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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

now guys im only a young guy and as im currently single im enjoying endulging in this lifestyle however theres one thing that bothers me.... my last serious relationship... i was completely head over heels for this girl... being male i fucked it up lol but this lifestyle is not something id personaly want to do while in a loving relationship, im not a posessive or jelouse guy but call me old fasioned but i couldnt share..... call me selfish but when in a loving relationship i wouldnt want enyone else either.... suppose im just not open enough how does it affect some of you amazing couples ")

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are too young to understand. Give it 10 years or so and you may know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are too young to understand. Give it 10 years or so and you may know. "

That's the perfect reply and very true...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are too young to understand. Give it 10 years or so and you may know.

That's the perfect reply and very true..."

But why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are too young to understand. Give it 10 years or so and you may know. "

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think for some couples, they do it to add a new exciting dimension to their already great sex life.

Some to keep it together.

Just enjoy your time here as a single guy and when the time comes, leave and have great life with a loved one in the non swinging world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex and love are two very different things - we have been married a long time - I know my hubby loves me so I never get jealous of other women - he does not love them - and I enjoy the company of and sex with other men, but I don't love them - it all comes down to love, trust and just enjoying swinging without taking it too seriously!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been together 13 years, we both know how much we love each other, and there is a difference between sex and love which seems to get confused by most people x love is a higher state of mind where as sex is a primal urge, we believe it only makes us stronger as a couple to enjoy both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex and love are two very different things - we have been married a long time - I know my hubby loves me so I never get jealous of other women - he does not love them - and I enjoy the company of and sex with other men, but I don't love them - it all comes down to love, trust and just enjoying swinging without taking it too seriously!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"now guys im only a young guy and as im currently single im enjoying endulging in this lifestyle however theres one thing that bothers me.... my last serious relationship... i was completely head over heels for this girl... being male i fucked it up lol but this lifestyle is not something id personaly want to do while in a loving relationship, im not a posessive or jelouse guy but call me old fasioned but i couldnt share..... call me selfish but when in a loving relationship i wouldnt want enyone else either.... suppose im just not open enough how does it affect some of you amazing couples ") "

We're here for the physical sex. What happens between us is separate from

Swinging

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

This subject could run and run, however for us it's because we are truly in love and trust each other 100%.

While sex features a lot in our relationship because of our lifestyle, our relationship as a partnership is based on a lot more.

What I'm saying is, we share our "sex" aspect of our lives for our own personal gain, but we don't share each other. That's why you'll find a lot of couples will tell you (us included) that they have never been unfaithful to each other.

Picture it like this - if your girlfriend was an amazing dancer, and had a professional dance partner. She'd enjoy going dancing with him and they'd be amazing together - but nothing would ever feel as good as having a close shuffle around the dance floor with the man she loves.

It's hard to explain but hope that helps.

We try to avoid singles that don't understand this. So many think they are being called on because the male can't satisfy the female - this is rarely the case and completely the opposite.

Ta

D

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

How come everyone else always says it better than I can!

D

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

cheers for the feed back guys, maaybe i am too young, i can only ever imagine doing this as a single however much i enjoy being with two woman. i suppose it takes a certain sort of mind set. i do envy that amazing open ness tho maybe onday lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Jealousy and envy do not sit well with a lifestyle that involves multiple sexual partners, IMHO.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"This subject could run and run, however for us it's because we are truly in love and trust each other 100%.

While sex features a lot in our relationship because of our lifestyle, our relationship as a partnership is based on a lot more.

What I'm saying is, we share our "sex" aspect of our lives for our own personal gain, but we don't share each other. That's why you'll find a lot of couples will tell you (us included) that they have never been unfaithful to each other.

Picture it like this - if your girlfriend was an amazing dancer, and had a professional dance partner. She'd enjoy going dancing with him and they'd be amazing together - but nothing would ever feel as good as having a close shuffle around the dance floor with the man she loves.

It's hard to explain but hope that helps.

We try to avoid singles that don't understand this. So many think they are being called on because the male can't satisfy the female - this is rarely the case and completely the opposite.

Ta

D"

Absolutely spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think its an age thing, i have kids not much younger than him and if their boyfriends even so much as look at another woman its WW3, i had my 18 year old in tears other week cause she called her boyfriend and could hear a girls voice in the back ground

as we get older we relax about such things

saying that i know many middle aged people who wouldnt want to share their partner either, so its not just down to age

i have to be honest i wouldnt get into a swinging relationship, if i ever did settle down i'd pack this up

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Totally agree with June Terry, swinging wouldn't have worked for either of us when young and in love, but now we're older we no longer confuse good sex with love. We started swinging not long after we met and fell in love, and having sex with other people together actually deepened our love, rather than eroding it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know I'm seeing this from a new side right now. I found swinging with a loving and trusting partner the most amazing thing. It brought us so close

Yet now single. I'm finding it impossible to enjoy what I once loved as a couple. So I do think that for some it's something that can only be enjoyed within a loving relationship

Cali

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By *anmjmosesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"This subject could run and run, however for us it's because we are truly in love and trust each other 100%.

Picture it like this - if your girlfriend was an amazing dancer, and had a professional dance partner. She'd enjoy going dancing with him and they'd be amazing together - but nothing would ever feel as good as having a close shuffle around the dance floor with the man she loves.

It's hard to explain but hope that helps.

We try to avoid singles that don't understand this. So many think they are being called on because the male can't satisfy the female - this is rarely the case and completely the opposite.

Ta

D"

Comment you made about the dancers, yes, great dance partners may enjoy dancing together, but that proximity, sensuality and chemistry shared, does that not lead to emotions and physical attraction forming which lead to relationship break ups or partner's cheating? [not saying this happens to all dancers]

I cant remember the name of the guy that started this post now that I am writing this, but I hear exactly where you're coming from. I discovered this place as a single guy with a v high sex drive. In previous relationships, I'd always been faithful, but at times having to adjust my sex drive with one or 2 ex's.

I have the same thought process as you in that I dont believe that I could share my girlfriend or wife with another man. Whilst I am happy to engage and assist another man in satisfying their other half (being single), I dont think I could do it myself. Maybe like you, and in the _iew of "seasoned" (i know you all hate that term) swingers, we are young and have not lived a "mortgage" term relationship and _iews may change...and I totally understand and accept that, but maintain my current _iew until that time if my _iews were to change. In essence..go with the flow.

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