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"Crass or efficient? It's all about perception " true, it's effective way for women to get rid of alot of messages, however for the males it's fairly deflating seeing that line through | |||
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"What would you rather, it to read no thanks or somethimg like that? I suppose its not unreasonable, but not really necessary.. " As I said I think it's a crass way of letting someone know that you aren't interested or you are a bit busy. All my messages are nothing but polite and respectful. I wouldn't expect someone to just walk away from me if I initially approached then to chat to. That's the message that button gives, imo anyway | |||
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"Anybody else feel like the use of the delete button on messages is a bit crass. No matter how nice and polite a message I have sent to people, seeing that message deleted is like having a trap door opened from beneath. I get everyone isn't for everyone on here but a better way of letting someone down could be thought of Fab!" You can't let it bother you, you've got to take these things in stride. I think it's important to remember nothing is certain. Even when you meet face to face there's still a chance the other person will change their mind and call things off. | |||
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"Anybody else feel like the use of the delete button on messages is a bit crass. No matter how nice and polite a message I have sent to people, seeing that message deleted is like having a trap door opened from beneath. I get everyone isn't for everyone on here but a better way of letting someone down could be thought of Fab! You can't let it bother you, you've got to take these things in stride. I think it's important to remember nothing is certain. Even when you meet face to face there's still a chance the other person will change their mind and call things off. " | |||
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"Crass or efficient? It's all about perception true, it's effective way for women to get rid of alot of messages, however for the males it's fairly deflating seeing that line through" Stay away from your sent messages folder... Infact, delete them from there as you send them! | |||
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"Crass or efficient? It's all about perception true, it's effective way for women to get rid of alot of messages, however for the males it's fairly deflating seeing that line through Stay away from your sent messages folder... Infact, delete them from there as you send them! " That's a fair point, great advise | |||
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"Crass or efficient? It's all about perception true, it's effective way for women to get rid of alot of messages, however for the males it's fairly deflating seeing that line through" You need a thick skin on here unfortunately. It's very hard for single guys, it's quite normal that their messages are deleted or unread. | |||
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"What would you rather, it to read no thanks or somethimg like that? I suppose its not unreasonable, but not really necessary.. As I said I think it's a crass way of letting someone know that you aren't interested or you are a bit busy. All my messages are nothing but polite and respectful. I wouldn't expect someone to just walk away from me if I initially approached then to chat to. That's the message that button gives, imo anyway" Your expectations aren't coming across as polite or respectful to me | |||
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"What would you rather, it to read no thanks or somethimg like that? I suppose its not unreasonable, but not really necessary.. As I said I think it's a crass way of letting someone know that you aren't interested or you are a bit busy. All my messages are nothing but polite and respectful. I wouldn't expect someone to just walk away from me if I initially approached then to chat to. That's the message that button gives, imo anyway Your expectations aren't coming across as polite or respectful to me" Oh right, my bad. Not sure what I've said has disrespected anyone or been rude. Everyone's allowed n opinion I suppose? | |||
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"If people send a one word message and their profile is empty, it’s pretty thin what I can reply, so I delete. If they are smokers and looking to meet, I delete as they’ve not read my profile. If it’s overly rude I delete. Don’t get what the problem is. If people haven’t read my profile and send me a message when they are clearly not what I’m looking for, why should I reply, as it only sets of ping pong mail or a torrent of abuse, then I have to block. My delete is a polite no thanks. I’ll block if it goes further. " I get exactly what you're saying and why you hit delete, however I always take time to read a profile before I contemplate a message and I defo won't be sending a crude message. I'm old enough and ugly enough to accept when someone isn't interested.i just wish the site had a better way of conveying this. | |||
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"What would you rather, it to read no thanks or somethimg like that? I suppose its not unreasonable, but not really necessary.. As I said I think it's a crass way of letting someone know that you aren't interested or you are a bit busy. All my messages are nothing but polite and respectful. I wouldn't expect someone to just walk away from me if I initially approached then to chat to. That's the message that button gives, imo anyway" Ok so would you prefer things like sorry I find you unattractive or too old, too thin etc etc because that’s being honest. Would that make you feel better | |||
