FabSwingers.com forum: Do you stick to boundaries

By *eevee OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Doncaster

Possibly one for the cuck/hotwife couples but anyone can answer...

Do you ever break the boundaries you've set when going with someone else? Ever gone out with the intention of doing so?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never. That's disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Push your boundaries” on a profile saves us a bit of time thanks. Block!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That kinda defeats the whole dynamic, they are there for a reason. Second your cross your boundaries, your relationship is in trouble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never we both respect them and why spoil something that's perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Possibly one for the cuck/hotwife couples but anyone can answer...

Do you ever break the boundaries you've set when going with someone else? Ever gone out with the intention of doing so?"

If you mean pushing boundaries and trying new things, that's different.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I never push a limit . be it mine or another persons .. rules are rules, play nicely and stick to them , people get along .. be a cunt with it well you get handled like one ..

Now I have had lots of men try pushing my limits over the years in some meets and every single time its resulted in immediate physical reaction from me to deal with it ... much to their dismay/fear .

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By *ownhamguyMan
over a year ago

Battle

I normally cross the boundary fielding at 3rd man when the balls beam larupped for 4??

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By *eevee OP TV/TS
over a year ago

Doncaster

Interesting replies so far - pretty much what I'd expect (and do myself). Was reading something on another forum post the other day and the wife purposely went out to break the boundaries agreed with her cuck hubby

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By *unx2019Couple
over a year ago

Moray

We have boundaries but also like the people meeting to get what they want too. So if it pushes our boundaries a little we don't mind.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Yes definitely do as there for a reason would only do whats whats been planning or the others what do do more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Boundaries are made for a reason.

Break boundaries equals broken trust.

Pushing boundaries. Grey area.

A Safeword is finite.

Should you reach that point.

Personally I prefer not to get to that point.

But I do want to expand the individual by expanding their boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We push boundaries with each other as we like to experiment but if we're meeting others then no, boundaries are there from both parties for a reason and we respect their decision as I hope they'd respect ours. If we wanted our boundaries pushing with others we wouldn't set any to begin with.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only do it to the bit where the man in the white butchers coat waves his hand from side to side rarely will i ever let him put both hands up with a flashy wiggle

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Bit of a Dick move in more ways than one to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Possibly one for the cuck/hotwife couples but anyone can answer...

Do you ever break the boundaries you've set when going with someone else? Ever gone out with the intention of doing so?"

Nope they are put in place for a reason.to break them would break the trust for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. If we thought we wanted to move them or that they might of changed, we'd talk about it between us.

Pxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi new couple to playing. My wife kind of went past boundaries on our first play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi new couple to playing. My wife kind of went past boundaries on our first play "

That would be a red flag! Probably time for a discussion between you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi new couple to playing. My wife kind of went past boundaries on our first play "

Yeah thats definitely not the done thing. She should of talked to you before hand and adjusted the boundaries if that's what she wanted. This would result in us having to stop playing as the trust has been broken

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I'm only interested in testing boundaries with someone I trust implicitly regardless of whether they're mine or theirs.

On my very first fab meet a woman broke boundaries that had never been discussed beforehand despite having 2 socials.

It was her ultimate fantasy and wrongly assumed I would be happy to react the way she wanted.

She was completely wrong and I left her to it but if the roles had been reversed I've no doubt I would have been out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our boundaries now are very different to when we started, but we definitely needed to discuss and agree before pushing them

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Boundaries are set for a reason, if either of us wanted to push them there would be a conversation 1st, if they'd just been broken then there's issues.

Mrs

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By *drenaline rushMan
over a year ago

Burnley

Other peoples yes my own not always but my choice to change the boundaries up to the individual to consent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"“Push your boundaries” on a profile saves us a bit of time thanks. Block! "

Same

It amazing me the amount of men that think this is appealing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all about communication before and during play. Establishing hard limits and soft limits, if they are limits that might like to be explored. But then, no always means no and not to question it at the time but respect it.

E xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we are polyamorous if our boundaries are broken then it means the relationships are not working. This would mean stopping playing both for our play mates and myself and chesty. No trust = no play

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Our boundaries are set before the meet and don't move during it. Our boundaries have changed over the years slightly but we always chat and make sure we are both happy with things before we make a change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely unless the lady or couple wish to go further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if either of us broke our boundaries or would be the end of swinging for us and possibly the relationship.

We’ve discussed everything at length and agreed to it all so why would we want to break them.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

Perhaps it's because I have one foot in the kink world too but I'm always careful to get a sense of people's boundaries. Especially with cuckold and hotwife couples.

Not only because it's important to respect their relationship dynamic but if I put my selfish hat on it generally results in repeat invitations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if either of us broke our boundaries or would be the end of swinging for us and possibly the relationship.

We’ve discussed everything at length and agreed to it all so why would we want to break them."

It's the same for us tbh. It would make the trust be lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if either of us broke our boundaries or would be the end of swinging for us and possibly the relationship.

We’ve discussed everything at length and agreed to it all so why would we want to break them.

It's the same for us tbh. It would make the trust be lost"

It’s essentially cheating. Or at least that’s how both of us would see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think if either of us broke our boundaries or would be the end of swinging for us and possibly the relationship.

We’ve discussed everything at length and agreed to it all so why would we want to break them.

It's the same for us tbh. It would make the trust be lost

It’s essentially cheating. Or at least that’s how both of us would see it."

Exactly!! Its kind of why we've gone polyamorous tbh. We both know that we are never gonna fulfill everything the other needs completely, so if we have a relationship where everyone is romantically involved with the other (max to a certain degree with males) then there's no cheating. Also it means everyone is involved with the decision processes to decide soft and hard limits.

But yes if they are overstepped it is cheating.

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Boundaries are far to important to break. Part of the pleasure of the lifestyle is the complete freedom that you have within your agreed boundries. This is only possible with trust, so it's vital that it's never lost.

It is really important to understand the difference between

hard and soft boundries, and one way boundries. Boundaries can also be removed or shifted with mutual consent

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By *heaspieswingerMan
over a year ago

Peak District

Not without consent from all involved.

Our first time swinging together was at Cupids. We had previously agreed that only the women would play together, and that the guys would only play with their own partners. Well, during the women playing we were all still communicating and it was obvious we all wanted to go a little further, so they guys ended up playing (very softly, just a little oral and nipple sucking) with the opposite partner.

But we’d all agreed to push our boundaries.

Over the years we’ve pushed our own boundaries, and now we have very few at all

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