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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Excuse any offence this question may cause but its meant with well meaning intention to clear possible misconceptions.

I recently met thro work a woman called Vicky who used to be a man. She had 2 adult children & still lived with her wife (mother of the children) she was mid 60yrs she said she had only become Vicky to family & friends about 5or6 yrs ago.

She left to have breast implants & not returned to our store. She was very keen to be open and answer anything people were curious about to avoid whispering etc

My question is regarding having sex. I presume that if a man becomes fully/part transitioned or simply cross dresses, that they could still be sexually attracted to women or men, the same as they had been. Or is it associated with a male coming out as Bisexual or gay. Not sure if I've written this very well. Be interested to hear any feedback.

(be kind)

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By *llesmereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I'm attracted to a person weather that be male female or trans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, bisexual transgender woman here.

So firstly gender identity and sexuality are separate.

And being transgender, as in, transitioning (usually medically) from your birth gender, to the one that aligns with how you feel inside, is different from crossdressing for sexual or other reasons.

Some people find that transitioning makes them explore their sexuality too, (most trans people I know seem to be bi lol)

But generally who you're attracted to doesn't change.

I think it's good that this person is open to discuss her experience, and that you are interested in learning!

Little tips I'd have is, try your best not to deadname, as a lot of people will say things like "I knew someone called Bob and now she's called Jane!" not realising that revealing someone's old name like that, is considered bad practice in the community.

Any other questions, please hmu! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Bless you for your helpful reply. Appreciate it.

Coincidentally you mention about not using any previous names. I definitely got that vibe from her when she often made it clear that previous names were not to overlap in her current world.

Makes sense really but she handled it so well considering myself & other colleagues had never been in this situation before.

Even though we only worked with her for a few weeks about 2 months ago we talk of her very fondly & hope she she is doing well.

I have a niggling voice in the back of my head though that wants to make sure my good intentions are due to the actual connection we had as human beings & not any novelty factor.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Whilst briefly on this subject but a very different situation completely.

Pre Covid we had a very impromptu visit arranged through Fab from two horny females on their way back from a adult sex club. After a while the 4 of us started getting into the physical fun when 1 of the females took me aside because she felt she ought to explain the she uses to be a male. She showed me her fully transitioned new vagina & breasts. I had no problem with this in the least & felt pleased that she was living her best life.

However.. It turned out that the other female that she had driven to the club & then to us had No Idea! Infact turned out the other female who was black had recently come out of long term lesbian relationship & was unsure how to do sex acts with men.

At this point my man (quite rightly) felt we should all cool down as it didn't feel right. We considered these 2 women as fairy vulnerable. They left thanking us for being good people. I do hope that they are looking after themselves all this time on.

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