FabSwingers.com forum: What is the point of soft swing?

By *ewhorizons OP Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Each to their own of course, but why do couples bother with only soft swing? Almost seems like a prick tease to me. Surely if you’ve gone this far you might as well full swap? Never really understood it and would find it impossible to stick to personally but that’s probably a character flaw of mine.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Each to their own of course, but why do couples bother with only soft swing? Almost seems like a prick tease to me. Surely if you’ve gone this far you might as well full swap? Never really understood it and would find it impossible to stick to personally but that’s probably a character flaw of mine."

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Swinging's a broad church!

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

It is a preference! And sometimes through an inability to perform of one partner! It may be that playtime is good, but they are not yet ready for full swap. It could be a profile that is put on here to gauge interest.

We were soft swap at first. We met singles and couples and the good thing? It meant playtime was longer, more relaxed and full of laughs. And to a nervous couple (or single) it is a great way to test the water.

We all have to start somewhere. I see lots of profiles saying "no kissing" or "no kissing male to female". No problem, we just pass the profile by.

We are on the profile as straight. But in the heat of the moment, who knows? As long as what we do is acceptable to all, where is the harm? Yes what we do may be a Bi act, but we still don't think Bi suits us in our current situation.

I love soft swap! She loves soft swap! So looking at what I have typed, we meet couples iun any combination.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started out doing soft swing because Mrs W&W wasnt sure she would like to see me fucking another woman.

Found out later she loves it !!!. But everyone can have boundries and people should understand ,especially if they are new to swinging.

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By *ungry CatCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

It is a great starting point for newbies to test out how they feel about things.

It takes away the pressure to "perform".

It sets a boundary.

It lessens a chance of newer, less experienced people being put off swinging all together just by having one bad experience that was way too full on way too soon.

Sex and swinging isn't all about putting penises inside vaginas.

It's about sensuality, comfort and trust. Soft swing covers all three.

Missus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Teasing, mindfucking, anticipation, voyeurism, tantric sex, denial, & restraint from action can be hot, building sexual tension & arousal.

Soft swing can incorporate elements of these. Can also be a bridging step for newbies as others have said.

Don't always understand others preferences but they are equally legitimate

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Agreed.

We won't meet soft swing couples for the fact we don't want to potentially violating others boundaries.

Feel the best meets are those that are a rough match on preferences and limit's.

Or you'll constantly have 'I can't do that' running through your head..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For most people I would thing its a 'way point' or 'seen as dipping their toes' etc.

As confidence builds then so does then some will push boundaries until such a point they reach their limit.

I appreciate there are some that can just 'dive in' (excuse the pun) but its not for everyone.

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By *ewhorizons OP Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Ah fair enough, seems most see it as a starting point. Variety is the spice of life I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a great starting point for newbies to test out how they feel about things.

It takes away the pressure to "perform".

It sets a boundary.

It lessens a chance of newer, less experienced people being put off swinging all together just by having one bad experience that was way too full on way too soon.

Sex and swinging isn't all about putting penises inside vaginas.

It's about sensuality, comfort and trust. Soft swing covers all three.

Missus "

I 2nd this. We started this way. I must say it doesn't appeal to me now a days but it was a good starting point for us

Mrs

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Ah fair enough, seems most see it as a starting point. Variety is the spice of life I suppose"

It's definitely not a starting point for us, it's how we prefer to play with lots of fem/fem. We're intrigued by full swap couples who won't soft play, though we do have ideas of why they only want full swap.

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