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"What would you rather, it to read no thanks or somethimg like that? I suppose its not unreasonable, but not really necessary.. As I said I think it's a crass way of letting someone know that you aren't interested or you are a bit busy. All my messages are nothing but polite and respectful. I wouldn't expect someone to just walk away from me if I initially approached then to chat to. That's the message that button gives, imo anyway Ok so would you prefer things like sorry I find you unattractive or too old, too thin etc etc because that’s being honest. Would that make you feel better" A reply wouldn't go amiss. It doesn't have to go into specifics. | |||
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"Anybody else feel like the use of the delete button on messages is a bit crass. No matter how nice and polite a message I have sent to people, seeing that message deleted is like having a trap door opened from beneath. I get everyone isn't for everyone on here but a better way of letting someone down could be thought of Fab!" Not me. I don't check my sent messages though to know if they've been deleted. If I don't get a reply, I either want that engaging for them or we just weren't a match. We keep moving. | |||
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"What would you rather, it to read no thanks or somethimg like that? I suppose its not unreasonable, but not really necessary.. As I said I think it's a crass way of letting someone know that you aren't interested or you are a bit busy. All my messages are nothing but polite and respectful. I wouldn't expect someone to just walk away from me if I initially approached then to chat to. That's the message that button gives, imo anyway Ok so would you prefer things like sorry I find you unattractive or too old, too thin etc etc because that’s being honest. Would that make you feel better A reply wouldn't go amiss. It doesn't have to go into specifics. " Replying allows a user to bypass any future filters you put on your profile. A deleted message is the same outcome as a reply saying no in the grand scheme of things. | |||
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"Anybody else feel like the use of the delete button on messages is a bit crass. No matter how nice and polite a message I have sent to people, seeing that message deleted is like having a trap door opened from beneath. I get everyone isn't for everyone on here but a better way of letting someone down could be thought of Fab!" Would you feel any better? if each one instead replied with ......... Thank You, apologies but you're not what we're looking for. | |||
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"What would you rather, it to read no thanks or somethimg like that? I suppose its not unreasonable, but not really necessary.. As I said I think it's a crass way of letting someone know that you aren't interested or you are a bit busy. All my messages are nothing but polite and respectful. I wouldn't expect someone to just walk away from me if I initially approached then to chat to. That's the message that button gives, imo anyway" You've got to understand some women on here get over 100 messages a day and don't have time to go through them all to reply, using your example imagine 100 people crowding one woman to talk to her, she would most certainly turn around and walk away. Try not to overthink it and just assume she's too busy to reply and isn't interested | |||
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"If its clear someone has read my profile, i'll respond even if ita a no thanks. If they haven't then its a delete & i have that in my profile. Op take a no reply as a no thanks and deletw any messages you send from your outbox." You gave me a no 4 years ago That's it I am telling mum lol | |||
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"What would you rather, it to read no thanks or somethimg like that? I suppose its not unreasonable, but not really necessary.. As I said I think it's a crass way of letting someone know that you aren't interested or you are a bit busy. All my messages are nothing but polite and respectful. I wouldn't expect someone to just walk away from me if I initially approached then to chat to. That's the message that button gives, imo anyway Ok so would you prefer things like sorry I find you unattractive or too old, too thin etc etc because that’s being honest. Would that make you feel better A reply wouldn't go amiss. It doesn't have to go into specifics. Replying allows a user to bypass any future filters you put on your profile. A deleted message is the same outcome as a reply saying no in the grand scheme of things. " And this issue is exactly why I don't reply to everyone. That one simple 'no thanks' that everyone wants drops all future filters. | |||
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"I prefer it to be read deleted instead of just left there then block and move on. " Same here except the block but I might start to so I know who’s deleted my messages | |||
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"I wouldn't expect someone to just walk away from me if I initially approached then to chat to." In the *real* world, you'd probably be the only person approaching and saying hello. In Fabland, there's hundred every day. It's very, very different. (Bry) | |||
