if she's used to doing it a certain way hasn't realised not every guy likes it the same way.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I try telling guys how to lick me out and most get frustrated being guided. Maybe women are easier to guide?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Tbf I heard most women don't like giving bjs let alone doing it for over 20 minutes lol

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"Give me her number and I’ll train her up like the good little cock sucker she was meant to be

Oh dear God!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbf I heard most women don't like giving bjs let alone doing it for over 20 minutes lol"

That does seem to be the case. I actually really enjoy giving BJ's and easily longer than 20mins but I hear from guys thats unusual?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not given one for that long. To be honest the ones I’ve given they haven’t made it to 20 minutes

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Why did you let her go on for 20 minutes if you weren't enjoying it and what did you do for her?? Can't believe the audacity tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why did you let her go on for 20 minutes if you weren't enjoying it and what did you do for her?? Can't believe the audacity tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sound like a bit of an ungrateful bugger to me, any woman giving a blow job should be appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Poor lass tried think its bit harsh wonder if she got anything in return

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've probably already hurt her feelings if you let her do it for 20 mins then just left?

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Just ask her to do it the way that brings you pleasure.

I have to tell loads of guys how I prefer them to play with me.

Although most guys like to think they are expert lovers my experience tends to show otherwise.

Some are happy to oblige some just get the hump.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice?"

This is the point I usually say “I really need to fuck you now”, to move things on without any awkwardness, or potentially hurting her feelings. I rarely cum from a bj, 2017 was the last time, but I do enjoy my cock being sucked! It’s just not that often a woman will take me over that edge.

Definitely ask to meet your friend again though, she sounds like fun…..

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

What didn’t work for you may work for someone else. She’s not a mind reader. It’s like women we all don’t like to be licked the same.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Did you just sit there for 20 minutes while she sucked you off? Had she had much to drink? Why didn't you stop her and give her some oral?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What didn’t work for you may work for someone else. She’s not a mind reader. It’s like women we all don’t like to be licked the same. "

TLDR version communication is key op

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Did she leave without an orgasm too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Did you just sit there for 20 minutes while she sucked you off? Had she had much to drink? Why didn't you stop her and give her some oral?"

Someone had to man the phones and reply to work emails

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By *romagefraisWoman
over a year ago

Sunderland

Advice-Save her 10 minutes of shite sex and don't go back there. I can imagine what she's telling her mates about you after the experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would people be saying the same if a woman had a meet and the man was shite in bed or is it always just bad man?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not even that big a fan of blow jobs. I mean don't get me wrong, I don't dislike them, but I always find my thoughts wandering. I don't know why I do this, because I don't ever do it with any other sexual act. I know many women enjoy giving them, so if they get turned on by them, then in turn, I'm turned on by the woman being turned on, but not the specific act of it.

Not even sure what my point is lol, except I can take them or leave them.

Probably should be a different thread this comment

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By *ob.Skye OP Man
over a year ago

Wisbech

Why so much hate?! So many assumptions here regarding whether she wanted to do it for so long etc. I’m not here to justify what happened; just wanted a bit of advice.

For the record, sucking me off is all she wanted to do!

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By *upersonic SamMan
over a year ago

wigan

People will always do what worked for their last partner, I bet you couldn't tongue her the way she likes first time. Learn each other if the chemistry is ther.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Advice-Save her 10 minutes of shite sex and don't go back there. I can imagine what she's telling her mates about you after the experience. "

I even wrote a story about my bad experience...wonder if she go that far to do that lol

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Why so much hate?! So many assumptions here regarding whether she wanted to do it for so long etc. I’m not here to justify what happened; just wanted a bit of advice.

For the record, sucking me off is all she wanted to do!"

Pathetic people like to troll threads to make themselves sound more superior than others, just ignore the hate posts and take the good advice which some decent fabbers will give you. Personally I would just tell her how you like it done, if you guys don't have sexual chemistry, call it a day. Plenty fish in the sea. As she might be a great lover for someone else. Vice versa

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Could you have wanked yourself while she was sucking you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give her constructive guidance. I had a girlfriend that was bad at it but she enjoyed doing it. I told her things I liked as she was doing it and before long she gave incredible bjs.

Just don’t tell her she’s bad at it

Exactly this.

What might have worked for a previous partner, doesn't work for you.

The way you describe it, I think I may well enjoy.

Make some sounds of pleasure, then guide her, oh gawd yeah, a little more suction please.

Nobody is born an expert.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my goodness, the triggered responses here

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

"Would people be saying the same if a woman had a meet and the man was shite in bed or is it always just bad man?"

Yeah. Try once to redirect, then leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same met a girl bj and sex was terrible not sure why I met her again and bj and sex was better this time first time she hardly had her mouth around my cock second time she sucked it properly

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice?"

Just be grateful she put your cock in her mouth. It's more than most men get.

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.

I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahh you met my ex wife then

As has been said, communication is key here. It’s not about what she didn’t do for you (20min shift is a fair commitment ) but talk about what helps get you off in that scenario. And don’t forget to Understand her needs

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.

I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x"

It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask?

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Maybe it might’ve felt better if she’d left her teeth in OP

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.

I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x

It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask?"

It’s all about licking and not sucking of the clit x

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By *y naughty hotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Maldon

She is lovely and I don’t want to hurt her feelings. Not sure what to do now! Any advice?

Definitely ask to meet your friend again though, she sounds like fun…..

You sound like a challenge to try and make cum he he

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By *ase4122Man
over a year ago

Lancashire

"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.

I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x

It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask?

It’s all about licking and not sucking of the clit x "

Flicking the clit!

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.

I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x

It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask?

It’s all about licking and not sucking of the clit x "

In my experience some women like both

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By *rettyflamingoWoman
over a year ago

Where the flamboyance of flamingos live

"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.

I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x

It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask?

It’s all about licking and not sucking of the clit x

In my experience some women like both

True but I’m not some woman

I’m me x

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I would give her guidance as someone else has mentioned in this thread. We all have differ t techniques and unless you express what you would prefer she will never know.

I have a preference for how I like cunnilingus and will tell the guy before hand to save us both the disappointment x

It's good to talk as the saying goes! What's your preference if I may be as bold to ask?

It’s all about licking and not sucking of the clit x

In my experience some women like both

True but I’m not some woman

I’m me x"

Well I can’t dispute that can I?

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By *havedballsMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Did you make her cum? I'd definitely be persevering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pass her by and let her find a real man who is going to appreciate her for all that she is and give back to her everything she deserves.

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By *ustus93Couple
over a year ago

watton

Think we've all been there at somepoint ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would have a BJ competition.

A group of women in their knees, an equal group of guys, we'll rotate then share opinions.

Sound good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We would have a BJ competition.

A group of women in their knees, an equal group of guys, we'll rotate then share opinions.

Awesome

Sound good?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a shame you didn’t have an orgasm.

Did she? did she fake it?

Miss S x

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