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"I used to reply with a no thanks, guess what then happens....? - Fat cow didn't want to fuck you anyway - Why not - Can you help with my profile - Thanks for the response - Or genuinely threatening messages... OP what would you do? " In the unlikely event of a message to me and I wasn't interested for what ever reason, I'd respond with an appropriate message. If someone did reply with a no thanks, then that would be that. | |||
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"I used to reply with a no thanks, guess what then happens....? - Fat cow didn't want to fuck you anyway - Why not - Can you help with my profile - Thanks for the response - Or genuinely threatening messages... OP what would you do? In the unlikely event of a message to me and I wasn't interested for what ever reason, I'd respond with an appropriate message. If someone did reply with a no thanks, then that would be that. " But unfortunately some aren’t like you which gives a bad rep and puts us off replying… | |||
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"I used to reply with a no thanks, guess what then happens....? - Fat cow didn't want to fuck you anyway - Why not - Can you help with my profile - Thanks for the response - Or genuinely threatening messages... OP what would you do? " Exactly this! | |||
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"Just tried saying no thanks to a guy that's not even read the 1st paragraph of my profile.. His response No thanks ? I asked what you were looking for and your response is no thanks ? Do you not speak english ? He then goes on to say that I've got my head up my arse, he's also messaged me a further 4 times all because I replied with a no thanks message " I've had guys do that to me too. And guys react the same way when I deleted their messages without a response. There's no way we can win. | |||
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"Just tried saying no thanks to a guy that's not even read the 1st paragraph of my profile.. His response No thanks ? I asked what you were looking for and your response is no thanks ? Do you not speak english ? He then goes on to say that I've got my head up my arse, he's also messaged me a further 4 times all because I replied with a no thanks message I've had guys do that to me too. And guys react the same way when I deleted their messages without a response. There's no way we can win." Really jeez. Maybe a simple block would be the answer? OP would you prefer that? | |||
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"I used to reply with a no thanks, guess what then happens....? - Fat cow didn't want to fuck you anyway - Why not - Can you help with my profile - Thanks for the response - Or genuinely threatening messages... OP what would you do? In the unlikely event of a message to me and I wasn't interested for what ever reason, I'd respond with an appropriate message. If someone did reply with a no thanks, then that would be that. But unfortunately some aren’t like you which gives a bad rep and puts us off replying… " Looks like us nice mature guys have it spoiled by the immature idiots then. | |||
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"Just tried saying no thanks to a guy that's not even read the 1st paragraph of my profile.. His response No thanks ? I asked what you were looking for and your response is no thanks ? Do you not speak english ? He then goes on to say that I've got my head up my arse, he's also messaged me a further 4 times all because I replied with a no thanks message I've had guys do that to me too. And guys react the same way when I deleted their messages without a response. There's no way we can win." Unfortunately we aren't all aresholes that have an ego the size of the mouth of a river. | |||
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"Not only is the message delete button great I also wish when you delete a wink it shows you deleted it, bloody annoying seeing winks from guys we have already deleted previous winks and messages from." I might be wrong but if you dont delete the wink, they are unable to wink you again. | |||
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"My point exactly some men want a no thanks, some a deleted message, some want a block. I say stick with whatever works for you ladies cos we sure as hell can't win . " Likewise, polite men can't win. Let's all just pick up the booby prize and go home! | |||
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"My ex play partner was very popular on here. If she posted a pic she would get between 600 -800 messages and she generally posted at least once a day. It is simply impossible to read every single message and reply politely or even rudely to every one. And then to get the follow up message of why etc.. its unrealistic. Fab is a tough place for single men. Tougher for single cheating men like myself but dont let the deleted messages get you down. Someone out there is looking for exactly what you are able to offer. Just need a dustbin full of luck to find them." | |||
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"My ex play partner was very popular on here. If she posted a pic she would get between 600 -800 messages and she generally posted at least once a day. It is simply impossible to read every single message and reply politely or even rudely to every one. And then to get the follow up message of why etc.. its unrealistic. Fab is a tough place for single men. Tougher for single cheating men like myself but dont let the deleted messages get you down. Someone out there is looking for exactly what you are able to offer. Just need a dustbin full of luck to find them." this is a big issue . I know when my pics sometime blow up on hot pages . I cant get over 1500 messages when I have men allowed to message .. today I have put no males filter up as I have too many messages and sometimes you need to unplug ... I have female friend easily getting 500+ a day, there is just no way to handle that .. I am a user of bulk deleting messages at times just to clear the box out | |||
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"What would you rather, it to read no thanks or somethimg like that? I suppose its not unreasonable, but not really necessary.. As I said I think it's a crass way of letting someone know that you aren't interested or you are a bit busy. All my messages are nothing but polite and respectful. I wouldn't expect someone to just walk away from me if I initially approached then to chat to. That's the message that button gives, imo anyway Ok so would you prefer things like sorry I find you unattractive or too old, too thin etc etc because that’s being honest. Would that make you feel better A reply wouldn't go amiss. It doesn't have to go into specifics. " But then we get a message back saying why not etc | |||
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"When I send a message I then delete it. As others say no reply is no thanks and why should I waste my message quota sending a no thanks. The other issue is that if you reply “no thanks” they then come back with “why not” so at some point it ends up deleted anyways " Today, I have seen many replies to this and like someone previous and yourself have said, delete the message after sending. I will now do this, problem solved. I am genuinely sorry the females on here get the abuse they do, however we aren't all bred from the same stock. | |||
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"When I send a message I then delete it. As others say no reply is no thanks and why should I waste my message quota sending a no thanks. The other issue is that if you reply “no thanks” they then come back with “why not” so at some point it ends up deleted anyways Today, I have seen many replies to this and like someone previous and yourself have said, delete the message after sending. I will now do this, problem solved. I am genuinely sorry the females on here get the abuse they do, however we aren't all bred from the same stock." It’s not just abusive messages but I will read a profile. Look at their photos. If there’s nothing that peaks my interest why would I reply. I have messaged men and had no reply back. Just look at it as their loss | |||
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"I used to reply with a no thanks, guess what then happens....? - Fat cow didn't want to fuck you anyway - Why not - Can you help with my profile - Thanks for the response - Or genuinely threatening messages... OP what would you do? In the unlikely event of a message to me and I wasn't interested for what ever reason, I'd respond with an appropriate message. If someone did reply with a no thanks, then that would be that. " But, wouldn't it be polite of you to reply, thanking them for their polite response? | |||
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"I used to reply with a no thanks, guess what then happens....? - Fat cow didn't want to fuck you anyway - Why not - Can you help with my profile - Thanks for the response - Or genuinely threatening messages... OP what would you do? In the unlikely event of a message to me and I wasn't interested for what ever reason, I'd respond with an appropriate message. If someone did reply with a no thanks, then that would be that. But, wouldn't it be polite of you to reply, thanking them for their polite response?" And on and on. | |||
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"I used to reply with a no thanks, guess what then happens....? - Fat cow didn't want to fuck you anyway - Why not - Can you help with my profile - Thanks for the response - Or genuinely threatening messages... OP what would you do? In the unlikely event of a message to me and I wasn't interested for what ever reason, I'd respond with an appropriate message. If someone did reply with a no thanks, then that would be that. But unfortunately some aren’t like you which gives a bad rep and puts us off replying… Looks like us nice mature guys have it spoiled by the immature idiots then. " Strangely, we've found the opposite. Example, stating someone is out of our comfort zone regarding age. The younger guys have usually politely accepted, and the older guys tried to talk us round. | |||
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"Nah it's brilliant. Why waste time replying to people you've no interest in. " Agreed if you delete my message that's enough info I need. I'm sure whomever is busy enough with lots of messages. If I delete a message it is usually due to it being low effort so low effort response | |||
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"I used to reply with a no thanks, guess what then happens....? - Fat cow didn't want to fuck you anyway - Why not - Can you help with my profile - Thanks for the response - Or genuinely threatening messages... OP what would you do? " And the begging. Please, please....just give me a chance. I never reply if I'm not interested. It's not worth the hassle of the next 20 messages | |||
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" And the begging. Please, please....just give me a chance. I never reply if I'm not interested. It's not worth the hassle of the next 20 messages " But pleeeease !! | |||
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" And the begging. Please, please....just give me a chance. I never reply if I'm not interested. It's not worth the hassle of the next 20 messages But pleeeease !! " Have you gone shy? (Can't stand that one either) | |||
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